Ok...I have to jump in here. I am in the same boat!!!!! I have been with my boyfriend for ten years....count ''em--TEN!!! Actually, I guess it''s really closer to nine, but whatever. We started dating in high school and had some down time in college, but overall, it''s been over nine years. Of course, EVERYONE always told us that we would be the first to get married for sure. Believe it or not, back then, that kind of scared me. I was never the girl that dreamed about her wedding day and I wanted to be damn sure and ready by the time I got married. My boyfriend was actually the one that always hinted at getting married early and I would kind of change the subject.........
Fast forward a few years. A couple of my friends get engaged. At this point I start to feel the pang of possibly getting to the point of being ready. Over time, I am feeling it more and more. Next thing I know, all of my friends are dropping like flies!!! Every time I turn around, another one is engaged!!! To people that I feel like they just met! Eventually, my boyfriend and I started SERIOUSLY talking about marriage (we always knew we would get married eventually) and when would be a good and practical time to do it. I thought that we kind of decided on a good time and we went and looked at rings and everything so I kind of dropped it. I''ve been keeping myself busy with ring decisions, so I haven''t thought about it too much. But I finally decided to go with the Ritani, and I told my boyfriend, and now he keeps telling me how we have PLENTY of time to make ring decisions and figure things out, etc. WHAT?! What do you mean plenty of time? By my calculations, it should be anywhere between tomorrow and four months (that''s stretching it). Is he just trying to throw me off? Has he decided to keep me in suspense? I never thought that I would be the type of person that would be so anxiously awaiting this question! It''s torture!
And the worst part is....every weekend, we''re at another friend''s wedding where everyone sitting around me has blinding e-rings and my finger is so painfully bare....
palmbaybabe--Wow, at least you've got a short window for waiting! I mean, between the 27th and the 31st of December, that's only 5 days he can torture you!
In the meantime, consider that your ring is being carefully and lovingly handcrafted to perfection in anticipation of that day!! I think if you pretend it'll take that whole time to make (instead of, say, 3 weeks to make and then he'll just sit on it to make you sweat!) it might make the time pass a little easier.
Every time I talk to fi2b I get a different vibe on how far out mine is.
And he says he doesn't want me to pick my ering, he wants it to be a surprise, when he decides he's ready. I acknowledge, of course, when he's ready.
And then he snickered.
What's all that about, huh?? HUH?? He's killing me, here!!!
Heh, I went ring shopping too...went to Jared''s
Course, I wear a size 6, so a 3/4 ct looks ab-fab on my hand. I didn''t like the 1.07ct I tried on. I might have just been the setting it was in (very thin and delicate) but it looked oddly out of proportion to my hand. I liked the .70 much better. I like that the diameter of a 3/4ct is almost exactly 1/3 the width of my finger. It makes for a pleasing aesthetic, I think.
I think either you or sciencegeek will be the next to fall!
Oh, and I was telling fi2b that I''d taken it upon myself to make the list in order....and he asked if that made me the president of the ladies-in-waiting club, because I''d told him weeks ago that the president is usually a short-lived position (except for MS
The other day we were shopping for christmas ornaments and he pointed out one of them, saying he liked its brilliance and fire. I just laughed.
Welcome to all the new ladies! I hope your waits arent too long. You must share with us details... what shape stones, any setting that youve picked out/would like. We are just suckers for pictures and stories!!!
Twinkle - I would have said yes, i want the kind of purse that fits around my left ring finger and is clear on top!
Seems like there are an awful lot of us preparing to be taken off the list in the next couple weeks! Im still just worried that the b/f is going to hold onto the ring waiting for the whole surprise thing because i figured out that he is supposed to get it next week! I think its funny he thinks im just going to forget about it... how can you forget about something youve been obsessing over for a year?!?! I think this is going to be the death of me....
Oh my friends! Christmas is just around the corner...I have a good feeling there is going to me a "massacre" of names off that old list prettty durn soon.
I still can''t post pictures! (not that I have anything to post...but what if, huh?) I always get an error message. I''d ask the BF, but then I''d have to tell him what I''m doing and suffer enternal embarrassement! I keep plugging away at it...
Date: 11/10/2004 2:24:37 PM
Author: goldengirl
Course, I wear a size 6, so a 3/4 ct looks ab-fab on my hand. I didn''t like the 1.07ct I tried on. I might have just been the setting it was in (very thin and delicate) but it looked oddly out of proportion to my hand. I liked the .70 much better. I like that the diameter of a 3/4ct is almost exactly 1/3 the width of my finger. It makes for a pleasing aesthetic, I think.
It sounds like, although the torture is all too real, a lot of girls only have a few weeks to go! Looking at it logically, I guess that''s not bad, but I completely sympathize that every day feels like a week. I have a feeling that my wait is going to be much longer than a few weeks. My instinct is now telling me that it''s not going to happen till at least February
Our quick story is that I am in grad school and my boyfriend just got a new job about 2 months ago. Since my boyfriend and I have been together for so long, we are really sick of living apart and being single, so we decided that we wanted to go ahead and get married while I was still in school ( my program is 3 years). We figured that we could live on one salary for a year. Well, like I said earlier, my boyfriend''s job is pretty new, so, although it is a great opportunity and going really well, I have a feeling that he wants to take a little more time to make sure that this job is rock solid and will be able to provide for us before he takes the big plunge. Again, this is just the feeling that I have...and I completely understand it! BUT, (warning: here comes the big whine) I want to get engaged!!!!!!!!! At this point, I don''t even care about the ring (OH MY GOD, I can''t believe I just said that!)
Anyway, I have decided on the ritani, 4 prong endless love (micropave band) setting with an RB 1.5ct stone (thread: Should I go with the Ritani?) I can''t wait till the day that it finds a new home on my very willing finger...
Good luck to everyone--hopefully I can live through your engagement experiences over the next couple of weeks!
welcome to the new ladies in waiting, i hope your wait isnt'' too long.
goldengirl & jcjd - thanks for the support, and when you put it as only 5 days that makes me feel much better, at least i know it''s coming and what week. i don''t know you guys do it with the little hints your bf''s give you. the hardest for me is just the not knowing, like not knowing what my ring looks like, or what color it is or what shape the stone or stones are, i want to know all the details, and then my bf did tell me that the proposal will be in Dec. and i arrive in Fl on the 27. and he was asking me how i would feel about a public display or romantic and private and he keeps leading me along in different directions - he drives me nuts! I sure hope you both get yours yet this year.
goldengirl - maybe its not as far off as you think after that ''president'' comment
jcjd - i will keep my fingers crossed that you will have something sparklie to be extra thankful for this thanksgiving
I can really relate to some of these stories. As you can see I''ve just gotten up the nerve to start posting here, but I''ve been reading this site and doing e-ring research for almost a year! My BF asked for information about my preferences and then I think I overloaded him with a packet of information gathered here on Pricescope and with many pictures of rings I liked, then... nothing. For all this time... nothing.
Things are really great with us and I know he''ll do it when he''s ready, but I''ve been ready for a while now! So, don''t add me to your official list, because I could be here for years
Okay, I think I need to try on rings. I am 5.5, and thought that anything under 1.5 was too small for my fingers. I guess my perference is for the the ring to be substantial. The posts here are making me think, my size requirement may be borderline gaudy, which I don''t want at all. Maybe what I tried on was small for the carat weight.
Date: 11/10/2004 2:24:37 PM
Author: goldengirl
I think either you or sciencegeek will be the next to fall!
YEAH!!!!!
I saw your name as the newest post and my heart just caught in my throat....I KNEW it had to be good news!!!
Hooray, sciencegeek!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Am waiting breathlessly for the promised thread!
Pokerface, you sure you don't wait to join the thread?? I'm betting, too, that there'll be a list massacre over the next two months!
Congratulations sciencegeek! What a cute proposal story!
Yankie--don''t worry....it is definitely all about preference. I have a size 5 finger and I would wear a 3 carat in a dream world...I guess I just like ''em big!
Hello ladies. I have read many of your stories and would like to join the "in waiting club".
Heres my story:
Chris, my boyfriend, and I met on our first day of work about 5 years ago (we worked at Saturn...the car dealership). Anyway, at the time I was dating my high school sweetheart (his name was Matt) and we were pretty serious at the time. Oh, by the way he worked at Saturn too (hes car mechanic.
Anyway, I always had a thing for Chris (even though I was dating Matt) but thought he was the kind of guy us girls would call a "player". To make a long story short, I ended up getting engaged to Matt the summer before my junior year of college. He was a great guy, and he bought me a wondeful engagement ring (it was like a 1.2 or 1.3 carat pear shaped diamond). But, he did some things that I wasn''t happy about and I broke off the engagment but continued to date him. During my senior year of college, Chris and I saw each other one night in a bar (totally randomly because he hung out with a totally different crowd then I) and we started talking and surprisingly we both admitted to each other that we had feelings for each other. Honestly, it was one of the best nights of my life. I can remember every detail and I hope that I never forget it. Anyway, I broke up with Matt and secretly started dating Chris (since we all worked together). That summer I left Saturn because I was starting medical school. During my first year, Chris pretty much moved in with me and then at the end of my first year we moved into a new apartment together. Well, now I''m in my second year and we have been talking about marriage and kids and everything that comes with it pretty much since we have been together. We knew each other so long before we got together, that we were comfortable talking about these things early and not to mention we were totally in love with each other.
Well...we bought a ring in the middle of October. I''ve seen it, and tried it on, and all the goodness but he hid it from me because I knew it would drive me nuts having to look at it everyday. The fact that it''s "hidden" doesn''t help any and I''m dying for him to pop the question. He tells me he is ready and that he wants to marry me but, for some reason he just has not asked. I honestly thought he was going to pop the question on our one year anniversary....but now its been almost a year and half and still no propsal.....I can''t stand it much longer.
I am so glad that I stumbled upon this forum...to have a bunch of girls that know what it feels like to go through an agonizing wait is absolutely wondeful and hopefully soon we will all get what we want
OOtthibo--welcome! (I''m new too) You bought a ring this October or last? If it was just this past October, then I''d say you must be pretty close...although that must be agonizing knowing that your ring is just waiting for you and you can''t have it!
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