do you think it is inappropriate for guys to...

[chrono]

If holding back from swearing is being fake (not the real you), why do you pretend to be someone else and refrain from swearing at work, in front of children or at wherever else you don't do so? This question is for those who explained that it is a true part of them.

 

[alisonia333]

I swear sometimes, unless it's socially inappropriate to do so in the situation. I'm not in the business of making people uncomfortable. I was raised by two loving parents who didn't have puritanical values and dropped a shit or damn here and there. I think using swear words and swearing AT people are two different things as well, so that distinction should definitely be made. My position is that it's not really okay to swear at people. As far as whether swearing is appropriate in front women, I don't think any distinction should be made between men and women...we're not delicate flowers. I think getting all judgy about women who don't think it's unladylike to swear is unfortunate, but I also think having a judgmental nature in general is an unfortunate attribute. I think if the word is appropriate to say on a tv (shit, damn, ass), it's appropriate to use in most venues.

Edited to note that I did NOT use dollar signs in place of the letter "S" and I'm not sure why shit and damn aren't edited if "ass" is!

 

[hippi_pixi]

i don't think the laws of swearing should be different for men and women. that said some men can be extremely vulgar and I'm not a fan of that. I personally hate saying or hearing the words t!ts and c#nt. i think they're both highly offensive

i think swearing is pefectly fine when used in moderation and in context. i dont like hearing swear words in every sentence. its just not necessary. I'm happy to swear if the occasion calls for it.

the only time i would consciously resist swearing would be in front of little kids. You just can't know if the parents would find it acceptable or highly offensive and i think its their right to dictate what their kids should and shouldn't be exposed to. just like you wouldn't offer a child candy or discipline them without a parents permission.

or in front of my patients unless i have a pretty good idea that they use the language themselves and wouldn't take offense. i rely on their business for income so it makes sense to keep them happy

 

[Autumnovember]

I curse. A lot.

BUT, I know the environments I can curse in. For example, I do not curse in front of my patients. I curse in front of co-workers who curse too. If I notice that someone isn't much of a curser, I try to curb it. I know some people really hate it so I don't like making anyone uncomfortable. In front of my husband though, I curse ALL the time. Sometimes I actually love to curse. If that makes me vulgar, I don't give a shit

AN I swear in front of JD all the time too..around him it really is a bit of ************ity****. Our lives are so mundane, the only thing we have is Netflix and trying to come up w/new and funny bad swears.

My usual line is, "are you ****ing kidding me?" I use it in so many instances! Like if I don't find the particular cheese I'm looking for! I also like "****in idiot." It can't be followed by an exclamation point.

 

[Autumnovember]

If holding back from swearing is being fake (not the real you), why do you pretend to be someone else and refrain from swearing at work, in front of children or at wherever else you don't do so? This question is for those who explained that it is a true part of them.

Because if my manager found out I was cursing in front of patients, I'm pretty sure she would kick my ass. If I could curse in front of patients and it wasn't an issue, I would do it.

 

[alisonia333]

I do not see myself as vulgar or intellectually deficient, thank you very much.
I won't assert my imagined superiority by insulting those who don't curse.

People just vary.
How bout teaching your kids that.

This. I'm watching the Daily Show as I type, and I think the people vilifying others for swearing should give Jon Stewart a listen if they think using "curse" words as part of daily vernacular is somehow a sign of being inferior intellectually inferior! I will follow your lead by not judging these people, as they have already shown themselves to be what they "can't stand" in their scornful disdain for people they don't know. I especially don't like the double standard that exists for men and women.

I haven't completed my formal education, but both of my swearing parents have doctorates and if anyone is wondering about their vocabularies lacking, they're both English professors

 

[kenny]

I wonder if there are any women who swear like sailors but never swear around men, since we men are so fragile and delicate.

 

[AGBF]

I wonder if there are any women who swear like sailors but never swear around men, since we men are so fragile and delicate.

I doubt it. In my experience, in the United States men are fragile in ways other than being easily offended by cursing, unless they are very religious; part of a cultural group other than the mainstream (i.e. one which eschews swearing by anyone); or elderly and traditional. Men do have areas in which they are fragile, however.

Deb

 

[justginger]

I wonder if there are any women who swear like sailors but never swear around men, since we men are so fragile and delicate.

I know women who wouldn't dare use the word "menstration" around men. Or breastfeed in their company, no matter how remote their proximity. So yes, men get mollycoddled in their own ways.

 

[StacylikesSparkles]

If holding back from swearing is being fake (not the real you), why do you pretend to be someone else and refrain from swearing at work, in front of children or at wherever else you don't do so? This question is for those who explained that it is a true part of them.

Because if my manager found out I was cursing in front of patients, I'm pretty sure she would kick my a$$. If I could curse in front of patients and it wasn't an issue, I would do it.

I wouldn't want to lose my job over swearing at work. It isn't about being fake in that situation, it's about being professional and having common sense. The same as how you don't like every single one of your co-workers, but you're not mean to them in the office.
And sometimes I do swear in front of children. It happens. I don't go out of my way to do it, but if a word comes up, I tend to just say it without thinking. It's usually followed by 'Oppsy, don't you say that!'

 

[ForteKitty]

I wonder if there are any women who swear like sailors but never swear around men, since we men are so fragile and delicate.

I know women who wouldn't dare use the word "menstration" around men. Or breastfeed in their company, no matter how remote their proximity. So yes, men get mollycoddled in their own ways.

"Chunky bleeding" usually freaks them out.

 

[Missy]

I wonder if there are any women who swear like sailors but never swear around men, since we men are so fragile and delicate.

I know women who wouldn't dare use the word "menstration" around men. Or breastfeed in their company, no matter how remote their proximity. So yes, men get mollycoddled in their own ways.

"Chunky bleeding" usually freaks them out.

Haha, so true. Though I gotta say my dh is great about this. I freely use these type of terms/words around him cause when I'm in pain I share it all with him LOL and he is very sweet and comforting. I guess I've got him trained well haha.

 

[ForteKitty]

Men: "what does it feel like?"

me: "Imagine if you're about to have diarrhea (but you really don't, it just feels that way) AND someone is squeezing your testicles while wringing them and shoving them into your lower abdomen. That's how it feels."

Men: pukes

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Men: "what does it feel like?"

me: "Imagine if you're about to have diarrhea (but you really don't, it just feels that way) AND someone is squeezing your testicles while wringing them and shoving them into your lower abdomen. That's how it feels."

Men: pukes

That's an awesome explanation. Time to save and remember to tell DH next time he asks why I'm being such a grumps.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Men: "what does it feel like?"

me: "Imagine if you're about to have diarrhea (but you really don't, it just feels that way) AND someone is squeezing your testicles while wringing them and shoving them into your lower abdomen. That's how it feels."

Men: pukes

That's an awesome explanation. Time to save and remember to tell DH next time he asks why I'm being such a grumps.

buy him a "moonphase watch" so he can keep track of your cycle...