Just to be frank and strictly because I''m getting a general feel that you aren''t looking for help about proposing earlier... Are you dead set on proposing on the beach... or are you looking for other otpions?
I was so nervous on my wedding day, I hardly remember it. I do think I tripped slightly going down the aisly, however. That I do remember, lol.
not dead set. I edited the post prior to this one but I''m just going to do it when its right which is very soon. I''m tired of the build up, you women got me all uppity and nuts over this. I need to not get like this cause then I overthink.
Ok, but at what cost? It''s not a competition hun. I think your beach proposal sounds glorious. If you still want to go through with it, then go for it. But in the meantime, don''t ask her questions about rings and diamonds. Also, be prepared that the anniversary will probably be a sad day for her.
Date: 4/7/2009 12:40:11 PM
Author: Ellen
Really? You were just making sure? I ask, because it seems pretty clear here.
And here.
And here yet again.
Doesn''t seem to be any question but that you have the ring she wants. And you know it. Yet you continue to mess with her. She gets ''turned on'' when you talk about it? Then why are you so worried that it''s ''in her brain fresh''? And why might you have to alter plans because of this, or warn her beforehand?
Sorry, I call BS. I think you started this thread for attention, or to yank our chains, or both, along with your poor girlfriend.
I''m out.
Here''s the part you seem clueless about;
Date: 4/7/2009 3:24:59 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Here''s the part you seem clueless about;
You lost the opportunity for ''perfect'' the very first time she was reduced to tears, and you had the ring and could have proposed right then and there.
Before then you could have chosen the ''perfect'' time or place, but once the woman you profess to love is sufficiently hurt enough to cry (whether you deem it appropriate or petty, or not), then you STOP WAITING FOR PERFECTION AND GIVE THE WOMAN THE RING!!! Anything else is shear selfishness. You don''t ''own'' the engagement unless your primary motive is about control and NOT about minimizing any opportunity for pain. This isn''t some ''production'' in which you showcase your talents or planning skills, it''s a simple declaration of love and intent. It doesn''t even require a ring. It''s about a man, and a woman, and their decision to spend the rest of their lives as partners.
I''m all for the ''grab her and look at her, and lay it out the best you know how''
I agree whole-heartedly with this too!Date: 4/7/2009 3:32:07 PM
Author: lucyandroger
Date: 4/7/2009 3:24:59 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Here''s the part you seem clueless about;
You lost the opportunity for ''perfect'' the very first time she was reduced to tears, and you had the ring and could have proposed right then and there.
Before then you could have chosen the ''perfect'' time or place, but once the woman you profess to love is sufficiently hurt enough to cry (whether you deem it appropriate or petty, or not), then you STOP WAITING FOR PERFECTION AND GIVE THE WOMAN THE RING!!! Anything else is shear selfishness. You don''t ''own'' the engagement unless your primary motive is about control and NOT about minimizing any opportunity for pain. This isn''t some ''production'' in which you showcase your talents or planning skills, it''s a simple declaration of love and intent. It doesn''t even require a ring. It''s about a man, and a woman, and their decision to spend the rest of their lives as partners.
I''m all for the ''grab her and look at her, and lay it out the best you know how''Well said, PP!
eh.. where did the 8 years come from??
Date: 4/7/2009 6:06:27 PM
Author: Kelli
Whoops I should have made that more clear! He said that he was crazy to come to a forum that has a place for impatient women to cry about not getting what they want. I was referring to ME!! As in me, the impatient woman who waited eight years.You're right though, that didn't sound right.
So, because you refuse to be a slave to society, you allow your girlfriend to suffer the consequences? That is not noble and heroic, it is cruel. I cannot imagine seeing the person I love crying because of something that is totally in my power to change (I imagine that if you have bought her a ring, you have already decided you want to marry her. The situation would be different if you were unsure of your future). Having a perfect proposal after leaving her crying for 4 months is not truly romantic at all.
Date: 4/8/2009 3:25:03 AM
Author: LaraOnline
He thinks she wants the diamond, and that's what it's about, and why she's crying!!!
Well, you'd better have it on when you say things like, ""IN a house full of girls, I've learned pettines and jealousy run RAMPANT. She's very mature and very immature in some ways."
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