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Date: 1/7/2009 1:55:51 PM
Author: Allison D.
Date: 1/7/2009 9:43:03 AM
Author: Pandora II
Date: 1/7/2009 4:18:22 AM
Author: rainwood
I can see both sides of this issue. I understand someone admiring a ring and wanting one like it. I can also understand someone buying an antique ring (one that many people on PS have admired and said they''ve never seen one like it) being dismayed that someone copied it. Yes, posting photographs on PS make it easy for someone to copy a particular piece, but most women post their engagement rings in a cloud of excitement and don''t stop to think that they''ve given someone a roadmap to do so. So I understand both PT''s excitement and SG''s dismay, and condemn neither.
And if posting a photo of a ring is considered by most to be an a-okay to copy it, then SG''s decision to have her SMTR thread removed is exactly what she should do if she doesn''t want it copied further.
Totally agree.
Since the OP in the other thread specifically made a point of apologising for copying the ring (other than proportions in every tiny detail) which actively sought a response (IMHO) - an apology doesn''t mean that by default the other should be all happy about it and I think the original''s owner has a right to feel that well actually they''re not too thrilled and for that feeling to be expressed. Otherwise it is taking it as read that they are fine with the situation.
Engagement rings are very sentimental and feelings arise that wouldn''t over more mundane items. Sometimes when you are emotionally involved in something it is easier not to enter into a discussion at that time. Hence why I posted.
I think if the OP had just posted her ring without all the hoo haa about who''s it was copied from etc then it would have been less hurtful and upsetting to the original''s owner.
This is the last I will say on this.
I just think it''s a little sad that people who own unique/custom/antique pieces may well think twice about posting them in detail in future.
I have to say I arduously disagree.
When PT *THANKED* SG for the inspiration and and said ''I''m sorry for being a copycat'', I read that as merely an acknowledgement of the common-courtesy variety. Not for even one New York minute did I believe PT actually even thought SG would actually BE truly upset; if she had, I''m sure she wouldn''t have posted the ring at all.
As far as ''copying every tiny detail'' (which you''ve expressly pointed out twice now), I''d like to know how you can ascertain that from the SINGLE VIEW photo she posted?? For all we know, she could have dragon heads engraved on the sides of the shank! (I don''t really believe this, but you get my drift just the same.)
I emphatically disagree that her dismay had to be expressed at all. First, it''s DONE - there''s nothing to condone or not. It doesn''t matter to me if she condones it or not, to be honest. Second, if the root issue is not wanting replicas of her ring made, that''s easily accomplished by asking admin to remove the *photos* of her rings from the various threads. I personally it was over the top to remove entire threads over it, but that''s just my opinion.
Third....and this is the one that has me seething on this......if she couldn''t contain her urge to express her disappointment to the community, there were far more mature and less hurtful ways to do so. It should have come from HER, not from someone else. Also, she could have started her own thread in Hangout sharing her disappointment that her ring had been copied.
I know, Pandora, that you meant well and meant to support your friend, and I have great respect for you on PS as a whole, but the post made in PT''s thread smacked of the same clique-ishness that I recall in high school. ''Sally''s VERY devastated about it, and I just thought you all should know''. Hey, if Sally''s that disturbed and she''s an adult, she should be able to express her own disappointment and to do it in the appropriate venue.
I find it completely ironic how many people have posted into PT''s thread asking her to come back and post more pictures......does anyone seriously think she will do that NOW? Of course not - can you imagine the potential backlash then? ''SG took the time to remove all pictures of her ring, and now PT is completely defeating that by posting 68 views of her ring with its exact same every little detail! It''s like another slap in the face to SG''.
Frankly, I don''t blame that gal for not posting another single capital letter. I hope she does come back, but I would fully understand why she might choose not to.
I will agree it was an appropriate decision for SG to ask for her photos to be removed; that is absolutely her prerogative if she is that bothered. I don''t think that action was out of line, but I think the way this whole thing was handled is petty and haughty.
I cannot relate to being devastated over someone having the same ring design, and I hope I never will understand it. I understanding about wanting a ring that is different from the standard and perhaps expresses the wearer''s personality; that was part of my reason for going custom. I just don''t see how that need translates into hoarding something and thinking that it will somehow be less special if anyone else wears a similar ring. Is it not special enough to know that you own the original? I guess not.
You are right about one thing, though....engagement rings are very sentimental pieces. It''s too bad that very thought wasn''t foremost in your mind at the time you posted in PT''s thread about her engagement ring; maybe you would have rethought the choice to pee in her proverbial Cheerios and to take away her enjoyment of her ring. I wonder why weren''t her feelings just as important?
I don''t think it''s a even a little sad if this causes the scant handful of folks who do take offense to refrain from posting their photos going forward. The vibe of Pricescope is to share and enjoy each other''s pieces, and if those who aren''t comfortable with that vibe choose not to post photos, that''s probably best for all involved. At least no one else''s feelings will be hurt.
You just said everything I wanted to say Alj. I feel so awful for PT. I remember when I posted pics of my e-ring and I was so excited-it would have upset me so much to have had such negativity about my ring. I think that it should have come from SG if she was upset, not through someone else.