Yaaay we're engaged!!! Eeeeek!!! I don't like my diamond

[lovedogs]

So I realized yesterday that I will see my family for Thanksgiving on Thursday and my mother would disown me if she knew I sent back the ring Jordan bought so it was either lie to my mother (never a good option!!) or get a ring on my finger before Thursday so she thinks it's the same ring she witnessed him propose to me with on the beach in September!! She would not understand. She's extremely frugal and even though she and my dad are self-made millionaires, she still rocks the quarter carat ring my dad originally gave her in the seventies. Never had the desire to upgrade it. She would think she had raised an absolute brat. There would be too many questions. It's just better for everyone to keep this between he and I.

This, coupled with a bad case of analysis paralysis, led me to take the recommendations I've had on here to call ID Jewelry in New York. The woman there took away all the bombardment of choices I've gotten online (between searching myself mostly and then getting too caught up trying to compare details on here that people bring up that I'm completely uninformed on) and instead sent me two options. I bought one of the two . I think that's what I needed. NO MORE CHOICES They're setting it tomorrow in the same simple cathedral look I shipping it overnight to arrive Wednesday, and I will have it on my finger just in time for the Thanksgiving family gathering.

, I'm afraid to post the specs on here to be torn apart lol since you all are such experts!! My only concern is that the diamond I chose was right on the 1.00 mark. (I would think slightly smaller might be a slightly better deal than right on the mark). The diamond I got was GIA certified (the first ring we had was not). It's an SI2 (the woman says it is eye-clean though), it's an I (the first was a J), 1.00 carat (the first was 1.07). The cut is Ideal (the first was Good). No fluorescence (I can't tell the difference between those with and without this marker). And of course we significantly upped the budget to accommodate these upgrades, but still came in under 5K (4500 including $500 setting).

Fingers crossed until I see it with my own eyes. Wish me luck!!! And thank you all so much for all the advice!!!

This is great news! I'm happy for you! Even though it might not be "super-ideal", it's from a trusted vendor who knows what they are doing. I trust that they found you something excellent for your budget and desired specs. I'm curious to see the specs, but get if you don't want to

 

[Jsummer327]

Thanks! Let me wait until I get it and make sure I like it and then I'll post the GIA report (or is that unsafe for some reason - should I black out the specific id number of the diamond?). As long as I see it and like it, y'all can go to town analyzing it after that!! I just don't want to second-guess myself before then and spend the next 48 hours in existential agony

 

[lovedogs]

Thanks! Let me wait until I get it and make sure I like it and then I'll post the GIA report (or is that unsafe for some reason - should I black out the specific id number of the diamond?). As long as I see it and like it, y'all can go to town analyzing it after that!! I just don't want to second-guess myself before then and spend the next 48 hours in existential agony

Yup, I get it! Good plan. No reason to black out the number

 

[Jsummer327]

I got the ring and I love it!!! It kept distracting me driving today bc it’s so sparkly I kept having to remind myself to look at the road while driving and not at my hand Ahhh such a relief to be done with this, it was stressful. Unfortunately I discovered that I am not a size 5 like I thought I was when trying on the sizers in the store. I think I’ll need to get it resized to 4.5 or 4.75. It wouldn’t slip past my knuckle without me really trying to get it off but it does move around and slips to the side. Next step, I need to research the best options for insurance and whether to get renters insurance with a rider to cover it or a specific jewelry insurance policy with a company that only focuses on that. Also, why is the appraisal the jeweler sent for thousands more than we paid? Which figure do we insure?

Ok now that I know I love the ring regardless of whether it’s the most exact ideal proportions and all of that, here are some photos and the GIA report. Critique away!

Ahh my fiancé just called I have to run pick him up from work since I dropped him off today. Will post pics when I get back!!

 

[TreeScientist]

I got the ring and I love it!!! It kept distracting me driving today bc it’s so sparkly I kept having to remind myself to look at the road while driving and not at my hand Ahhh such a relief to be done with this, it was stressful. Unfortunately I discovered that I am not a size 5 like I thought I was when trying on the sizers in the store. I think I’ll need to get it resized to 4.5 or 4.75. It wouldn’t slip past my knuckle without me really trying to get it off but it does move around and slips to the side. Next step, I need to research the best options for insurance and whether to get renters insurance with a rider to cover it or a specific jewelry insurance policy with a company that only focuses on that. Also, why is the appraisal the jeweler sent for thousands more than we paid? Which figure do we insure?

Ok now that I know I love the ring regardless of whether it’s the most exact ideal proportions and all of that, here are some photos and the GIA report. Critique away!

Ahh my fiancé just called I have to run pick him up from work since I dropped him off today. Will post pics when I get back!!

Glad to hear you like it! IDJ has been known to work miracles with budgets, finding some well-cut, eye-clean SI1s and SI2s for customers. I wouldn't worry about the cut though. While it may not be absolutely perfect, IDJ usually picks stones with great proportions if you say you want a "PriceScope Quality" cut.

Regarding the sizing, you may have "large knuckle syndrome." (welcome to the club haha. I'm always jealous of my fiancé's perfectly shaped fingers). If it's already difficult to slip over your knuckle, I wouldnt recommend sizing it down any further, at least right away. You may want to look into getting sizing beads or "speedbumps" (search them on PriceScope) on the bottom of the shank. They work wonders to keep rings from spinning on those with large knuckles, as the hold the ring upright but still make it possible to slip the ring over the knuckle.

 

[Jsummer327]

Hard to get a good closeup! But anyways here it is!

 

[Jsummer327]

Glad to hear you like it! IDJ has been known to work miracles with budgets, finding some well-cut, eye-clean SI1s and SI2s for customers. I wouldn't worry about the cut though. While it may not be absolutely perfect, IDJ usually picks stones with great proportions if you say you want a "PriceScope Quality" cut.

Regarding the sizing, you may have "large knuckle syndrome." (welcome to the club haha. I'm always jealous of my fiancé's perfectly shaped fingers). If it's already difficult to slip over your knuckle, I wouldnt recommend sizing it down any further, at least right away. You may want to look into getting sizing beads or "speedbumps" (search them on PriceScope) on the bottom of the shank. They work wonders to keep rings from spinning on those with large knuckles, as the hold the ring upright but still make it possible to slip the ring over the knuckle.

Haha that’s why I was so surprised to discover I have a pretty small ring size, I have always felt like I had chunky fingers! Guess it’s just the knuckles lol.

 

[Austina]

It looks lovely in your finger, so glad you got what you wanted.

 

[MarionC]

Thrilled for you! It’s a beauty!

 

[Johnbt]

"my mother would disown me if she knew I sent back the ring Jordan bought"

If she says it seems to sparkle more than it did the last time she saw it, tell her you've learned how to properly clean the ring with Dawn dish soap and a toothbrush.

Being hard to photograph is a good thing. Too much light flying around fools the camera.

 

[tyty333]

Nice job! It looks beautiful on you!

 

[lovedogs]

It's beautiful on you!!!!

 

[Lookinagain]

It's gorgeous and the proportions are very good and very close to what is recommended on this site so great job!
as for re-sizing, I don't know where you are located, but I'd be careful resizing now if you are in a colder climate. Your fingers may be a bit larger in the warmer months and then the ring could end up too small. Adding sizing cushions is a good suggestion and they can always be made smaller or removed.

 

[SimoneDi]

@Jsummer327 your new ring is gorgeous! So happy that you got what you were looking for and just in time for the holidays! The proportions of the diamond are beautiful and it is much whiter than your original diamond. I would also advise that you leave the sizing as is until the summer and especially until you add a band. Two rings will always fit more snug.

 

[msop04]

I've been following this thread... the ring is sooo pretty and sparkly! Congratulations to you, @Jsummer327!!

 

[PreRaphaelite]

Congratulations! It’s beautiful!

 

[MissGotRocks]

It truly is beautiful! So glad this journey is over for you but with a very happy ending!!

 

[tkyasx78]

Its beautiful!

 

[Jsummer327]

I've been following this thread... the ring is sooo pretty and sparkly! Congratulations to you, @Jsummer327!!

Thank you!!! Alls well that ends well

 

[MakingTheGrade]

Gorgeous! Glad it all worked out!

 

[natasha-cupcake]

That is so pretty! Congratulations!

 

[junhox212]

Wow! Congrats! It is beautiful!!! Did your mother say anything as she saw it this time? How about your fiance?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

The ring is beautiful! I am so glad you exchanged it!

My daughter sized her finger in the summer (which is when fingers are the largest) and it was 4.75 and that is what she told her boyfriend. Right now it is measuring 4.25 which means 4.75 will be too big. You always have to size a ring to fit when it is at its largest. So that means putting in sizing beads or using a temporary ring snuggie until you see how it fits when the weather is hot. Also, wearing a wedding band with it may make it fit better. So never resize unless you're in hot weather and try it on with a band. I just ordered her some ring snuggies to have with her for when he proposes!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0757JLTY7/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

As for insurance, insure for the amount you paid. That's the true replacement value. Submit a copy of your receipt and diamond grading certificate. You'd drastically overpay for insurance if you use an inflated value. If you paid $5k and the appraisal says $10k and you lost it, they would replace based on the specs of what you had, and they wouldn't be spending $10k.

 

[kmoro]

Absolutely stunning and suits your hand perfectly!
Congratulations!

 

[chanieish]

Just read the whole thread and congratulations on your new fireball! And your hubby was so understanding and accommodating as well. Another plus!!

 

[stonewell]

Beautiful transformation! She sure is a sparkler and looks gorgeous on your lovely hands.