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Hi gals! I FINALLY went through and read all of the old posts! Robbie, I am SO, SO sorry! You sound like you are super strong, and I''m sure you will have 2.0 soon! Tiffany, congrats, that is so wonderful! I can''t even imagine how happy you are. :) Ebree, ugh that sucks, but I like your new plan!

Everyone else (sorry to lump everyone else together): GOOD LUCK! This is a harrowing journey and I am having a horrible time today. Just awful. DH is asleep, but all I want to do is cry and cry. My last two cycles have been almost indentical (O at 21 days, 34-35 long), and this one looks all wrong. I thought that I was finally ovulating this month until my temp took a nosedive this morning. I know it can''t be wrong though, ''cause I took it twice. I am SO devasted! I can''t figure out whether I didn''t ovulate this month or if I''m going to have a super long (50 or so day) cycle. I''m sorry guys, I''m just a wreck right now.

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Aw Peony, don''t get too depressed yet.

Were you checking CM or CP at all? The surge can be over by the time you test with an OPK so it is possible to miss it - CM will give you a better idea.

If you did O on CD21, a big dip today might not be a bad thing at all - tomorrow''s temp could be interesting.

The BDing marathon should stand you in good stead if anything was missed. I''ll keep my fingers crossed for a big ol'' temp rise tomorrow for you.
 
Aww thanks Pandora! Your post made me feel a lot better. I have had pretty pronounced "implantation dips," so you''re right that it could have been that, although it would be an early one. I may have even Oed on day 20 of this month, since I took my temp at 3am that morning instead of my usual 7am (long story).

I have definitely been trying to get better about CM this month, but it''s been frustrating. I checked from days 15-20, but my cervix is SO high that I was only able to get some off the sides of my vaginal walls. It''s a cross between watery and creamy, no matter when I check it near the midpoint of my cycle. On day 21, I had my DH help me since his fingers were longer, and he was actually able to collect some directly off my cervix. It was quite sparse, but it was definitely watery. I haven''t been logging it because I don''t want to mess up what FF would say about my temps, since I think that those are BY FAR my most accurate fertility measure (at least in retrospect--I know that they can''t predict anything prospectively).

I guess that it''s just a matter of waiting!! Thanks again!
 
Aww, Peony, I''m so sorry your cycle is not going as expected this month! That does really stink. I think DD is right though, all you can do is wait and see what tomorrow''s temp is. What goes down must come back up, right???
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Take one of Ebree''s fun days today :)
 
Peony,

Don''t get sad yet. Today''s drop could very likely be your ovulation dip!

Here''s hoping tomorrow''s temp is a dramatic rise!

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Okay, CD 13 here. First "big" temp change. It was 97.74 yesterday and 97.31 today. I wonder if I could possibly ovulate early this cycle? Probably not, though. I had a "fake out ovulation dip" last cycle, too. A 27 day cycle would be insane for me, since I''ve had so many in the 40s and beyond here lately. Still, it would neat to have a short one!

Lucky for us, we started the BD thing early this cycle, just in case. Well, looking back, really only Sat and today, so who knows?

Anyway, just an update. Probably won''t be a real ovulation day, but I thought I''d throw it out there, just in case.

Is it just me, or is this thread lagging lately?

How are all the girls doing today?
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DD,

Can you review the whole testing the CM in a bowl of water thing again? Dissengrates, not fertile CM, makes a lump and sinks, fertile CM? Is that right?
 
Date: 10/6/2008 7:39:55 AM
Author: fisherofmengirly
DD,

Can you review the whole testing the CM in a bowl of water thing again? Dissengrates, not fertile CM, makes a lump and sinks, fertile CM? Is that right?
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That''s right!
 
Fisher, I don''t know that it really disintegrates if it''s semen, but it won''t stay clumped together like CM will.

This must be the month of the crazy temp drops. Mine is the lowest it''s ever been today. It was at 96.8 yesterday and 96.4 (
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We started our BD marathon this weekend. I just hope it doesn''t end up being as long as last time. If I O on CD 19 again it will though.
 
Just an update: I got a temp of 97.3 today. Not the dramatic rise I was hoping for. THIS. IS. SO. HARD.

I have no idea what this cycle means at all. I don't know whether to keep BDing or what. We might switch to every other day now since we've done it 8 days in a row. I checked my CM this morning, and it's ultra sparse and creamy. All I can hope for this that I already missed my O and that we hit it because I don't want to think about having a 40+ day cycle.

In some ways I wish that I had never told any of my friends that I was trying. Last night I went to a party, and literally 3 people went up to me and said, "Oh, I see you're not drinking. You must be pregnant, congrats!!" And then I had to explain that I wasn't. Actually, I wasn't drinking because it just reminds me that I'm not pregnant. I am usually such a happy person, but this had gotten me so defeated. I wish that I didn't have such high expectations from the beginning.

P.S. Robbie, just saw your post right after I posted mine. DH and I are pretty sick of sex too, although of course he has to do all of the hard work. We are just trying to have a sense of humor about it. Right after we started BDing, I said to DH (in my best robot voice): "initiating insemination sequence."
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Date: 10/6/2008 8:18:54 AM
Author: peonygirl
Right after we started BDing, I said to DH (in my best robot voice): ''initiating insemination sequence.''
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Peony, I LOLed when I read that! We''re not at the point where we''re sick of it yet (only been 2 days in a row so far), but we definitely were last cycle and we only had a 7 day streak, so I really feel for you! We had planned to BD one more time that cycle so I could confirm O for sure, but we just couldn''t.
 
Hello ladies!

I had a pregnancy scare (We weren''t trying but wouldn''t have been upset at all if I found out I was preggo) and when the test came back BFN I was so upset. I cried and cried and realized that I did want to TTC now. DH was all for it since he''s wanted babies since yesterday. We haven''t been married too long but have been together for years so for us it was a solid decision. The funny thing is people kept asking us when we were going to TTC and I would get annoyed. I guess it was because I wanted it to be our decision and not someone else''s. Of course we haven''t told anyone we are TTC now. I started charting last month and it was our first official month trying. I was so upset this weekend when AF came! The disappointment is overwhelming and it was only my first month! I know the stats on how much of a chance we have to conceive each month, so I''m trying not to get to upset. I told DH that I should check myself into a psych ward because I swear I felt all sort of symptoms while waiting for AF. Anyway, I lurk on this thread all the time and have read it from page 1, so I thought I''d throw my hat in the TTC ring. Here is my chart for last month and today I''m on CD2. I have to say, I learned so much from reading this thread and everyone is so supportive and uplifting. FF as been extrememly helpful as well. I look forward to hearing about all of us getting our BFP!

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InLuv, welcome!! It''s amazing how down one can get if it doesn''t work out, eh? I keep reminding myself that average is 6 months!
 
Date: 10/6/2008 10:25:52 AM
Author: peonygirl
InLuv, welcome!! It''s amazing how down one can get if it doesn''t work out, eh? I keep reminding myself that average is 6 months!
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Thanks Peony! You are right, I''ve been telling myself that as well. I''m sure it will happen soon for all of us.
 
Thanks for the well wishes, ladies!

Welcome, luv! You and I are on the same cycle- today I''m CD 3! We can be cycle buddies.

Peony- BDing every other day sounds like a good plan. I hope you see a clear shift soon! :)

How''s everyone else doing? Where''s Amber?
 
hey ladies! 8DPO today. The thing is, is that my temps haven''t fluctuated at all really...i mean .01, .02 here and there, but that''s about it. It did go from 97.84 yesterday to 97.79 today. But I''m wondering if this is ok???

I''m not planning on testing until at least 13DPO. That will put me at a 30 day cycle this month, which is what i average. Although, I have a feeling i ovulated late this month....so my cycle may be longer assuming i''m not KTFU! I''m not hopeful though for some reason....maybe I just don''t want to get my hopes up.

Anyway, here''s my chart again....does anyone know if the flat temps is a problem?

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InLov101 welcome to the game! LOL! You chart from last month was lovely, and I noticed on your chart that FF has you O-ing 2 days after you fertile CM disappeared. This would not be typical (but still a healthy pattern, don''t worry!), so you may want to consider the possibility that you O''d 2 days earlier (on your last day of fertile CM) and that you had what is called a delayed temp shift. Some people''s temps take a couple days to respond to the progesterone jump that signals ovulation, and so the temp shift will actually occurr after ovulation occurred! This doesn''t matter, it doesn''t signal anything and it is a healthy thing, so the only reason I point this out is that you may want to cover your bases BD-wise for both types of O-days... the last day of fertile CM and the day before temp shift. You covered those bases last month, but if you O earlier than the temp shift then you don''t want to miss any days leading up to the shift, KWIM?

cdt1101 stable temps are fine after O or before, I had the same thing myself. No worries! Lovely chart BTW!
 
thanks for the response DD! The first month is nervewracking because i just want it to look ''normal''
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Date: 10/6/2008 10:49:14 AM
Author: EBree
Thanks for the well wishes, ladies!

Welcome, luv! You and I are on the same cycle- today I''m CD 3! We can be cycle buddies.

Peony- BDing every other day sounds like a good plan. I hope you see a clear shift soon! :)

How''s everyone else doing? Where''s Amber?
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Thanks Ebree! It will be great to have a cylce buddy, thanks!
 
Date: 10/6/2008 11:04:27 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
InLov101 welcome to the game! LOL! You chart from last month was lovely, and I noticed on your chart that FF has you O-ing 2 days after you fertile CM disappeared. This would not be typical (but still a healthy pattern, don''t worry!), so you may want to consider the possibility that you O''d 2 days earlier (on your last day of fertile CM) and that you had what is called a delayed temp shift. Some people''s temps take a couple days to respond to the progesterone jump that signals ovulation, and so the temp shift will actually occurr after ovulation occurred! This doesn''t matter, it doesn''t signal anything and it is a healthy thing, so the only reason I point this out is that you may want to cover your bases BD-wise for both types of O-days... the last day of fertile CM and the day before temp shift. You covered those bases last month, but if you O earlier than the temp shift then you don''t want to miss any days leading up to the shift, KWIM?

cdt1101 stable temps are fine after O or before, I had the same thing myself. No worries! Lovely chart BTW!
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DD: Thanks for the welcome! I was wondering about O''ing 2 days earlier as well. When FF pegged my O date 2 days after my EWCM dried up, I was surprised. I didn''t know about a delayed temp shift. Thanks for the info and I will make sure to cover the bases BD-wise. Question though: If I did in fact have a delayed temp shift, and my body takes a few days to respond with temp-wise, will that be my norm each cycle?
 
Date: 10/6/2008 11:17:04 AM
Author: InLuv101

DD: Thanks for the welcome! I was wondering about O''ing 2 days earlier as well. When FF pegged my O date 2 days after my EWCM dried up, I was surprised. I didn''t know about a delayed temp shift. Thanks for the info and I will make sure to cover the bases BD-wise. Question though: If I did in fact have a delayed temp shift, and my body takes a few days to respond with temp-wise, will that be my norm each cycle?
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I don''t know for sure about that... Taking Charge of Your Fertility talks about how this is an unusual (but normal) type of temp pattern for some women, just as the slow rise pattern is the norm for some others, so that sort of implies it will be a pattern for you? This month you will know, if you see the discordance again then it may be typical for you!
 
Date: 10/6/2008 11:25:27 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 10/6/2008 11:17:04 AM
Author: InLuv101

DD: Thanks for the welcome! I was wondering about O''ing 2 days earlier as well. When FF pegged my O date 2 days after my EWCM dried up, I was surprised. I didn''t know about a delayed temp shift. Thanks for the info and I will make sure to cover the bases BD-wise. Question though: If I did in fact have a delayed temp shift, and my body takes a few days to respond with temp-wise, will that be my norm each cycle?
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I don''t know for sure about that... Taking Charge of Your Fertility talks about how this is an unusual (but normal) type of temp pattern for some women, just as the slow rise pattern is the norm for some others, so that sort of implies it will be a pattern for you? This month you will know, if you see the discordance again then it may be typical for you!
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True enough. Thanks DD!
 
Morning ladies. Hope everyone had a great weekend.

Peony- Aww, sorry you are having a hard time. Wishing you the best!

Fisher, Robbie- Have fun with the BD-ing!!!!!!
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InLuv-Welcome!
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I am right there with you and Ebree (well, I am a day or two ahead of you, but close enough!) I am going to be your shadow cycle buddy! I have no idea when to start BDing since I don''t know when I O yet. Since my cycle was 27 days last time, guess I should start around 12-13th???? I know I could O early or late, but figure until I do know, that would be a good guess for this month.

I am either CD4 or CD5, depending on if I count last Thursday or not. I think I am weirdly the only one here that was actually excited to hang with AF this weekend. Mostly b/c it looks like my cycle is back on track. at around 27 days. And I haven''t been charting or temping yet, so I don''t really know what''s going on so no pressure yet. I think also I am still just dipping my toe in the water, so to speak- it would be great if it happened, but I am still a bit nervous and scared of the whole pregnancy/parenting thing, so I am not complaining about another month of sleep and wine! Plus my BFF is preggo and is so so sick, it''s easy to be glad it''s not me. I do feel for all of you that are frustrated- I know I will be right there with you once I feel like I am actually "trying"- which is maybe why I am hesitant to do so. It''s a lot of pressure!

Does anyone know (hint hint, DD???) if the length of time you actually bleed during AF''s visit relates to anything? For example, I only had about 3 days of it- wondered if that means that my lining is too thin or something? Just curious.
 
China-

Hey there, Cycle Buddy (CB)! Starting to BD around the 12th sounds good- you can cover your bases well if you do it every other day.
 
Hi everyone,

I''m coming out of lurkdom to say two things.

1) Thank you!

2) I get it.

I don''t know how anyone makes it through this process without some kind of support like this. I started reading this thread from the beginning (I''m on page 60-something right now) and you all have made me laugh and cry more times than I can count. I''m actually a longtime member of PS but decided to re-join under a different name because I am hyper-sensitive about privacy.

To give you a little background, I''m on CD2 of my 3rd or 4th cycle off BCP. (Hi Ebree and inluv101!) I was completely and totally convinced, this past cycle, that I was pregnant. I''ve never suffered from PMS and around 6-7DPO I started getting slightly crampy, sore boobs, and just generally super-aware of my uterus. I''d only started temping in the middle of that cycle and thought I saw an implantation dip around 6DPO. And I did two things I said I''d never do - tell DH I thought I was pregnant and tell friends I thought I was pregnant. ("I''ll eat my coffee cup if I''m not pregnant!") Seriously. I was out of control.

As you can probably guess, it was all a false alarm and I''m fine with it now, but I felt so badly for getting DH''s hopes up. (He was a total gem about the whole thing). So now I get it! I really really get it. I can''t NOT talk about this, but I don''t want to talk about it IRL anymore. That''s where you all come in.

Before I forget, a huge congrats to Mela Lu, Tiffany, Pandora and any other recent BFP''s lately. I''ve been rooting for you! DD - your advice seems to have such a calming effect around here. I hope you''ll be around for a while!

This will be my first full cycle of temping...lucky for me I''ve been regular like clockwork since coming off the pill. Knock wood. Again, thanks so much for being here. Best of luck to everyone!
 
Festy,

Welcome! I love that we're getting a solid group of CBs going.

I was in the same situation this last cycle- I was CONVINCED I was pregnant. I was having the familiar boob pangs and headaches, and told my husband I knew this was it. I cried all night the night I got a BFN at 13 DPO, and am still wondering why my body was so cruel as to trick me this cycle. At my most vulnerable, no less!

Here's to hoping you (and everyone else TTC) get quick and sticky BFPs.
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Date: 10/6/2008 1:12:07 PM
Author: ChinaCat

Does anyone know (hint hint, DD???) if the length of time you actually bleed during AF's visit relates to anything? For example, I only had about 3 days of it- wondered if that means that my lining is too thin or something? Just curious.
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China, I've been concerned about this as well. Before I went on the pill, my periods were heavy. While on the pill, they were 'medium,' and now, they're pretty light. I brought it up to my OBGYN, who wasn't too concerned, and let me know she'd monitor my lining by ultrasound.

I'd read that baby aspirin can help thicken the lining (as well as help with implantation if you have any mild clotting disorders), so with the OK of my OBGYN, I've been taking a single baby aspirin every night before bed. It didn't seem to help much the first cycle, but this cycle, my period has been noticeably heavier. I'd actually consider it more of a "medium" flow than light this cycle. (Sorry for TMI!)

I'm no doctor, but I think that's a good sign! If you're concerned, definitely speak to your GYN about it and see what she recommends. And please, share her tips with me!
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Date: 10/6/2008 1:21:44 PM
Author: Festy
Hi everyone,

I''m coming out of lurkdom to say two things.

1) Thank you!

2) I get it.

I don''t know how anyone makes it through this process without some kind of support like this. I started reading this thread from the beginning (I''m on page 60-something right now) and you all have made me laugh and cry more times than I can count. I''m actually a longtime member of PS but decided to re-join under a different name because I am hyper-sensitive about privacy.

To give you a little background, I''m on CD2 of my 3rd or 4th cycle off BCP. (Hi Ebree and inluv101!) I was completely and totally convinced, this past cycle, that I was pregnant. I''ve never suffered from PMS and around 6-7DPO I started getting slightly crampy, sore boobs, and just generally super-aware of my uterus. I''d only started temping in the middle of that cycle and thought I saw an implantation dip around 6DPO. And I did two things I said I''d never do - tell DH I thought I was pregnant and tell friends I thought I was pregnant. (''I''ll eat my coffee cup if I''m not pregnant!'') Seriously. I was out of control.

As you can probably guess, it was all a false alarm and I''m fine with it now, but I felt so badly for getting DH''s hopes up. (He was a total gem about the whole thing). So now I get it! I really really get it. I can''t NOT talk about this, but I don''t want to talk about it IRL anymore. That''s where you all come in.

Before I forget, a huge congrats to Mela Lu, Tiffany, Pandora and any other recent BFP''s lately. I''ve been rooting for you! DD - your advice seems to have such a calming effect around here. I hope you''ll be around for a while!

This will be my first full cycle of temping...lucky for me I''ve been regular like clockwork since coming off the pill. Knock wood. Again, thanks so much for being here. Best of luck to everyone!
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This is where we all come in. It''s so nice to come here and talk about these things with people who understand! Glad to have another Cycle Buddy! Welcome Festy and I hope you get your BFP very soon!
 
Festy- Welcome!!!!!

Ebree- That''s good to know, I will check with my OB/GYN. I will let you know if she says anything different.
 
Hi Everyone! I can''t read everyone''s posts right now cause I''m at work. I never get on PS at work, but I''m so excited because last night hubby told me we can start in January!!!!! Woohooo! I''m still way nervous though. I think when he told me I felt a tiny smidgen of butterflies in my stomach
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I asked him if he was ready and he said he still doesn''t REALLY feel like it, but he''s as ready as he''ll ever be. He said he is getting a little excited thinking about it though. So that makes me feel good :) Wow, just 3 months.

It looks like everyone is having a pretty good day. Peony keep up hope, don''t be hard on yourselves. Remember 6 mo. average!

From people''s charts it looks like a lot of you are doing everyday marathons. Is anyone doing an every other day marathon?
 
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