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Rough_Rock
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Circe, I am so sorry for your loss.
In this time of loss, I call upon my spirit within to guide me to my strength, so that I may find peace and completion.
I will use this strength to demand of myself, and others, my need to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to healing.
During my time of grief, I will seek guidance, not only from my inner spirit but from loving persons who may offer wisdom and comfort.
I need to understand, that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing, and to pay attention to this. I will learn to accept that the soul may never heal completely.
I will learn to live not in fear, and once again, see beauty in my world, and purpose in my existence.
In spite of my new knowledge that things happen that cannot be controlled, I must call upon the places within me that tell me I do have control over much of my life, and use this control to aid my healing.
Let me recognize the gift in my ability to conceive, and carry life, however briefly.
Let me take joy in my ability to love so deeply, and the desire to nurture a soul unbeknownst to me.
Let me find healing in the belief that this soul knew my love for it, and that that love helped it to pass to another place.
Let me honor this short life, not only with my love, but in finding meaning in its existence.
Let me recognize this meaning in not only my ability to survive, but in my fullest appreciation of all the moments motherhood will bring me, along with my deeper compassion and sisterhood to other women who''ve experienced loss.
Let a part of this soul be reflected in the spirit of my future children, born or adopted, so that I may know it through them.
I will listen to and trust the place in my deepest heart that tells me I will once again be reunited with this soul, and will fulfill the need to hold it in my arms.
I will help myself to feel comfort in the knowledge that there is a star in heaven that belongs to me.
Date: 8/16/2009 12:31:31 PM
Author: Mara
Circe, I hope you are doing as well as can be expected and taking care of yourself and hub. I think about you daily.
I appreciate that you are coming back to update this thread, because it's a help to others who could very well have something similar happen to them. Some might feel that being interested in your story is using this horrible situation for my own 'benefit', which is a nasty thought, and they should be ashamed of themselves...I certainly am.
BUT if what happened to you and your darling little baby can make another mother's decision or the KNOWLEDGE they might glean that much more complete, then let's hear about it. And since this is your thread, feel free to post whatever you want about parvo or CMG which I have never even heard about....is it related to what happened?
Continued best wishes.
Circe, I''m so so so sorry about your loss. Lots of hugs and love to you and your hubby.Date: 8/16/2009 2:58:53 PM
Author: Mara
As for poor timing, unfortunately the kid inside me won''t stop growing while I read up!
I agree completelyDate: 8/16/2009 3:48:46 PM
Author: kama_s
Circe, I'm so so so sorry about your loss. Lots of hugs and love to you and your hubby.Date: 8/16/2009 2:58:53 PM
Author: Mara
As for poor timing, unfortunately the kid inside me won't stop growing while I read up!
Mara, I think you should make another thread for your questions. I understand you have questions but this thread is just not about you or your baby. Your insensitivity amazes me.
Exactly.....I cant believe that quote on this thread!!!!! I am without words actually.Date: 8/16/2009 3:48:46 PM
Author: kama_s
Circe, I''m so so so sorry about your loss. Lots of hugs and love to you and your hubby.Date: 8/16/2009 2:58:53 PM
Author: Mara
As for poor timing, unfortunately the kid inside me won''t stop growing while I read up!
Mara, I think you should make another thread for your questions. I understand you have questions but this thread is just not about you or your baby. Your insensitivity amazes me.
Circe, I urge you to seek some type of counseling or therapy if you are feeling this way. Depression doesn''t just go away on it''s own... It''s cyclical and may get a bit better with time but you are going through so much right now - I really think a grievance counselor or psychologist may be able to help you through this time. The hospital may have some references for you or provide you with some counselling. I am so sorry hun... The doctor may be able to prescribe some antidepressants for you but it may not be such a good idea considering all the other medications you are on right now... I hope you are getting out of the house a bit and getting some fresh air and sunlight! Nothing is worse for depression than staying indoors 24/7. Try to surround yourself with family and friends right now too, and keep busy.Date: 8/17/2009 3:12:09 PM
Author: Circe
Ugh, ugh, ugh - and now, just to top it all off, methinks the clinical depression just hit. I''ve been depressed before, so I know how to recognize it: situational depression is when you think, ''My life sucks, maybe I should have a drink.'' Clinical depression is when you think, ''Yeah, and then I could eat the glass!'' Prior to last night, I''d been depressed, but sort of ... surprised by it: I actually commented to my DH that this was the first time in my life that I''d had the crushing sadness of depression without the suicidal ideation, but as of last night, nope, no exceptions. I''m trying to figure out, is this regular old postpartum depression, or could this be the Premarin? I''ve always known that I''m susceptible to various chemicals, including estrogen, but this really is insult added to injury. (Oh, uh, ETA: don''t worry, I''ve put a call into my doctor, and I''d never actually *do* it - it would kill my parents.)
Dreamer, thank you for putting the idea of that lineage, that commonality into my head: I''d just been thinking, the other day, ''Now I know how Anne Boleyn felt!'' Well, now I''m glad to know I''m not the only one who''s had *that* thought, either ....