AnneinGA
Shiny_Rock
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- Aug 6, 2010
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Re: Sad and confused about my future engagement ring purchas
Hi Lemon Poppy. I am so sorry you're going through this.
I have a thought. Have you actually HEARD your mother in law try to make your bf a puppet or is it what HE's telling you she's saying? Everyone is on the bandwagon that the MIL is controlling and she may be, BUT if your bf is playing this game, he may be telling you things to be mad at her not be mad at him.
At this point, if I were in your shoes, I would confront the MIL, nicely, and can I stress *nicely* here? I mean along the lines of a young woman in love with her son seeking her advice. OR, if you don't want to be nice, more of a direct confrontation like "BF has said you have given him direction about our engagement and specifically the ring and the venue. What's up?"
Irregardless, I don't think you have anything to lose. I am just suspicious that there is something else going on here that is not as apparent as you may think it is. For your bf to doom this relationship in a matter of a week or two makes me wonder what other piece of th puzzle you don't have. Because I've seen enough of this to know that when something doesn't make sense, and the whole thing seems to just be bizzare, that you're missing a piece of the puzzle. And in this case, you're missing a piece of the puzzle.
[hugs] to you.
Hi Lemon Poppy. I am so sorry you're going through this.
I have a thought. Have you actually HEARD your mother in law try to make your bf a puppet or is it what HE's telling you she's saying? Everyone is on the bandwagon that the MIL is controlling and she may be, BUT if your bf is playing this game, he may be telling you things to be mad at her not be mad at him.
At this point, if I were in your shoes, I would confront the MIL, nicely, and can I stress *nicely* here? I mean along the lines of a young woman in love with her son seeking her advice. OR, if you don't want to be nice, more of a direct confrontation like "BF has said you have given him direction about our engagement and specifically the ring and the venue. What's up?"
Irregardless, I don't think you have anything to lose. I am just suspicious that there is something else going on here that is not as apparent as you may think it is. For your bf to doom this relationship in a matter of a week or two makes me wonder what other piece of th puzzle you don't have. Because I've seen enough of this to know that when something doesn't make sense, and the whole thing seems to just be bizzare, that you're missing a piece of the puzzle. And in this case, you're missing a piece of the puzzle.
[hugs] to you.