The Official TTC Thread!

[AmberWaves]

Congrats NYC!

DRK, here''s hoping for a sticky babe!

Actually, stickies to both of you!

Ebree: I''m so glad you like your RE, and things sound like they''ll look up soon!!

Robbie and Fisher and Sabine: Hope this is a great cycle for you guys and the egg gets caught!

Tiffany, LL, Blushing, Festy, AM and Lulu if you''re there: Hello, hope you guys are well.

I wish I could post more but man, things are sooooo stressful right now, I''m really unable to sleep or eat (other than coffee, so there''s that), and I''m just constantly lying awake at night fretting about one thing or the other.

I have the hiccups, our fridge is making dying noises, there is a mouse in our kitchen that won''t be CAUGHT, I''m currently on the outs with my brother (who is a long distance away) which also has me resenting the cousin who is defending him and basically telling me it''s MY fault he doesn''t talk to me or anyone else in my family, I''ve just totally bungled a quarterly report for not only our company, but a customer''s as well, I''m now on CD5, which means AF has make her wicked red appearance and well... I''m really really depressed. I feel just overwhelmed.

A big part of it is having to be the sole person my parents turn to for help, advice, care and hell, MONEY. I hate being the only person here to listen to their problems because it hurts me that I can''t help them as much as I want. And that makes me resent my brother who told me he was "done" with the family because he has too much to deal with over there. Apparently I didn''t get the memo that you can just move away and pretend you don''t have a family. His daughter caught a cold from her first day at daycare, and for that I feel bad. Perhaps it''s being a nanny for 6 years or so, but a cold isn''t THAT BAD. He even admitted that it was just hard to see her sick, which I''m like, YEAH, but it HAPPENS when you have a child! When I told him about my mom''s dislocated arm- the one she had to be in the ER for, he was like, yeah, that''s too bad, but I have to worry about my daughter. Dude- she''s your MOM! She was in the HOSPITAL! I feel like the weight of our family (broken though it is) rests on me only, and he chooses to ignore us. He''s "done"? He can''t "bother to worry" about his 63 year old mom? And then my cousin (one of the pregnant ones) emails me to tell me that I''m not being sensitive enough to him, and when you have a CHILD that''s more important than the rest of your family. Well, sorry, I''m apparently BARREN, so I didn''t know (hello there cycle 10). Forgive me. Then she tells me it''s my fault because I only talk to him about family. She doesn''t even know the times I try to get him to talk to me, my mom, my dad about mundane things, but no, he has no time for us. We have to call him. WE have to visit him. WE have to send him gifts and cards and money. I guess my cousin is taking it from her experience- she''s moved here from London, and has also given up HER family. So yeah. TAINTED opinion much??

God, sorry I wrote so much, and only come back to bring my rain clouds for all of you.

 

[Festy]

Ebree, that is so fantastic. You must feel 1000% better about everything. Way to be proactive about your peace of mind.

Fisher - I''m so excited for you! Here''s hoping your O date stays firm.

Amber - Hi! No need to apologize at all. It so often seems to fall on the women in families to keep the lines of communication and caring open. It''s not fair and you are not to blame for being grouchy about it. Can you do something for yourself today? A little pampering? Even a fancy, fattening coffee drink? Assuming your hiccups are gone.

You poor dear. If the hiccups really become a problem, think about mud. I mean really concentrate. Works for me every time!

CD12 here. DH leaves for the weekend tomorrow, the worst possible timing. But''s he''s on board for DTD just before he leaves and as soon as he gets home. And I still don''t know which day I typically O. Last cycle I *think* it was CD16. And while I have some good W/EWCM I have no other signs of O, like sore boobs. This is all to say I''m not too optimistic about our chances this cycle.

 

[drk]

Thanks so much for the positive thoughts guys. Did the bloodwork this morning and went to check on it at lunch, and the beta rose to 105, which is great. Progesterone is good on my 3 lovely gooy suppositories a day. Unfortunately I was spotting brown yesterday, pink/light red this morning, and darker red after my nap. I hope it''s not the end, but I''m going to try to stay optimistic. Surely the progesterone levels I''m at now should be able to sustain the endometrium...

I''ll be back later after my acupuncture treatment to do more than just beg for positive thoughts

Kate

 

[Loves2Laugh]

drk: Your number is great... more the doubling!! How exciting!

Hopefully what you''re experiencing is implantation bleeding. I''m sending you tons of sticky vibes!! Good luck!!

 

[NYCsparkle]

yay for a beta raise drk!!!

amber...sorry you are in a rough patch, hopefully it passes soon...sending good luck vibes your way.

i know my ds has no clue what big brother means, although he keeps talking about my baby nephew so at least he''s interested in babies.

baby dust to all...

 

[InLuv101]

DRK: Yay for a nice beta rise!

More sticky dust coming your way!

 

[drk]

Now if the darn spotting would just go away, I''d be a happy camper. Except that my TCM doctor said that I have too much heat in me and that I need to avoid spicy foods, which are what I absolutely love to eat. And of couse we went out for Thai for lunch today, and I was really hoping to enjoy the leftovers over the weekend while stuck at the hospital. Good food on call makes me feel so much happier.

Ebree - Sounds like a very reassuring visit. It''s great to know that you should be all set for success next time around. Of course I''m very interested to know details of what he had to say (having had a m/c and being a doc and all). Have fun with the TTCing this time around...

Festy - I know all about awful timing for DH to be traveling. Since he''s only gone for the weekend, hopefully you''ll be totally fine.

NYCSparkle - congrats!

Blushingbride - my one RE said to just BD the days I had the best/most EWCM. I usually had 4-5 days leading up to ovulation, so you may just be getting into your fertile phase now, and hopefully the highs will start registering tomorrow.

Festy - I''m with you on hating the 2ww for sure. Beta/spotting hell is worse though!

Lysser - have a great weekend with your friends. I''ll be jealously thinking of you when I''m stuck in the hospital for 24h Fri and Sun...

Fisher - So glad to see that you O''d relatively early on in your cycle.

Sabine - according to my TCM doctor, nice even temps after O are a very good sign. Good luck!

Robbie - I''m glad to see that you O''d and that you''re holding up ok. Any loss no matter how early is sad, though I do think that I''d feel much worse with a later loss after I''d felt my baby move etc. Hope things work for you this time around. BTW, I totally love the kiss photo in your atvar. Gorgeous (they all are actually, but I think that one is particularly cool).

Amber - sorry everything''s coming at you at once. I''m sure AF was the icing on the cake. Screw the cousin who''s going on about children being all-important. Everyone in my family is important, and a kid with a cold is not the end of the world. She''s only going to have one a month for the next x years, right? He''d better get used to it. A dislocated arm on the other hand is a little more serious. I hope she didn''t hurt anything else at the same time! I wouldn''t be sending him all sorts of stuff if he choses to withdraw from the family. If you all live close together, he should come and visit you. GRRR on your behalf. Hang in there. I know 10 cycles is a long time to be trying (particularly when you''re here and see how fast everyone else seems to get pg), but it could be worse. Hopefully the time will be right in the very near future and you''ll have your own child to love.

Tiffany - If things are back to normal, I sure wouldn''t wait to try again. Lots of people get pg in the cycle after a m/c. I''d think the progesterone priming could only help... You''re a critical care peds nurse? Must be a wild job, and pretty tough emotionally, I''d imagine. Though I suppose I''d rather look after critically ill kids than critically ill adults who often don''t have much of a quality of life to get back even if they do make it out of the ICU.

Kate

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Amber,

I''m sorry things have been not so wonderful lately. Family drama can be so draining, that''s for sure.

I hope things get better soon. You deserve a nice long streak of happiness without drama (or at least without much)!

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Drk,

Good news about the numbers growing so much, and so quickly. I''ll be hoping the spotting stops and is nothing to worry over for you at all!

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NYC,

Cute. My nephew (who was also 2 when told he was going to be a brother) really seemed to understand a baby would be coming out of my sister in law, but was adamant that once the baby was born, it sure wasn''t living at his house. Too funny. Of course, once she was born, he was okay with it (other than a few jealous moments).

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Festy,

There are so many stories of when a couple didn''t think things were timed right, and they indeed ended up preggo. Hoping that''s the case for you this cycle. Dang it for trips and work getting in the way of *our* plans, right?

 

[fisherofmengirly]

DD and Robbie,

Thanks for the analysis of my chart. I''m holding out getting way, way excited that I ovulated on CD 20 until I get a steady line of temps in the 98 range.

Still, I am a little giddy over thinking that I *gasp* ovulated two cycles in a row! Yippee, man!!

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On a sadder personal note, my best friend in this world found out today that she miscarried. She was way early on, and they were so very excited to be welcoming a third child into their lives. My heart breaks for her because this is her 5th miscarriage now and I just can''t imagine living through that sadness multiple times. She has a great spirit and is thankful for the two babies she has and cherishes, and just figures the timing wasn''t right or that the little one wouldn''t have been able to survive in this world. But still, my heart aches for her.

Her older son (he''s in kindergarten and was an only child just long enough to be one of those incredibly intelligent and observant kiddos) knew about it (the baby-just over a year, has no clue, of course) and gave Rachel a reassuring hug and told her he''d pray with her for the baby to make a straight line up to Heaven, so the baby could play and grow up there. This is the second miscarriage he has been aware of. He calls it "the baby going up to be with God."

And in a way (and tell me if this makes sense, because I can''t figure out the wording to use here), it makes me feel kind of like I''m being selfish, hoping for a baby so much, and with all my heart, and literally dreaming and aching for the day when I can hold a child and help them to grow into an adult who is productive and caring and full of a spirit of love. I just get so muddled down when I think about how I''m wishing and hoping for something that some others don''t have. Granted, she does have two children, but I know that doesn''t take away the sorrow of the one lost (actually, the five lost, I should say). Does that make sense? It''s almost like I feel like I should at least be happy with what I have.

Odd, but how I''m feeling tonight. I''ve not been down that road of sorrow, and no matter how much I want a child and feel the sorrow of disappointment when I don''t get pregnant with each passing cycle, it doesn''t compare the feeling of having and losing a child, or at least the promise of a child.

And I almost feel like if I were to be pregnant this cycle, I would feel bad sharing that joy with her (although she is in NO way the kind of person who wouldn''t share the joy with me, and she would be so supportive and helpful through my crazy questions phase of being a new mother).

Just what''s thumping around in my head right now.....

 

[peonygirl]

Hey gals!

DrK: Big congrats and sticky vibes!! You have been waiting so long for this, and I''m so excited for you!

Ebree: What great news at your appt! You are such a sweet person and I''m pulling for you.

Amber: Ugh, sorry that you''re having to go through all of that crap. Those people sound like a piece of work.

As for me, I got crosshairs! I was almost afraid to post for fear of jinxing myself, but here it is! It looks like I seem to O in the middle of a slow rise, unlike most people who tend to have a low temp right at/before ovulation. Of course, DD may be right that I actually Oed on Day 30. I guess if I don''t get pregnant I''ll be able to figure it out according to my luteal cycle, which is always 14 days (assuming I know when I Oed the other months).

According to FF, if we got pregnant this month the due date would be 7/7/09, my DH''s 30th birthday. I mentioned earlier that our due date might be near his birthday if I ovulated soon, and he said, "that would be the best birthday present ever." Of course, now I know that each cycle is just a hope, not a promise. But boy am I hoping!!!

 

[mela lu]

great chart Peony!

I''m just popping my little head in here because of Fisher''s post about her BFF. Egads. 5 Miscarriages. I just cannot even imagine. I''ve only had one, and truthfully, I''m terrified of having another. But 5. that is heavy. What I''m realizing as the months pass, and I see how common m/c''s are, and then even afterwards, how tumultuous (sp?) pregancy is (as seen in the preggo thread), it''s really SUCH A miracle when a healthy baby is born, to term. My goodness. It breaks my heart reading about all the trials and tribulations. Really. I think we need to give ourselves a lot of credit for (not only) taking on this kind of emotional roller coaster, but also for consistently surprising ourselves at the AMOUNT of poo we can withstand throughout. I truly believe that God doesn''t give us more than we can handle; sometime though, wow, I wonder at the amount of sh!t people have to weather. I''m thinking of a lot PS''er when I say that. I''m amazed by a lot of you. I''m amazed at my own self and my body. I''m amazed by this whole TTC process. I''m amazed by pregnancy. and finally, I''m truly amazed by the strength of the human spirit. Somehow, everyone goes on despite the sh!tstorm they are throw into.

I''m praying for you all, and even those of you I don''t know yet.

 

[drk]

Well, I''m not going to hold out till next week for another beta. I''d thought the bleeding had settled down a bit this morning, but today it''s bright red again, and fairly heavy. Nearly enough for me to call it a light AF day actually. Ugh. So I''ll do another beta tomorrow to look for reassurance or an answer one way or the other. This sucks!!!

Kate

 

[Dreamer_D]

Peony great looking chart sister! Seeing it now I think it makes sense that you O''d when FF says you did, but you are covered BD wise so who cares, really

I am srossing my fingers for you!

Dr.K I am just so so sorry! Some women get really bright red bleeding and things are fine (Sk8ter Jen is 37 weeks preggo with twins and had a lot of heavy bleeding in the start of her pregnancy and throughout actually). And if this a m/c, I''m sorry and {{{HUGS}}. Not to be pollyanna but the good news is that you know IUI works to get your preggers and the next time you try you may have a better idea of other steps you can take to help it stick. Although I have not been through fertility trials personally, my aunt and uncle, to whom I am very close, went through a lot and I know the stress and difficulty it can bring. It took 4 years to get KTFU with their first son, including 4 rounds of IVF. Their second son took another 3 years, again with 4 rounds of IVF and some other hurculean medical-miracle-type efforts. I''m not telling you this to make it seem like you will also have such a long journey, but rather to point out that it can and will happen, as I am sure you know. It was a tough road for them, but now their sons are 8 and 12 years old and those trials are such a distant memory, and all they think about now is their wonderful boys. This year they also started the process of adopting a daughter from overseas, they always wanted a big family. Keep plugging along, I know it will work out for you one way or another!

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Date: 10/17/2008 11:41:30 AM
Author: drk
Well, I''m not going to hold out till next week for another beta. I''d thought the bleeding had settled down a bit this morning, but today it''s bright red again, and fairly heavy. Nearly enough for me to call it a light AF day actually. Ugh. So I''ll do another beta tomorrow to look for reassurance or an answer one way or the other. This sucks!!!

Kate

Kate, I''m so sorry. I was quite hopeful when your beta had increased. It really does suck. I''m going to keep my fingers crossed for you.

 

[blushingbride]

Hello Ladies!

I''ve been so bad lately when it comes to posting...work has really got me bogged down. However, I have been reading when I can so I''ve been able to see that there is a lot going on here!

Tiffany - thank you for the advice regarding the monitor. This thing is still a little foreign to me so, it''s nice to hear what others have gone through when using it.
Amber - you poor thing. I am so sorry you are going through all this sweetie. You don''t need the added stress. Did your brother and your mom/parents have a falling out? It just doesn''t make any sense on how he could turn his back on her - the woman give him life for god''s sake. You can come here and tell us anything you want...positive or negative, we are always here for you. Please go and do something for yourself this weekend...you deserve it!

LL - have a wonderful time with your friend this weekend!

Fisher - my heart goes out to your friend and her family. You shouldn''t feel selfish for wanting what all of us want...a healthy baby who we can love to death and raise into an intelligent and successful adult. It''s all in god''s hands and completely out of our control so, you shouldn''t feel guilty.

Mela - my dear friend...your email was so moving! I''m amazed too by everyone on this thread and the preggos thread. The strength people have shown here has been unreal and that includes you. Here''s to a happy and healthy 9 months to you and all those who are pregnant or will be!

Drk - fingers crossed the spotting is normal and no cause for concern. Sending heaps and mounds of sticky dust your way!!!

Peony - YAY for finally O''ing!!! I think you covered all your bases according to your chart so, here''s hoping you caught that egg!

Well, I woke up this morning and I finally got a peak on my monitor on CD 19. I''m guessing I''ll O tomorrow which is great because DH and I were able to BD late night on Wed. when he got back from his trip and again last night. We''ll BD tonight tomorrow and Sunday to cover all the bases. I''m feeling really good about this cycle now. Originally I was supposed to O on Wed. which would''ve meant that with DH being away from Sun. to Wed. we would''ve missed the critical window. We BD last Sat., but I knew that certainly would''ve been enough. I really feel like my O was delayed for a reason...for me to catch the egg!! Well, here''s hoping for that at least.

 

[E B]

Date: 10/17/2008 11:41:30 AM
Author: drk
Well, I'm not going to hold out till next week for another beta. I'd thought the bleeding had settled down a bit this morning, but today it's bright red again, and fairly heavy. Nearly enough for me to call it a light AF day actually. Ugh. So I'll do another beta tomorrow to look for reassurance or an answer one way or the other. This sucks!!!


Kate

I'm sending good, sticky thoughts your way. As I'm sure you know, many women bleed at the beginning (and throughout) their pregnancies and go on to have healthy babies, so I'm hoping this is the case for you. *HUGS*

 

[robbie3982]

Lysser, hmm, no thoughts on the cervix issue. Mine doesn''t seem to match up with my cycle, but this is only my 2nd cycle charting it, so who knows.

Amber, I''m sorry you''re having such a stressful time.

We don''t mind your rain clouds. We love you even when you''re having a bad day. ::hugs::

Festy, I never get sore boobs as a sign of O. I hope you catch the egg!

Drk, thanks for the wedding pics compliment! Why do you need to avoid spicy foods? Is that for all who are TTC or you in particular? I''m sorry to hear that your bleeding has gotten heavier. I''m sending good thoughts your way that this is just one of those unexplained things that don''t mean anything is wrong.

Fisher, I''m so sorry to hear about your friend.

Peony, yay for ch!!! Your timing looks great!

Blushing, yay for a better chance at catching your egg! Good luck!

I''m at 6dpo, nothing real to report. My temps have been pretty steady, still hanging out at 98.1. No waking up early for me this cycle. I''m not sure if it''s because I''m less excited this time or if it''s because I''ve been really tired lately. I''m pretty sure the tiredness is because I was getting sick. My cold seems to be a bit better today, but now my stomach is acting up. I''m not sure if the cold and the stomach thing are connected or if it''s from something I ate. The eggs I had for breakfast had a use-by date of today. DH didn''t have any and he doesn''t seem to be sick. Could just be a coincidence though.

Totally not-TTC related, but I''m super excited to be second-shooting a wedding with my wedding photographer tomorrow!!! I just hope this stomach thing is resolved by then because I can''t be running to the bathroom at the drop of a hat tomorrow!

 

[E B]

You ladies are all so sweet. Thank you for the good wishes!

Fisher- How''d your temp look this morning?

Amber- I''m sorry things have been blegh. You know we all love you, and please feel free to vent whenever you need. That''s what we''re here for! You also know how to reach me privately for a vent with more curse words, if needed.

Festy- Sore nipples are my strongest sign of ovulation too. Here''s to hoping we BOTH feel that soon (how weird is that to say?)

Blushing- Yay for the peak reading! And yay for crosshairs for Peony!

Robbie- Feel better soon, gal! And have fun! Last summer, I interned at a wedding photography studio (as a third shooter!) and had a blast.

CD 14 for me, still high on the monitor. My stick today looked like it''s ALMOST peak time (though I''m a nut for trying to analyze it!), so I''m HOPING to see one tomorrow. That''d put me at ovulating at CD 16, most likely, which is pretty consistent with how I''ve been ovulating. *KNOCKS ON WOOD*

I hope I didn''t miss anyone!

 

[Sabine]

Amber, so sorry you are dealing with crappy family stuff. It can be so draining. I''m so proud of you for not just telling your brother that if he is dropping the family, then you are dropping him.

Festy, I don''t get sore boobs until after O either!

Drk, I''m so sorry you are dealing with the uncertainty. I''m sending sticky vibes your way. I haven''t read about your whole TTC journey, but it sounds like it''s been a rough one. I hope you''ve come to a happy ending despite the bleeding!

Peony, yay for getting the cross hairs! Your timing looks great even if it is off!

Fisher, I hope this cycle really is shorter for you. So sorry to hear about your friend.

Mela, your post was so right on! All the people on here and the pregnancy thread just totally amaze me (haha, I wonder how many of us TTCers lurk over there as much as I do?)

Blushing, your timing sounds great now that you think you will be Oing! Yay for having a fighting (bding) chance!

Robbie, it is so cool that we are only a day apart this cycle! I''m starting to think that if I haven''t gotten AFF by Wed., I might test then. Have you decided when you are going to test?

Nothing really new for me here today either. My temp was down a bit today, but I have a feeling it''s because I haven''t been sleeping well. I think I was tossing and turning without really sleeping from about 2AM on today. My students are really stressing me out and pissing me off. Today I had a kid who was dancing, and when I told him to stop, as I walked by him to pass out papers, he basically was grinding on me (without touching at least). I really found that personally offensive, and of course he flipped out when I told him there''d be a consequence. I really worry sometimes about trying to raise kids in this world where teenagers seem to think they are entitled to do whatever they want.

 

[robbie3982]

Sabine, I''m testing on Tuesday at 10dpo. I totally expect a BFN since it''s early and I''ll be using my last $tree, but I hate to waste a FRER so early. Kudos to you for planning to wait til 12dpo! Wow, your students (hahaha, I totally just typed "stupids" instead of "students") are ridiculous. I hope that kids gets more than a detention. That''s sexual harassment!

 

[Festy]

Fisher - I''m so sorry to hear about your friend. Your heart must be breaking for her.

Peony - congrats on getting crosshairs! I''m still waiting for my first. Makes me feel like a virgin all over again!

Dr. K - this must be agonizing for you. I hope you get some resolution soon.

Since I haven''t had a full cycle of charting yet, I can''t be sure, but since going off the pill, I''ve had sore nipples every other cycle right around when I think I O''d. I hope to god this doesn''t mean I O every other cycle.

Today was a sad day for me. DH and I weren''t able to get in the BDing I thought we would before he leaves for the weekend. So I just have to hope that that egg stays put through the weekend! Ebree, I''m hoping that we''ll both O on CD16. Thanks to everyone else for all the encouragement about timing. We are still working that out and figuring out how best to communicate about it. BDing in the morning just doesn''t work well for us but I think he''d hoped that it would this time. I told him that he needs to tell me if I''m having unrealistic expectations because we could have planned around it. Trying very hard to stay positive and focus on just confirming O this cycle - not shoot for the moon.

 

[E B]

Sabine-

YUCK to your inappropriate student! But fingers crossed you get a BFP on Wednesday.

 

[Festy]

Robbie, have fun at the wedding! Hope you feel better.

Sabine, how very unpleasant. My best friend teaches 6th grade and some of the stories she comes home with are not to be believed!

Not to beat the sore boob thing to death, but here''s what happens. Around O I get sore nipples and boobs. PMS last cycle was just sore boobs not nipples. Oh the minutia I obsess over! I swear if I put this brain power to productive use I could cure a few diseases.

 

[robbie3982]

Thanks, Festy! I think it''s completely possible to have some signs one cycle and then none the next. Sometimes I have sore boobs pre-AF and other times, nothing. So, I wouldn''t chalk the lack of boob pain up to anything just yet.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Peony,

Yay for finally getting those crosshairs!

And good grief, did you cover your bases, lady! Good work!!

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Drk,

I''m still hoping for some positive, continued rises in your betas.

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Ebree,

Today''s temp was slightly higher than yesterday''s, 98.26. So, I''m inching upward and I think last cycle my averages post O were around the 98.4-98.6 range. I was a slow riser that cycle, too, so maybe that''s what I do.

I told Paul we could officially end the BD streak on Sunday, if everything stays as it is until then. Today is DPO 4, so two more days should confirm pretty clearly if I''m gonna be an early ovulator this month (well, early for me). If it stays this way, I''m totally elated, because I''ll be able to test before my trip with the girls in my family. That means that *if* we do get the positive, Paul will know before I leave, and then I can also tell my sweet mommy in person, too. Although, she will be sworn to be quiet, since we don''t want extended family to know yet. We think Christmas would be a great time to share, and would give us enough time to feel secure that the baby was staying where it should be!!

So, I''m excited about that, but still not as hyper nuts as I was last cycle, I don''t think. It''s like the first cycle we were really trying was nuts, and then a HUGE sadness when it didn''t happen, then the past cycle was just okay, but exciting charting and finally getting that magical crosshair splash of color on the chart, and not as disappointing when I didn''t get the positive screen. This cycle I feel more mellow about it.

I''m trying really hard not to get into the habit of thinking about every twinge and ache or whatever, too. I have noticed, though, that I tend to get sleepier, more tired, after O. I wonder how the hormones relate to that.

Thanks for the thoughts for my friend. She''s got the best heart, ever. She remains positive and says that everything will be fine and that she''s been blessed beyond measure as it is and that she always treasures every moment she has with her kids, no matter how long they stay with her.

Me, I''d cry like a baby and probably wallow in pity and sadness. Oh to be strong like she is!

I hope everyone has a great weekend. Relax and enjoy it. Fall weather is supposed to be finally sinking in around here and I''m *so* ready for it!!!

 

[Maisie]

Hi Ladies...

I didn''t know this thread was here... I guess I should venture over this side of the boards more often!

My husband and I have made a huge decision. He is going to have surgery to have his vasectomy reversed. He had it done just after we lost our daughter and I think we really rushed into it. We regret not having another baby together.

I think the odds are stacked against us. First we need to save up the cost of the operation. Then It has to work. I will be 38 when its done which means I might have more trouble conceiving. All in all it seems unlikely that we will have the baby we dream of.. but I am forever hopeful!

I want to spend the next few months working out when I am ovulating. This temperature thing looks really confusing! Will someone help me work out how to do it please!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Maise, that is wonderful! I read in the thread Indy started that you were thinking about this. Even though it may be challenging, it is worth the try for something so wonderful!

I think charting now is a great idea. Apparently it can really cut down the time to conceive, which would be great for you since time will be of the essence

. The best place to start is www.fertilityfriend.com. They have all the information you need in the FAQ section and lots of other information too in their charting e-book. You can either use their software for free, or you can pay about $16 for a 3 month membership and get access to their message boards and things like that. I liked having the membership since I liked their message boards, but it isn''t required. It takes a little bit to get the hang of charting... the temping is easy but monitoring you cervical fluid (which is the most important part for timing intercourse to catch that egg!) can be a little more challenging. Depending on your personality you will find it more fun or more frustrating! LOL! But either way, knowing is best! Good luck lady!

 

[Maisie]

Thank you DD! I appreciate the help!

We have found a surgeon who specialises in vasectomy reversal and records show that he has 94% success rate for patients who had their operation less than 5 years ago. That gives us great hope!!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Maise, wow that''s great!

 

[mela lu]

Hi Maisie! I also read your story in the thread started for Indy and i wanted to wish you the best of luck on this amazing journey you and your DH are embarking. It''ll be bumpy, but I think it''s GREAT that you''re giving it a go! This is a great place to hang out while trying. I hope you enjoy it here as much as we do

. We''re here to support each other through the good and not-so-good things.