The Official TTC Thread!

[NovemberBride]

I got a BFN this morning (CD 29), so now I am just waiting for AF to show up. I am not that disappointed b/c I wasn''t really expecting it this month (we weren''t even really trying, just BD''ing when we felt like it, which didn''t really fall on the days I was likely to O). The reason we weren''t trying that hard is that we are going on vacation out of the country this month for our anniversary and I wasn''t sure I really wanted to be pregnant during that time (i.e. potentially dealing with morning sickness, etc). I was also awaiting the results of some medical tests earlier in the month that I wanted to know were clear before getting pregnant.

However, I am looking forward to some intense BD''ing this cycle, particularly while we are away. I know this might sound silly, but I feel like we BD at home less than when we are away because we don''t have our puppy. Our little guy sleeps in our bed at night and it is hard to get BD''ing in b/c he wants all the attention and is constantly trying to snuggle between us. So we have to put him in his crate and then he cries, which sort of ruins the mood. Sorry if this is TMI! Am I the only one with this problem?

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Mine beeps and I hate that too. What brand is it Sabine?

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 10/14/2008 4:34:26 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
EBree good luck at the RE, I am very curious what he/she tells you!

InLuv101 Non-related TTC comment, but ever since you joined the TTC thread I have been looking at your avatar and thinking that in that photo your hubby looks just like Will Smith! LOL! The hairline and his profile... anyways, I ''stalked'' your past threads and saw your wedding photos and I think he is much better looking in person than Will Smith! Much more refined and just plain handsome. Score girl! Your profile in your avatar also reminded me of Gloria Ruben (from ER a few years ago), but once again, in real life you are much more beautful that she is. Thought you might find that funny. I thought, ''Is that a celebrity avatar or is that really InLuv and her hubby??'' LOL! You guys are a gorgeous couple.

Thanks DD! I do think DH is very handsome...I got lucky! Your comments were very sweet, thanks so much!

 

[robbie3982]

Hmmm, for me, waiting to O is worse. I get really anxious that we''ll miss key days. During the 2ww I feel like there''s nothing more I can do. Don''t get me wrong, I still obsess about every little possible symptom, but I don''t have the anxiety that I have while waiting to O.

Ebree, good luck tomorrow!

InLuv, I agree with DD, you guys do look like Will Smith and Gloria Ruben in your avatar!

November, we have a similar problem with one of our cats. She sleeps by our feet at night, but she pounces when anything moves. If we remember to kick her out of the room first, it''s not a distraction, but sometimes we don''t think about it and then it makes it hard to not be distracted.

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Good evening ladies!
I want to thank everyone for their support. I''ve said it before, but you guys rock. It''s nice to have people to share things with, and unfortunately many of you have been through miscarriages also, so you do really understand. I haven''t told many people IRL yet and I''m not sure that I will, so this place is fabulous.
As for me, I''m actually doing ok. I had a doctor''s appointment yesterday, I really thought we were just going to chat, but he ended up doing a pelvic exam and an ultrasound. Everything looked pretty much as it should. I do have to have hcg levels drawn until they are back to 0 again. He also said to wait 2 cycles to start trying again, but I don''t really think we''re going to do that. Last time they told me that they admitted that there wasn''t much research to support the 2-3 cycle rule and it was mostly just for dating purposes if you do get preggo. He also said if we did try for 3 cycles or so and don''t get pregnant that he will most likely send us to an RE. The good thing (as he pointed out) is that we do know that I can get pregnant, and most importantly I got pregnant again after the ectopic, so that''s a good prognostic indicator. So, we shall see.
So I decided to start temping again, and this morning turned the alarm off without taking my temp. I''m on the ball, aren''t I??

 

[fisherofmengirly]

November,

Before I was married, my doggie (Flip) slept with me every night. Soon after marrying, though, it became apparent that Flip is a jealous thing. She would wiggle and squirm to get between us in the bed and it was just annoying. So, we got her a friend (TaDah!!) and now they sleep downstairs while we sleep upstairs. I like it much better that way!

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Good luck at your appt. tomorrow, Ebree!! I hope it goes really well and sheds lots of light on the road to mommyhood!!

Today''s temp was a boring 97.80. I''m still hoping for a rise over 98.0 tomorrow, though!

I do have to say that this cycle''s temps have been way more extreme (severe dips and then rises) than last cycle. Odd.

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Peony, I know what you mean about being frustrated over long cycles. It stinks to think that you have a cycle that is equal to someone else''s cycle and a half. Grr. I wonder if we need to wait at least 6 cycles to worry that something''s wrong, or it''s just the typical 6 months you hear about.... If it''s the months and not the cycles that count, then Paul and I are fast approaching that spot in our TTC efforts, and we are only in the midst of cycle 3 for us.

No fair, indeed, but still, we''ll get there to the goal of mommyhood, and that''s the thing to remember. I try to keep that in mind as much as possible.

Sometimes it helps, other times, not so much....


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I''m glad you''re doing okay, Tiffany. Hope you have a good cycle this go round!!

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Thanks Fisher!
Fisher and Peony, I really feel for you guys with longer cycles. I''m impatient anyway but I have clockwork 28 day cycles, if it were longer than that I think I''d burst. You have so much more patience than I. I think they probably want you to try for 6 cycles.

Ebree- good luck tomorrow. I''m curious as to what they''ll do.

For me, the 2ww is worse. I get excited with temps and cm, etc. waiting to O, but after that I just have no patience. The 2ww is so much worse imho.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I would have to say that the waiting to O is worse for me, since I think and rethink and then think again about temps, since the gap of time is 3 weeks or longer, and since it''s all I think about. Have we BDed enough yet? It''s a LONG marathon, even when you''re every other daying it and it goes from CD 14 to like CD26.

But then, I''m not a huge fan of the TWW either. I don''t like waiting, I''m not a patient person, I over think everything.

None of it is fun!

But then it is, too, because you have the hope and the dream that carries you through....

And someday we''ll get our positive and then a precious baby. And gosh, is that baby gonna be loved like crazy mad. I dare say she or he will smell so rotten you''ll get a whiff from your very own house!

 

[Sabine]

Iwanna, here''s the thermometer I bought.

November, dh and I had that same problem with our pooch, and we went back and forth for a while trying to decide if we''d rather be in the mood to do it more, or really enjoyed sleeping with the dog. We both love cuddling with our puppy (who insists on sleeping in between someone''s legs, seriously, she will lay on you until you make room for her to curl up in between). But she had a few "accidents" on the bed (which we eventually decided were not medical, but behavioral due to jealousy--we did take her to the vet to check though) we decided to train her to sleep in a dog bed on the floor. We both miss cuddling with her sometimes, but it is REALLY nice to not wake up in the middle of the night to a dog stretching out in between your legs and kicking the crap out of you. It has been better for our sex life. Before this, we would give her a dingo treat that takes her about an hour to eat so that she would stay downstairs while we were "occupied". Good luck with this though!

Tiffany, glad to see you around. It seems so weird to me that doctors would tell people to wait 2-3 cycles just so they can date the pregnancy more accurately. I mean, for those of us with the stupid long cycles, we''re going to be dated wrong if they go by lmp (which I keep hearing that they do, even if you can show them you know your O date wasn''t 14 days after the lmp). Good luck with getting back in the game. We were supposed to skip this month, but changed our minds halfway through!

Fisher, good luck with a rise tomorrow!

 

[littlelysser]

Festy - I HATE the two week wait. I hate it hate it hate it. Waiting to O isn't too stressful and I feel like a can actually do something to try to get prego...after O, there isn't a darn thing other to than wait.

Robbie - Congrats on crosshairs!

NovemberBride - DH and I had an issue with one of our dogs sleeping with us. Now, he is a 60 pound Ibizan Hound, but we called him the furry wall of celibacy. About two months ago we kicked him out of the bed (now he sleeps on his own bed, which is then covered in two down comforters), and it has made a HUGE difference in the ease and frequency of DTD...Before we relegated him to his own bed, we'd sort of have to DTD before bedtime, if that makes sense...when the dogs were still chilling downstairs. But yea, I totally feel you.

Sabine - I know some folks temp vaginally...if you are having issues with allergies and stuff, it might not be a bad idea.

Tiffany - Good to see you friend! You've been on my mind. I'm glad to hear you are doing well. And I think the waiting two cycles is really unnecessary. My doc suggested waiting one cycle, and I'm glad we did...I think it was a good thing to do emotionally...but really not necessary from the physical side of things, particularly when you have an early m/c, as so many of us have. Anyway, good to see you here and stuffs.

Ebree - Good luck with the RE tomorrow! And here's to hoping that visit becomes entirely unnecessary!

Peony and Fisher - Keep on keepin' on! I hope you both get your crosshairs SOON!!

As for me, not much going on here. Still charting and temping. Having some odd CM - kind of a watery, creamy, slightly egg whitey mixture. But since it is over a week until I normally O, I'm not not terribly excited or concerned. I'm chalking it up to randomness. So yeah. That's about all!

On the plus side, one of my BFFs, we've been friends since we were 15...nearly 20 years, is coming up with her wife and their new puppy this coming weekend, and we are very happy about it. I'm very excited to see them, since it has been several months since we last hung out.

CD 10

 

[NYCsparkle]

hi everyone!!!

i just wrote out a long post that got lost somehow

. here''s the shortened version:

well tomorrow is day 26 of my 24 to 28 day cycles. i am testing in the morning. it''s also me and dh anniversary

. i''m hoping to see those 2 lines, but not going to be totally upset if i don''t see two lines. in august i really thought i was ktfu, but i wasn''t and was beyond dissappointed. i felt silly being dissappointed after only trying 2 months, but i got pregnant immediately with my ds so the fact that it is taking longer than i thought had me bummed. it''s funny how we become so attatched to something thats not yet there...but we know will be.

i did have to run out during lunch to buy pantyliners, because i just can''t spend the day in the bathroom checking if aff came. i could have sworn she showed up at least 5 times today. my co-workers must think i have a bladder problem or ibs

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tiffany its good to see you back here.
i like your new avatar robbie---is the pic of you and dh holding your hands by your tummy indicative of something...i hope so

i''m sending sticky baby dust to all those in the tww and those who are waiting to o.

how long have you been trying to conceive?

if i get a bfn i''ll be heading into cycle 4.

 

[blushingbride]

Hi All!

Work has been so crazy busy for me lately...I don''t have much time for PS during the day anymore.

Robbie - yay for crosshairs!

Tiffany - there''s no harm in starting early...go with your gut and do what''s right for you.

To be honest, I''d do the same if I were you too!

November - LOL...your post about your pup sounds exactly like us with our dog. He always has to be the center of attention and we put him in the crate too - we laugh when we hear him whimpering to get out. He''s sooooo spoiled!

LL - great to hear from you! I had some mystery CM today too. It was watery and cloudy, but also stretchy. I''m supposed to O soon, so I''m assuming it''s fertile. Maybe DD knows?

Ebree - fill us in on your appointment tomorrow with the RE - best of luck my dear!

Peony and Fisher - here''s to the big O for both of you! I''m rooting for ya!

NYC - ugh...I hope that AFF keeps herself far, far away from you. This is technically my 4th cycle (1st cycle I don''t really count since we were in Europe on vacation and I wasn''t temping, charting, etc...just having fun and seeing what happens).

As for me, it''s CD 16 and no sign of O yet except for some fertile CM. My monitor still reads low and the past two months, I O''d on CD 17.

My guess is that my trip to San Francisco (with a 3 hour time difference) may have delayed it. Has this happened to anyone else?

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 10/14/2008 10:07:08 PM
Author: blushingbride

LL - great to hear from you! I had some mystery CM today too. It was watery and cloudy, but also stretchy. I''m supposed to O soon, so I''m assuming it''s fertile. Maybe DD knows?

Yo uare supposed to record any CF as the most fertile type, so you don''t miss a chance. Watery versus EW... who cares right? It''s all fertile. And cloudy is fine, color doesn''t matter. Consistency is what we are looking for... is it viscous and does it look like spermies can swim through it and have a fun ol'' time? If yes, then it''s fertile!

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Blushing- we went on vacation in June, to a different time zone. I was also really sick right before we left but I do think something delayed ovulation.
I was just in San Francisco also! (last week) I went to a pediatric critical care nursing conference.

 

[NYCsparkle]

Good morning all

!! i just got a BFP!!!! i''m so excited and nervous. now i have to think of a way to tell dh...it''s our anniversary today. i guess its something in that mexican water...this is #2 conceived there

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sticky dust to all!!!

anyone else testing soon?

 

[Pandora II]

CONGRATULATIONS!

 

[robbie3982]

NYC, CONGRATS!!!! Nope, the pic isn''t indicative of anything, especially since it was taken over a year ago. This is cycle 2 (unless you count August when I wasn''t charting even though I''d been charting for almost a year and we completely missed O). I''m not testing until next Thursday.

Blushing, when I went to UT in June (I think it''s a 3-hour time diff, but I forget) it didn''t really seem to affect my O date and I ended up Oing the day after I got back.

 

[Sabine]

Congrats NYC! Sending sticky dust your way! How cool that you found out on your anniversary!

 

[msb700]

Congratulations NYC!!!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

NYC!!! Happy anniversary and happy pregnancy, girlie! There must be something to that vacation in Mexico thing. I wonder how many TTCers are planning their next trip around your success!

Have a great day and I'm sure your hubby will be ecstatic, no matter how you go about telling him.

Yay!!!

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As for the question to how many cycles we've been trying. Hmm. I came off the pill in January, but we weren't trying then. I had read that it's a good idea to take prenatals prior to conception, so I wanted some time with that (started Jan 3) and Paul wasn't really on board with baby time yet, but knew that if it happened, it was supposed to. He was careful about things. Then in June we decided to start trying (no charting that cycle, though, and we were on vacation for 1/2 of my LONG cycle, and I really don't count that as active TTC, although I probably should). This is our third cycle of "trying" (if you count the June/July/Part of August cycle), our second of charting. I'm in 6th cycle since coming off the pill, but we've been off for 9 months.

Today's temp was 98.07, ladies! Oh yeah, highest temp to date for this cycle. That's right. No more watery CM (that ended Sunday night or Monday morning) and I'm thinking I ovulated. Whoop Whoop!! I know I'll need to wait a few days to see the crosshairs, but I'm anticipating them now. Big time!

Yay!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Ebree,

Hoping for a good dr. visit today for you!!

 

[robbie3982]

Fisher, post that chart!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Congrats NYC!! What a great day to find out!

Fisher I''d love to see the chart too! Sounds primising, but don''t stop the BD until it''s sure, juuuust in case

 

[ljmorgan]

NYC, what a good morning indeed! What a fabulous anniversary present! I''m sure you''ll be glowing for the rest of your vacation! Congrats, congrats, congrats, sending lots of sticky dust your way!

 

[InLuv101]

Congrats NYC!!! How exciting. Tons and tons of sticky dust to you!

 

[blushingbride]

CONGRATULATIONS NYC!!!!! What a wonderful way to celebrate your anniversary!!

(Happy Anniversary BTW) Can you post your chart?

Robbie and Tiffany - hmmmmm, I would imagine that lack of sleep (like flying on the redeye) and a three hour time difference would have some impact, but maybe this cycle is just wonky for me. I hate it when ovulation is off...it makes me feel like I may not ovulate this cycle.

I guess one positive is the fact that DH is still away (he comes home tonight at midnight) and I thought we were going to miss my window w/ him being gone for four days...I''m praying that I ovulate this week!

DD - as always, your expert CM knowledge is most appreciated!

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Congrats NYC!!

 

[drk]

OK, I''m the next one in need of prayers now.

I''ve been laying low and trying to stay relatively unstressed (very hard!). We did our first IUIs this month (after femara + Gonal-F and almost 3 years of infertility treatments and 1 miscarriage in Jan), and got a beta of only 37 at about 14-15dpo. Low. But positive. So now I''m just trying to be calm and pray that it rises properly and that we get to see a strong heartbeat in 2-3 weeks. All happy thoughts/prayers would be much appreciated... I''m going to go for a repeat tomorrow to see if it''s rising or falling, and then I''m going to try to ignore things till we get an ultrasound (if we get that far).

I wish this were easier for me and DH. All we can do now is put it in God''s hands, cause we''ve done what we could. I started spotting light brown today, which I''m not happy about, but I know you can''t tell much from that.

Kate

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 10/15/2008 10:49:22 AM
Author: drk
OK, I''m the next one in need of prayers now.

I''ve been laying low and trying to stay relatively unstressed (very hard!). We did our first IUIs this month (after femara + Gonal-F and almost 3 years of infertility treatments and 1 miscarriage in Jan), and got a beta of only 37 at about 14-15dpo. Low. But positive. So now I''m just trying to be calm and pray that it rises properly and that we get to see a strong heartbeat in 2-3 weeks. All happy thoughts/prayers would be much appreciated... I''m going to go for a repeat tomorrow to see if it''s rising or falling, and then I''m going to try to ignore things till we get an ultrasound (if we get that far).

I wish this were easier for me and DH. All we can do now is put it in God''s hands, cause we''ve done what we could. I started spotting light brown today, which I''m not happy about, but I know you can''t tell much from that.

Kate

Dr. K that is wonderfu news! With IUI multiples can be a real possibility, and muliples often are associated with spotting from what I have read on here. I hope this is it for you! And I really hope you get a nice rise in the beta... 14 DPO is still early if implantation happened later in the LP, so it ain''t over yet! {{{HUGS}}} I am hoping so hard!

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 10/15/2008 10:49:22 AM
Author: drk
OK, I''m the next one in need of prayers now.

I''ve been laying low and trying to stay relatively unstressed (very hard!). We did our first IUIs this month (after femara + Gonal-F and almost 3 years of infertility treatments and 1 miscarriage in Jan), and got a beta of only 37 at about 14-15dpo. Low. But positive. So now I''m just trying to be calm and pray that it rises properly and that we get to see a strong heartbeat in 2-3 weeks. All happy thoughts/prayers would be much appreciated... I''m going to go for a repeat tomorrow to see if it''s rising or falling, and then I''m going to try to ignore things till we get an ultrasound (if we get that far).

I wish this were easier for me and DH. All we can do now is put it in God''s hands, cause we''ve done what we could. I started spotting light brown today, which I''m not happy about, but I know you can''t tell much from that.

Kate

Kate,

You, your husband and your little bean are in my prayers. Lot''s of sticky vibes to you!