Gypsy
Super_Ideal_Rock
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Have half a minute (literally)... but wanted to say... A, I will post later tonight. And B... you mentioned that you don''t think that you have a right to demand emotional honesty from him (as well as other things)... but that-- you do, absolutely have the right.
As for accepting someone as they are. I agree. IF you really know that person, and they really know you. It sounds like you want to know him... and he''s afraid. He wants the image-- the sitcom because it''s safe. Not that he doesn''t want YOU and doesn''t want you to know (really know) HIM... but he doesn''t have any experience with risk, with failure, with overcoming obstacles and humbling pride because he''s always been sheltered....
So he''s sticking to the sitcom. And you KNOW that with marriage, a REAL enduring marriage you need more than that.
Okay... got to run.... (again excuse any inaccurate assumptions... and forgive any trespass this is stream of conciousness here). Be back on later.
As for accepting someone as they are. I agree. IF you really know that person, and they really know you. It sounds like you want to know him... and he''s afraid. He wants the image-- the sitcom because it''s safe. Not that he doesn''t want YOU and doesn''t want you to know (really know) HIM... but he doesn''t have any experience with risk, with failure, with overcoming obstacles and humbling pride because he''s always been sheltered....
So he''s sticking to the sitcom. And you KNOW that with marriage, a REAL enduring marriage you need more than that.
Okay... got to run.... (again excuse any inaccurate assumptions... and forgive any trespass this is stream of conciousness here). Be back on later.