lindsaylove
Shiny_Rock
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Where are you coming up with this stuff? Other things becoming "more important"? What? At this point there is no reason to disagree with you anymore on this because you keep going back to this baseless argument.Date: 3/11/2009 4:59:03 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I never once said I was infallible and have pointed out myself that I am not. But you cannot excuse this as just forgetting. 'I just forgot my child was in the car, and now she's dead' it dose not work that way. Whether the parent was thrown out of routine, whether they went into auto drive, whether they blanked out, they still forgot to take the child, or get the child out of the car, they forgot the child's presence with them, they forgot to make a turn. THEY FORGOT. Routine or not. I'm not going to keep arguing this, esp if it's going to turn into everyone telling me what I think I am (I'm perfectly capable and mature enough to think and realize that I am not perfect, no one is). The fact of it is, these children were forgotten, left in the cars to die a horrifying death, probably wondering where their mommies or daddies were, and it is negligence. Whether you agree with me or not is your deal, but I cannot excuse it as a matter of simply 'forgetting' or 'getting knocked off of routine'. Not in the case of a life. Again, a parent forgets their gun is out, that is not excusable. Forgetting your child's presence in the car, going into auto drive and not remembering to make a turn, is not excusable to me. And everyone I've spoken with in person about the matter so far has agreed. So, again, not going to argue about it. I do think we are perfectly capable of remaining conscious enough, in the present enough, mindful enough to make sure our child is not left in a car to die. If other things become that important, or you get that overwhelmed, or you get that thrown off by one little thing that you lose all conscious thought of where you are supposed to be going (and again if you read the article most of these parents were heavily distracted, or simply Were NOT THINKING), then you are neglecting your duty as a parent. It's as plain as that to me.
Look at it this way. I'm fairly young and don't have children yet either. I wouldn't automatically think I could be one of those parents in the article "capable" of "forgetting" my child and putting him or her in danger of death. But guess what, no one thinks they are! And it still happens. Why not just be willing to accept that you don't know everything and that maybe, just maybe, one day you may be so exhausted and over worked, all the while STILL keeping your child your top priority, one day you may forget to do a tiny task that could lead to them being left in a dangerous situation? It is absolutley possible. Maintaining that it isn't is just naive.
ETA: I'd say the best way to be totally 100% aware of what is truly important is to acknowledge that you are not perfect and are therefore capable of making mistakes - big and small. A parent who does acknowledge this is possible IS making their child their top priority and focusing on what is truly important. Awareness of all dangerous possibilities - even those that could be caused by yourself.