Yes, but I have to sort things out at work first. We''re targeting the Amalfi Coast and then a Mediterranean Coast.Date: 7/22/2008 11:42:03 PM
Author: Linda W
Are you going away on a honeymoon at all?? You don''t have to say where. If you are, that will be calm and relaxing.
Pinky swear?Date: 7/22/2008 11:53:02 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Hey Harriet, I know what it''s like to freak out at the idea of marriage, but you will be fine.
And for the record, I know what you look like (I was online when you goofed and posted the pic of you and your man) and you are lovely.
Uh oh. I'm so photo-shy that I even managed to keep my photo off my firm's website. Shh.Date: 7/22/2008 11:55:15 PM
Author: Linda W
Yes she is TG, I also saw that picture. Harriet is adorable!!!!!!!! We remember that picture dear Harriet.She is tiny and petite. OK Harriet, I spilled the beans on you. tee hee
Linda
There are some on the mommy thread in the Family forum (which are easier to find than the ones on the preggo thread, if only because the mommy thread is shorter).Date: 7/23/2008 12:36:27 PM
Author: Harriet
Pinky swear?Date: 7/22/2008 11:53:02 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Hey Harriet, I know what it''s like to freak out at the idea of marriage, but you will be fine.
And for the record, I know what you look like (I was online when you goofed and posted the pic of you and your man) and you are lovely.
Busted! Thanks.
P.S. I''ve been searching for a pic of Amelia and can''t find any.
Mediterranean cruise, I mean.Date: 7/23/2008 12:28:43 PM
Author: Harriet
Yes, but I have to sort things out at work first. We''re targeting the Amalfi Coast and then a Mediterranean Coast.Date: 7/22/2008 11:42:03 PM
Author: Linda W
Are you going away on a honeymoon at all?? You don''t have to say where. If you are, that will be calm and relaxing.
She''s so cute and happy!Date: 7/23/2008 1:04:29 PM
Author: TravelingGal
There are some on the mommy thread in the Family forum (which are easier to find than the ones on the preggo thread, if only because the mommy thread is shorter).
Hm..not sure if I can pinky swear that you WILL be fine, but speaking only for myself, I was seriously ill at the thought of being tied down forever and once the ceremony was over, I was fine. Been fine ever since. Probably a lot like the way guys are (most seem cool with it once it''s done and over with...it''s the engagement part that is the problem.)
Good idea!Date: 7/23/2008 1:08:16 PM
Author: Linda W
True what TGal said. You will be fine Harriet. You have been with FI for a long time now. Relax and get a massage!! tee hee.
mom Linda
Nice try, but I wouldn''t be surprised if my ILs tried to come along.Date: 7/23/2008 7:43:54 PM
Author: purrfectpear
You could always take a few of us along you know. Purely in the interest of keeping you calm, I volunteer to take one for the team
I''m seeing my doctor on Friday and he''ll be re-assessing the situation.Date: 7/23/2008 7:58:59 PM
Author: diamondfan
Harriet dear, when can you safely travel and when is your leave til at work?
I would make sure my health is under control before my honeymoon, or you won''t be able to eat all of that delicious food and wine on your trip!
Tell the in laws your cruise is a family free zone. I would not allow that, I know you are joking but my in laws would have done that if we had let them.
Thanks for asking. My tootsies have warmed up but it''s almost that darned weekend.Date: 7/23/2008 9:05:09 PM
Author: Miranda
Are you any better today?
Oh no! And you don''t even drink! Have any sedatives you can bring with you?Date: 7/23/2008 10:29:07 PM
Author: Harriet
Thanks for asking. My tootsies have warmed up but it''s almost that darned weekend.Date: 7/23/2008 9:05:09 PM
Author: Miranda
Are you any better today?
Not enough.Date: 7/23/2008 11:27:10 PM
Author: Miranda
Oh no! And you don''t even drink! Have any sedatives you can bring with you?
Oh Beth, you darling.Date: 7/24/2008 7:18:46 AM
Author: Beth
It may be time for an intervention at the Day Spa Ladies.
Harriet....you can get through this. It is a very scary time but it is worth it in the end. I think you need a treat. I may have to book you in myself. Seriously - get a four handed massage and a hydrating body wrap, a microdermabrasion facial, mani pedi, and a deep conditioning treatement for your hair with a very light trim, and whatever waxing etc you may want done. Sit in the sauna and drink peppermint tea. Don''t make me have to fly across the world to straighten you out. Then you get on with what needs getting done - pronto which includes venue and photographer and a cake. And also a man to come over and do your hair at home the day of. And make sure he is gay. lol. Preferably named Pierre. You may not go to your new husband in drip dried hair. That is a spanking offense. Break the to do''s down into manageable tasks and schedule when to do them. Try to accomplish something each day and that will give you something to focus on rather than this overwhelming fear of the unknown. It is okay to be a scardey cat. It is actually normal and a good sign. You are taking this seriously.
I adore you and am here if you need to scream or want some phone calls made or a particular flower found etc. I''ve got your back and I owe you one from when you helped me last Christmas and I pay my social debts..... ANYTHING....... Beth
Then simply ask him nicely to "let you off the hook".Date: 7/24/2008 1:40:49 PM
Author: Harriet
I''m venting yet again. Please excuse me.
We just realised that MIL has shown next to no interest in our wedding (and this is while we were on good terms). All she''s asked is whether her siblings were invited, to book them a hotel, and for the restaurant''s website. She''s not asked if we were ready (my mum has been calling to see if we are, emotionally and logistically); what we would be wearing; if she could help; what we would like as a wedding gift; if they could contribute financially (we don''t need them to, but the gesture would have been nice). Even though our wedding has been whittled down to a quiet ceremony, they''ve not suggested flying 2 hours to see their son get married either! FI is furious as well.
I don''t think it''d be healthy for me to deal with them this close to our wedding. FI agrees, but has not offered to let me off the hook for this weekend.
I love him dearly (and vice versa), but we shouldn''t be dealing with their crap two weeks before our big day.
I just spoke with my doctor. He said that, because of the stress it''s causing me, I should NOT go. I reported that to FI. FI said that the consequences to him of my not going are worse than those to me!Date: 7/24/2008 3:22:59 PM
Author: Ellen
Then simply ask him nicely to ''let you off the hook''.
Thanks for the sympathy, purr (may I call you that?).Date: 7/24/2008 3:59:30 PM
Author: purrfectpear
What a bunch of un-needed drama. I''m so bummed for you that this can''t just be a time to chill and look forward to the wedding
I agree with a lot of what Diamondfan said, but I do think it strange that they haven''t even mentioned ''what would you two like for a wedding gift''. It''s just rudeness and total self absorbtion on their part IMO.
Do I understand that they are not planning on attending their son''s wedding
If that''s the case, keep your buns home and tell FI that you shouldn''t even have to discuss why you have no familial obligation to them. They are the ones who tuned you both out and are ignoring this significant event.
Besides, not only are you stressed, but you DO have planning to do (and you''d better get moving on it kiddo).