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I feel like in this case, it would be best to slow down and really try to educate her. Yes she's stubborn, so this would be my 2Cents.
Is it possible you could buy the stone offered by the jeweler along with a holder, or something to hold the thing, and have her walk around with the stone and evaluate the characteristics of the stone in lighting at home, office lights and natural day-light? Hold it close to her face in those lights, because that happens when you wear a ring. Just 1 week with the stone could change her entire impression on what she felt was 'fine' in the store. This might be the fastest way towards education if she won't budge with words. IMO since she's already so involved, and you have made it seem that she's not OK with you using her current choices for 'inspiration', then I think it's worth it to spend some time/money really EDUCATING her of the choices she's made.
Personally for me, living with the diamond has taught me so much more than anything I could have read or videos I could have watched. So if she's OK with an I1 just make sure she's OK with an I1 in ALL lights all of them, because you're never in jewelry store lights 24/7.
Yep... out of the jewelry store's showroom spotlights that thing will likely go dead... and the inclusions will be easily seen.
OP, I think a great compromise would be to buy her a diamond that performs well and set it in the overpriced setting she wants. Even if it's 0.2-0.3 mm smaller in diameter, a well cut stone will sparkle from edge to edge, making it appear larger. It will look like the ring she liked (setting), but with a MUCH better diamond. Then when you have it set, she can take it in to compare to the other ring... and be blown away by how much better her diamond looks.