iheartrice
Rough_Rock
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hello everyone!
I need some advice on how to handle my current situation regarding my engagement ring.
Background: BF and I are planning on getting engaged this year. We talked about it at the beginning of this year because we both believe engagement shouldn’t be a surprise. We picked out a ring together and proposal will be a surprise.
BF and I are in our late 20s. We are career driven and both make 6 figures. No student or car loans. We both own our own houses and our mortgages are reasonable percentage of our income. Because of our financial situation, I thought we will have a very healthy budget for the engagement ring.
We went to local jewelry stores to try on rings, and I found myself really liking ~1.75 carat RB diamond on my hand. We started seriously ring hunting, and had a conversation about the budget. That was when he told me that he was shocked how expensive diamond is, and his initial budget was 5K.
We had a few more conversations about it, and at the end we settled on a new budget of 11k, which could get me a decent size ring but not the one I truely wanted. I offered to pitch in to get a bigger ring. He said he wasn’t comfortable with me paying for part of my e-ring. I eventually gave up and went with the 11k budget because these conversations were starting to affect our relationship and I thought our relationship is more important then a ring.
Fast forward to now, I found myself constantly looking at WF’s website to see my potential upgrade options. Ironically I still haven’t been given my initial E-ring yet. I have seen the ring when BF received it. It’s a beautiful ring and a good size at 1.3 carat! But I can’t help thinking about wanting a bigger ring, and sometimes I get a little resentful of BF refusing to let me pitch in to get my dream ring. I’m aware that I have a first world problem. Honestly I’m not even sure if I’m just being ungrateful. I feel I should just be happy that BF got me a beautiful ring instead of focusing on the size. Earlier this week I had the urge to talk to BF about it, but I held back because I had previously agreed to the 11k budget. BF probably won’t be happy if I want to upgrade soon within the next couple years.
What should I do? How should I get over my negative feelings?
I need some advice on how to handle my current situation regarding my engagement ring.
Background: BF and I are planning on getting engaged this year. We talked about it at the beginning of this year because we both believe engagement shouldn’t be a surprise. We picked out a ring together and proposal will be a surprise.
BF and I are in our late 20s. We are career driven and both make 6 figures. No student or car loans. We both own our own houses and our mortgages are reasonable percentage of our income. Because of our financial situation, I thought we will have a very healthy budget for the engagement ring.
We went to local jewelry stores to try on rings, and I found myself really liking ~1.75 carat RB diamond on my hand. We started seriously ring hunting, and had a conversation about the budget. That was when he told me that he was shocked how expensive diamond is, and his initial budget was 5K.
We had a few more conversations about it, and at the end we settled on a new budget of 11k, which could get me a decent size ring but not the one I truely wanted. I offered to pitch in to get a bigger ring. He said he wasn’t comfortable with me paying for part of my e-ring. I eventually gave up and went with the 11k budget because these conversations were starting to affect our relationship and I thought our relationship is more important then a ring.
Fast forward to now, I found myself constantly looking at WF’s website to see my potential upgrade options. Ironically I still haven’t been given my initial E-ring yet. I have seen the ring when BF received it. It’s a beautiful ring and a good size at 1.3 carat! But I can’t help thinking about wanting a bigger ring, and sometimes I get a little resentful of BF refusing to let me pitch in to get my dream ring. I’m aware that I have a first world problem. Honestly I’m not even sure if I’m just being ungrateful. I feel I should just be happy that BF got me a beautiful ring instead of focusing on the size. Earlier this week I had the urge to talk to BF about it, but I held back because I had previously agreed to the 11k budget. BF probably won’t be happy if I want to upgrade soon within the next couple years.
What should I do? How should I get over my negative feelings?