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[Enerchi]

OOps... I forgot to ask about the dresscode - did the friend mention to you what it was? If you know what it is supposed to be - I'd make a HUGE point of going totally opposite to that!!! Who is this nut to determine how other GROWN women are to dress, to attend an event in honour of someone else? Holy COW this MOH is one seriously determined lady!

( I think I'm identifying some 'rebel' behaviour within myself!!)

 

[texaskj]

WTH!?!?!
I'd bring a fruit salad and something else just to piss her off.
And a dress code??? It's bridal shower #2, not a black-and-white ball for pete's sake.

 

[movie zombie]

what does the bride think of all this?!

1-make your own fruit salad or other, your choice.
2-when asked why you didn't make her recipe, tell her you will when its her wedding shower
3-make whatever you really wanted to make and take it as well...make a point to present it to the bride.
4-wear what ever the shell you want...unless the bride asks anything of you, its no-go in my book.

 

[stargurl78]

I agree with the others that you should use your own fruit salad recipe and bring a different dish as well.

The idea of a dress code at a friggen shower is ridiculous.

 

[daintyG]

I guess I'm in the minority here thinking you should prepare the fruit salad according to the recipe you were given and show up only in MOH-approved attire... NOT!!

Sorry you have to deal with that. I hope you can get through the shower and the wedding without much more micromanaging drama.

 

[JewelFreak]

Hey, wear clean jeans & a nice shirt to the shower, fake her out!

 

[gem_anemone]

what does the bride think of all this?!

This is crazy too, but we bridesmaids were told by the MOH not to talk to the bride about the plans for the bachelorette party and showers. After the whole scheduling fiasco (before the fruit salad thing) I went to the bride because I thought the MOH was disregarding my schedule conflicts and then that email about not telling her things came out.....so honestly I have no idea how much planning the bride has been involved with....

OOps... I forgot to ask about the dresscode - did the friend mention to you what it was? If you know what it is supposed to be - I'd make a HUGE point of going totally opposite to that!!! Who is this nut to determine how other GROWN women are to dress, to attend an event in honour of someone else? Holy COW this MOH is one seriously determined lady!

( I think I'm identifying some 'rebel' behaviour within myself!!)

The dress code is "sun dresses and vintage jewelry". Which is totally weird because it's not like people can just pull vintage jewelry out of thin air! I also found out that it was "optional" dress code, which is better, but my friend brought up the point that even if it is "optional" she wouldn't feel right showing up not wearing what was suggested.

I have heard of bridezilla, but NEVER in my life maid-of-honor-zilla!

 

[aviastar]

Weeeeelllll...fruit salad=cray cray, but have you actually gotten a hold of one of the invites yet? Dress codes for showers are over the top, but I did know someone who had a Breakfast At Tiffany's themed shower (her name was Holly!) and everyone wore little black dresses. Or everyone who ended up in the pictures (mostly family, really), but I couldn't attend so I don't know how universal or "required" this was.

Just sayin' maybe it's themed. Which is still trying a bit too hard for a shower, in my opionion, and it's something that should be passed around by word of mouth, not stated on the invite.

Weddings bring out the best and worst in people; I was a MOH about a year ago and one of the other bridesmaids went crazy- backing out of plans at the last minute, committing and then saying she couldn't pay for things so others had to pay for her, making snide comments, it was awful. But it sounds like this girl, never having been engaged or married, is jealous or insecure about it. That was the problem in my case, too. She was thrilled for the bride, but felt bad about herself and it came out in funny ways. Really, while you can't/don't have to/shouldn't tolerate rude behavior ever, I just felt bad for her more than anything. I dealt with it without involving the bride; she knew there was some friction, and this girl was causing her some trouble, too, but mostly I just handled her cause it's not worth stressing my BFF out anymore than she already was and we had a good laugh about all of it after the wedding was over.

But yes, by all means, make your own salad and wear jeans!

 

[marymm]

Yanno, the bride chose her maid of honor - the maid of honor is in charge of this shower - if it were me, I'd do the fruit salad (but I'd eyeball the proffered recipe to see the main components - mostly fruit and a bit of lemon juice? - fruit and some kind of creamy dressing? - whatever it is, I'd go with the "flavor" or "appearance" of that recipe but still do it my own way with my own recipe) and for the sake of pictures I would definitely wear some kind of summer dress... sure, the MOH is over the top, but for the bride's sake I'd make nice for this shower.

 

[Skippy123]

Yanno, the bride chose her maid of honor - the maid of honor is in charge of this shower - if it were me, I'd do the fruit salad (but I'd eyeball the proffered recipe to see the main components - mostly fruit and a bit of lemon juice? - fruit and some kind of creamy dressing? - whatever it is, I'd go with the "flavor" or "appearance" of that recipe but still do it my own way with my own recipe) and for the sake of pictures I would definitely wear some kind of summer dress... sure, the MOH is over the top, but for the bride's sake I'd make nice for this shower.

I would do ^^ the above. I of course would complain to my husband about the wacky MOH, or complain here! People like the MOH drive me insane so the less contact I have with these types of people, the better! I am sorry, but it will all soon be over. I hope the bride has a lovely wedding though! sometimes you give someone a little power and they go way overboard (or a bit insane like this MOH)!

 

[AGBF]

Yanno, the bride chose her maid of honor - the maid of honor is in charge of this shower - if it were me, I'd do the fruit salad (but I'd eyeball the proffered recipe to see the main components - mostly fruit and a bit of lemon juice? - fruit and some kind of creamy dressing? - whatever it is, I'd go with the "flavor" or "appearance" of that recipe but still do it my own way with my own recipe) and for the sake of pictures I would definitely wear some kind of summer dress... sure, the MOH is over the top, but for the bride's sake I'd make nice for this shower.

I would do ^^ the above. I of course would complain to my husband about the wacky MOH, or complain here! People like the MOH drive me insane so the less contact I have with these types of people, the better! I am sorry, but it will all soon be over. I hope the bride has a lovely wedding though! sometimes you give someone a little power and they go way overboard (or a bit insane like this MOH)!

Oh, Skippy, I knew you were going to say this before I read your posting! And, of course, you are right. I just had to let out my anger and chagrin in my own posting(s) before settling down. Why does everyone have to be so darned difficult? (Has everyone seen the movie, "Bridesmaids"? That certainly puts Maids of Honor on the Crazy map!)

Deb

 

[gem_anemone]

Just so you all know I'm definitely going to dress according to the dress code. I like others have said I don't want to ruin anything for the bride (who is awesome). BUT who knows what I would have worn had I not been told the dress code beforehand! Probably a dress, but not necessarily a "sun" dress and I would have made no effort to switch up my jewelry.

As of now I'm not planning to make her fruit salad. Way too much sugar in it and blah fruits. I guess if it were supposed to substitute as the desert that would make sense? Hmm... that's one thing that I didn't think of until now. I assume there will be cake or cookies or something, but now I'm questioning what I actually know about this shower....

 

[Gypsy]

Just so you all know I'm definitely going to dress according to the dress code. I like others have said I don't want to ruin anything for the bride (who is awesome). BUT who knows what I would have worn had I not been told the dress code beforehand! Probably a dress, but not necessarily a "sun" dress and I would have made no effort to switch up my jewelry.

As of now I'm not planning to make her fruit salad. Way too much sugar in it and blah fruits. I guess if it were supposed to substitute as the desert that would make sense? Hmm... that's one thing that I didn't think of until now. I assume there will be cake or cookies or something, but now I'm questioning what I actually know about this shower....

Honey, even if it IS for dessert adding nicer fruit and less PROCESSED sugar isn't bad. You can always do unprocessed sugar. I dress my fruit salads with this:

Juice from a sweet orange (actually squeeze the orange) and insides of one passion fruit (seeds and all). Then you put it through a sieve to catch all the seeds and dress the salad with it. It's super easy and I've never had a complaint.

 

[gem_anemone]

Just so you all know I'm definitely going to dress according to the dress code. I like others have said I don't want to ruin anything for the bride (who is awesome). BUT who knows what I would have worn had I not been told the dress code beforehand! Probably a dress, but not necessarily a "sun" dress and I would have made no effort to switch up my jewelry.

As of now I'm not planning to make her fruit salad. Way too much sugar in it and blah fruits. I guess if it were supposed to substitute as the desert that would make sense? Hmm... that's one thing that I didn't think of until now. I assume there will be cake or cookies or something, but now I'm questioning what I actually know about this shower....

Honey, even if it IS for dessert adding nicer fruit and less PROCESSED sugar isn't bad. You can always do unprocessed sugar. I dress my fruit salads with this:

Juice from a sweet orange (actually squeeze the orange) and insides of one passion fruit (seeds and all). Then you put it through a sieve to catch all the seeds and dress the salad with it. It's super easy and I've never had a complaint.

Thanks for the tip! I think like what a previous poster said is I'll try to make something similar to what she wanted, but make it slightly healthier.

 

[sonnyjane]

Just so you all know I'm definitely going to dress according to the dress code. I like others have said I don't want to ruin anything for the bride (who is awesome). BUT who knows what I would have worn had I not been told the dress code beforehand! Probably a dress, but not necessarily a "sun" dress and I would have made no effort to switch up my jewelry.

As of now I'm not planning to make her fruit salad. Way too much sugar in it and blah fruits. I guess if it were supposed to substitute as the desert that would make sense? Hmm... that's one thing that I didn't think of until now. I assume there will be cake or cookies or something, but now I'm questioning what I actually know about this shower....

Honey, even if it IS for dessert adding nicer fruit and less PROCESSED sugar isn't bad. You can always do unprocessed sugar. I dress my fruit salads with this:

Juice from a sweet orange (actually squeeze the orange) and insides of one passion fruit (seeds and all). Then you put it through a sieve to catch all the seeds and dress the salad with it. It's super easy and I've never had a complaint.

Thanks for the tip! I think like what a previous poster said is I'll try to make something similar to what she wanted, but make it slightly healthier.

Well I guess that's the *nice* thing to do, but I would probably want to make it very different. Know why? Because let's say you make a similar salad to the recipe and it turns out amazing...I already have an image of someone saying "oh YUM this fruit salad is great!" and her piping in with "Thanks! It's my own recipe" and taking all the credit lol.

 

[gem_anemone]

Well I guess that's the *nice* thing to do, but I would probably want to make it very different. Know why? Because let's say you make a similar salad to the recipe and it turns out amazing...I already have an image of someone saying "oh YUM this fruit salad is great!" and her piping in with "Thanks! It's my own recipe" and taking all the credit lol.

UGGGGGGHHHH I guess there is always something to think about LOL!

 

[Gypsy]

One way to make it healthier is to use honey instead of sugar. It's not healthy, but it is better than processed white sugar. It's still sugar. But honey is sweeter and so I find that I use a lot less when I sweeten with it. Plus it does at least have some nutrients in it that sugar lacks.

 

[gem_anemone]

I wanted to update and tell everyone that after all that the MOH didn't even show up to the shower.

 

[sonnyjane]

I wanted to update and tell everyone that after all that the MOH didn't even show up to the shower.

Gah!!!!!

 

[Snicklefritz]

I wanted to update and tell everyone that after all that the MOH didn't even show up to the shower.

Gah!!!!!

Did she at least have a good excuse?

 

[StacylikesSparkles]

You're kidding, right?! To the shower that she was throwing?! What the hell?!

 

[Gypsy]

lol lol lol lol

 

[StacylikesSparkles]

Did you wear what you wanted or at the very least, make your OWN fruit salad?

 

[AGBF]

I wanted to update and tell everyone that after all that the MOH didn't even show up to the shower.

More shower details, please! How was everyone dressed? Was it "sundresses" and "vintage jewelry" and, if so, how were those interpreted by the guests? How was the food (and of what did it consist)? What recipe did you use for your fruit salad and how was it received? How was the maid of honor's absence received? How did the bride seem to enjoy the shower? Please tell all!

Deb/AGBF

 

[JewelFreak]

I wanted to update and tell everyone that after all that the MOH didn't even show up to the shower.

Nooooo!!! I can't believe it! Or maybe, yes I can. What a crackpot. After all the hassle she put you through! I hope she turns up at the wedding! Nutzo.

--- Laurie

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

LOL! Just when you think you've heard everything.......

Hope everyone enjoyed your salad!

cheers--Sharon

 

[minousbijoux]

Don't leave us hanging, tell us more!

At least how was your fruit salad?!!

 

[hoover]

Wow....

So are you guys taking bets to see if she shows up to the wedding?

Hope your fruit salad (and/or the up-yours-to-the-MOH dish) was a hit

 

[texaskj]

We need more info!!!

 

[Enerchi]

Hopefully the nutbag drowned in a huge vat of fruit salad, while wearing her vintage gown and shouting orders to someone!

So, gem-anemone, what's the update??? We really want to hear *this* one!!