Ring Reset & Diamond Band Search

[MTHealthyLiving]

Yes. Like buying one off eBay and simply swapping out the stone.

Sure, if I could find one that will fit my stone.
The other problem is, I’ve already paid a 50% deposit on the reset, which I’m sure isn’t refundable.

 

[Rhea]

It might not be refundable, but can you use that money toward switching to a different setting. $1,600 seems high unless they are resetting all your little diamonds AND having to custom design a setting to fit them.

I still think you're confused about what you actually want and how to make everyone happy. I think backing off and taking a time out from looking, thinking or talking about it is best.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

It might not be refundable, but can you use that money toward switching to a different setting. $1,600 seems high unless they are resetting all your little diamonds AND having to custom design a setting to fit them.

I still think you're confused about what you actually want and how to make everyone happy. I think backing off and taking a time out from looking, thinking or talking about it is best.

Yes, the quote is for resetting all the stones and custom setting. I talked to the jeweler today, and $1000 of the cost is setting the stones! So we’re looking for a setting that already has stones in it, that we can just add my yogo to.

 

[nala]

Yes, the quote is for resetting all the stones and custom setting. I talked to the jeweler today, and $1000 of the cost is setting the stones! So we’re looking for a setting that already has stones in it, that we can just add my yogo to.

Glad to hear that!!

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

Sure, if I could find one that will fit my stone.
The other problem is, I’ve already paid a 50% deposit on the reset, which I’m sure isn’t refundable.

So now the trick is finding a halo setting that will fit my 2.8 yogo for the center stone. I’m not having much luck, but maybe I’m not looking in the right places.
Any suggestions?

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

I think maybe I have no idea what I’m doing. Lol!
I was under the impression from the jeweler that I couldn’t pick an already made setting, and had to go custom, which I’m guessing is why the cost is so high.

Where did you find this setting?

 

[motownmama]

I think there’s a less costly solution! I don’t have it at my fingertips, but I bet the folks on here can help you. Have you inquired about getting your deposit yet? What work have they already completed?

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

I think there’s a less costly solution! I don’t have it at my fingertips, but I bet the folks on here can help you. Have you inquired about getting your deposit yet? What work have they already completed?

Unfortunately the deposit is non-refundable. So far, all that has been done, is all of the stones have been removed from my ring. The jeweler has halted everything until we find another solution. He’s looking for a setting in which we can just put the yogo into, as resetting the melee costs $42 each and there are 24 of them!
The problem is, my yogo is really small, so finding a setting with a 2.8 mm center might be a dead end as well. If we can’t find that setting, I’m thinking maybe finding a setting where my yogo could be a peekaboo under the gallery, or it could be a side stone... the yogo is pretty sentimental so I’d really like it to go in the new ring somehow.

 

[Krisking]

Where did you find this setting?

The second one I posted? It's Stuller #121619.

 

[Niel]

Unfortunately the deposit is non-refundable. So far, all that has been done, is all of the stones have been removed from my ring. The jeweler has halted everything until we find another solution. He’s looking for a setting in which we can just put the yogo into, as resetting the melee costs $42 each and there are 24 of them!
The problem is, my yogo is really small, so finding a setting with a 2.8 mm center might be a dead end as well. If we can’t find that setting, I’m thinking maybe finding a setting where my yogo could be a peekaboo under the gallery, or it could be a side stone... the yogo is pretty sentimental so I’d really like it to go in the new ring somehow.

Did you not like the one I posted from stuller with the single round airline halo? That would fit

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

Did you not like the one I posted from stuller with the single round airline halo? That would fit

Did I miss it?

 

[angeljosephy]

How about something like this?

https://www.stuller.com/products/72...onType=recommendation&recommendationId=199645

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

How about something like this?

https://www.stuller.com/products/72...onType=recommendation&recommendationId=199645

Well, the issue has just been further complicated with my husband in tears after finding out the original ring has been taken apart for a reset. He feels the ring will not be the ring he gave me. He would have rather I wore it broken until the stones fall out, than to change it. I want to be a good wife and I completely understand his feelings. The original ring is very sentimental to me too. But I’m frustrated. He also told me that for 17 years he’s been upset with other rings I’ve worn, a right hand ring, morher’s ring, other bands I’ve purchased to stack... I gently told him that he can’t claim all of my real estate, and I’m trying to be understanding of his feelings, but I’m feeling like I don’t get any input to the rings I wear. Ugh.

 

[nala]

But I thought you had told him and he had accepted your choice to move on?

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

You've created a tempest and now complain about the storm.

From the outset, it has been confusion and (unnecessary) drama: for obvious reasons, why don't you give this a break?

cheers--Sharon

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

But I thought you had told him and he had accepted your choice to move on?

I thought he had moved on as well.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

HI:

You've created a tempest and now complain about the storm.

From the outset, it has been confusion and (unnecessary) drama: for obvious reasons, why don't you give this a break?

cheers--Sharon

Forgive me for not knowing what I want, seeking advice (I thought that’s what this community was for), AND trying to consider my husband’s feelings all at the same time.
Perhaps I should just do what I want without giving a shit about my husband’s feelings. After all, selfishness, and lack of communication are the foundations of a good marriage.

Cheers.

 

[canuk-gal]

Forgive me for not knowing what I want, seeking advice (I thought that’s what this community was for), AND trying to consider my husband’s feelings all at the same time.
Perhaps I should just do what I want without giving a shit about my husband’s feelings. After all, selfishness, and lack of communication are the foundations of a good marriage.

Cheers.

Case in point.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

Case in point.

What exactly is your problem?

Am I misinformed about this community?
Is it not for diamond, rings, jewelry advice?
Am I the only person who cares what her husband thinks?
Does everyone here just do what they want in regards to their rings given to them by husbands?
Am I the only one who struggles with deciding what I want?

 

[canuk-gal]

What exactly is your problem?

Am I misinformed about this community?
Is it not for diamond, rings, jewelry advice?
Am I the only person who cares what her husband thinks?
Does everyone here just do what they want in regards to their rings given to them by husbands?
Am I the only one who struggles with deciding what I want?

Of this community, your opinions are your own.

Otherwise rhetorical questions.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

Of this community, your opinions are your own.

Otherwise rhetorical questions.

Good god. What are you eight?
If you don’t like what’s going on here, then just scroll on by. You’re obviously just looking to start drama of your own.

 

[HappyNewLife]

I’m sorry to say this, but your husband is being ridiculous. Your ring is broken and you’re trying to find a near-duplicate setting to make him as happy as possible. You deserve a ring you’re happy to wear, that’s not falling apart.

I hope he calms down and you both get what you want out of this journey. I wish you tons of luck!

 

[acaw2015]

I have been following your thread but not written anything. I second taking a pause on this project until you and your husband are on the same page.
Why is a ring making your husband cry? It seems to me like you both have lost all perspective on this.
Why does your husband, or anyone else than you, have a say in what you wear? If he loves this ring so much he should wear it. If you gave him a gift would you be devastated and crying if he changed the gift? Seriously.
I would be more worried about your marriage than of loosing that deposit. What is your real problem that you are just projecting on this object?
This reminds me of those threads where a guy buys an engagement ring for a girl completely without consulting her and the resulting drama... remember, communication is key to any relationship.
I will leave you alone now. Good luck.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

I’m sorry to say this, but your husband is being ridiculous. Your ring is broken and you’re trying to find a near-duplicate setting to make him as happy as possible. You deserve a ring you’re happy to wear, that’s not falling apart.

I hope he calms down and you both get what you want out of this journey. I wish you tons of luck!

Thank you!

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

I have been following your thread but not written anything. I second taking a pause on this project until you and your husband are on the same page.
Why is a ring making your husband cry? It seems to me like you both have lost all perspective on this.
Why does your husband, or anyone else than you, have a say in what you wear? If he loves this ring so much he should wear it. If you gave him a gift would you be devastated and crying if he changed the gift? Seriously.
I would be more worried about your marriage than of loosing that deposit. What is your real problem that you are just projecting on this object?
This reminds me of those threads where a guy buys an engagement ring for a girl completely without consulting her and the resulting drama... remember, communication is key to any relationship.
I will leave you alone now. Good luck.

I would not be devastated if he changed a gift I gave him. At least I don’t think I would be. One thing I can say in his defense is he gave it to me at such an important time in our lives. We had just been told he might have cancer, he had exceeded his first year goals as a business owner, thus could finally afford to buy me something nice, and it was our ten year anniversary. Those things are what make it very sentimental to me as well. When he gave me the ring, I went on a mission to find someone to resize my wedding band (I had been told it couldn’t be resized), to go with it. Then I found this group and fell in love with stacking. So he feels like I think the ring wasn’t good enough. We are both very sentimental about the rings, but in different ways, and it’s causing issue.
Our marriage is pretty darn solid, aside from this issue. Honestly, I didn’t see this coming. We’ve been through so much in 17 years that I didn’t think a ring could be such a big deal.

 

[ringo865]

My husband got a little weird when I coveted, then bought, a second engagement ring. Like Why wasn't the one I gave you good enough? I said it is, and will always be special. Then I tried talking his language.

Why did we have to buy the Chevelle convertible? Wasn't the 69 Camarillo good enough? Or the 57 corvette?

Of course they were; these are just different. And why did you have to get a set of cragars (with all new rubber) for the Chevelle? Weren't the USMags good enough? Or the keystone klassics? I mean, really, you need three sets of wheels and tires for. each. car?! He says well yes, of course, sometimes I like a different look. Wheels/tires, you see, they're like bracelets or earrings.

So, speaking "guy" made it easier to get my third engagement ring and my fourth. Because he (kinda) understands now. I still have all of the rings, and the one he proposed with is more special than all the others (though I'm prolly keeping all of them )

 

[Gussie]

I kinda did the same as @ringo865. DH has lots of vehicles -to the point of crazed madness (airplanes, helicopter, cars, motorcycles, huge industrial lawnmowers, a grader, etc.) I have tried to not say much because he works hard and likes his toys. Any blowback I get for jewelry gets the gentle vehicle lecture.

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

My husband got a little weird when I coveted, then bought, a second engagement ring. Like Why wasn't the one I gave you good enough? I said it is, and will always be special. Then I tried talking his language.

Why did we have to buy the Chevelle convertible? Wasn't the 69 Camarillo good enough? Or the 57 corvette?

Of course they were; these are just different. And why did you have to get a set of cragars (with all new rubber) for the Chevelle? Weren't the USMags good enough? Or the keystone klassics? I mean, really, you need three sets of wheels and tires for. each. car?! He says well yes, of course, sometimes I like a different look. Wheels/tires, you see, they're like bracelets or earrings.

So, speaking "guy" made it easier to get my third engagement ring and my fourth. Because he (kinda) understands now. I still have all of the rings, and the one he proposed with is more special than all the others (though I'm prolly keeping all of them )

LOVE this! Thank you!

 

[MTHealthyLiving]

I kinda did the same as @ringo865. DH has lots of vehicles -to the point of crazed madness (airplanes, helicopter, cars, motorcycles, huge industrial lawnmowers, a grader, etc.) I have tried to not say much because he works hard and likes his toys. Any blowback I get for jewelry gets the gentle vehicle lecture.

What a great perspective I never thought about!
He did tell me this morning that he might be able to get past all of this if he
knows I love the ring in the end.
I did remind him that the yogo is something that was mined 40 miles from our home, and one day they may be all gone. So preserving that stone, no matter how I decide to do it, is really important to me. That will forever be the first yogo sapphire he gave me. They are kind of a big deal to the community here. Lol!

 

[motownmama]

I feel for you BOTH. You touched on why your husband is upset, and I get that. I also get why you want something else. If you use the sapphire he gave you and really love the final product I'm guessing (don't know you...) that it will become all right. I'm slightly lost on some suggestions. IS there a Stuller that will accommodate your stone?