PSers, how long have you been married or for the single people, how long was your longest relationsh

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/6/2010 1:23:07 PM
Author: tigian

Date: 5/6/2010 12:51:19 PM
Author:jaysonsmom
Hi ladies and gents. I''ve been reading a lot of threads about splitting up and divorces, and I''m curious see what is the longest you''ve been together with someone. I''m a hopeless romantic, and I hope this thread will inspire people to strive to work on their relationships.....


I''ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for almost 10.


We''ve had our ups and downs and almost called it quits a couple years ago, but we both made changes, and are going strong. Hope to stay together another 10 (I''m only going to shoot for 10 at a time

That''s so great that you are able to compromise and make changes for your marriage. Would you be willing to share any of your experiences or suggest anything for maintaining a long lasting marriage?

a lot of diamonds for the wife.

 

[Gailey]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:22:20 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/6/2010 1:23:07 PM
Author: tigian

Date: 5/6/2010 12:51:19 PM
Author:jaysonsmom
Hi ladies and gents. I''ve been reading a lot of threads about splitting up and divorces, and I''m curious see what is the longest you''ve been together with someone. I''m a hopeless romantic, and I hope this thread will inspire people to strive to work on their relationships.....


I''ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for almost 10.


We''ve had our ups and downs and almost called it quits a couple years ago, but we both made changes, and are going strong. Hope to stay together another 10 (I''m only going to shoot for 10 at a time

That''s so great that you are able to compromise and make changes for your marriage. Would you be willing to share any of your experiences or suggest anything for maintaining a long lasting marriage?

a lot of diamonds for the wife.

How long DF? No skirting the issue.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 5/6/2010 9:14:33 PM
Author: bebe

1-7-77

33 years married

You beat me! But that happens to be a very important anniversary for me. That is the anniversary of the day I flew to France to meet my husband. You married yours the day I met mine!

AGBF

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

We've been together 4 years, married for 4.5 months. I was an obnoxious 19yo college sophomore & he was an older grad student...piercings, tattoos & bad-ass.

Now he's a nerdy pharmacist & I'm a heck of a lot more mature than I used to be, but we're a better 'fit' for each other than ever before. I can't wait for the rest of our lives!!

My longest relationship pre-DH was a whopping 60 days

ETA: Not that 4 years is a super-long time to begin with, but time with DH has absolutely flown by. But in some respects, I feel like we've been together forever... that I've never been without him by my side. I'm curious to know how/if this feeling will change as the years go on.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:24:48 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 5/6/2010 9:14:33 PM
Author: bebe

1-7-77

33 years married

You beat me! But that happens to be a very important anniversary for me. That is the anniversary of the day I flew to France to meet my husband. You married yours the day I met mine!

Wait a minute! The day and month thing! Is that January the seventh or July the first? I flew to Paris on January 7th of 1977! By March I was married.

Deb/AGBF

 

[luv2sparkle]

Bebe-you got married the year I graduated from high school

DH and I have been married 30 years on 7-12-80. We got married at 20 years old! I am interested to know how old everyone was when they married.
DH and I went to a small christian high school and knew each other but never were even friends. We got together at a church youth group in 79 and married in l980.

He is my best friend and we are still crazy in love!

 

[bebe]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:30:31 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 5/6/2010 10:24:48 PM

Author: AGBF

Date: 5/6/2010 9:14:33 PM

Author: bebe


1-7-77


33 years married

You beat me! But that happens to be a very important anniversary for me. That is the anniversary of the day I flew to France to meet my husband. You married yours the day I met mine!

Wait a minute! The day and month thing! Is that January the seventh or July the first?


Deb/AGBF

Deb, January 7, 1977 Friday night

 

[isaku5]

We''ve known each other for 52 years and been married 47.

 

[RaiKai]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:31:05 PM
Author: luv2sparkle
Bebe-you got married the year I graduated from high school

DH and I have been married 30 years on 7-12-80. We got married at 20 years old! I am interested to know how old everyone was when they married.

DH and I went to a small christian high school and knew each other but never were even friends. We got together at a church youth group in 79 and married in l980.



He is my best friend and we are still crazy in love!

I was born the year you two met! Happy early 30th anniversary to you!

DH and I were 35 and 30, respectively, when we married (we were 34 and 29 when we met...and turn 36 and 31 this summer).

 

[AGBF]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:33:30 PM
Author: bebe

Deb, January 7, 1977 Friday night

bebe-That is an amazing coincidence! I remember the day I flew because January 7 was my mother's birthday as well as Russian/Greek Orthodox Christmas! For years I used to keep track of the number of days from

when my husband and I met (the 8 of January) to when we became engaged the 19th (11 days). It is so long since I thought about this! He bought me a pair of coral earrings the night he asked me to marry him

in the Kam Lin Chinese restaurant where I ate shrimp egg foo yung (omelette aux crevettes) that night! The earrings were later stolen when our house in Old Greenwich, Connecticut was burgled back in around

1978 or 1979! That was a sentimental loss! We had no engagement ring until we took a train down to Italy and picked one out in Genova!


AGBF

 

[AGBF]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:43:09 PM
Author: isaku5

We''ve known each other for 52 years and been married 47.

Congratulations, Isabel!

Deb

 

[marcy]

I met my husband 20 years ago in February and we''ve been married 19 years at the end of June.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:24:16 PM
Author: Gailey

How long DF? No skirting the issue.

wife and i been together for 34 yrs. and have been married for 24 yrs. you wanna know about the mistress too?

 

[artdecogirl]

26 years this January! I was 17 and he was 19. I think any amount of time a relationship is intact is worth congratulations, staying together as you mature and change is not always easy and takes deliberate effort to maintain the relationship and as others have said not to let things slide. Looking forward to the next 26 years! (but hoping they don''t go quite so fast!) Seems like yesterday It was a frozen Minnesota January Sat afternoon and my brother who was giving me away put his tux in the trunk of his car then decided he needed to go through the car wash! Needless to say his car did not look so good after they had to pry the frozen trunk open with a crowbar!

 

[bee*]

I''ve been with DH for 11 years, married for almost one year. We''ve never had any huge relationship problems at all so hopefully that will continue in the future.

 

[that_someone_special]

3.5 years... we will be dating 4 years by the time we get married

 

[PinkTower]

luv2sparkle,

We are also 30 years this summer!!! 8-9-80.
I need to make a list of all of us who have been married since the 80''s. My children think it was the most exciting time in history.

 

[luv2sparkle]

Hey Pinktower, yeah for 1980!That summer, almost everyone we knew got married! It was the strangest thing! We went to a wedding almost every weekend..!

 

[ksinger]

I''m sorry, but the calculation for how long my DH and I have had a relationship is far too complex to post here. It generally requires a computer program unless you want to be at it all day.

Yeah, it''s strange, don''t ask.

Technically I suppose you could say we''ve been married for almost 2 years? Together on and off in the last 30+ years for a total of 9+ years? Out of sight at times, but never out of mind. Bungee relationship. I think we got married out of sheer exasperation. "Geez....YOU again?? Oh ALRIGHT already, let''s just get married and be done with it."

 

[Upgradable]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:09:29 PM
Author: Allison D.

Date: 5/6/2010 7:08:15 PM
Author: Zoe

And HOW do you let things slide? I''m TERRIBLE at that. I don''t let things go, and I know it''s a bad habit. My husband actually noticed that I''ve become pickier and less tolerant about everything since we first met.

I don''t mean to pry, so don''t answer if you don''t feel comfortable.

Zoe, I can''t speak for how others do it, but for me, I''d say it''s an active, conscious choice to let them slide.

When Rich and I first lived under the same roof, it was an adjustment. We had varying standards for ''what''s good enough'' with respect to housekeeping and organization. Things that seemed important to me just didn''t even ping his radar. I''ve told this story before; when we were engaged, I''d gone to the kitchen and found (for what felt like the millionth time) an empty soda bottle on the counter. (He knows one of my pet peeves is crap on the counters). At that moment, I had a ''holy crap, can I reallly go through with this marriage'' moment, not just over the soda bottle but about ''how are we gonna live harmoniously?''

What it felt like to me was ''he knows he''s leaving it there and just doesn''t care that it bothers me.'' When I said something to him about it, he said ''oh, I didn''t realize it was there'', and I just didn''t get that. HOW can you NOT SEE that it''s sitting there??!! He said as calmly and matter-of-factly as you can imagine ''It wasn''t a purposeful thing; I don''t even recall setting it there, but if you point it out to me, I''ll be happy to take care of it. But it doesn''t bother me, so I don''t notice it.''

As we''ve been together, I''ve seen him really try to be more aware and conscious, and he succeeds better at some times and less at others. It''s not that those things have actually become any more important to him; he tries sheerly because he wants to make me happy. There''s a lot to be said for that, and I try to keep that in mind when I decide whether something is worth making an issue over. When he empties the dishwasher, he doesn''t separates the tablespoons from the teaspoons; they all get mixed in together. But really, is the world going to end if the spoons are mixed in? No....no it isn''t, and the fact that I do it that way doesn''t make it ''right''. What''s the worst thing that can happen if the dishwasher isn''t packed better? We have to run it a bit more often....definitely not world-ending.

I don''t want to spend the energy in constant ''nitpick'' mode; it would increase my stress level and certainly his. I know I wouldn''t like constantly being picked at, so I try to be mindful of that when I think about ''is this really worth the airtime?'' If I decide something isn''t worth the airtime, then I have to truly let it go, not just hold onto it for later - LOL.

He''s the person I like most in the world; he''s more deserving of a little bit of slack than anyone else. He takes a similar approach; he decides if something is mission critical before nitpicking me. Because we''re not continually finding fault with each other, I think we tend to be more responsive to each other when things do come up. It''s made day-to-day living much easier to the point that I feel we''ve really hit our groove.

Wow!!! What a great roadmap for one of the most difficult, but essential, ways to make a marriage work. Thank you for sharing that Allison!


And hubby and I married when I was 25, he was 27.

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 5/6/2010 8:52:33 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 5/6/2010 8:36:44 PM

Author: jaysonsmom

Date: 5/6/2010 8:30:40 PM

Author: Kaleigh

So do Canuck and I get a prize?? LOL!!!!

I think AGBF gets the top prize for now....

Yes she does. So Deb , do you want a cake???

Canuck and I will be happy to be runners up!!!! Right Sharon?? LOL!!!

Yes, runner up it will have to be!!! I think Isabel has us all beat!!!

But let us eat cake--and for me, I''ll wash it down with some bubbly!

cheers--Sharon

 

[Diamond_Newb]

Date: 5/7/2010 2:46:39 AM
Author: lcom
26 years this January! I was 17 and he was 19. I think any amount of time a relationship is intact is worth congratulations, staying together as you mature and change is not always easy and takes deliberate effort to maintain the relationship and as others have said not to let things slide. Looking forward to the next 26 years! (but hoping they don''t go quite so fast!) Seems like yesterday It was a frozen Minnesota January Sat afternoon and my brother who was giving me away put his tux in the trunk of his car then decided he needed to go through the car wash! Needless to say his car did not look so good after they had to pry the frozen trunk open with a crowbar!

I totally agree. I just recently proposed to my GF of almost 11 years (May 21st)....we starting dating when i was 18 and she was 17...growing together has been amazing and i couldnt imagine life without her!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/7/2010 9:17:14 AM
Author: canuk-gal


Yes, runner up it will have to be!!! I think Isabel has us all beat!!!

But let us eat cake--and for me, I''ll wash it down with some bubbly!

cheers--Sharon

Sharon...is that a polite way of saying Isabel is an old goat?

 

[purselover]

I''ve only been married 4 and 1/2 months but this Sunday we will have been together 9 years

 

[lightningbug]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:47:31 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 5/6/2010 10:33:30 PM

Author: bebe


Deb, January 7, 1977 Friday night

bebe-That is an amazing coincidence! I remember the day I flew because January 7 was my mother''s birthday as well as Russian/Greek Orthodox Christmas! For years I used to keep track of the number of days from


when my husband and I met (the 8 of January) to when we became engaged the 19th (11 days). It is so long since I thought about this! He bought me a pair of coral earrings the night he asked me to marry him


in the Kam Lin Chinese restaurant where I ate shrimp egg foo yung (omelette aux crevettes) that night! The earrings were later stolen when our house in Old Greenwich, Connecticut was burgled back in around


1978 or 1979! That was a sentimental loss! We had no engagement ring until we took a train down to Italy and picked one out in Genova!



AGBF

What a romantic story!

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 5/7/2010 10:06:00 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/7/2010 9:17:14 AM
Author: canuk-gal





Yes, runner up it will have to be!!! I think Isabel has us all beat!!!

But let us eat cake--and for me, I'll wash it down with some bubbly!

cheers--Sharon

Sharon...is that a polite way of saying Isabel is an old goat?

HI:

Naughty DF--quit stirring the pot! I would never say--and my note did not imply--such a thing! Honestly! Congratulation to Isabel--and all us married/together folk!

cheers--Sharon

 

[Scorpioanne]

Date: 5/6/2010 8:06:41 PM
Author: Imdanny
And the people who are gay and live in states where they can''t get married?

They should come here to Canada where they can get married in every province!

 

[Scorpioanne]

DH and I will have been married 6 years in September and have been together 9 years altogether. I was married before for 12 years and by the time my first husband and I had been married as long as my DH and I have been we had been to marriage counselling for 3 sets of sessions. DH and I are so happy and we get along so well, he is my best friend and we have so much fun together

- I thik the key is to pick the right partner!

 

[tigian]

Date: 5/6/2010 10:22:20 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/6/2010 1:23:07 PM

Author: tigian

Date: 5/6/2010 12:51:19 PM

Author:jaysonsmom

Hi ladies and gents. I''ve been reading a lot of threads about splitting up and divorces, and I''m curious see what is the longest you''ve been together with someone. I''m a hopeless romantic, and I hope this thread will inspire people to strive to work on their relationships.....



I''ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for almost 10.



We''ve had our ups and downs and almost called it quits a couple years ago, but we both made changes, and are going strong. Hope to stay together another 10 (I''m only going to shoot for 10 at a time

That''s so great that you are able to compromise and make changes for your marriage. Would you be willing to share any of your experiences or suggest anything for maintaining a long lasting marriage?

a lot of diamonds for the wife.

I would say that definitely helps!

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 5/7/2010 1:13:32 PM
Author: tigian

Date: 5/6/2010 10:22:20 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/6/2010 1:23:07 PM

Author: tigian

Date: 5/6/2010 12:51:19 PM

Author:jaysonsmom

Hi ladies and gents. I''ve been reading a lot of threads about splitting up and divorces, and I''m curious see what is the longest you''ve been together with someone. I''m a hopeless romantic, and I hope this thread will inspire people to strive to work on their relationships.....



I''ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for almost 10.



We''ve had our ups and downs and almost called it quits a couple years ago, but we both made changes, and are going strong. Hope to stay together another 10 (I''m only going to shoot for 10 at a time

That''s so great that you are able to compromise and make changes for your marriage. Would you be willing to share any of your experiences or suggest anything for maintaining a long lasting marriage?

a lot of diamonds for the wife.

I would say that definitely helps!

It certainly couldn''t hurt!!!!!