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It is set rather high...I think that I would have it reset prior to the proposal.
Date: 11/6/2007 10:55:21 PM
Author: Chase035
Moonwater: My point was merely to state that I find this unromantic. I'm not alone in my opinion. There are many people who give gifts who are offended when the recipient insists on getting a certain item. That's not the spirit of gift giving. Nor do I think it should be the spirit of proposals. In no way was I advocating the guy get her what HE WANTS to get her. I made this undeniably clear when I said 'EXACTLY what she wants.' If he can't get her something she'd pick out herself, he shouldn't try. At that point, he needs to hand over the reigns. There's no denying that. But if he can pour his heart into it and come close, she'd be selfish to insist on ruining the romance of that.
That's my position and I'm sticking to it.
ETA: It's no different when someone is buying me a gift. That's not to say I won't drop a few hints. But if I was going to insist on getting exactly what I want, I might as well go out and get it myself. At that point, I've ruined the spirit of it.
Date: 11/7/2007 10:46:03 AM
Author: iceman72
Thanks to all for your help. Still sitting on the fence here. I guess the sensitivity for me is I really wanted to present her with a beautiful finished product for the reasons that ELMORTON said in her post:
2)From your previous conversation with her, I''m guesing she''s more than likely expecting a ring when you propose, so proposing without the ring or with a ''work in progress'' might be a disappointment to her. Even though DH and I chose my ring together (sheesh, I''m scared to mention that in this thread! Rrrrrrrrg..), I didn''t know what it would really look like, since the sample setting in the store had a huge RB in it and I wanted a smaller EC. So, I had a pretty high level of anticipation. Currently, your intended knows that she''s getting a family rock that she hasn''t seen - SUPER exciting, but also, she''s probably not sure of what to expect! So, back to my example...bummer of bummers when DH opened the ring box (and ohhhhh was I happy with my ring!), went to put it on my finger and it was sized wrong - a size too small. Of course, our jeweler did a rush on the resizing and I had it the next afternoon, AND it was nice to bask in together in our newly engaged bliss and not be distracted by my new bling (and yes, there was plenty of that later!), but...I was expecting to have the ring with the proposal (as DH was expecting to finally see it on my finger!)
I guess what I''m saying is that i really hate that setting! not to mention it looks like it''s lost it''s luster a little. I would like to the proposal to sweep her off her feet and then just knock her over with the ring! I think that it''s what she would really want. I know that there are many who like to have a hand in this and i respect that, but I just have a feeling that it would be more special to her if she knew that I put tons of thought and care in picking something etc.
NOW - should i get it reset - would you all recommend that i get appraised first while it''s out of the setting and before it goes in a new one?
Chase, I don't know how many times we need to tell you that "insistence" is not what we're advocating. We keep saying it, yet somehow it never gets across.Date: 11/6/2007 10:55:21 PM
Author: Chase035
Moonwater: My point was merely to state that I find this unromantic. I'm not alone in my opinion. There are many people who give gifts who are offended when the recipient insists on getting a certain item.
I am blowing you internet kisses. Thank you so much for posting. I do not get why that was so hard to comprehend. It was really making meDate: 11/7/2007 11:54:59 AM
Author: musey
You can think it's unromantic all you want. That's completely your prerogrative because, after all, what is right for any of US won't necessarily be right for YOU. But don't come here and tell us that our wonderful boyfriends/fiancés/husbands were 'taking the easy way out' or are blatantly 'unromantic' because of the choices that WE made as a couple. That is what is offensive.
Date: 11/7/2007 12:34:07 PM
Author: musey
Here''s one fantastic example, if you do decide you might want to do a departure from the classic solitaire. It is quite different from what you were thinking though, so not sure if you''d want to consider it... I just couldn''t resist posting the pic in case it peaks your interest.
Anyway, this GORGEOUS ring belongs to singer:
Date: 11/7/2007 11:41:45 AM
Author: iceman72
I''ve been advised by her friends that i''m on the right track with resetting the stone! My feeling was that a tiffany replica with 4 or 6 prongs in platinum would fit the bill. Is it true that the 4 prong setting might give an illusion of being more ''square''? Would it be any less safe for the diamond than a 6 prong setting?
Thanks,
No side views on the web unfortunately, but I thought it was gorgeous from the side.Date: 11/7/2007 4:05:06 PM
Author: erica k
Date: 11/7/2007 11:41:45 AM
Author: iceman72
I''ve been advised by her friends that i''m on the right track with resetting the stone! My feeling was that a tiffany replica with 4 or 6 prongs in platinum would fit the bill. Is it true that the 4 prong setting might give an illusion of being more ''square''? Would it be any less safe for the diamond than a 6 prong setting?
Thanks,
Singer''s ring is gorgeous!
i have a 4 prong jean=francois albert setting and the stone looks square from a distance. mind you, the prongs are huge, cartoony round posts (i love them, but they''re not for everyone).
i''d love to see a side view of the michael fina ring that you posted. it reminds me a bit of the Whiteflash Legato Sleekline. The Legato head is one of my all time favorites, classic and unique!
That is a BEAUTIFUL solitaire!!! It will absolutely not go out of style, don't worry about that a bit. Gorgeous, gorgeous!!Date: 11/7/2007 3:56:21 PM
Author: iceman72
Here's something i saw in person today. The setting was actually a little more delicate than it appears here and i got a green light from one of her friends. Will this go out of style? Opinions on the setting/price/Fina?
http://www.michaelcfina.com/ic/mcfina/sections/wedding_engagement_rings/engagement_rings/michael_c_fina_engagement_rings/:product/sku/PL066500000002.html
You''re on the right track, but this one has such a large base that a wedding band will not sit next to it. I don''t mind a small gap, but this one looks like it will cause a bigger gap. I like the basket, though...it is similar to Leon Mege''s solitaire setting. We can find a better one than that.Date: 11/7/2007 3:56:21 PM
Author: iceman72
Here''s something i saw in person today. The setting was actually a little more delicate than it appears here and i got a green light from one of her friends. Will this go out of style? Opinions on the setting/price/Fina?
http://www.michaelcfina.com/ic/mcfina/sections/wedding_engagement_rings/engagement_rings/michael_c_fina_engagement_rings/:product/sku/PL066500000002.html
Thanks!!!