I agree.Date: 4/15/2009 12:35:19 AM
Author: Octavia
Katkat, I''m glad that dinner was okay, even if it wasn''t great. Don''t push yourself too hard or too fast to move on, it''s really only been a few days. I think it''s a really good thing that you went out, because the worst thing is to sit at home and mope for too long, but that doesn''t mean it has to be anything more than a nice evening out with an old friend.
I haven''t been posting too much on your thread, but I''ve been keeping up with it and I think you''re doing fantastic! Nobody expects you to be over your ex this soon, and I know from my past experience that there are some relationships you never truly get over, even when they''re long dead and you''ve moved on to different and better things. It''s just a part of living and loving, I guess. As for it being both hard and easy not to pick up the phone, I completely know the feeling. Ugh.
Inside, I fell pretty jello like. I realize that with him being gone these last weeks has been like riding a bike with "training wheels" on. Tomorrow he gets back and the wheels come off and I will be riding minus the comfort zone of him being thousands of miles away. I would be lying if I said I didn''t expect any call/text from him....as women I think we all do. But the fact of the matter is I am preparing myself or (trying to) that he will just do nothing. And Ii know that that would confirm my decision one thousand times over but ugh, the thought of it
Expected I suppose since today he returned. There was no call, no text and it surprised me that he was finally respecting my boundary! Go figure, I get no response and I get antsy. I fought the urge to email my letter. Someone please tell me what to do! See, told you I was no bada$$
I can understand your feelings. He did as you asked, yet a part of you probably thought he would come through and realize his mistake. You ARE a bada$$! Stick to your guns and remember we''re here to listen to you vent and help you stay strongDate: 4/17/2009 7:38:28 PM
Author: katkat
So today I am messy
You''re truly awesome and an inspiration to manyh of us, myself included!
Not sure if it would be a good thing or just reliving negative emotions.
Do you keep a journal or diary? The list could be an easy, quick way of reminding yourself why you''re not with him now, but your feelings may be (probably are?) much more complicated than that. Something that helps me is to sit down with a journal or a small stack of paper and write about my feelings--not to him, but some unknown, unbiased 3rd person out there to try to explain what has happened, why, and how you feel about it all. It''s purpose isn''t to show anyone later on, but just to help you clear out your head. It can take a long time, since as you write you remember other things you''d forgotten, so if you do decide to do something like this, make sure you allow yourself lots of time to get it all onto the paper.Date: 4/19/2009 10:37:32 AM
Author: katkat
I had contemplated making myself a ''let down'' list. A list of all the times I have been let down or disappointed by him in the past so that every time I start to feel soft...I can look at my list and toughen up again
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