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I''ll join the over team.
I agree ... but when you storm out of a room slamming doors & cursing -- would you really expect the folks left behind to ignore the "big scene"/elephant in the room?Date: 1/8/2010 5:11:16 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Thread has gotten a bit mean-spirited, no?
Sorry Loves. It''s just that this is the 4th time she has "threatened" to leave/take a break, and it is ALWAYS when she asks for advice and then doesn''t want to hear it.Date: 1/8/2010 5:11:16 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Thread has gotten a bit mean-spirited, no?
Perhaps her dad will come through with a honeymoon trip as well?Date: 1/8/2010 5:15:09 PM
Author: meresal
Sorry Loves. It''s just that this is the 4th time she has ''threatened'' to leave/take a break, and it is ALWAYS when she asks for advice and then doesn''t want to hear it.Date: 1/8/2010 5:11:16 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Thread has gotten a bit mean-spirited, no?
She started a thread not 3 weeks ago about being low on cash and many of these same things were said about saving money instead of worrying about where to spend it. Would you expect to hear something different?
Date: 1/8/2010 5:13:16 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
Just for the record, we''re all going to h*e*l*l
LOL Thanks! I couldn''t figure out how to get it to 96 x 96.Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:21 PM
Author: elrohwen
Fiery, everytime you post you have a different avatar and each is cuter than the last!!
Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:21 PM
Author: elrohwen
Fiery, everytime you post you have a different avatar and each is cuter than the last!!
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:59 PM
Author: packrat
I don''t know that even w/the explanation I get the whole over/under thing. Can I buy a vowel? Or get a scratch ticket?
Smurfy, I get that you want to enjoy life while you can, and nobody knows what''s going to happen tomorrow..but one thing you know that''s coming is job loss. Not too many people have so much advance notice, so I think it would be wiser to just save the money. Maybe that extra 1k will not be needed during the crunch time after your job is gone, and in that case, it will still be there later on. If you use it now and need it later, there''s no way to take it back. Better to have it and not need it, I think. And, say you don''t go anywhere and save it, and after the job loss in a few months you turn around and find a kick ass paying job-then you''ll be able to add to the $1000 and take a BETTER honeymoon. It sucks, but sometimes you have to take one for the team and just ride it out. I''ve not been on a vacation since February 2003, so I know what it feels like to want to GO somewhere and DO something-but that''s just not always possible.
Agreed! Love the one with the pink pom-pom hat. She''s such a cutie.Date: 1/8/2010 5:23:10 PM
Author: packrat
Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:21 PM
Author: elrohwen
Fiery, everytime you post you have a different avatar and each is cuter than the last!!
Oh hey! I just noticed that! Keep this one w/the pink hat tho-she''s so smoochable!
DITTO.Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:21 PM
Author: elrohwen
Fiery, every time you post you have a different avatar and each is cuter than the last!!
Woo hoo!!! That''s awesome! Happy AnniversaryDate: 1/8/2010 5:17:28 PM
Author: princesss
Well, this thread was good for something. Lucyandroger, I''m totally stealing your idea for our anniversary. I''ve got the day off and we''ll do a staycation!
I do think you''re completely right. However, I''d still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.
ThanksDate: 1/8/2010 5:28:34 PM
Author: elrohwen
Agreed! Love the one with the pink pom-pom hat. She''s such a cutie.Date: 1/8/2010 5:23:10 PM
Author: packrat
Date: 1/8/2010 5:20:21 PM
Author: elrohwen
Fiery, everytime you post you have a different avatar and each is cuter than the last!!
Oh hey! I just noticed that! Keep this one w/the pink hat tho-she''s so smoochable!
Date: 1/8/2010 5:18:26 PM
Author: fiery
Date: 1/8/2010 5:15:09 PM
Author: meresal
Sorry Loves. It''s just that this is the 4th time she has ''threatened'' to leave/take a break, and it is ALWAYS when she asks for advice and then doesn''t want to hear it.Date: 1/8/2010 5:11:16 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Thread has gotten a bit mean-spirited, no?
She started a thread not 3 weeks ago about being low on cash and many of these same things were said about saving money instead of worrying about where to spend it. Would you expect to hear something different?
Perhaps her dad will come through with a honeymoon trip as well?
::crossesfingers::
I somehow missed this part. So the amount in your "emergency fund" would be around 1K? I really don't know how to say this any nicer, but even my high school going brother has an emergency fund bigger than yours and he has barely any expenses/responsibilities. You've got to be kidding.Date: 1/8/2010 2:27:46 PM
Author: Smurfyimproved
Hudson, we have 2 savings accounts set up, one for our honeymoon and one for emergencies. We put equal money into both each month. However, thank you for the off topic input.
Agree also ... but most folks do their naughty, self-destructive behavior alone in the dark, with the blinds closed and hope people don''t find out because of the SHAME! (Perhaps I''m giving too much away hereDate: 1/8/2010 5:31:56 PM
Author: elrohwen
I do think you''re completely right. However, I''d still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.
So true! It''s amazing what you discover when you slow down, stop being stressed for a moment, and look around.Date: 1/8/2010 4:42:26 PM
Author: girlface
lucyandroger: What a great idea! And even better, you get to really know and explore your hometown, which I find, not many people actually do!
And Meresal: My family would also be slapping me around right now, if this was my dillemma.
You OBVIOUSLY haven''t been by my neck of the woods. I have a 3pm showing of my cooking eating habits on the beach with a special showing at 8pm on Saturdays.Date: 1/8/2010 5:37:54 PM
Author: decodelighted
Agree also ... but most folks do their naughty, self-destructive behavior alone in the dark, with the blinds closed and hope people don''t find out because of the SHAME! (Perhaps I''m giving too much away hereDate: 1/8/2010 5:31:56 PM
Author: elrohwen
I do think you''re completely right. However, I''d still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.)
Building a float & parading your nekkid dysfunctional self down cyber Main Street and expecting folks to throw confetti? Ur doin it rong.
Deco, I just cracked up at "ur doin it rong" LOLDate: 1/8/2010 5:37:54 PM
Author: decodelighted
Agree also ... but most folks do their naughty, self-destructive behavior alone in the dark, with the blinds closed and hope people don't find out because of the SHAME! (Perhaps I'm giving too much away here)
Building a float & parading your nekkid dysfunctional self down cyber Main Street and expecting folks to throw confetti? Ur doin it rong.
Oh, I get it. It is frustrating, and that''s why I thought the best advice to Smurfy was just to not post about this sort of thing.Date: 1/8/2010 5:15:09 PM
Author: meresal
Sorry Loves. It''s just that this is the 4th time she has ''threatened'' to leave/take a break, and it is ALWAYS when she asks for advice and then doesn''t want to hear it.Date: 1/8/2010 5:11:16 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Thread has gotten a bit mean-spirited, no?
She started a thread not 3 weeks ago about being low on cash and many of these same things were said about saving money instead of worrying about where to spend it. Would you expect to hear something different?
Ditto El. Fiery, if you''re eating cookies and you really shouldn''t be because it''s affecting your health or whatever, as your friend I will snatch those cookies away from you. Or at least verbally berate you until you stop eating them. And I would expect you to tell me when I''m doing something that is detrimental to my long-term goals as well, no matter how much I want to punch you in the face because what you''re telling me means I can''t do what I want.Date: 1/8/2010 5:31:56 PM
Author: elrohwen
I do think you''re completely right. However, I''d still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.
So. If the argument is dying young...I have a question. And it''s seriously off topic. Smurfy, do you and your DH have life insurance policies? In the event that one of you dies, since you have what you have described as your "large debt" have you thought about what will happen? Either of you could be not only left without your spouse, but left without that person''s income plus saddled with all of that debt, funeral costs, etc. If I were you, I''d be thinking about using some of your savings money to pay insurance premiums. Did your financial counselor bring up planning for the future at all? Or just come up with a strategy for right now? Either way, it is a conversation you might consider having sometime soon.Date: 1/8/2010 5:03:03 PM
Author: meresal
Her arguement is that she has seen too many young people die, and she wants to live life to the fullest.Date: 1/8/2010 4:57:05 PM
Author: sunnyd
100% agree. Smurfy, you need to get real. Seriously. Having $1000 in savings does not qualify as adequate emergency funds, ESPECIALLY when you both have unreliable jobs (which you are losing!!) and an unreliable car.
Maybe instead of asking questions like these over and over and getting PO''d and leaving when you keep getting the same good advice over and over, take it to heart for once! You''ve around the block here, you know that people don''t tell you what you want to hear.
I would LOVE to introduce her to my brother, who is the exact same way, and thinks that you should only have jobs that you enjoy. He is an increible person, but he has now been laid off 4 separate times, and is currently in his 5th sales job. Finally a good one with an up and coming company.
He is 37 and lives life to have fun. Which means never being able to visit for holiday''s, hasn''t been able to afford a new car EVER, and I just found out that he still gets help from my parents about once or twice a year... usually car related.
At some point you have to stop spending and save a significant amount of money, especially if you want to talk kids and a house.
ETA: I''m kind of surprised with all of the Unders. With the next few days being a weekend, I was worried that the line was too early Monday morning.
Monarch- The ''line'' is Monday at 8 am. If you think she will post before, then you bet ''under''... if you think it won''t be until after, then you bet ''Over''.
LOL! Uncontrollable crying always makes it harder for me to swallow.Date: 1/8/2010 6:17:03 PM
Author: monarch64
Ditto El. Fiery, if you're eating cookies and you really shouldn't be because it's affecting your health or whatever, as your friend I will snatch those cookies away from you. Or at least verbally berate you until you stop eating them. And I would expect you to tell me when I'm doing something that is detrimental to my long-term goals as well, no matter how much I want to punch you in the face because what you're telling me means I can't do what I want.Date: 1/8/2010 5:31:56 PM
Author: elrohwen
I do think you're completely right. However, I'd still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what's to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn't the smartest decision. I think it's to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.
Date: 1/8/2010 6:17:03 PM
Author: monarch64
Ditto El. Fiery, if you''re eating cookies and you really shouldn''t be because it''s affecting your health or whatever, as your friend I will snatch those cookies away from you. Or at least verbally berate you until you stop eating them. And I would expect you to tell me when I''m doing something that is detrimental to my long-term goals as well, no matter how much I want to punch you in the face because what you''re telling me means I can''t do what I want.Date: 1/8/2010 5:31:56 PM
Author: elrohwen
Date: 1/8/2010 5:28:30 PM
Author: fiery
Honestly, I think some people just get so stressed out with what''s to come that they react in ways that perhaps isn''t the smartest decision. I think it''s to make yourself feel that despite the changes approaching, everything will be ok. I eat cookies. Smurfy takes vacations.
I do think you''re completely right. However, I''d still try to talk a friend out of doing it, even if it is understandable.