- May 1, 2009
Congrats on finding *home* in your new place
Some of my closest friends are from random walks of life - literally! One - the barista I saw every morning - turned out we were basically living the same life, only difference was our part-time jobs! Another I met at an art museum - I can’t take credit for meeting her though, we both kept backtracking to the same gallery and she introduced herself when we saw each other for the third time
gosh making friends as an adult is TOUGH
i am in a similar place, although i haven't relocated...just cut out some friendships and am excited to meet new, different people in my existing city
but i think a shared interest is a great place to start - depending on where you are, I have actually found some Meetup communities to be lovely, i also plan to join a swim team and a choir at some point to meet new people and had fun joining a community garden (more acquaintances, though)
FYI - i met my husband at a Philosophy meetup!
not sure where you are, but if you are in Chicago let me know!
My son David said my pumpkin bread is delicious. He was using his finger to get all the crumbs off his plate. He’s autistic so he gets a pass for that.
I truly love this thread - so many good things:
- Today the sun is out and it's beautiful here;
- I get to dog sit (actually doggy day care) my ex's aging puppy today. Talk about cuddles and snuggles!
- I'm loving my official retirement and enjoying the process of figuring out what's next in my life;
- I am content!
- Just about every time I log on, I feel grateful for how lucky we all are to have our @missy here. Congrats on the great biopsy news!
Cerulean, those are great ways to meet possible friends!
I've thought about joining some groups. I would love to get more into rock climbing, which can foster pretty close bonds; as those you partner with literally have a hand in keeping you safe while climbing! ha Some groups that are more cerebral might be the way to go though, as we might be in the same headspace to share & connect.
I love that you met your partner in a philosophy group! I would be curious to hear the full story!! Oh how I wish we lived closer! I would love to share my collection with you & talk about all of the dreamy magical projects we have swirling around in our brains for the future & if any sentimental ties they hold.
& You're right - Making friends as an adult is terrifyingly difficult. Especially if you want to foster deep & meaningful connections! I'm older now & not as bold; less vulnerable. I've worked hard to build a bubble that protects my wellbeing and sanity. When you put yourself out there you open yourself up for judgement & possible denial & its scary! You also hope that you're a good judge of character so you're putting your faith in the right people.
I've learned the valuable lesson over time that not everyone, in fact, hardly anyone is deserving of my full story & to be careful who I share it with. I'm protective of my privacy now but am still human & would like connection, especially in person...so its a trade off of sorts! You give a little in hopes you'll get a little and the cycle can keep going in the most healthy & supportive way.