brellymom
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- Sep 29, 2009
- Messages
- 152
engagement rings are tough. on this site there are guys who are looking to purchase a ring that symbolizes their love for their SO and sometimes they are in tune to what she wants and sometimes they are not. I have been married 30 years and my first ering was super tiny - we were poor and it was all we could afford. I lost it and went for a long time without. I now have a 2.39 RB and I love it. BUT if I had left it to my DH, then and now, i absolutely would not have gotten what I want. His taste is very ornate, my is simple. He HATES to spend money, I have no such problems. I have the ring I have today because I went out and bought it - with his blessing. He absolutely does not "get" why it is important to me, why I wanted to spend so much to get just what I want, and he never would have done it on his own. But he loves me enough to be on board with my wishes.
In many ways I was lucky - I shudder to think what he would have picked out way back then had we had $$ and he was left to his own devices. So I say, think the best - assume he went to the woman he trusted to be helpful without making fun of him (his mom), she picked out something she thought would be lovely. He probably didn''t want to push back and here you are. It''s a lovely ring - would be beautiful on a special occasion as a RHR. Search for your dream ring yourself and share your heart with him - some day the original ering will be a lovely gift to your daughter with a great story about how you guys learned to deal with symbolic issues!
In many ways I was lucky - I shudder to think what he would have picked out way back then had we had $$ and he was left to his own devices. So I say, think the best - assume he went to the woman he trusted to be helpful without making fun of him (his mom), she picked out something she thought would be lovely. He probably didn''t want to push back and here you are. It''s a lovely ring - would be beautiful on a special occasion as a RHR. Search for your dream ring yourself and share your heart with him - some day the original ering will be a lovely gift to your daughter with a great story about how you guys learned to deal with symbolic issues!