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"Bring a bucket and a mop"?! Girl needs to see doctor asap. Who wants to wear scuba gear to have sex?
Nothing unhealthy about female ejaculation.
"Bring a bucket and a mop"?! Girl needs to see doctor asap. Who wants to wear scuba gear to have sex?
I didn’t get the feeling that Megan was talking about the “grin and bear it” kind of (damaging, women-hating) pain in the song, but rather the S&M by Rihanna kind of pain, IYKWIM. That’s pretty clear from context, I think. So that line doesn’t bother me more than anything else in the song or other rap songs.
About the song as a whole - I don’t like rap as a genre and pretty much never listen to it, so I was unaware of this song until it turned into a meme. I can’t say that the lyrics are worse than your typical rap song in terms of being more vulgar etc. Not really my thing, but I do appreciate how it’s women talking about their own bodies instead of yet another song about men talking about women’s bodies. I can see how people think it is empowering! And for once it’s a song about a woman (or two women) going “I’m so hot” without following it up with “women who don’t look like me are unattractive.” It makes me so happy to see a song that isn’t women hating on women (a la All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor).
But who are we to tell other women what’s “positive,” “better,” and “freeing” for them? I’m not going to tell other women what to do with their bodies. WAP is topping the charts so clearly it resonates with a lot of women. When I say I love celebrating other women I don’t limit that to women who express themselves the same way I do or share my life experiences.
This thread reminds me of the phrase I often come back to when thinking about art/music/literature that doesn’t resonate with me: If it’s not for you, it’s not FOR you. Meaning that if a song/book/artwork/etc doesn’t speak to you, it’s often because it’s not made for you.
I think for women who are used to being objectified, violated, and shamed by those around them and society at large it IS positive, better, and freeing to say: I have agency over my body, I’m not embarrassed or ashamed.
So...
Being old AF, I decided to Google "sexually explicit songs from the 90s". The first one that came up was this:
Akinyele - Put it in your mouth.
Lemme tell you something. When this was playing, I'd be at a frat party, listening to a sped up version of this song (DJ mixing), and apparently I don't pay attention to lyrics because right now, I listened to this song, and I think it is like a manual on sex ed. Ahaahahahahhahaha
#oldAF
I agree, that video by Harriet was really good. I admit that in the 90s I listened to a lot of hardcore gangsta rap, enjoyed it then and enjoy it now. The more anti-white, anti-female it was, the more I liked it. Old Snoop, Ice Cube,. MJG, Dogg Pound, and others. I never felt "disempowered" by any of it.
20 minutes. Well worth the watch, IMO.
@SandyinAnaheim i like that you brought up servitude.
Generally, I hear WAP and other songs/raps like it and love them because I tend to be more dominant, ahem, in the bedroom and I often feel that men are serving ME, not the other way around. My college roommate used to half-jokingly say I should’ve been a man, and I said no honey, men should be taught that sex isn’t always about them. I mean ffs, the clitoris is the only human organ that serves no other purpose than pleasure.
Apparently I don't need to google. I just need to think about what's on my ipod to pull up explicit songs. Now that I'm back in the 80s, Lords of acid. Nuff said. Lyrics are not that deep. I wanna sit on your face repeats over and over.
Do you remember Divinyls - I touch myself?
Does this still push the envelope nowadays? I feel a little naughty listening to it lol.
NiN was HS for me. In your room. Staring into Trent's eyes. Dreamy man... ooo a matthew mcconnaughey trent Reznor sandwich... and some butch walker. Rivers Cuomo and both guys from yip deceiver...Girl idk about you but a frat party anthem in my day was Nin Inch Nails “Closer.” Ummmm
@SandyinAnaheim That sucks. But hey, it’s never too late. I keep telling @PintoBean she needs to get a younger man. Preferably a well-muscled one with lots of energy and stamina and enthusiasm.
Wow ladies! Let me live vicariously through you!I've had that before, and all it brings is more excitement in my head.... more energy, stamina and enthusiasm doesn't make them any better, unless they're REALLY packing.
I hope that's true. I'm just not sure that girls and younger women will necessarily catch that distinction. It's kind of like 'size matters.' I always want to add 'But if he doesn't know what he's doing, big ain't nothing but a problem.'
Editing to add--I guess that her her freedom to use men to get money or things. Is that considered empowering? Because to me that is not empowering but perhaps to some people it is?
Is it "using" men? You mentioned that it's prostitution and they should work to pay for their stuff, but how is prostitution not working? Person A is offering a transactional service to person B, who is paying them for it. How is that different than any other business transaction, as long as everyone is a consenting adult and knows the score? If someone's being lied to, or being victimized, or there purely out of desperation and is miserable, that's something else, but if everyone is content to be there and content to have their bodies participate, why is that anyone else's business? It would not be my personal choice, but neither would being a politician or a trader on Wall Street or a gastroenterologist. Frankly, in my opinion, there are a lot of other things that people do for money that no one bats an eye at, but I think do actual harm to others, whereas I see no "victims" here.
To each their own.
If she has agency over her body—why is she using it to get tuiition, rings and cars? Why isn’t she buying her own things from her own money instead of using her body to get material things from men she sleeps with?