Date: 8/21/2009 3:30:18 PM
Author: phoenixgirl
Circe,
Good luck with the move. I hope it goes as smoothly as those types of things can. I'm sure you'll love NY.
Re Ambien ~~ we suspect that it played a role in my dad's suicide. I learned after the fact he was doubling his doses sometimes because he still couldn't sleep. It can't hurt to double-check (and take no more than the prescribed dose, obviously). Our estate lawyer put the question of suing doctors and/or drug companies to us (dad was also on an antidepressant with similar warnings and had just had the prescription doubled a few days before -- I think I blocked out the name), and while that just seemed like bad karma and not something any of us wanted to do, I do recognize that the more of a stink people make, the more seriously doctors and people will take those warnings. The doctor said, well, people who are prescribed these drugs are already more prone to suicidal ideation (antidepressants yes . . . but Ambien?).
I continue to be amazed by your strength and eloquence and wisdom.
Date: 8/23/2009 11:00:18 AM
Author: waxing lyrical
On the topic of stillbirth, a lady in a stillbirth group I visit has lost her son. She was just shy of 25 weeks. She lost her daughter at 24 weeks last June. I''m just . . . speechless and heartbroken. The moment I saw her update (she went to the hospital due to lack of movement and she couldn''t locate his heartbeat on the doppler) my heart just sank and I bawled.We belonged to the same due date group and my worst fear since the start of this pregnancy is losing another baby. I can''t believe she''s going through this again.
Date: 8/21/2009 11:13:17 PM
Author: luckystar112
Circe, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so, so sorry that you had to go through such a painful experience. I'm sorry for every woman who has had to experience this.
Your story has helped me in an unconventional way: My mother, at the age of 17, had to endure giving birth to a baby that had died in her womb at 8 months. She has never talked about it--ever, though she does remember 'Angel's' birthday every year. I know that she must have felt very alone--without even a minute of counseling to help her through it or any explanation as to why it happened. It could explain a lot about how she became the person she is today.
I am just thankful that we are starting to find answers for these sort of things and women have more resources available to them to help with the physical and emotional pain. I hope that doesn't sound like I'm brushing off YOUR pain, because I know it is very real.
I must ask, is it standard procedure to have that long of a lapse between delivery and the retrieval of the baby? It seems unnecessarily cruel and careless. My heart aches just reading it.
Please, have a safe trip. We'll all be thinking of you!