PS Mommy thread with toddlers 12-36 months

[Jas12]

Just finished reading Disease-Proof Your Children. Basically it examines the connection b/w diet and illness and disease in kids. It was an interesting, eye-opening read. It was a little long winded but provides the motivation for really ensuring our kids eat well. I am giving my copy to my MIL

Anyone have any book recommendations? I need something new now....

 

[curlygirl]

Well, I finally did it. I broke my kid. Actually, I didn't do it but I feel horrible about it. Here's the story:

Yesterday at about 8:45am, approximately 45 minutes after DH had taken the girls to school, I got a call from the assistant director telling me that Lucy had tripped and hit the bridge of her nose on the edge of a bookshelf. They cleaned her up and she'd stopped crying but they wanted to let me know and maybe I should stop by on my way to work just to check on her. Well, I figured it was nothing because they literally call for every little bump and tumble but I figured since I was about to leave the house anyway, I would take a detour and walk over to check on her. Thank god I did.

I walked into her room and saw my precious little angel with this big cut directly on the bridge of her nose. It was still oozing blood and there was blood coming out of her nostril. I stayed calm, looked at the bookcase that she hit herself on and didn't think it was inappropriate for it to be in the room (I wanted to make sure I wasn't going to go crazy on them for having harmful furniture around!). Lucy tripped over her own feet, which happens, and unfortunately she went head, or nose, first into it. But my maternal instinct kicked in and I called the pediatrician and said I was bringing her in right away. She wasn't crying or anything which was good but I just didn't feel comfortable leaving her like that.

I jumped into a cab (no carseat and I know that's bad but desperate times call for desperate measures and this is NYC so I don't have a car and couldn't walk 30 blocks with a 26 lb. kid and no stroller so no judgements please

) and took her to the pedi. Fortunately our doctor was there and checked her out right away. She then had 2 other doctors come in to look at her. The good news is that there was no internal damage to her nose and nothing was broken. They believed that it was going to be ok but decided that we should err on the side of caution and referred me to a PLASTIC SURGEON. My heart sank but I knew it was the right thing. They called and made the appointment for me and luckily, the plastic surgeon's office said to bring her in asap.

Another cab ride, get to the swanky Park Avenue plastic surgeon's office and realize that I can get a tummy tuck there too!

But anyway, they immediately put some numbing stuff and a band aid on the gash and then left us to fend for ourselves! After filling out tons of paperwork and keeping a 13 month old busy in a grown up waiting room for about 30 minutes, they came and took us into the office. I met the doctor (he does all kinds of cosmetic surgery but also specializes in pediatric plastic surgery and is on the New York magazine best doctors list!), explained what happened, he examined her and decided he needed to give her some stitches just to be safe. This is where it got slightly traumatic for me. They had to kind of "bind" Lucy--like a really tight swaddle with sheets which she fought and then they taped her to the bed to keep her from squirming. UGH. I sat on the edge of the bed next to her and held her down while the doctor injected the anesthetic into the wound. Oh lord, I had to look away. My poor baby's perfect face was getting injected with a needle and surprisingly I was crying even though she wasn't! The doctor was great with her, very gentle and talked softly to the point that Lucy actually FELL ASLEEP! He then put 3 stitches in, which again I didn't watch, and then she was done. He said she'll heal on her own anyway but the stitches will help her out and it's ok if they fall out. We have to take her back on Monday for a follow up. He was really impressed by how good she was and honestly, so was I! I was so proud of her--she was so brave with all those doctors checking her out and poking and prodding her face. I think I was more damaged by the whole thing than she was.

So I took her home and gave her lots of attention yesterday even though she acted like nothing had happened. She was back to being her usual busybody self and I think she loved being home without Lily because she got to play with everything and not worry about having things snatched away from her! She's in great spirits and I sent her back to school today.

Anyway, now I'm left with the guilt. I know in my mind that this could have happened anywhere, even in our own house, so I'm not upset about that. I know this may sound vain but I just don't want her to have a scar!

I feel like she'll hold it against me for the rest of her life!!! That's why I had no qualms about taking her to a plastic surgeon--I figured he would do the best job and leave the least amount of damage behind but there are no guarantees. So I'm thankful that she's ok and it's nothing worse but I just hope she doesn't have to have a constant reminder of a stupid accident right in the middle of her face. Does anyone else have any experience with childhood injuries like this? Do they always leave scars?

Sorry for the long story. Thank you all for reading if you made it this far! I just had to vent and I know it's totally me-centric but I hope you don't mind. Just looking for some support and maybe some positive stories!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Oh Curly, hugs!!!!

First, I am SO proud of your girl...what a trooper! I actually got a smile on my face hearing how well she did. Lucy''s tough for sure. I think it''s always tougher on mom...heartache is painful.

Second, you are NOT vain! Or maybe I am vain along with you! We have little girls...we don''t want anything to detract from the beauty within, KWIM? I''m not sure I posted this on PS, but several weeks back, Amelia had a bad fall on TGuy''s watch in our house. She ran and tripped, but fell on the hard tile FACE FIRST. I guess there was a lot of blood, and when I came home and inspected closely, I found a chip in her front tooth.

I was so sad! The chip was miniscule and I took heart that it''s milk teeth and that it won''t be forever, but I totally see that chip all the time. My mom, who has eagle eyes says she couldn''t find it, but it''s not that small. Last week the pedi checked her teeth and noticed it and told me to keep an eye out on it because it could get black. BLACK! Ugh...that just made my heart sad. Kids are so mean in school and pick up on every little thing and I hated the idea of my kid having a blackened front tooth.

I never got mad at TGuy...I think he was worried that I might, but I knew he wouldn''t need any more help beating himself up. It was an accident anyway. But for awhile, I admit that I thought...god, nothing happens EVER on MY watch, but things always seem to happen on his! (Her first blood boo-boo was on his watch. Sometimes he''ll just watch TV or surf the net and not always keep an eye on her). Then not long after, she ran and faceplanted on my watch on the carpet, and while she wasn''t hurt at all, I just realized, it''s all part of being a kid. It was easier after that feeling at peace with the whole thing.

I notice every little thing on her face. She had a strawberry like thing cut off her face not long ago (posted about it here) and it will probably leave a mark. I sweated my way through that entire appointment and felt so anxious even though it was a minor little procedure. And then I thought of all my wonderful mom pals on PS, some of whom have gone through much more worrisome things with their child and I got strength and perspective from that.

I know a little girl who last year got a massive gash on her forehead...7 stitches. Can''t even see it anymore (or at least I don''t notice it). She was much older than Lucy (4) so I think baby skin is pretty resilient and am thinking it will disappear. I would do what you''re doing Curly...visit to the plastic surgeon for sure. My friends would be surprised that I''d do that because I''m so NOT into looks, but that''s me. Who knows what the kid will feel like when she gets older? I want to do everything in my power to help my daughter feel self conscious about anything.

Hugs hugs hugs!

 

[Burk]

Curly~poor Lucy and poor YOU!!! Sounds like she was an absolute trooper! I would feel the same way (call it vain if you''d like) if T had a chance for a scar on her face. I''m sure Lucy''s stitches will heal (yay for plastic surgeons) and weeks from now you won''t even be able to tell she met a bookcase head first!! I know a couple kids who''ve had stitches and have nothing to show now (myself included). **HUGS**

 

[Burk]

Tacori~Good luck with your test tomorrow! I''m sure you''ll do great! My T is the same way: absolutely PERFECT at school. When another little girl was throwing a tantrum the other day about snack I asked T''s teacher if she''s ever done that there and she said "oh Tayva, NOOOOOO, she would NEVER act like this." Um, yea she does. At home all the time. I guess I''d rather have it this way than reversed, but sometimes I think "why me?"

lili~The coughing is so hard because I see her in there trying to move and get comfortable and she sits up for a while just coughing.

I just figured it out and I guess I''d be 36 weeks when I was thinking about getting my pics taken...that might be just about perfect. I need to email our photographer and get something lined up to get some prof. pics of T and family pics taken here in the next few weeks for Christmas cards, too!

puffy~I am seriously a zombie today. T woke at 5:45 ready to go for the day (before this asthma crap she usually woke after 8!!). I am sooo not okay with this lack of sleep thing now, I still have 3rd trimester to go before newborn, I don''t need the practice now!!

So you have your mat pics scheduled? Are you planning to have B in them? Your DH? What are you wearing?

Bobo~I agree, even for adults coughing is no fun! Hope your DH''s surgery goes well!!

mrss~hey there!

Jas12~Thanks for the book rec. I may have to check it out. I haven''t read anything good in ages!

 

[snlee]

QT, you poor thing. I hope you're feeling better soon! Hugs.

curly, oh no! Poor Lucy and poor you. I would feel the same way so I think going to a plastic surgeon was the right thing to do. I think it's perfectly normal as parents to be concerned about permanent scaring, especially on the face. DH and I are always concerned, even when it's just a small bump or scrap. I hope there's no scar. So proud of Lucy! What a trooper! Hugs to the both of you!

bobo, hope your DH's surgery goes well!

I decided to give D the regular and H1N1 flu vaccines. Since it's the first time for both he needs to get 4 shots total, 2 each a month apart. H1N1 vaccine just arrived yesterday and it was a complete madhouse at the pedi. Tons of kids waiting to get the shot. We ended up waiting for about 30 minutes, so not too bad. I was so proud of D! No tears! Not a peep! 2 down, 2 to go.

 

[puffy]

curly poor girl and poor mama!! but it does sound like she is recovering nicely and was a total trooper! and no not vain at all..i would be the same way. heck i''m the same way with a boy. haha!!

burk YIKES....i sure hope you guys get some sleep tonight! lately, i''ve been sleeping pretty early and waking when B wakes, usually around 830-930, and still i have been so tired. so weird!! yup, the maternity pics are scheduled for monday the 30th, and i am super excited, more so than i was with B only cause B will be in them. and i might let DH in on them too, haha, just joking. he''ll be in a FEW of them. haha. not sure what to wear yet, but this gives me an excuse to actually shop for some maternity clothes. i hate shopping for maternity clothes, but i don''t really like anything i have right now. the only things i do like, i have used in the maternity pics when i was preggo with B. haha. when are you doing yours?

snlee YAY for D!! what a tough little guy. how is he? hope he is doing well.

 

[princesss]

Curly, I''m not a mom but I wanted to jump in because I know somebody that had something similar happen. My friend in HS told me that when she was young (3/4/5-ish), she decided she wanted a toy her mom had put on top of the bookshelf. She clumbed up the shelves, reached for it, and fell. On the way down she sliced her face from lip almost to her eye. She ended up going to a plastic surgeon and getting stitches, and honestly I didn''t believe her when she told me. She has the tiniest scar just at the top of her lip and then nothing. No other scarring, no marks. Plastic surgeons are great and know what they''re doing, and if the doctor seems certain that there won''t be scarring, I''d trust him. Your gorgeous girl is going to stay gorgeous, I''m sure of it.

 

[qtiekiki]

Jas12
Yeah, it’s nice to not be the only one to keep the secret, but he basically told his family and friends that I knew and he doesn’t before I told him. So he’s just going to pretend he doesn’t know. RAT.
I think I am with you on done with two. I wanted three before, but I just so tired now that I can’t imagine having two kids and being pregnant.
Sounds like your m/w is very attentive. That’s great.

Puffy
Hope you are right about DH and Disneyland. His co-worker has season pass and goes almost every weekend with his 8 yrs old daughter. DH kept saying how crazy his co-worker was.
B is such a sweetie. Sounds like he and daddy are taking good care of you.

Burk
That’s what I am thinking with the paci, that M might need it for comfort with the baby and less attention from me.
So you guys are thinking of waiting until after winter to start building? When does the coldest weather hit your town?
How cute that T wants to show off her little brother in your belly. I wish M knows. We point to my belly and say baby, but I don’t think she gets it. She just keeps slapping my belly b/c she thinks it’s funny.

Tgal
A is tall, future supermodel/golfer.
5’5” is pretty tall for an Asian woman.
My Inlaws kept saying to SIL that her second DS is short, and SIL responds with he is not short. Then my Inlaw proceeds to stand M and her DS next to each other to show her that her DS is short. They say he is short like his dad. Yikes. I mean he is a month younger than M, and he is only like less than 2 inches shorter.

 

[qtiekiki]

Lili
I kno, right. The gift is still in DH’s car. DH told MIL that I bought gender-specific clothes already (this is all before I told him). I hope she isn’t snooping around for them. Hehe. I am pretty sure that everyone (well DH’s family and relatives) think we are having another girl b/c DH’s cousin didn’t tell the family the sex of their second baby after they find out and she had another girl. So it’ll be a big surprise for them.
How’s J doing?

Tacori
That sucks that the test date was postponed again. But glad that you were able to get an earlier date than the one they suggested. Good luck on Friday
I think you handle yourself very well with MIL. What’s with this wanting to be the favorite thing? I mean doesn’t she know that the mommy will always be the favorite. T will go to you when she really needs comfort. She just wants grandma for the treats.
T sounds adorable doing her songs and dances.

Bobo
How are you feeling? I much rather me than M too when it comes to being sick.
Oops on the emergency call. I am glad the iPhone doesn’t have that option when it’s locked.

Kay
You don’t have to use your real name on FB, and you can set your privacy setting to only friends or even only a certain people can see certain things on your profile.
Your Amelia is tall too, maybe there’s something with the name. Hehe.
How cute that A claps for herself.
A’s ballerina outfit is adorable & cute shoes too.

 

[qtiekiki]

Diva
Must be nice to have your own place again, and that James loves his yard.

Janine
Thanks. DH and I hardly ever get gifts for each other. I haven’t gotten him a gift since we got married. So while it was nice, I doubt you want your DH to learn that. Hehe.
How funny that C swag her finger back at you. M just gets mad and throws the object or runs away when we say no to her. If we have to take something for her, then she’ll cry and we just let her.

msb700
Sorry that you can’t figure out what you are eating and have to resort to vegetarian. Glad that you are having fun except for the German thing.
Yeah wait until you are ready for everyone to know before telling K.

Curly
Oh no. You and Lucy both did very well. It’s hard to see our babies hurt, and it’s not being vain; it’s just normal parental reaction. You did the right thing. The stitch will help the wound heals better. Big hugs.

Snlee
Yay for D being a little trooper. M cries when she gets her shot, though she didn’t cry for long with H1N1 yesterday.

 

[qtiekiki]

Thank you ladies for the well wishes. The pain had subsided a lot. I still feel a soreness kind of pain, but much much better than the night I went to the hospital (I basically just wanted to curl up from the pain). I haven’t needed any pain meds since Tues. My OB called to check up on me yesterday, and I told him the pain is much better and I didn’t need the pain meds. He said that’s good, and to keep drinking lots of fluids. He says in some case, the patient need to see a urologist and have a stent put in to release the urine if it’s backed up in the kidney. I have an appt with my OB tomorrow, so I’ll see if he think I’ll need a stent. I hope not b/c I’ve heard that’s really painful, and a lot of time they have to switch out the stent every few months due to calcium build-up. Fingers crossed.

M finally got her first H1N1 shot yesterday. We scheduled the appointment for the second shot in four weeks. Hopefully they will have some more in by then b/c they are running out of the first batch they received.

She is starting to not want to be fed, so we gave her a spoon and a lot of her meal went to her clothes and highchair. She can put the spoon in her mouth, but not always the right direction. She gets mad when we try to help her, so I guess she’ll just have to figure it out herself.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Curly, Oh no! Do NOT blame yourself. Accidents happen. T is so reckless I am surprised we haven''t had to go to the ER yet. You are not vain. I think that is a completely normal reaction. If it makes you feel better DH was bitten by their family dog when he was about 6 months or so. I don''t think they took him to a plastic surgeon (so you are ahead of the game!) and he only has the slightest scar below his eye and a little hole (It isn''t a hole but not sure what to call it) that EVERYONE thinks is a dimple. So I bet Lucy will be fine. And what a brave little girl (and mama)!

Q, glad the pain has lessoned. Poor thing. M will figure out the eating thing. I am not sure if I am T''s favorite person. She is a daddy''s girl but MIL''s "bribes" does get old. I mean I guess I wouldn''t mind if she didn''t see her so often. MIL has already said she thinks my mom will be her favorite grandmother since my mom gets to be the fun grandma and she will be the boring one. I am like why are you even thinking of those things?

Burk, don''t you hate how we get the worst of our little girls? They don''t understand why I look SHOCKED when they say what an angel T is. I often wonder if they are talking about my kid.

Jas12, she was totally stressing me out! I just tried to ignore her. Mom''s morning out is a great program. It gives her a taste of preschool and is cheaper than a babysitter!


Onto Tessa news, we just got home from her 2 year old appointment. She kept wanting to go back into the waiting room to play. She was NOT happy having to stay in the room. The doctor did his exam with her on my lap and after he did something (like look in her ear or mouth) she would say "tank you docdoc." It was so funny. The Pedi said she was mature for her age (whatever that means) and thinks the tantrums are on the decline instead of the rise. Okaaaayyyyyy....I hope so! He seemed impressed with her speech and of course said she was doing great. We ended up getting her a flu shot, Hib (is that what it is called) and the H1N1 mist. I was unsure about the H1N1 but they are so few and far between and the Pedi said it was a good idea since she is exposed to other kids. He gave the same to his 26 month old which always reassures me.

Onto the stats:

Weight = 28.6 lbs (75%)
Height = 33" (25-50%) Obviously her 18 month was WAYYY off!
Head = 18.75" (50-75%)

So if the theory is correct she will be 5''6" which sounds about right. Of course we have about 16 years to see if that holds true

Princesss came for our last study session last night. Poor T is going to miss her new friend! I am feeling more prepared than I did a week ago so I guess it was all a blessing after all. I am still looking forward to knowing I will never have to take it again!

 

[snlee]

I''ve been reading but bad at responding individually so here''s my attempt to catch up -

QT, very cute way of telling your DH he''s going to have a little boy! He must be thrilled! Glad you''re feeling better. What a coincidence our kids both got the H1N1 shot on the same day. We have to wait and see if they receive another shipment in a month. They told me that after the first shot they are protected against most of it. I''m glad we were able to get at least one. One shot is better than nothing.

Jas12, blah for tantrums! I''ve noticed now that D is older he''s understanding more and when I tell him not to do something he starts to fight back and cry. I am not looking forward to full blown out tantrums! That is so exciting you''re planning a home birth. Glad you found a MW you love!

puffy, D goes bath and forth between one and two naps. Even if he takes one nap, it''s really hard to push it later because he gets really tired 3-4 hours after he wakes up in the morning. B is a very cut mickey mouse!

lili, is J feeling better? I''m short too. Only 5 feet even. How tall is your DH?

Tacori, good luck tomorrow! Friday the 13th is a very lucky day, plus it''s my birthday, so I''m sure you''ll do great! I am sorry about your MIL issues. ugh! I would be annoyed too! Hope it gets better. Hope T feels better soon!

Kay, from the back A makes a very cute ballerina!

MrsS, your daughter sounds great! She''s really talented! Yay for Jake saying his first sentence!

Burk, hope T feels better soon! That is so cute how she wants to kiss and show off her broder all the time!

Diva, glad to hear James is doing well.

 

[curlygirl]

I love you guys!

I'm literally in tears because of all the sweet things you've all written. Thank you so much for making me feel better about worrying about the scar on her face. I didn't want to sound like an ungrateful, superficial person but we all want our children to remain as pristine as the day they were born so it just kills me to think that she'll have a scar but then I think about how much worse it could have been...

Anyway, I really need to catch up on this thread but for now I want to thank TGal, Burk, snlee, puffy, princesss, qtiekiki and Tacori for being there for me. Sometimes you just need the comfort and support of others who can relate and I'm so glad I can lean on all of you! It's weird that I often feel closer to my internet friends than to my real life friends. You ladies are the best! xo

 

[lili]

Curly--
Oh no! Poor Lucy.
Glad to hear that she''s back to her jovial self.
Like others have said, I''d probably do the same too, especially when the wound is dead center on the face.
I''m sure Lucy will heal nicely and will not leave a scar since baby/kids'' skin are so resilient and heal really fast.

Snlee--
That''s great D handled his shots so well.
He''s a tough little guy.
I know where he got it from

J is doing better....but still have this nasty cough in the morning because of the mucus buildup during the night.
She''d be sitting on the bed coughing for a good 5-10 minutes trying to dislodge it.

DH is 5''10", so he towers over me.
I''d be in the highest heels possible and still doesn''t come up to his earlobes

How about yours? He looks pretty tall too.

Tacori--
Awww....so cute.
Such a little chatterbox.

33", that''s pretty tall.
What was her 18 month measurement?

What I heard is that the projected height for girls in 2x their height at 18 months.
And boys will be 2x their height at 24 months.
But there''s always the give and take of 2 inches.

 

[lili]

Diva--
That''s great James is going down easily.
Must be dead tired after running around in his new yard

Bobo--
Hope your DH''s surgery went smoothly.

MrsS--

for Jake''s first sentence.
I love it when they say something that you didn''t teach them or hadn''t said in a while.
It''s amazing how much info they''ve absorbed even before they start learning to speak.
I remember a few months back, J would look at and then point to this blemish on my nose and I told her "that''s a pimple".
Then last week when I sat her on the toilet, she looked intently at my face and point to my forehead and said "pimple".
And sure enough, I felt one there

Glad to hear that your MIL is back to normal.
Hope she doesn''t take any more falls.

Puffy--
Is your mom going to stay at your place when you guys go to the hospital?
You are scheduled for an induction right?

Jas12--
I think so.
She just loves people watching.
And then when she''s got a full stomach, she''ll want to get out of her seat and walk off her calories.

Burk--
36 wks would be perfect!
Can''t wait to see them and your family christmas pictures.
I hear you on the cough.
J always get those nasty cough when she has a cold.

QT--
Ugh, I feel sorry for your SIL.
I know older chinese people just don''t hold their tongues w/ things like that.
And the annoying thing is that they''ll say it over and over again as if you didn''t hear it the first time.

So are the ILs hoping for a boy too?

 

[janinegirly]

Curly: I''m so sorry that happened, and am late to this thread so everyone else already said it better than I could have. First of all you handled it all perfectly. I think I would have totally been raging at the daycare, which obviously isn''t a good thing. I also don''t see any issue with the plastic surgeon, especially when the pedi suggested it. That''s a prominent spot and as we all know, it''s different with girls. I have a scar on my chin from childhood, but it''s on the chin and I was probably 3 when it happened. I think in your shoes I would have felt most guilty if Lucy didn''t handle it all well, which of course she did as usual! I hope things are feeling better now

QT: oh you poor thing, that sounds awful. I hope they pass soon and no stent is needed. I hope everyone is taking care of you well!

Been busy on my end since I took a few days off to combine with Veteran''s Day (day off from work). C still seems very attached to me and I think DH is getting offended. But what does he expect, I''m with her 100% of my free time and even though I work, she knows I''m the primary person. Do your DH''s have designated time with your little ones (like story time or bath time)? Because we dont'' have anything structured and I wonder if it''d help...especially if I purposefully leave the room then b/c if she sees me she''s whiney and leans towards me or somehow tricks whoever is with her to come to the room I''m in..

 

[puffy]

janine i think what C is going through is totally normal, and i''m sure that it''s hard for your DH, but just tell him to give it time, and before he knows it, she''ll be running to him all the time. my DH works all the time, so he doesn''t get to spend too much time with B, but when ever he does, B loves it. and he will even ask me to take him to daddy''s work or ask to bring DH lunch or something.

qt hope you are doing better!! i''m sure when your DH sees M at disneyland having a blast, it will definitely be worth it for him to go back and he will enjoy it. if we were local, i told DH that we would be going all the time. haha. i would like to take B to disneyworld next year, but not sure how that will work out with a baby. how is M doing? haha, it''s funny when they start to feed themselves, it''s such a mess! i have a million pics of B with food all over him and everywhere.

tacori that''s great that you are feeling more prepared about the GREs. so cute T was saying thank you to the doc. let''s hope the pedi was right about the tantrums. B still has his tantrums, but it''s not as CRAZY anymore. he has them, but knows i will not give in, so they don''t last quite as long. best of luck to you tomorrow!!! you''ll do great!

snlee happy early birthday!!! hope you have a wonderful day. are you guys doing anything fun or special?

lili nope, no induction scheduled. but my ob agreed that if i reach 40 weeks, then she''ll induce if that was what i wanted. my mom is actually is going to take B to their place. i said that they can stay here, but she prefers to be in her place, which i understand. and she''s got a ton of B''s favorite toys there, so i''m hoping he''ll be ok. i''m just worried that i won''t see him for a few days and he''ll think that i left again. J is so funny with the pimple thing!! she much be talking up a storm now huh?

 

[AllieLuv83]

Sorry to threadjack but I have a question for curly! First of all I hope your babe is feeling better. Poor thing!

But I remember reading that you used some METHODS to ensure that you had a girl. I know if it not fool proof but I would like to push the odds in our favor. Could you please point me in the right direction?

Thanks

 

[jas]

Hi all. Holy crap a lot of you are pregnant. Congrats!

 

[Burk]

puffy~Yea, lack of sleep is killing me! I so wish I could take a nap! So exciting about your maternity pics. Are you using the same photographer you used with your first pics? I finally caved and bought some maternity clothes last week because I''m so tired of what I have and I''m more uncomfortable with this pregnancy because I''m carrying him SUPER low. I need to email our photographer but I''m probably going to do mine the second week in January.

QT~Since T has been struggling with her ashtma and sleep she has been attached to her binky. I feel bad because I know it comforts her, but I really want it to be for sleep only...so hard. It''ll be cold here for the next few months. We are considering breaking ground end of January or February if the weather is cooperating. Spring weather usually returns the end of February so then or March at the latest. M is too little to understand about the baby and quite frankly T is borderline too little to really get it too. She does the best she can. Good luck with the spoon. It''s messy at first but she''ll get it!

Tacori~It sometimes drives me crazy that T is so naughty for me at times and doesn''t even TRY that stuff at school. Today on the way to school she was telling me about her friend Ethan in class who had to go to mout (timeout

) because he wasn''t listening to Miss Sue. I asked if she ever goes to timeout and she said "no mommy. Tayva no mout." What about me?!?!? I want the girl who doesn''t have to go to timeout!!!

Sounds like your T was her usual charming self at her appt. Did you end up asking your pedi about binkies?

snlee~Thanks! She loves that broder of hers now, but I''m sure jealousy will kick in when he gets here and she''ll change her mind!

Be back to finish up.....

 

[curlygirl]

Date: 11/13/2009 11:39:21 AM
Author: AllieLuv83
Sorry to threadjack but I have a question for curly! First of all I hope your babe is feeling better. Poor thing!

But I remember reading that you used some METHODS to ensure that you had a girl. I know if it not fool proof but I would like to push the odds in our favor. Could you please point me in the right direction?

Thanks

Allie, it seems like it was a lifetime ago when I conceived my first child so forgive me if my memory isn't so great! I know that I was trying to change the pH of my CM so I remember taking cranberry pills and also think I took calcium supplements. I also BD every day up to but not including day of ovulation and then also did it the day after ovulation. It was always missionary style and I did "jump and dump" (basically run to the bathroom immediately after to flush out the fast swimmers--sorry TMI!). I can't remember much else but if you look back at the early pages of the TTC thread, I know I posted my chart as an example and I may have shared some of my tips there. It definitely worked the first time, although it could have just been a fluke as well. With #2 there was no planning or preparation--just a one shot deal at around 11dpo and I ended up with another gorgeous girl. You can also search the web for gender swaying methods and see what you come up with. I can't guarantee any of these techniques so try not to place too much stock in them. The real goal is to get pregnant so relax and enjoy it!

 

[Jas12]

Curly--oh gosh, what a stressful afternoon. You are not vain at all. I would totally be feeling that same way! And no judgement about the cab ride with no car seat. I found myself in a similar semi-emergency situation while traveling in europe with Co and we had to hop in a cab. I don''t think i ever felt more stressed out. but sometimes you have to do what you have to do!

Burk--good that you can still dig in January! So you''ll stay in your place then until the new home is built? I wouldn''t worry too much about the paci--sometimes you just have to let things go for sanity''s sake!


Allie--my friend used a site called In gender to try to concieve a girl. She pointed me toward it when i mentioned that if i was only going to have 2 kiddies i had a girl preference for #2. However, i looked at it briefly and realized that if i wasn''t willing to put in the work--which i quickly discovered i wasn''t--then i didn''t have a strong enough preference.

That said, there is no shortage of info on that site and it''s well organized into the different techniques .
My friend followed the instructions for ''the sway'' pretty closely but she still got her second boy

. The site goes over the stats for various methods so you can decide for yourself what to choose.

 

[Burk]

lili~I didn't do mat pics with T so I'm a little nervous....just feels kinda weird. Oh well. I think I'll regret it if I don't do it. I still need to figure out what we'll wear for our Christmas pics and figure out a way to bribe T to sit still!

Janine~T went through a similar phase as C is where she much preferred me to DH (to anyone for that matter) but she got over it. I spend way more time with her (only work PT and DH works CONSTANTLY) so I was concerned she may always be attached at my hip, but nope.

jas~Hey there!!

Jas12~We'll see what the weather does but it's been unusually nice (60's) here all week so if it stays mild January is an option. We are planning to stay in our current home (unless it sells) until the new house is built....maybe not, though. I have a rant in a minute regarding this!

Thanks for the reassurance about the binky....I go back and forth and back and forth.

Not baby related but need to get this out. So, like I was just saying to Jas12, we've been going through some random house stuff. We had some people really interested in our house and so we were looking into possibilities for where we would go. DH's good friend is a VP of a bank and said they had a couple great forclosures we could look at and then maybe buy one of them, move in and fix it up as an investment property for inbetween this house an the new house we're going to build. Well, we looked at one yesterday that DH thinks we need (that's right he said NEED....such a great investment yada yada yada) to buy. Catch is, our current house did not sell and this house is big and needs A LOT of work. It would be a great investment and it's in a great neighborhood (actually right across the street from great friends of ours) but it would probably mean we wouldn't be building any time soon. Ahhhhh. I would get the bigger house with better layout I want, but be giving up so much of the building your own house stuff. We probably wouldn't build our new house for 2-3 years then and by that time I'd probably have to redesign.

Thoughts? Tacori I know your DH does this for a living....what do you think? We own a couple investment properties but living in one that's 3200 square feet of "I need help" in addition to 2000 square feet to finish in the basement is a little scary!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Hey mamas. I survived the GRE. Feel like I should get a bumper sticker. Haha. People said it wouldn''t be so bad...I thought it was bad! But I am not a test taker so I found the whole process annoying. It was LOOOONG. My eyes were starting to hurt but I scared in the same range I expected (from my practice tests). I know I tried my best and worked hard. And now it is over! Yay! So on to finish my personal statement. Now I am getting pressure from my dad to apply to another program. *sigh* We''ll see.

Snlee, Happy birthday!!!

Curly, I know you got my back too

Hope you are feeling better today.

Lili, they wrote down 33.5" for her 18 month measurements to obviously that is wrong. I know she didn''t shrink! So who knows what they were. My dad said it is a good gauge but is usually wrong anyways. My DH is 6''1" so he towers over me too. We once had a neighbor that said we looked strange b/c of our height difference

He was a really odd man so I wasn''t too offended.

Janine, T went through a phase where she was really attached to me. I think we had a lot of outside influences in our case though. Except for that period she has always been a daddy''s girl which sometimes bothers *me*. But she is so little I know she isn''t trying to hurt my feelings. We don''t have set times but he does usually do bedtime.

Puffy, I guess lack of verbal communication is the major cause. Still she is SO stubborn I doubt they will decline anytime soon. I can hope though!

Burk, I did ask him and he said not to even worry. I guess we are FARRR away from any concern

I am relieved. He did say to use it for bedtime/nap time only but that it was 100% normal for her to still need the comfort. As for the investment buying foreclosures are awesome. Just don''t be disillusioned. Make sure you add in closing costs for YOUR loan, closing costs and RE fees for when you sell it (just in case), and repairs. Since you will be living there that will cut down on out of pocket expenses. Also your repairs will be higher. DH budgets $10K for COSMETIC changes only and his homes are never more than 2,000 sq ft. How old is the house? Does it need a new roof? New furnace? New a/c? Remember you are buying it as is. They are a lot of work so you need to make sure you are up for it and are willing to put your dream house on hold (which may be a plus b/c it will give you more time to figure out exactly what you want).

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Q - I am so glad to hear that you are starting to feel better. My husband had kidney stones before and it was awful. Spent an afternoon in the ER and another day on the couch in pain.

Tacori - Yay for a good appointment for T and for finishing the GRE!

Curly - Awwww, poor baby

I do not think you are vain for taking her to a plastic surgeon and I''d probably do the same. I know how it is wanting your child to remain so perfect. James is so reckless and isn''t scared of anything. He tripped over his own feet once and fell face first into a table. There was blood since he bit his lower lip in the process but he was fine. Gave me a heart attack though!

Lili - The yard is a great way for James to expel his never-ending supply of energy

Janine - James has attachment issues too, but with my DH. He used to be a major mommy''s boy but when I was laid up all summer with the blood clot I was unable to carry him or take him anywhere by myself so he became attached to daddy. If DH leaves the room James will run after him and if you hold him back he''ll throw himself on the floor with crocodile tears

If DH has to leave then I''ll take James to another room and DH will slip out so he doesn''t notice until it''s too late. I also try to spend as much time as possible with him now that I''m back on my feet - figuratively and literally - and that has helped. We don''t really have separate time with James but DH does night duty and usually does weekday mornings on his own since DH takes him to daycare. Eventually, when my leg is more fully healed, I will start taking James in the a.m. so I''ll have my mornings back with James to myself. We have dinner as a family every night and read together before bed.

Jas -

Hey woman!

 

[puffy]

jas hi!!! how are the boys?

snlee happy birthday!

tacori glad that the GREs are out of the way. i''m sure as soon as T becomes more and more verbal, she''ll throw less tantrums. when do you find out if you have been accepted? any cute/funny T stories?

burk hope you and T got some much needed sleep!! yeah, we''re using the same photographer. it''ll be so fun to do maternity pics with the little ones in them, i think. i''m going shopping tomorrow for some maternity clothes, and i just know that i will end up buying more non maternity stuff than maternity stuff. haha. tough situation with the house. if you guys did get that investment property, would it really delay building your home for 2-3 years. but then again, 2-3 years doesn''t seem THAT long.

hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

 

[msb700]

hi everyone! we''re back home..home sweet home!! it was a nice quick vacation, but its good to be back! we (khalid and i) are both exhausted! he caught a cold the last day there and is now recovering and sleeping a ton (which is great coz that means i get to sleep a ton too!)..im exhausted all the time..i keep feeling this pressure all the time on my stomach..like ive been sucking it in for too long..does that make sense? is this normal?

can''t catch up now with everyone, but just wanted to give a quick shout out too:

Curly: please please please dont feel that way!!! u havent done anything and ur a WONDERFUL..no ..SUPER mom to two amazing girls! like u said, this could have happened anywhere and ur little girl is such a trooper!

burk: sorry T is still not back to her total self

quite a dilemma bout the house...not quite sure what to say as i have no experience in this field, nor can i can comment on the market in ur area, but im sure ull get some great advice and make up ur mind soon

Tacori: yay on finishing the exam! phew..u must be relieved!

QT: eeeeeeeek! hope ur feeling better now...

sorry, will have to come back later to catch up with everyone else...this time around im just feeling so tireeeed all the time...and so ..icky!!...

oh..and in K news..he starts pre-school tomorrow!!! waaaaaah!!!! i just KNOW ill be crying my eyes out..sigh...

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Burk, also make sure the title is clean and you take in account of any back taxes or liens. Our latest had $7K in back taxes. Not a big deal but you need to be aware to make sure you have a large enough spread.

msb, glad you are home. Sorry K has a cold. Good luck with his first day of preschool!

Puffy, I don''t find out until March/April.

Diva, hope you are enjoying your new house!