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Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't afford!

Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

FIrst, congrats on pulling the trigger on that ring. I hope when the ring arrives, it blows you away and puts to rest any questions.

Second, I agree with the other posters - I would not take it back to the store where you spotted the inspiration ring. The sales staff in chain jewelry store are often trained about sales but not about jewelry or diamonds. They might try to talk you out of your ring and into buying theirs just because that's what they're trained to do. Your visit is more likely to be frustrating than helpful.

When the ring arrives, you'll be able to tell whether the center stone is eye-clean. You might also want to get yourself a loupe so you can examine any inclusions you see, and spot any inclusions that might not be visible with the naked eye. If the stone is eye-clean (or clean enough that you're satisfied with it) what you want to look for is any inclusions that could interfere with the integrity of the stone... mainly, those that go to the surface of the stone. I have to believe that James Allen would not sell you a center stone with potential integrity issues. But, if you spot something that concerns you, your best bet would be to take it to an independent appraiser for a second opinion. I'd also consider taking it to a good, more high-end independent jewelry store and asking them to take a look at it, especially a store that does repairs on-site. Someone who sets jewels for a living will be able to answer any questions you have about stone integrity.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Well... the ring came today. The second I opened it... my heart sunk. It's just not right at all. The quality on the ring itself is fantastic, but the center stone (which I was nervous about) is all wrong. This is a premade ring, but it honestly doesn't even look like the same stone.

It's hardly fair to even call it a "yellow" diamond. The yellow gold just seems out of place with the diamond this milky color instead of a vivid yellow. The picture of the ring on the site made it look like the perfect shade, a fancy yellow without being over the top... that is just not what I got at all. It also seems there is a large inclusion in the center of the stone.

I think I hate it... but I'm torn of what to do... I want to just send it back and start all over, but maybe she would love it... I don't know, but I really don't think so.

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Image of the exact ring from JA site.

Created a quick album for my pictures. First 3 are blurry, but only using them to show what looks to be a big inperfection in the center of the stone.

http://imgur.com/a/9SwB8

Am I crazy? Am I over reacting? Is it really that different, or is it just me? Help!
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

return it!
if you have to utter the words "i think i hate it" then you need to return it. Luckily JA is great with returns and will probably send you a box to send it back for free. So theres a silver lining.

Youre right it isnt vivid. We can do better than that. Though probably the setting will not be exactly the same, still, itll be lovely.

Im so sorry this didnt work out, But im glad you gave it a chance. Nothing lost nothing gained i suppose. :nono:
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

If you hate it, return it. JA has a good return policy.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

The difference is laughably drastic. Return it straight away. Or at least ask if they'd be willing to switch out the stone. Did the stone come with a certificate? No way it's anything more than a light fancy and probably not even that.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Niel|1392835196|3618663 said:
return it!
if you have to utter the words "i think i hate it" then you need to return it. Luckily JA is great with returns and will probably send you a box to send it back for free. So theres a silver lining.

Youre right it isnt vivid. We can do better than that. Though probably the setting will not be exactly the same, still, itll be lovely.

Im so sorry this didnt work out, But im glad you gave it a chance. Nothing lost nothing gained i suppose. :nono:

I know lighting can make a huge difference and can be tricky, especially with colored stones... but it doesn't even look like the same stone. How they ever got it to look that vivid in the picture is beyond me.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

teobdl|1392835351|3618667 said:
The difference is laughably drastic. Return it straight away. Or at least ask if they'd be willing to switch out the stone. Did the stone come with a certificate? No way it's anything more than a light fancy and probably not even that.

No cert on their premade rings, only on their loose diamonds... which was why I hesitated to begin with. But JA seems to be very highly spoken of around here, and you folks have been insanely helpful and seem to really know your stuff... so I took a shot.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Yikes. It's not even close to the ring/stone pictured. The yellow melee looks a lot less vivid as well.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

It's not just you - return it and don't give it a second thought.

Then... go talk to your girlfriend about Plan B.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Passafire|1392835484|3618670 said:
teobdl|1392835351|3618667 said:
The difference is laughably drastic. Return it straight away. Or at least ask if they'd be willing to switch out the stone. Did the stone come with a certificate? No way it's anything more than a light fancy and probably not even that.

No cert on their premade rings, only on their loose diamonds... which was why I hesitated to begin with. But JA seems to be very highly spoken of around here, and you folks have been insanely helpful and seem to really know your stuff... so I took a shot.


Those pre made rings are a new venture for them, clearly not the the standard of their other things. I am sorry that it didnt work out. But dont get down. You took a shot, all you could do.

Sense they have a good return policy and currently still have your funds, maybe consider something else from them?

This is a marquise i know but it would look very yellow and substantial in a double halo

http://www.jamesallen.com/loose-diamonds/fancy-color/yellow/marquise-cut/0.53-carat-vs2-clarity-sku-225105
gra graded, well cut which is more rare for a fancy color, (and hard to do in a marquise too) and only about 2k

would leave you enough to have them do you a setting like this
http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/halo/14k-white-gold-diamond-split-shank-double-halo-pave-engagement-ring-item-17845
But tell them you need the center halo yellow and would like to use yellow diamonds in the center halo.

maybe a terrible idea if she hates marquise but if she doesnt, i thikn it would be stunning and still very similar. Just an idea, maybe bring your gilfriend in on the search, see what she thinks?


either way, dont get down! Colored stones are harder to buy that white diamonds. The colors can be different in different lighting. :wavey:
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Talking to customer support now. Sent them the same images... and suprisingly they agree with me. Doesn't look like they will work with swapping out the stone as it was not a custom made order, rather a pre-made... looks like it's going full refund. Kind of sucks for both parties.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

If everything is perfect but the center stone I'd see if they can swap it for you for a certified one (that you'll probably have to pay a bit extra for).

They are great to work with and come on the boards often. Can't hurt to try!

ETA: Just saw your new post. I'd see if you can talk with the owner. I know they usually don't swap stones but since they are SO different it can't hurt to try to get this pushed up a bit higher on the chain. Keep trying.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

vintagelover229|1392837993|3618717 said:

It could just be the way the photo is taken, but it doesn't look like the center stone on that last ring is set perpendicular to the shank?
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Another person who thinks you should talk to DBL. I'm sure they could make you a lovely double halo in your budget with a
"Yellow " stone.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Great looking ring there for sure =)

Is there anyway I can private message users? I can't seem to find it if so.

I see James Allen is actually online and active right now on the forums, was hoping to possibly point him to this thread in hopes of working something out with a swap with the loose stone I found of the same cut, clarity, and size.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

derbygal|1392839271|3618741 said:

OP, since JA can't change it due to it being pre-made, I think the suggestion to use DBL is a great idea! The ring posted above is beyond gorgeous -- you should get in contact with them and talk numbers! :naughty: :bigsmile:
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Passafire|1392839691|3618742 said:
Great looking ring there for sure =)

Is there anyway I can private message users? I can't seem to find it if so.

I see James Allen is actually online and active right now on the forums, was hoping to possibly point him to this thread in hopes of working something out with a swap with the loose stone I found of the same cut, clarity, and size.


I am just not sure thats possible because i think they are third party vendors that supply the pre made rings. thats probably why youre getting road blocks when you try to swop them out.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Passafire|1392839691|3618742 said:
Great looking ring there for sure =)

Is there anyway I can private message users? I can't seem to find it if so.

I see James Allen is actually online and active right now on the forums, was hoping to possibly point him to this thread in hopes of working something out with a swap with the loose stone I found of the same cut, clarity, and size.

Unforturnately, PS doesn't have a PM option... ::)
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

msop04|1392841412|3618764 said:

Thanks again everyone for the continued postings on further ideas. Definitely will be looking into DBL again and some of these links posted today.

Quite honestly, I'm not an overly emotional person, but I don't have it in me to start going through "the search" again today, going to have to come back to it in a couple days... thought I had "the ring" and was moving forward with the proposal plans etc. Feeling quite down at the moment really.

Had even sent the stock picture to my parents and siblings and let them know of my plans... oops on my part!
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

It is NOT your fault at all-the photos made that yellow diamond look a LOT better than IRL and that just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes :(

It's one minor set back to the perfect ring. You'll find the right one-what matters is you care/love her enough to continue to try. We'll get you hooked up-its a shame the JA ring didn't work out though.

Regroup and give David at DBL a call. See what he has and what he can do for you.
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

Passafire|1392841690|3618765 said:
Thanks again everyone for the continued postings on further ideas. Definitely will be looking into DBL again and some of these links posted today.

Quite honestly, I'm not an overly emotional person, but I don't have it in me to start going through "the search" again today, going to have to come back to it in a couple days... thought I had "the ring" and was moving forward with the proposal plans etc. Feeling quite down at the moment really.

Had even sent the stock picture to my parents and siblings and let them know of my plans... oops on my part!

I can totally understand where you're coming from, OP... give yourself a break before your head explodes. :wacko: :wacko: :twirl: :twirl: :shock: :shock:

Your FF is one lucky lady to have someone like you who truly wants the best for her! Don't stress over this -- there are many PS members that are here to help you find the perfect ring! :))
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

What a bummer! It doesn't even look like the same ring. It may just be a reflection of your camera but it looks like the prongs on the outside of the white diamonds are held with yellow gold in your shots, but not in JA's picture. I'm sorry. :(
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

If you look through most any of DBL's stone pages, you'll see he takes multiple shots with different lighting, and the differences in color in the same stone depending on the lighting is tremendous.

http://www.diamondsbylauren.com/index.php/jewelry/loose-diamond-66ct-radiant-cut-fancy-yellow-si1-amazing-stone-r3808

This is an S-T http://www.diamondsbylauren.com/index.php/jewelry/loose-diamond-331ct-s-t-vs1-radiant-diamond-gia-report-r3157
 
Re: Help! My lady has fallen in love with a ring I can't aff

msop04|1392841412|3618764 said:


This is a great set.

OP, take a mental health break. Goodness knows you deserve it.

We'll be here to help you when you get back.
 
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