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purplesilk

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@Susan Diamonds, I agree with the above. A few of my friends love jewelry and I can honestly say that our husbands probably don’t really get it but they love us and want to make us happy. Take your time and decide what will make you happy. Once you figure that out then discuss it with your husband. It is pointless to have endless conversations when you aren’t sure what you really want. I almost LOL when one of my friends husbands over dinner stated very matter of factly that until she knew what she really wanted there was no use in starting a price negotiation. Why begin negotiations on something you’re not even sure you want. Most men want to fix a problem and sometimes I think they don’t understand our indecisiveness while we figure it out. The hunt is half the fun. I have also learned when I tell my husband I really want something and it’s doable financially, he makes sure I get what I want. BUT I always pick out my jewelry. He wouldn’t want me picking out his golf clubs so he understands picking out my jewelry is important to me. Good luck on your search and ihope you find a ring that makes your heart sing.
My exact thoughts.
 

missy

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@Matata and @missy, Well, let me clarify that I definitely have not deprived myself as far as diamonds go! :lol: I just have three diamonds that total 7.1 cts, and I am happier with three rings totalling that weight than one at 7 cts (plus I have a couple more)! The funny thing is that I rarely wear most of them! But I am all for people getting what makes them happy! I am thankful for and content with what I have, and although I obviously have a great appreciation for large and fabulous diamonds, I consider it like I do art...I appreciate Monet greatly, but I'm happy viewing it in a museum!

I will say, though, that there are things that give me more pleasure like giving gifts to my kids while they are young, rather than them waiting until we are in a grave!
Oh 100% yes @diamondseeker2006. Giving gifts to our loved ones and seeing the joy and pleasure it brings them is so rewarding and I consider gift giving in itself to be a great gift. To be able to give gifts that will be enjoyed to the people I love.

And I am also in complete agreement that the time to do it is when we are here and alive to be able to see and appreciate them enjoying those gifts. Today is a challenging day because we are headed to the funeral of a dear friend who died too young. And his son is but 21 years old. And now his son and our dear friend are robbed of the chance to spend more time together. Our friend J won't see his son D finish school, start a career, get married and have children and grandchildren. J will never experience that and D is missing out on having his father in his life as he achieves these goals and life experiences.

It's heartbreaking and reminds us all of how fleeting and fragile life is and how materialistic things are just that. Materialistic. And should be enjoyed for what they are and more for who gives them to us because they love us and want to bring joy to us. I am all for experiencing joy where we can and for always letting our loved ones know just how much we love, cherish and appreciate them. While we can.
 

mrs-b

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I'd sell it. It's one hideously cut stone, with fabulous color and very nice clarity. To get something adequately sparkly out of what started as excellent rough, you'd lose all sorts of weight in trying to fix the pavilion angle and the table. My guess is you'd lose 1/3 the size. If you keep it as well as getting a new e-ring, then you're committed to paying for a 2nd setting on a project you've expressed no interest in doing (pendant), or - and I don't even see how this would be possible - trying to find a matching one to make earrings - which you've also not said you were looking to do. And if you made earrings, you'd then have two badly cut stones! So, not what I'd call a step forward.

Consequently, I'd take the money and start over. Perhaps the money from your old diamand could pay for the new setting - so you'd still get the ring you wanted, and you'd pay for the new center stone, and your husband would have paid for the setting. Perhaps you could also re-use the metal in the new setting, so there would be a degree of continuity and sentiment. Frankly, if your old diamond paid for your new setting, and your old metal was in your new setting, that's enough continuity and sentiment to be able to maintain connection with your original ring.

But - seriously - that cut.... :confused2: NOT good.

ETA Is the original setting white gold or platinum?
 

Susan Diamonds

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I'd sell it. It's one hideously cut stone, with fabulous color and very nice clarity. To get something adequately sparkly out of what started as excellent rough, you'd lose all sorts of weight in trying to fix the pavilion angle and the table. My guess is you'd lose 1/3 the size. If you keep it as well as getting a new e-ring, then you're committed to paying for a 2nd setting on a project you've expressed no interest in doing (pendant), or - and I don't even see how this would be possible - trying to find a matching one to make earrings - which you've also not said you were looking to do. And if you made earrings, you'd then have two badly cut stones! So, not what I'd call a step forward.

Consequently, I'd take the money and start over. Perhaps the money from your old diamand could pay for the new setting - so you'd still get the ring you wanted, and you'd pay for the new center stone, and your husband would have paid for the setting. Perhaps you could also re-use the metal in the new setting, so there would be a degree of continuity and sentiment. Frankly, if your old diamond paid for your new setting, and your old metal was in your new setting, that's enough continuity and sentiment to be able to maintain connection with your original ring.

But - seriously - that cut.... :confused2: NOT good.

ETA Is the original setting white gold or platinum?
The old setting is white gold.

I’m so glad to hear your opinion on the cut—maybe that’s why I don’t like the ring. In person, it looks extremely flat on top, without the right amount of facets. Overall, it just looks off.
 

Starfacet

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The old setting is white gold.

I’m so glad to hear your opinion on the cut—maybe that’s why I don’t like the ring. In person, it looks extremely flat on top, without the right amount of facets. Overall, it just looks off.
Yep. That's why a re-cut or sell are good options.
 

mrs-b

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The old setting is white gold.

I’m so glad to hear your opinion on the cut—maybe that’s why I don’t like the ring. In person, it looks extremely flat on top, without the right amount of facets. Overall, it just looks off.
Yup. It's a pancake. I've never seen a round brilliant with such a wide table.
 

partgypsy

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I ran through the HCA and got a 7.1 overall score of fair (not good at all!) I would start over if it was possible.
Factor Grade
Light Return Fair
Fire Poor
Scintillation Poor
Spread or diameter for weight Excellent

Total Visual Performance 7.1 - Fair -
 

Disoon

Rough_Rock
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Buy yourself a beautiful .70 well cut f coloured diamond to replace your current diamond in its current setting. That will make you happy to look at the ring and your husband will never know. It’s obviously communication is difficult for you so do something in your own way about it.

And then start talking to him about an anniversary ring for your next project.

Done. No more thoughts about the old diamond. Let’s move on.
 

Susan Diamonds

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Friends. I have an update—I have an amazing new ring. I finally shared my feelings with my husband, and he got me a new ring ☺ My new diamond is a round diamond, 1.51 carats, on a thin yellow gold band with a platinum top. I can’t imagine it being more perfect. I wanted to share with you all ❤
 

foxinsox

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Friends. I have an update—I have an amazing new ring. I finally shared my feelings with my husband, and he got me a new ring ☺ My new diamond is a round diamond, 1.51 carats, on a thin yellow gold band with a platinum top. I can’t imagine it being more perfect. I wanted to share with you all ❤
This is great news! But where are the pictures?? We’d love to share in your happiness and admire the new ring
 

Susan Diamonds

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@Susan Diamonds -

After 8 pages of this thread and literally years of following your situation, some photos, pronto, would be a nice way of saying thanks.

In the meantime, can you tell us what happened to your previous diamond?
I think I am going to turn it into a necklace. I was thinking of a very thin gold chain a la Tiffany diamonds by the yard?
 
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mrs-b

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I think I am going to turn it into a necklace. I was thinking of a very thin gold chain a la Tiffany diamonds by the yard?
I think that's a terrific and very elegant idea. Nicely sentimental, also. :))

Do you have the stats/GIA cert on your new diamond that you can share with us? I want you to have gotten everything that you didn't get with your first stone, and I remember (clearly!) its cut proportions on its GIA certificate - yikes! I'd love to see a GIA cert for your new diamond, and for you to have really hit it out of the park!

And to add - congratulations on this huge improvement - and well done to your husband, also! :appl:
 
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