Susan Diamonds
Rough_Rock
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- May 7, 2017
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SIL and me got engaged the same day:BIL was in debt because he was paying a mortage both for house and wedding and nonetheless he bought her an expensive solitaire,her dream ring,after two years of dating;my husband had no debt,he had a wealthy salary and a lot of saved money...we were both in our early thirties and,after 8 years together, he bought me a miserable pave band because
1)it was the first ring he saw in the shop window
2)I' m practical and quite frugal so he thought I would have been really upset if he wasted more than 250 bucks on the engagement ring.
...dear OP stop the toxic circle, take a breath and start enjoying the gifts you can buy yourself.
I sincerely appreciate this thoughtful post. First of all, my finger is 5.5, but not very long or elegant, which is another reason I just don’t like the look of my ring on my finger.
Your ideas are so helpful. My husband’s birthday is October, tourmaline or opal, neither of which would be quite right as a center stone, but I like the thought of the three stone ring, or the two stone one. One problem is the diamond looks slightly too small as a center stone, and slightly too large as a side stone. I have an antique wedding band, with diamonds, so the halo would not look great with the antique band. I honestly am looking for a solution but I’ve had a hard time coming up with one that actually makes me excited enough to go do it (I don’t want to just settle for something I dislike less than my current ring).
I honestly haven’t been stewing over this for four years, but I was really feeling down about it recently and really do want a solution. I will be okay and have plenty of other things to be happy about. Also, I don’t have the specs here on my phone, but I do have them and will try and add them soon.
Meanwhile, thanks again for your help.