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Super_Ideal_Rock
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Date: 5/14/2008 5:55:27 AM
Author: Delster
Date: 5/13/2008 10:28:56 PM
Author: brazen_irish_hussy
In many cultures, it is the norm to give money. For my Jewish friends in NY, you NEVER give anything else. Same with my friends from cyprus, germany, my stateside irish and german relatives also believe money is best. When I told one of my Chinese friends that we were having a registry, she was horrified. In China, giving a gift rather than money is like saying the reciever is so bad with money you couldn''t trust them with it. Interestingly, that is exactly what you said.
It''s the same in the old country brazen! Cash is the accepted gift here, even from the couple''s parents and immediate family. Couples often have registries for the benefit of the doting grand-Aunties who want to buy china etc but those same doting grand-Aunties usually grumble about the poor etiquette of actually having a registry.
I do agree that it seems uncouth to ask for a gift (whether cash or not). A gift should be treated as an unexpected bonus I think.
Of course you could go all out like one of my family and keep a running tally of the cash gifts written on a pad, face up on the kitchen table, in full view of anyone who happens to drop in for a cup of tea!
ditto. We always give money to any of the weddings we''ve been to.
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