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[Harriet]

Date: 7/21/2008 11:55:44 PM
Author: Miranda

Date: 7/21/2008 11:50:49 PM
Author: Harriet
What''s the calm down song?

Sit down.
Shut up.
And behave.

haha - I don''t have one if you can believe it. I can think of one quickly, though. Just ask DH? I sing all the time. My poor family.

Do you have a good voice?

 

[Miranda]

Oh goodness! It is HORRIBLE. Horrible. Horrible. Horrible. LOL, I don''t care, though. I sing anyway!

The kids have banned me from singing (especially to the cat) when they have friends over.

 

[Harriet]

Lol.

Calm down, Harriet. Calm down ...

 

[Miranda]

Yes. Calm down. Deep breaths.

 

[Harriet]

I''m spending the day with Eva tomorrow. She''s a calming presence, but she doesn''t sing.

P.S. The white dress should be ready on Friday.

 

[Miranda]

Will you wear the white dress or the red dress for the ceremony?

I''m glad to hear you are spending some time with Eva...And her camera!

 

[Harriet]

The white.
I had to bail on Eva.

Will you write me a 'calm down' song?

 

[Miranda]

Awww honey. I''m sorry. Are you really that tense?

 

[Harriet]

Yes.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 7/22/2008 9:35:30 PM
Author: Harriet
Yes.

You guys have been together 6 years, can you imagine life without him?? I would go get a message and think about how happy you are with him. Everyone goes through this, you will be okay, he is a good guy!!!

 

[Miranda]

Relax...Everything will be fine. It sounds like you need the Chin Up Charlie song from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.

Seriously, before our wedding I was so tense that I almost called it off. Not because of DH. It was the thought of being married that made me crazy. Just breathe...

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 9:39:38 PM
Author: Skippy123
You guys have been together 6 years, can you imagine life without him?? I would go get a message and think about how happy you are with him. Everyone goes through this, you will be okay, he is a good guy!!!

Even you?

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 9:41:56 PM
Author: Miranda
Relax...Everything will be fine. It sounds like you need the Chin Up Charlie song from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.

Seriously, before our wedding I was so tense that I almost called it off. Not because of DH. It was the thought of being married that made me crazy. Just breathe...

Exactly.
And those ILs don''t help either.

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 7/22/2008 12:10:38 AM
Author: Harriet
I''m spending the day with Eva tomorrow. She''s a calming presence, but she doesn''t sing.


P.S. The white dress should be ready on Friday.

Can she hum a few bars of something?

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 7/22/2008 10:05:24 PM
Author: Harriet

Date: 7/22/2008 9:41:56 PM

Author: Miranda

Relax...Everything will be fine. It sounds like you need the Chin Up Charlie song from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.


Seriously, before our wedding I was so tense that I almost called it off. Not because of DH. It was the thought of being married that made me crazy. Just breathe...

Exactly.

And those ILs don''t help either.

Harriet, you have the rest of their lives with them. You must find a way to deal or you will spend a lot of time unhappy. I know this for a fact. They will NOT change. All you can do is find a way to deal and make sure you have hubby''s support or you are in for unpleasantness.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 10:23:13 PM
Author: diamondfan

Date: 7/22/2008 12:10:38 AM
Author: Harriet
I''m spending the day with Eva tomorrow. She''s a calming presence, but she doesn''t sing.


P.S. The white dress should be ready on Friday.

Can she hum a few bars of something?

She doesn''t need to. She''s one of the calmest people I''ve ever met.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 10:25:26 PM
Author: diamondfan
Harriet, you have the rest of their lives with them. You must find a way to deal or you will spend a lot of time unhappy. I know this for a fact. They will NOT change. All you can do is find a way to deal and make sure you have hubby''s support or you are in for unpleasantness.

Sigh. You''re right.

 

[diamondfan]

Just want to prepare you for the inevitable. It will be a bumpy road with the in laws. I have nearly 20 years experience to call upon.

 

[Linda W]

Harriet,

I hope you and Eva have a wonderful day together tomorrow. I have a wonderful girlfriend, who also has a calming presence around me. I value her friendship dearly. I call her "gods gift to me". I am so glad you have a friend in Eva.

Love to you,
Linda

 

[Harriet]

Double sigh, DF.

Linda, I had to bail on Eva today because I was up sick last night. But I am meeting Katebar tomorrow!

 

[diamondfan]

It is what it is and you must be prepared. It is going to be a part of the dynamic.

How are your cold tootsies?

 

[Harriet]

I need a pair of fluffy bunny slippers.

 

[diamondfan]

Cold feet still?

Harriet, I certainly would not presume anything about your fiance or your relationship. He sounds like a keeper, and most times cold feet mean little other some some nerves and nothing more. But here and there, our guts tell us things. I am sure that is not your situation, but try to think of the big picture. For some, cold feet do mean something. For most, they do not.

 

[Linda W]

OH NO Harriet, is your stomach acting up again??????? I hope you are feeling better today.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 11:34:58 PM
Author: diamondfan
Cold feet still?

Harriet, I certainly would not presume anything about your fiance or your relationship. He sounds like a keeper, and most times cold feet mean little other some some nerves and nothing more. But here and there, our guts tell us things. I am sure that is not your situation, but try to think of the big picture. For some, cold feet do mean something. For most, they do not.

Yes.

He is a keeper and I couldn''t do any better (no, no self-esteem issues on my part). It''s just nerves. I''m sorry I keep subjecting all of you to my whinging.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/22/2008 11:35:18 PM
Author: Linda W
OH NO Harriet, is your stomach acting up again??????? I hope you are feeling better today.

I am, mom.

 

[Linda W]

Harriet sweetie pie,

You will be OK. My daughter was nervous too. Everyone goes through it. I did too, going on 28 years ago

You will be just fine, you wait and see.


Mom Linda

 

[Linda W]

Are you going away on a honeymoon at all?? You don''t have to say where. If you are, that will be calm and relaxing.

 

[diamondfan]

No worries!

Just saying that almost all of the time, cold feet are not indicative of anything. Yes, occasionally they can be, but for the most part nerves are pretty common and typical. Once you are married you will feel a bit more settled I am sure.

 

[TravelingGal]

Hey Harriet, I know what it''s like to freak out at the idea of marriage, but you will be fine.

And for the record, I know what you look like (I was online when you goofed and posted the pic of you and your man) and you are lovely.