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[robbie3982]

Welcome Festy and InLuv!

I wish we had a little tracker thing at the beginning of each page that said where everyone was at in their cycle like how they do on buddy groups on fertility friend. I''m having a hard time remembering where everyone''s at.

 

[blushingbride]

Hello my fellow TTC ladies! Wow, it''s been a while since I''ve posted and I need some time to play catch up! I was in San Francisco last week on business and had to take the redeye back Friday night to make it in time for my friends wedding - needless to say it''s been a crazy week! Nothing happening in my world of TTC yet...I am on CD 8.

Welcome to all the newbies who''ve deciding to come out of lurkdom and join in on the fun!

Peony - DITTO, DITTO, DITTO! My last post here was me venting about how all this is just so frustrating...thank goodness we are all in this together. I don''t think I''d be able to get through the AFF days or the two week wait without all of you. I have a feeling that your 3am temp may have made your chart a little wonky. I don''t really have much CM so, it''s hard for me to go by that too, but just the fact that your cervix was high sounds like a good sign to me. Keep us posted and I have my fingers crossed for you!!! BTW - my DH agreed to taking the fertell test (for motile sperm) and preconceive test (for sperm concentration). We figured it can''t hurt and it''s nice to be able to do it in our own home. I think we''ll both feel better about everything once we do this.

To everyone else....BABY DUST!!!!

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 9/30/2008 8:10:50 PM
Author: mela lu
BlushingBride. Our originator and TTC Royal. hang in there. It cannot be easy seeing all the jerkstores around you, especially when you''re doing everything right and more. I''m so sorry that you''re feeling down, and I really really really hope that your BFP comes sooner than later. I think waiting until after Christmas is a good line in the sand. Hopefullly your magic moment will come before that, but if it doesn''t, you''ll have a ''new plan'' for the new year.
Sending you hugs and tons of baby dust.

Thanks Mela!

Your words are always so comforting...

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 9/30/2008 9:35:17 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
BB,

I think waiting to see what happens in 2008 is a great idea. It''s so hard, having no control over something that you want so desperately.

I hope this month that will be a little more ''low key'' is a fruitful one.

One of my good friends at work just found out she''s preggo, after over a year of trying, she and her hubby kind of just gave up and stopped stressing over it, and who woulda known... here she is vomiting and feeling queasy... growing a baby!!

Thanks Fisher

I know you of all people know exactly how I feel and what I''m going through. Hopefully stressing less about everything will be the trick.

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 9/30/2008 4:11:50 PM
Author: *Lindsey*
blushingbride that stinks!

I know that we all KNOW it can take up to a year to ttc with a normal healthy couple, but I know that doesn''t really ease the fear when it doesn''t happen as fast as you think it will. Knowing and feeling are two different things! But you''re doing the right things, and you still have a shot this month. At least if you go into this month knowing that chances might be a bit lower due to the BDing timing, maybe you''ll be pleasantly surprised. Either way next month you can start with vigor! Wishing you lots and lots of good luck!

Thanks Linsey

- I really hope I''m pleasantly surprised this month, but I''m not putting all my eggs in one basket this cycle. It''s pretty much a long shot with DH''s trip falling on two important days, but we shall see!

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 9/30/2008 5:01:19 PM
Author: littlelysser
Hello ladies!

Tiffany - Congrats again! I''m so darn excited for you and DH. Exciting stuffs! Oh, and they should DEFINITELY be able to tell where the sac is by 5w5d.

BB - I''m sorry you are feeling down. I know for me, this whole TTC journey has been tough. BUT, don''t lose hope - shoot, don''t even come close. It''ll happen. Might take some time, but it will happen.

Steph - Do you have any idea how many DPO you are? It is still probably very early!

Robbie - Hmmm. Have you found any other ways to encourage implantation! I''m allergic to fresh pineapple and I HATE salmon!

Yikes!

As for me.... Eh, not much going on. DH and I dtd around the time, in retrospect, near the time I may have O''d. I''m not sure, because I wasn''t temping. Actually, now that I''ve looked at FF, I am pretty sure we have about a .0111% chance of getting KTFU. Which is good - docs recommended to wait a cycle and I''m okay with that. But at the same time, I am ready for AF to come so we can get back to business. Emotionally, I''m doing well. It will always be sad, and always be with me...but I''m okay.

On a non TTC note...DH and I are really trying to buckle down and save some cash, particularly since we are a one income family as I take jewelry classes and try to work on eventually making some money at this whole thing. And this is a pathetic to admit...we are trying to actually budget for the first time in our lives. I know...pathetic. BUT in my defense, I was either a poor student/waitress or making six figures at a big old law firm...so I''ve either had NO money or enough that I didn''t have to budget. Also, I''m pathetic and totally addicted to purses. I have an entire bookshelf full of them. I love them to death...but I''ve spent so much freaking money on them over the past 10 years!

ANYWAY, Do any of you ladies have any websites or books that are good for the budget challenged? I want to start keeping track of what is going out and coming in. And making SURE we are living well within our means and still saving some money. Anyone??

Thanks LL

- I''m so glad you dropped by to fill us in on how you''re doing. Isn''t it amazing how those luxury items, like handbags, shoes, etc., add up? I think it''s great you are trying to get yourself organized...it will come in handy when you''re a crazed mom who has no time to even brush your teeth!

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 10/1/2008 9:37:19 AM
Author: tiffanytwisted
Blushing-I''m so sorry you''re frustrated. This whole TTC process can really get you down after a few months. Especially when you''re so aware of when you''re ovulating, etc and that you''re doing everything right, and still AFF shows up! Hang in there! I''m sure it will happen soon!

Thanks Tiffany

I know you mentioned that it took you somewhere along the lines of 8 months or so...I realize these things take time...sometimes it''s heart breaking for me to look at DH after telling him AFF arriveed...we both want this so badly!

 

[Sabine]

Welcome inluv and festy! Sunkist, that is such great news! You will be all set for January!

I think I''m in the 2ww, but not sure yet. I had another relatively high temp this morning, but I can''t get to ff from work, so I will have to see if it gives me crosshairs or not. If I did O, then I''m probably just waiting for AFF this month though, cause dh was OOT and we didn''t get that great of a chance to bd. I''m annoyed that I haven''t seen ANY EW yet this month, but I''m hoping it''s just because I''m so recently off the pill.

I''m such a dork though, I finally took a trip out to walmart to check there for BBT thermometers (they didn''t have any either!), but I did pick up a few FRER pregger testers while I was there! I know I might not need them for a while, but it was so exciting to buy my first ones!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 10/6/2008 1:12:07 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Does anyone know (hint hint, DD???) if the length of time you actually bleed during AF''s visit relates to anything? For example, I only had about 3 days of it- wondered if that means that my lining is too thin or something? Just curious.

LOL! You know what''s funny, I worried about this too when I was TTC and did some research. My period have always been super light... I get like one day of light bleeding requiring a tampon, and then 2 days of spotting where all I need is a panty liner. And I got pg on my third cycle TTC. From what I read, the heaviness/lightness of your period is totally unrelated to fertility, unless it is super-duper heavy, which can indicate fibrouds or something like that. So ask you doctor it is eases you mind, but everything I read said women vary greatly on this and it doesn''t matter. Ask you female relatives about their cycles, they are probably simiar to yours (my mom''s was super light too...)

Robbie on the preggo thread someone suggested that we all sign with our posts every once and a while with how far along we are and this was really useful, maybe you gals want to do something like that here with your CDs or something? Not how many months trying of course, just where you are in that exact cycle.

I''m on CD 134

 

[E B]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:09:50 PM
Author: blushingbride

Thanks Tiffany

I know you mentioned that it took you somewhere along the lines of 8 months or so...I realize these things take time...sometimes it''s heart breaking for me to look at DH after telling him AFF arriveed...we both want this so badly!

BIG hugs to you, bb! Will you join our buddy group?

 

[Festy]

Thanks, Ebree. Don''t you wish you could have amnesia during the 2ww so that every little physical sensation doesn''t feel eerily familiar?

Thanks inluv,chinacat, Robbie and Sabine!

Sunkist, we shoot for BDing every other day b/c every day just isn''t, ahem, productive for us, if you KWIM?

BB - welcome back and thanks for starting this thread!

DD - good idea re signing off.

Oh, and my gift for the day is this SNL skit. It''s a year old so you may have seen it, but it made me LMAO when I really needed to laugh!

http://www.hulu.com/watch/10234/saturday-night-live-annuale

CD2

 

[E B]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:23:31 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

LOL! You know what''s funny, I worried about this too when I was TTC and did some research. My period have always been super light... I get like one day of light bleeding requiring a tampon, and then 2 days of spotting where all I need is a panty liner. And I got pg on my third cycle TTC. From what I read, the heaviness/lightness of your period is totally unrelated to fertility, unless it is super-duper heavy, which can indicate fibrouds or something like that. So ask you doctor it is eases you mind, but everything I read said women vary greatly on this and it doesn''t matter. Ask you female relatives about their cycles, they are probably simiar to yours (my mom''s was super light too...)

dd,

I''m not sure if you mentioned this to me before, but thank you! It''s a relief to hear a light flow doesn''t necessarily mean there will be problems with implantation. When I was "measured" at CD 12, my lining was 5mm, and it''s supposed to be 8-9mm for healthy implantation to occur (or so I''ve heard), but I wonder if 5mm is okay several days BEFORE implantation? My doctor didn''t really explain. Hmmmm. I''ll do some reading.

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:23:31 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 10/6/2008 1:12:07 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Does anyone know (hint hint, DD???) if the length of time you actually bleed during AF''s visit relates to anything? For example, I only had about 3 days of it- wondered if that means that my lining is too thin or something? Just curious.

LOL! You know what''s funny, I worried about this too when I was TTC and did some research. My period have always been super light... I get like one day of light bleeding requiring a tampon, and then 2 days of spotting where all I need is a panty liner. And I got pg on my third cycle TTC. From what I read, the heaviness/lightness of your period is totally unrelated to fertility, unless it is super-duper heavy, which can indicate fibrouds or something like that. So ask you doctor it is eases you mind, but everything I read said women vary greatly on this and it doesn''t matter. Ask you female relatives about their cycles, they are probably simiar to yours (my mom''s was super light too...)

Robbie on the preggo thread someone suggested that we all sign with our posts every once and a while with how far along we are and this was really useful, maybe you gals want to do something like that here with your CDs or something? Not how many months trying of course, just where you are in that exact cycle.

I''m on CD 134

Great idea DD!

CD2...

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:30:06 PM
Author: EBree

Date: 10/6/2008 2:09:50 PM
Author: blushingbride

Thanks Tiffany

I know you mentioned that it took you somewhere along the lines of 8 months or so...I realize these things take time...sometimes it''s heart breaking for me to look at DH after telling him AFF arriveed...we both want this so badly!

BIG hugs to you, bb! Will you join our buddy group?

Absolutely...did you guys post about this (still catching up)...what''s the buddy group????

 

[robbie3982]

Oooh, good idea Dreamer!

CD-14 here. I should O within the week!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:33:49 PM
Author: EBree

Date: 10/6/2008 2:23:31 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

LOL! You know what''s funny, I worried about this too when I was TTC and did some research. My period have always been super light... I get like one day of light bleeding requiring a tampon, and then 2 days of spotting where all I need is a panty liner. And I got pg on my third cycle TTC. From what I read, the heaviness/lightness of your period is totally unrelated to fertility, unless it is super-duper heavy, which can indicate fibrouds or something like that. So ask you doctor it is eases you mind, but everything I read said women vary greatly on this and it doesn''t matter. Ask you female relatives about their cycles, they are probably simiar to yours (my mom''s was super light too...)

dd,

I''m not sure if you mentioned this to me before, but thank you! It''s a relief to hear a light flow doesn''t necessarily mean there will be problems with implantation. When I was ''measured'' at CD 12, my lining was 5mm, and it''s supposed to be 8-9mm for healthy implantation to occur (or so I''ve heard), but I wonder if 5mm is okay several days BEFORE implantation? My doctor didn''t really explain. Hmmmm. I''ll do some reading.

If I recall correctly, one article I read said that the amount of flow you have is not actually related to the thickness of your lining (most of what comes out is extra blood engorging the capilaries etc, not the actual lining), so those are really two different issues. I''m not familiar with the lining thing, but it is certaintly worth looking into with your specialist when you see him/her, given that your m/cs were so early on, it certainly suggests implantation issues as a potential culprit (if there even is one, I am still holding out that you have just been one of the unlucky 36% of women who by pure odds will have two m/cs in a row).

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 2:33:49 PM
Author: EBree

Date: 10/6/2008 2:23:31 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

LOL! You know what''s funny, I worried about this too when I was TTC and did some research. My period have always been super light... I get like one day of light bleeding requiring a tampon, and then 2 days of spotting where all I need is a panty liner. And I got pg on my third cycle TTC. From what I read, the heaviness/lightness of your period is totally unrelated to fertility, unless it is super-duper heavy, which can indicate fibrouds or something like that. So ask you doctor it is eases you mind, but everything I read said women vary greatly on this and it doesn''t matter. Ask you female relatives about their cycles, they are probably simiar to yours (my mom''s was super light too...)

dd,

I''m not sure if you mentioned this to me before, but thank you! It''s a relief to hear a light flow doesn''t necessarily mean there will be problems with implantation. When I was ''measured'' at CD 12, my lining was 5mm, and it''s supposed to be 8-9mm for healthy implantation to occur (or so I''ve heard), but I wonder if 5mm is okay several days BEFORE implantation? My doctor didn''t really explain. Hmmmm. I''ll do some reading.

Since I came off the BCP two years ago, I have always had pretty light AF. One day where I would need tampons and then two days that I would use them but didn''t really need to.

Also wanted to add for those who are coming of BCP, sometimes your cycle will bounce back very fast - mine went straight from no AF for over a year (on Cerazette) to a 28 day cycle. So don''t count on NOT getting KTFU first go - it can happen.

I''m keeping my fingers crossed for all of you!

 

[E B]

Date: 10/6/2008 4:18:24 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
I am still holding out that you have just been one of the unlucky 36% of women who by pure odds will have two m/cs in a row).

Thank you dd! 36 percent- where did you find that number, if you don't mind my asking? I calculated the odds of having 2 in a row and got 4 percent. But I'm not to be trusted with math.

 

[vetrik]

Date: 10/6/2008 1:52:54 PM
Author: sunkist
Hi Everyone! I can''t read everyone''s posts right now cause I''m at work. I never get on PS at work, but I''m so excited because last night hubby told me we can start in January!!!!! Woohooo! I''m still way nervous though. I think when he told me I felt a tiny smidgen of butterflies in my stomach

I asked him if he was ready and he said he still doesn''t REALLY feel like it, but he''s as ready as he''ll ever be. He said he is getting a little excited thinking about it though. So that makes me feel good Wow, just 3 months.

It looks like everyone is having a pretty good day. Peony keep up hope, don''t be hard on yourselves. Remember 6 mo. average!

From people''s charts it looks like a lot of you are doing everyday marathons. Is anyone doing an every other day marathon?

Congrats on having a timeline for trying! I did every other day last month from CD5 - CD13 (and then again on CD 14). That didn''t work for us, so this month I''m going to try everyday. We kind of took a little break after O last month, and DH was getting a little anxious by the beginning of this cycle. I kept telling him it would be everyday soon!

I''m interested to hear the discussion about the amount of flow, because I''ve been wondering about that myself. I''ve notcied that AF has been lighter for me since my ectopic, and I was wondering if that could have an affect on my ability to get pregnant again. I''m supposed to go in for my annual exam in December if I''m not KU by then, so I may mention it to my doctor anyway if I still notice it at that point.

CD5

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 10/6/2008 4:25:43 PM
Author: EBree

Date: 10/6/2008 4:18:24 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
I am still holding out that you have just been one of the unlucky 36% of women who by pure odds will have two m/cs in a row).

Thank you dd! 36 percent- where did you find that number, if you don''t mind my asking? I calculated the odds of having 2 in a row and got 4 percent. But I''m not to be trusted with math.

Hmmm... I think I could be misremembering. Indy posted the odds on this thread somewhere and that''s what stuck with me. Maybe it is 36% will have two in their lifetime, whereas 4% is for two in a row... I''ll see if I can find it when I get home, I''m just leaving work now.

 

[ChinaCat]

Ebree- I know this doesn''t help statistic-wise, but one of my good friends had 2 m/c in a row and it really shook her. She is young, healthy, no apparent issues, but our doctor (we have the same one) went ahead and had her go to a fertility specialist. Anyways, right before her first appointment, she found out she was pregnant again- and she had her darling baby girl this August. Sometimes it just takes a bit of time. I always think of her when I read about your worries. Don''t know if that makes you feel better, but it''s always nice to hear about happy endings.

 

[E B]

Date: 10/6/2008 4:51:39 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Ebree- I know this doesn't help statistic-wise, but one of my good friends had 2 m/c in a row and it really shook her. She is young, healthy, no apparent issues, but our doctor (we have the same one) went ahead and had her go to a fertility specialist. Anyways, right before her first appointment, she found out she was pregnant again- and she had her darling baby girl this August. Sometimes it just takes a bit of time. I always think of her when I read about your worries. Don't know if that makes you feel better, but it's always nice to hear about happy endings.

China-

Thank you so much for sharing your friend's story with me. I'm hoping both were just bad luck for me as well, though I hate not knowing for sure.

I got cold feet while making an appointment with the infertility clinic today (I told them I'd call back), but if it worked for your friend, maybe it could work for me? The first appointment they have IS at the end of October...

 

[peonygirl]

Just signing my post: CD26.

 

[ChinaCat]

Ebree-

Hmm, that's such a tough call. What does your OB/GYN think? You are relatively young, so I might be tempted to wait and see if there is really anything wrong before I go down that costly path! Then again, if there is something going on, it might be better to find out now. You see how decisive I am! I would probably give it a few more months, personally. If I was your age, I mean. I am a bit older, so I would probably go see a specialist sooner in my specific case.

Why the cold feet?

ETA: CD4 or CD5

 

[littlelysser]

Hey there everyone.

I finally got my period! This cycle was longer than my previous one, and I think I O'd several days later than normal...but hey. Welcome AFF! Never thought I'd be happy to say that...but yay! So, looks like we'll be back in the game!

I am such a big fan of temping though...I only temped today and yesterday, and based on yesterday's temp I was basically able to confirm that I'd O'd, but that I most likely wasn't prego. And today, based on the huge temp drop, I knew AF was on her way. I just think that is so neat. Kind of like being a detective of your own body.

Peony - I hope you are feeling better! Also, still chuckling at your P.S. I'm amazed at how often you guys are getting down to business. Robbie too. Gooo you youngins go!

Welcome Luv!

CC - I'm excited to hang with AFF too! DH and I are definitely feeling ready to get back on the TTC horse! So yay!

Festy - Welcome! I totally read the whole thing too when I started...there is so much information in here. Anyway, this is a great group. Oh, and I totally feel you on the over analyzing symptoms. I was CONVINCED I was prego my first month - I think almost every single one of us has had that happen. Enough to drive a person mad.

AMBER - Buddy? Where are youuuuuuuuu?

Ebree - I think we have a MILLION cycle buddies this time. Wow. What an odd coincidence of AFF arrivals!! Anyway, I am sending you so many super sticky vibes.

BB - Glad to see you around BB! Glad to see you in better spirits!

Sabine - I can't believe how hard a time you having finding the thermometer! I might get one on-line! Oh, and I totally know what you mean about buying the tests for the first time...it was exciting and grown up feeling! Not as much fun on the 204th time, but hey!

LuLu - Did you meet with your doc? Do you like him/her? You've been in my thoughts.

Vetrik - Do you know when you O? I only ask because my first month, we did basically what you did...but I don't ovulate until a bit later - namely CD 17 or 18...so that was some wasted BDing. Well, not wasted...but you get what I mean.

Oh, and I'm totally down with DD's idea to include where we are cycle-wise...although, really, DD, you should probably see a doc about that LONG cycle!

CD1! YAY!

 

[E B]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:22:58 PM
Author: ChinaCat

Why the cold feet?

Mostly for reasons you listed- I''m young, healthy, and testing can be expensive! I guess I''m just hoping both m/cs weren''t related, but on the other hand, I don''t want to risk another one just to see. I honestly don''t know what to do, and DH isn''t much help.

LL- Yay! Another CB! Congratulations on AF.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Hmm... so I decided to try to "test" out all this confusion I''ve had with the whole CM thing. I did the bowl test (paper throw away bowl because yeah, that''s not what I want to be thinking about when I have my morning cereal). What happened was some just dissolved or whatever and one little tiny bit lumped up and sunk. So, I guess I will log that as fertile in FF.

I think I also need to remember this, because I now think that I do have CM that is more like sticky, but is actually EW. That''s what I think, anyway.

And that concludes my thesis on my "test."

Thank you.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

LL, I only lurk here so you probably already said but how long was your cycle?

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Welcome to our two newbies.

Wow, this place was quiet for a minute and today BAM!!! Lots to read!!

Good luck, one to all!!

 

[littlelysser]

Hey there Tacori!

Depending on how you calculate it - I had some initial spotting and cramping 5 days before I actually started bleeding and cramping post chemical pregnancy/miscarriage...

So, if you count the initial spotting as day 1 of the cycle, it was around 38 days. If not, it was around 33...both of which are longer than my previous ones...I got relatively "lucky" because my HCG level was only 200 on the first draw and 50 on the second...which meant that the hormone was leaving my system relatively quickly.

Still CD1 here. Still yay!