Selkie
Ideal_Rock
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- Jan 11, 2006
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Perhaps this "tradition" of the surprise ring/proposal made more sense when there were fewer setting styles and diamond options out there (my mother's generation seems to have relatively simple 4 or 6 prong solitaires with a .25 to.5ct RB diamond). But now, when you look at the sheer number of permutations available for engagement rings (including *GASP* colored stones), how can you possibly hope to randomly choose the ring that is going to suit her tastes and personality? Either it's a moot point because the man is bound and determined to choose on his own with no input, or she has to be involved, even if it's only by dropping hints and hoping they are picked up on. Every couple is different, and they place different emphasis on what is most important to them in the process. Yes, sometimes it CAN go too far, as you can see in the example of one poor guy who was so restricted by what (he perceived) his fiance wanted in a proposal that he seemed completely paralyzed. Other couples see collaborating on the ring design as a wonderful, and yes, SENTIMENTAL time in the relationship.