rainbowtrout
Ideal_Rock
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Just wanted to say that I love registries. I like buying people things they need or want, and I like having a range of price options. Obviously some people do registries badly, but nicely done ones are sent from heaven when you aren't best friends with the couple.
And now that I HAVE a registry, I love it too! I love and need everything on it, and I have made clear to my poor fellow student friends that if they feel that they MUST get us a gift, that I do in fact really want the two 13.00 madeline pans, or the nice stainless steel ladels (9.00). One of FMIL's friends got us a kitchenaid off it, and to all the people who squawk about how "impersonal" registry gifts are---bah! I will use this forever and remember that they gave me my bright red kitchenaid off my registry forever!
As for cash, I don't know. It's fine. Personally when we are given cash I then feel obligated to do something useful with it like invest it or pay my electricity bill with it, not buy my wonderful china or the pots I want soooo badly.
Gift giving is reciprocal. It is bad taste to expect anything in particular, but it is also bad taste not to give. It is, seriously, who shows up to a wedding empty handed? I would not and have not. I also strongly feel that this entitled gift-giver attitude of "I will give the recipient whatever and they MUST be very grateful" is silly. They are obligated to smile politely and write you a thank you note--they aren't obligated to somehow be deeply morally content over your crappy gift giving skills.
ETA: I do think putting it on the invite is kind of odd. We put it on our website at the bottom, saying "Of course your presence is enough of a gift, but we are registered at X and Y."
And now that I HAVE a registry, I love it too! I love and need everything on it, and I have made clear to my poor fellow student friends that if they feel that they MUST get us a gift, that I do in fact really want the two 13.00 madeline pans, or the nice stainless steel ladels (9.00). One of FMIL's friends got us a kitchenaid off it, and to all the people who squawk about how "impersonal" registry gifts are---bah! I will use this forever and remember that they gave me my bright red kitchenaid off my registry forever!
As for cash, I don't know. It's fine. Personally when we are given cash I then feel obligated to do something useful with it like invest it or pay my electricity bill with it, not buy my wonderful china or the pots I want soooo badly.
Gift giving is reciprocal. It is bad taste to expect anything in particular, but it is also bad taste not to give. It is, seriously, who shows up to a wedding empty handed? I would not and have not. I also strongly feel that this entitled gift-giver attitude of "I will give the recipient whatever and they MUST be very grateful" is silly. They are obligated to smile politely and write you a thank you note--they aren't obligated to somehow be deeply morally content over your crappy gift giving skills.
ETA: I do think putting it on the invite is kind of odd. We put it on our website at the bottom, saying "Of course your presence is enough of a gift, but we are registered at X and Y."