TravelingGal
Super_Ideal_Rock
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Mara, I do agree with Rod that you should not have to endure abuse. I hope that it isn''t too stressful for you tomorrow.
I''ve been in a similar situation as you with the job I am currently in. My boss and I had quite a fall out. I won''t go into why, but it was partially my fault, however he was quite harsh with a coworker and me. I have never felt lectured like a child in my professional life and it was a horrible feeling. I''ve prided myself on my career and my good rapport with all my bosses. Before the fall out happened, I complained to TGuy all the time about him, and my feelings became more and more negative about my boss. Then it all blew up in my face at a sales meeting.
I flew home from the sales meeting and started looking right away for another job, thinking I would get fired. He didn''t speak to me on the phone for a month - only communicated by email. After really thinking about it, I decided to stay and just worked harder and harder and learned how to "play the game" so to speak. It did take two months for us to have a decent working relationship again. Of course, it did help that we don''t work out of the same office.
My boss and I get along great now, and he has earned my respect. He is a good boss - as long as I follow some reasonable rules. Some people would balk at the fact that I stuck it out after the stories I told, but like you, I hate to give up. I don''t feel my boss is abusive like yours seems to be though. For me, part of stretching myself in my career was learning to succeed in different types of organizations - and I believe you know where I work (it''s on my business card I gave you). Our organization can be very political. Previously, I had always been in laid back companies with gen-x type bosses who had no care for office hierarchy. For me, it was a very good (learning) experience to stick it out at my current company, and now a year and half later, I love my job.
I''m not saying this to say you should stay. I am sharing my story to say I understand very much how you feel. It''s a really sucky, downer place to be...especially for gals like us who tend not to be downer kind of women.
Good luck Mara!
I''ve been in a similar situation as you with the job I am currently in. My boss and I had quite a fall out. I won''t go into why, but it was partially my fault, however he was quite harsh with a coworker and me. I have never felt lectured like a child in my professional life and it was a horrible feeling. I''ve prided myself on my career and my good rapport with all my bosses. Before the fall out happened, I complained to TGuy all the time about him, and my feelings became more and more negative about my boss. Then it all blew up in my face at a sales meeting.
I flew home from the sales meeting and started looking right away for another job, thinking I would get fired. He didn''t speak to me on the phone for a month - only communicated by email. After really thinking about it, I decided to stay and just worked harder and harder and learned how to "play the game" so to speak. It did take two months for us to have a decent working relationship again. Of course, it did help that we don''t work out of the same office.
My boss and I get along great now, and he has earned my respect. He is a good boss - as long as I follow some reasonable rules. Some people would balk at the fact that I stuck it out after the stories I told, but like you, I hate to give up. I don''t feel my boss is abusive like yours seems to be though. For me, part of stretching myself in my career was learning to succeed in different types of organizations - and I believe you know where I work (it''s on my business card I gave you). Our organization can be very political. Previously, I had always been in laid back companies with gen-x type bosses who had no care for office hierarchy. For me, it was a very good (learning) experience to stick it out at my current company, and now a year and half later, I love my job.
I''m not saying this to say you should stay. I am sharing my story to say I understand very much how you feel. It''s a really sucky, downer place to be...especially for gals like us who tend not to be downer kind of women.
Good luck Mara!