Selling 1.5 RB

[tyty333]

I wear my 7 stone band (1.4 ctw) a good portion of the time (and leave my pear ering in the jewelry box). Most days it just seems like my pear is too much.
I think a 5/7/9 stone band is sort of an understated classic. It works for me in my neck of the wood.

Do you know why you might be liking the "smaller" stones/rings vs the bigger ones? What is common in your area? I think sometimes we (or I should say
I) let PS influence me too much (its my own problem, not PS). I want a big OEC stone (7.5mm) but I already dont wear my pear that much because I think
its too much. What am I going to do with a 7.5mm stone???

Same with my Mom (we live in the same area). She has her engagement ring/wedding band set plus a 2 ctw 3 stone ring. The 3 stone ring rarely leaves
the house (sad ).

Anyway, I hope you can figure things out before you purchase again...I feel your pain!

 

[jadesilver]

For many of us, the very first diamond purchase we made, often without knowing about PS, was never the perfect or even the right one for us, because it’s hard to know what you really want without actually staring at and wearing the item and looking at it in different lighting for weeks.

I was recently in a similar situation to yours. I just could not get rid of my first-mistake diamond that I was unhappy with because of the size. My husband just really wanted me to stop looking at rings and get it over with and be happy. I finally, after a lot of headaches, sold it at a good price.

So don’t worry about bad decisions. I cannot tell you how often I kicked myself and the amount of guilt I felt for 2 years over not being happy with the first diamond I bought, that I spent SO much money on, more money than I have ever spent on anything else in my life, yet wasn’t happy with. I felt dumb for being upset over a very small thing that bothered me every day. I felt dumb for buying the diamond and not being happy with it. I felt ungrateful. I felt wasteful. I felt helpless because I was trying so hard to sell the diamond, and I talked to so many people, many of whom eventually lost interest.

And I am not alone among the people who decided that they were not happy with their first diamond. The number of stories out there is pretty incredible, although my husband reminds me that the majority of people in life are perfectly happy with and don’t care about their diamond e-rings this much. Still, our cases aren’t exactly unique. It’s funny how much emotion we attach to this piece of jewelry related to our marriages, that are pretty much stuck on our hand for better or for worse. Or we could not-wear them, but I think all diamond lovers would love to wear their e-ring whenever appropriate as a celebration of their marriage.

I think that you made a good decision selling the diamond rather than recutting. Plus, you couldn’t possibly tell how you would have felt 5 years later. It probably made you feel much better and more relaxed about the whole search 5 years ago, rather than just feeling frustrated and bogged down over the diamond stuck with you. It is possible that you might have sold it sooner or later over the last 5 years. So don’t second-guess yourself now You are now free to pick any shape you like! Congrats on the new bands, they sound lovely!

 

[luvsdmb]

I wear my 7 stone band (1.4 ctw) a good portion of the time (and leave my pear ering in the jewelry box). Most days it just seems like my pear is too much.
I think a 5/7/9 stone band is sort of an understated classic. It works for me in my neck of the wood.

Do you know why you might be liking the "smaller" stones/rings vs the bigger ones? What is common in your area? I think sometimes we (or I should say
I) let PS influence me too much (its my own problem, not PS). I want a big OEC stone (7.5mm) but I already dont wear my pear that much because I think
its too much. What am I going to do with a 7.5mm stone???

Same with my Mom (we live in the same area). She has her engagement ring/wedding band set plus a 2 ctw 3 stone ring. The 3 stone ring rarely leaves
the house (sad ).

Anyway, I hope you can figure things out before you purchase again...I feel your pain!

Its not very often in my area to see a ring that wows me and when I do it normally is a super sparkly larger solitaire.
My OEC band is only .98 total, so for me I feel like a center stone that's 1.5 to 2 Ct would be good in a bezel setting.
I think back then those smaller stones were so shiny and pretty and also in a halo that they still gave me enough finger coverage.
I'm slowly figuring it out

 

[luvsdmb]

For many of us, the very first diamond purchase we made, often without knowing about PS, was never the perfect or even the right one for us, because it’s hard to know what you really want without actually staring at and wearing the item and looking at it in different lighting for weeks.

I was recently in a similar situation to yours. I just could not get rid of my first-mistake diamond that I was unhappy with because of the size. My husband just really wanted me to stop looking at rings and get it over with and be happy. I finally, after a lot of headaches, sold it at a good price.

So don’t worry about bad decisions. I cannot tell you how often I kicked myself and the amount of guilt I felt for 2 years over not being happy with the first diamond I bought, that I spent SO much money on, more money than I have ever spent on anything else in my life, yet wasn’t happy with. I felt dumb for being upset over a very small thing that bothered me every day. I felt dumb for buying the diamond and not being happy with it. I felt ungrateful. I felt wasteful. I felt helpless because I was trying so hard to sell the diamond, and I talked to so many people, many of whom eventually lost interest.

And I am not alone among the people who decided that they were not happy with their first diamond. The number of stories out there is pretty incredible, although my husband reminds me that the majority of people in life are perfectly happy with and don’t care about their diamond e-rings this much. Still, our cases aren’t exactly unique. It’s funny how much emotion we attach to this piece of jewelry related to our marriages, that are pretty much stuck on our hand for better or for worse. Or we could not-wear them, but I think all diamond lovers would love to wear their e-ring whenever appropriate as a celebration of their marriage.

I think that you made a good decision selling the diamond rather than recutting. Plus, you couldn’t possibly tell how you would have felt 5 years later. It probably made you feel much better and more relaxed about the whole search 5 years ago, rather than just feeling frustrated and bogged down over the diamond stuck with you. It is possible that you might have sold it sooner or later over the last 5 years. So don’t second-guess yourself now You are now free to pick any shape you like! Congrats on the new bands, they sound lovely!

I'm happy to hear I'm not the only one that has felt this way. Thanks for sharing !!

 

[arkieb1]

I think a few people here go through trial and error and a number of different stones rings etc in order to work what is exactly right for them. We missed you too btw!!!

 

[LaylaR]

Hi luvsdmb (this is Gypsy),
Good to see you.
Life would be boring if we all made perfect decisions every time. And with rings so much is based on emotion and taste and both change over time.

Enjoy your band. There's no reason to do anything right now. My best advice is this: when you are ready-- try on absolutely everything. You never know what will catch your heart. And seeing things in person is just a different experience.

Take care!

 

[denverappraiser]

Recutting for resale, at least for consumers, is almost always a bad idea. Why? Because you are going to pay a premium for the cutting service, and you’re going to be selling at a discount anyway. That’s the way retail works. Customers almost never understand the risks and the trade-off associated with things like dropping the weight under 1.50cts. It’s possible to learn but it’s not part of the general knowledge base about diamonds. Not even here at Pricescope. That’s why the original cutter did what they did ahead of you. That doesn’t make them right, of course, but it doesn’t make them wrong either. If you're going to sell to a dealer, let it be their problem. If you're selling to another consumer, sell to someone who likes the weight (just like someone did when it was bought for you or you bought it yourself).