starryeyed
Ideal_Rock
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- Nov 6, 2006
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Harriet, in all honesty, I''m a little worried about you. Pleas don''t be offended by any of this, ok?
I am truly concerned for you because you seem a bit obsessed.
In the past 3-4 months, you''ve gone from a 0.41-carat Tiffany Lucida to a 3.6-carat diamond e-ring. You''ve obsessed about HW drop earring studs, the Chanel Camelia Ring and/or Pendant, a tsavorite/Leon Mege ring, a Leon Mege setting for your e-ring (which your not sure you will keep) and diamond studs. You''ve purchased a Cartier Trinity Ring and a Franck Muller watch. To my knowledge, you are in your 20''s and you''re not dying. You''ve never worn much jewelry in the past.
You are concerned that the diamond tennis bracelet and diamond studs that your parents gave to you are too small/girlish.
Perhaps our value systems are different, but this seems like an awful lot in a very short period of time, particularly for such a young person. It sounds like you are on a bit of a materialistic bender. Perhaps, in the Year of the Golden Pig you''ve been very fortunate, but it sounds excessive. I''m fine with it all, if everything else is in check - you are saving for your future - a house/condo, your children, your retirement, your passions. However, you need to be very careful about your job and how you are perceived.
It just seems as though you are insatiable about jewelry and as soon as you get one thing, you want another. Like, there is some kind of competition out there to get as much as possible. I am concerned on several levels. Are you compensating somehow for another issue? Are you insecure? How does your fiance perceive all of this? How are your work colleagues and superiors perceiving the material acceleration? Are they jealous? Are you seen as a "short-timer" once your wedding happens? Really, what is driving you?
The studs are great and I''d get them before buying the HW earrings. They are a great birthday present and getting upgradeable stones is definitely the way to go. I''m a firm believer in rewarding yourself. I believe no one is going to treat you well unless you treat yourself well. However, I just want to make sure you aren''t suffering a downward addictive spiral. There will always be people with better/bigger jewelry than you and people with less. What is important is the milestone behind the reward, otherwise, it''s just empty materialism.
If everything is ok with you, that''s great. I just want to bring your attention to the fact that your behavior seems a bit obsessive, even to me, a jewelry fanatic. What will be left to buy when you are 30 or 40, or when you have your first child or your second?
Please don''t get me wrong Harriet. I have my fair share of jewelry, but I have acquired it over time. I''ve bought the best I can afford after saving up for months/years. You may be different - perhaps you received an inheritance or won the lottery. But the materialism will affect the people around you and how you are perceived, and perhaps not for the better. I mean no harm - I''m truly concerned for you, as a friend.
In the past 3-4 months, you''ve gone from a 0.41-carat Tiffany Lucida to a 3.6-carat diamond e-ring. You''ve obsessed about HW drop earring studs, the Chanel Camelia Ring and/or Pendant, a tsavorite/Leon Mege ring, a Leon Mege setting for your e-ring (which your not sure you will keep) and diamond studs. You''ve purchased a Cartier Trinity Ring and a Franck Muller watch. To my knowledge, you are in your 20''s and you''re not dying. You''ve never worn much jewelry in the past.
You are concerned that the diamond tennis bracelet and diamond studs that your parents gave to you are too small/girlish.
Perhaps our value systems are different, but this seems like an awful lot in a very short period of time, particularly for such a young person. It sounds like you are on a bit of a materialistic bender. Perhaps, in the Year of the Golden Pig you''ve been very fortunate, but it sounds excessive. I''m fine with it all, if everything else is in check - you are saving for your future - a house/condo, your children, your retirement, your passions. However, you need to be very careful about your job and how you are perceived.
It just seems as though you are insatiable about jewelry and as soon as you get one thing, you want another. Like, there is some kind of competition out there to get as much as possible. I am concerned on several levels. Are you compensating somehow for another issue? Are you insecure? How does your fiance perceive all of this? How are your work colleagues and superiors perceiving the material acceleration? Are they jealous? Are you seen as a "short-timer" once your wedding happens? Really, what is driving you?
The studs are great and I''d get them before buying the HW earrings. They are a great birthday present and getting upgradeable stones is definitely the way to go. I''m a firm believer in rewarding yourself. I believe no one is going to treat you well unless you treat yourself well. However, I just want to make sure you aren''t suffering a downward addictive spiral. There will always be people with better/bigger jewelry than you and people with less. What is important is the milestone behind the reward, otherwise, it''s just empty materialism.
If everything is ok with you, that''s great. I just want to bring your attention to the fact that your behavior seems a bit obsessive, even to me, a jewelry fanatic. What will be left to buy when you are 30 or 40, or when you have your first child or your second?
Please don''t get me wrong Harriet. I have my fair share of jewelry, but I have acquired it over time. I''ve bought the best I can afford after saving up for months/years. You may be different - perhaps you received an inheritance or won the lottery. But the materialism will affect the people around you and how you are perceived, and perhaps not for the better. I mean no harm - I''m truly concerned for you, as a friend.
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