justjulia
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Bless your heart. You''ve had a rough time of it, and you did all the right things.Date: 3/30/2008 10:34:00 PM
Author: bebe
Kaleigh I hope it all works out for the best. Perhaps he has reached his limits and knows he needs you.
I was the sibling that had to tell my mom she had to leave her home 4 years ago. It was very tough. She wanted to stay in her home of course, but she wasn''t safe there and had no support. We too thought she was eating well,
but later discovered she wasn''t. Her housekeeper was even writing the checks to pay her bills. She couldn''t drive any longer.
So she couldn''t get to a grocery store. My siblings and I were not aware of this, she kept it from us that well!
She began to give money away - so I understand your concern regarding your dad. We have no idea how much my mom gave away, but
at least $15,000, that we could find evidence of. A neighbor called Social Services because she felt my mom was in danger living alone. It was tough for us to face, but indeed she did need to move to an assisted living facility. At the new place, she starved because she would not eat in the dining room. She was too embarrassed to speak because she had lost the ability to put words together. Finally we hired an aide to make sure she ate. Then the alzheimer''s got worse and now she''s in a facility for that.
Kaleigh, I hope you have a support system to help you through this. I have a little from my brother, but my sister pretends it doesn''t exist. I am thankful my mom has care and I take comfort in that.