do you think it is inappropriate for guys to...

[Dancing Fire]

curse in front of women?

 

[AprilBaby]

I think it's crass for anyone to curse anywhere.

 

[yennyfire]

I think it's crass for anyone to curse anywhere.

Exactly (not that I have never, ever slipped, btw)!

 

[Missy]

I think it's crass for anyone to curse anywhere.

I agree. Though I admit to occasionally slipping when I get really upset but only in the privacy of my own space/home...

ETA: Ditto Yenny!!

 

[sonnyjane]

Well... that's a kind of weird question. Do you think it's inappropriate for women to curse in front of men? Men aren't the only ones that swear.

 

[NOYFB]

I swear like a sailor, as do all my friends, male and female. I guess that makes me/us crass.

 

[ame]

I guess I better not be in the presence of anyone in this thread. Bec I cuss constantly, and find it perfectly fine, and think everyone needs to chillax about it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

I think it's crass for anyone to curse anywhere.

Exactly (not that I have never, ever slipped, btw)!

don't slip in front of your kids.

 

[sonnyjane]

I guess I better not be in the presence of anyone in this thread. Bec I cuss constantly, and find it perfectly fine, and think everyone needs to chillax about it.

Ha not ANYONE, I swear too! I swear quite a bit at home but at work I try to be "professional", which means saying "eff" instead of the real word I only work with one other person and she is the same way so I'm not worried about her being offended.

 

[kenny]

There are no other words that express what cursing expresses.
Restricting some words is like removing some colors from an artist's pallet.
Expression becomes limited.

I do or don't curse based on other person's comfort level, not based on gender.

I think it is degrading, disrespectful and insulting to treat women as though they are too sensitive, weak, fragile or delicate to handle all parts of language.
Every woman I'm friends with curses as much or more than I do.

Again, if I sense cursing would make a person, male or female, uncomfortable, I won't.
I'd never curse in more formal social situations.

 

[ame]

I guess I better not be in the presence of anyone in this thread. Bec I cuss constantly, and find it perfectly fine, and think everyone needs to chillax about it.

Ha not ANYONE, I swear too! I swear quite a bit at home but at work I try to be "professional", which means saying "eff" instead of the real word I only work with one other person and she is the same way so I'm not worried about her being offended.

I work in an office which is actually worse about it than me. Ive taught them some new ones, but they just are frequent fliers with the classics.

 

[sonnyjane]

There are no other words that express what cursing expresses.
Restricting some words are like removing some colors from an artist's pallet.
The expression becomes limited.

I do or don't curse based on other person's comfort level, not whether they have a penis or vagina.

I think it is degrading, disrespectful and insulting to treat women as though they are too sensitive, weak, fragile or delicate to handle all parts of language.

Every woman I'm friends with curse as much or more than I do.

Again, if I sense cursing would make a person, male or female, uncomfortable, I won't.
I also won't curse in more formal social situations.

So good!

 

[yennyfire]

There are no other words that express what cursing expresses.
Restricting some words are like removing some colors from an artist's pallet.
The expression becomes limited.

I do or don't curse based on other person's comfort level, not whether they have a penis or vagina.

I think it is degrading, disrespectful and insulting to treat women as though they are too sensitive, weak, fragile or delicate to handle all parts of language.

Every woman I'm friends with curse as much or more than I do.

Again, if I sense cursing would make a person, male or female, uncomfortable, I won't.
I also won't curse in more formal social situations.

Well said Kenny (and managed without cursing! ). I should also point out that (to me) there's a difference between a "dammit" and dropping an F Bomb. And I have actually slipped in front of my kids. I've simply apologized and said that's not a nice word and Mommy shouldn't have used it and that its not ok for them to use it. So far, it hasn't come back to bite me!

 

[kenny]

Yes, naughty words vary.

There are some words I never use, such as that four-letter c-word or the N-word.
There just has never been a context in which I needed to express what these words connote.

 

[packrat]

I have a baaad sailor mouth. I curb it at work w/the preschoolers and my gramma. That's it. I don't ************ity**** around my kids, but I do swear around them, and they know those are grown up words and they are not to use them.

And if a guy thought I was too delicate of a flower to swear in front of me I'd likely tell him to shove it up his ass.

 

[packrat]

hahahaha I can say the f word on here but not the butt-swear word.

 

[ame]

Yes, naughty words vary.

There are some words I never use, such as that four-letter c-word or the N-word.
There just has never been a context in which I needed to express what these words connote.

I don't rank the n word you're I assume alluding to above as a cuss word that's hate speech and a totally different thing. That word I don't tolerate.

 

[Dancing Fire]

I have a baaad sailor mouth. I curb it at work w/the preschoolers and my gramma. That's it. I don't ************ity**** around my kids, but I do swear around them, and they know those are grown up words and they are not to use them.

And if a guy thought I was too delicate of a flower to swear in front of me I'd likely tell him to shove it up his a$$.

really??you swear in front of preschoolers?

 

[packrat]

No, not around the preschoolers at work-I said I curb it at work w/the preschoolers and my gramma. Around my own kids, I do swear. Not every word that comes out of my mouth is the f word, but I'm not aww shuckey darn around them. They know all the bad words, and they know not to say them.

 

[woofmama]

There are no other words that express what cursing expresses.
Restricting some words is like removing some colors from an artist's pallet.
Expression becomes limited.

I do or don't curse based on other person's comfort level, not based on gender.

I think it is degrading, disrespectful and insulting to treat women as though they are too sensitive, weak, fragile or delicate to handle all parts of language.
Every woman I'm friends with curses as much or more than I do.

Again, if I sense cursing would make a person, male or female, uncomfortable, I won't.
I'd never curse in more formal social situations.

This exactly

 

[cygnet]

There are no other words that express what cursing expresses.
Restricting some words is like removing some colors from an artist's pallet.
Expression becomes limited.

I do or don't curse based on other person's comfort level, not based on gender.

I think it is degrading, disrespectful and insulting to treat women as though they are too sensitive, weak, fragile or delicate to handle all parts of language.
Every woman I'm friends with curses as much or more than I do.

Again, if I sense cursing would make a person, male or female, uncomfortable, I won't.
I'd never curse in more formal social situations.

Yes, this.

I swear when a curse word is the most artful word for the situation.

Or, you know, when I feel like it. I refrain when I feel it would be inappropriate, though.

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

I was just talking about this with a couple is PSers. I cannot stand vulgar women. The ones that curse and don't act like a lady.

I rarely ever curse. I would say twice a year. But that's also because DH curses enough for the both of us. Every other word that comes out of that man's mouth is the f-word. Drives me insane. It's like stuck in his vocabulary that he doesn't even realize that he's doing it. I have to remind him when there are children around because he doesn't notice he's spewing f-bombs everywhere. I feel like he says it so much that I've gotten used to it and I don't notice! I still hate it.

I just hate swearing in general. There are better ways to get your point across than screaming profanities.

 

[sonnyjane]

I was just talking about this with a couple is PSers. I cannot stand vulgar women. The ones that curse and don't act like a lady.

I rarely ever curse. I would say twice a year. But that's also because DH curses enough for the both of us. Every other word that comes out of that man's mouth is the f-word. Drives me insane. It's like stuck in his vocabulary that he doesn't even realize that he's doing it. I have to remind him when there are children around because he doesn't notice he's spewing f-bombs everywhere. I feel like he says it so much that I've gotten used to it and I don't notice! I still hate it.

I just hate swearing in general. There are better ways to get your point across than screaming profanities.

I guess what I don't understand is why you "cannot stand vulgar women" but are married to a "vulgar man"? Why is swearing bothersome yet tolerable in a man, for you, but a woman doing the same thing is "vulgar" and isn't acting like a "lady". Seems like a double standard to me. One can say that they hate swearing in general (and you did), but then you'd have to also admit that your husband is vulgar and not a gentleman.

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

I was just talking about this with a couple is PSers. I cannot stand vulgar women. The ones that curse and don't act like a lady.

I rarely ever curse. I would say twice a year. But that's also because DH curses enough for the both of us. Every other word that comes out of that man's mouth is the f-word. Drives me insane. It's like stuck in his vocabulary that he doesn't even realize that he's doing it. I have to remind him when there are children around because he doesn't notice he's spewing f-bombs everywhere. I feel like he says it so much that I've gotten used to it and I don't notice! I still hate it.

I just hate swearing in general. There are better ways to get your point across than screaming profanities.

I guess what I don't understand is why you "cannot stand vulgar women" but are married to a "vulgar man"? Why is swearing bothersome yet tolerable in a man, for you, but a woman doing the same thing is "vulgar" and isn't acting like a "lady". Seems like a double standard to me. One can say that they hate swearing in general (and you did), but then you'd have to also admit that your husband is vulgar and not a gentleman.

He's not a gentleman. And I made it clear that I hate it. He's a vulgar man that has no manners. But he has a lot of other attributes that I like. I put up with the swearing because most everything else about him is awesome.

I didn't mean that I only hate vulgar women. I just meant to say that this conversation came up recently about women. I don't like vulgar men either. I've always just disliked obnoxiousness people in general. Even as a teenager, I've always liked order and respect.

 

[justginger]

DH and I are both cursers. And again, we work in a very laid back environment, so do curse "at the office," so to speak. The amount of cursing is not excessive though, but everyone seems to consider it a part of a fun, colorful workplace. There are only a couple who are uncomfortable with our regular, mild swearing - and we all make a concerted effort to not do so around them.

 

[ponder]

What I hate is being apologized to like I'm a small child and someone should have shouted "ear muffs" before slipping a curse word.

I was involved in a similar conversation on Monday about how the "F" word has become fairly socially acceptable to use in everyday conversation. We came to this conclusion after discussing how the "C" word is not. A customer of ours used it and left us all a little slack jawed.

 

[sonnyjane]

What I hate is being apologized to like I'm a small child and someone should have shouted "ear muffs" before slipping a curse word.

I was involved in a similar conversation on Monday about how the "F" word has become fairly socially acceptable to use in everyday conversation. We came to this conclusion after discussing how the "C" word is not. A customer of ours used it and left us all a little slack jawed.

Several months ago, I was quoting a comedienne who used the C word in her act. I thought the joke was funny but when I retold the joke, it was clear that word isn't kosher, even with my friend that drops F bombs often.

 

[justginger]

What I hate is being apologized to like I'm a small child and someone should have shouted "ear muffs" before slipping a curse word.

I was involved in a similar conversation on Monday about how the "F" word has become fairly socially acceptable to use in everyday conversation. We came to this conclusion after discussing how the "C" word is not. A customer of ours used it and left us all a little slack jawed.

Several months ago, I was quoting a comedienne who used the C word in her act. I thought the joke was funny but when I retold the joke, it was clear that word isn't kosher, even with my friend that drops F bombs often.

The C word is perhaps the only curse word I won't use. At our work we say "see you next Tuesday" in place of it.

 

[FrekeChild]

I curse a lot. F-words and S-words. C-word - rarely rarely use it.

If you really get me worked up though, I can go from no cursing to all cursing in a manner of minutes.

 

[Tuckins1]

No. It's 2013, not 1954.