wakingdreams53
Brilliant_Rock
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As mentioned in a thread a month and a half ago, I wanted my bf to "man up" and move out of his incredibly incorrigible father's house.
We talked and he made a goal for within 6 months (that would've been April).
Okay, swell, wonderful, step in the right direction.
Yesterday, he and his father got into a really big fight which ended with him beating my bf.
Bf packed as much of his things as could fit into his car and came to me.
Not a single thought entered my mind that in this extreme situation, he wouldn't be able to stay with me.
I thought about all of the ways I'd tell my parents, since they're not evil and perfectly understand that you help a person in need if you can.
I didn't think that he'd stay with me permanently (I'm living alone in my parent's apt while they live out-of-state), but at least until he could get his feet on the ground.
He offered to help with all household things and pay my parents rent.
I really didn't think that would be a problem. I couldn't imagine what could be wrong with this.
I called my mom. She feels bad for SO and understands that in the extreme situation he can stay here, however, rent? According to her, rent means he'll get comfortable and never get his own footing. So there's no way in hell that she and my father will agree to letting him live in the apt.
But it's not like he's staying with me and sitting on his @$$ all day, you know? He has a full time job which is a pain and a half to get to from here.
She said he has a week to find an apt and that would be more than enough time. That he should be out by the time she comes (she's coming for two weeks to visit and spend Thanksgiving with me), which is the 17th.
I understand her point, really, I do... but what can I tell my bf? "Hi honey, I know that you're completely screwed right now, but just to add to that, you can't stay with me for longer than a week."
And sure, if you're out of a home and have zero options, you can find a place pretty quickly, but I can't imagine taking myself away as an option. When my mom goes back home, I'll be living alone yet again and then I'm leaving to go visit my parents. I'm going to have completely empty apartment and I can't let my bf temporarily stay? Really??
She said other things like if he stays here, I'll be the one supporting him and that's not a life she wants for me. And I get that too, but seriously now, he's an incredibly responsible person who would never overstay his welcome. He genuinely has no where else to go.
*enter curse word here*
We talked and he made a goal for within 6 months (that would've been April).
Okay, swell, wonderful, step in the right direction.
Yesterday, he and his father got into a really big fight which ended with him beating my bf.
Bf packed as much of his things as could fit into his car and came to me.
Not a single thought entered my mind that in this extreme situation, he wouldn't be able to stay with me.
I thought about all of the ways I'd tell my parents, since they're not evil and perfectly understand that you help a person in need if you can.
I didn't think that he'd stay with me permanently (I'm living alone in my parent's apt while they live out-of-state), but at least until he could get his feet on the ground.
He offered to help with all household things and pay my parents rent.
I really didn't think that would be a problem. I couldn't imagine what could be wrong with this.
I called my mom. She feels bad for SO and understands that in the extreme situation he can stay here, however, rent? According to her, rent means he'll get comfortable and never get his own footing. So there's no way in hell that she and my father will agree to letting him live in the apt.
But it's not like he's staying with me and sitting on his @$$ all day, you know? He has a full time job which is a pain and a half to get to from here.
She said he has a week to find an apt and that would be more than enough time. That he should be out by the time she comes (she's coming for two weeks to visit and spend Thanksgiving with me), which is the 17th.
I understand her point, really, I do... but what can I tell my bf? "Hi honey, I know that you're completely screwed right now, but just to add to that, you can't stay with me for longer than a week."
And sure, if you're out of a home and have zero options, you can find a place pretty quickly, but I can't imagine taking myself away as an option. When my mom goes back home, I'll be living alone yet again and then I'm leaving to go visit my parents. I'm going to have completely empty apartment and I can't let my bf temporarily stay? Really??
She said other things like if he stays here, I'll be the one supporting him and that's not a life she wants for me. And I get that too, but seriously now, he's an incredibly responsible person who would never overstay his welcome. He genuinely has no where else to go.
*enter curse word here*