Wedding my collage....so far :)

[emeraldlover1]

Date: 11/3/2008 10:17:23 PM
Author: meresal

Date: 11/3/2008 6:11:57 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
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come on you guys, seriously nothing? you can say it sucks, just say SOMETHING! lol

Smurfy, you asked for peoples opinions. Maybe no one was saying anything at first, because they didn''t want to say anything mean.

You should do whatever you want. It''s your wedding. You don''t have to have theme, and you like the colors so use them. Everyone here was trying to help, because that is what we ALL ask for when posting.

''i don''t think it would have killed you to thrown in something nice to offset the criticism because i know i must have at least one thing that looks fine but that is something i have grown to accept with this site .'' - IMO, this comment was totally uncalled for.

ETA: I think that EL1 had some great ideas to help you blend the two feels and really tried to help explain what everyone else was trying to say.

Thanks Mer...I tried.

Smurf...you are right, people probably won''t remember a lot of your choices. However, people do remember what they hated and what they loved. I remember so many details about my aunts wedding at she got married 15 years ago. Yes, you and your fiance have to love it but if it looks out of place people will remember. This forum is great to ask for non biased opinions because that is what you will get. No one in my family or my fiance''s family has said that they don''t like my ideas. And why would they, it would just be rude. I know you are excited about all the thought you put into this stuff but we are all in the same boat. No one is intentionally trying to hurt your feelings they just want to help.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 11/3/2008 9:15:28 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 11/3/2008 8:49:32 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
there really seems to be confusion about the colors. it is these 2 colors. the dress shown is just one of the styles the girls will be wearing but it will be in this dark green color. the website has the wrong color. does this seriously look that bad? everyone weve shown it to has liked this color scheme....the color on the cake is just photoshopped, it really doesn''t have to be that color (it was originally red when i saw it). as for the chairs i mentioned that i am going to try to get either white or green chair covers. i''m open for centerpiece suggestions still, we''re aren''t cemented on using the bamboo. the venues are more traditional but i really don''t think that makes a difference, it''s not like there''s a whole lot of venues to choose from in fargo in the first place and a lot of people here mix the two styles so i guess i don''t see what the big deal is with that. please keep in mind this isn''t some fancy upscale place that we are having are wedding at, it''s flippin fargo nd. rent the movie if you must but people here just ...don''t...care. i''m not trying to sound defensive but more trying to explain why that''s not a big deal (also why there will be a cash bar on the side). weddings here are more about the couple and having a good time than trying to impress everybody with decor and what have you. ok that is all i have to say.

Okay, I really don''t think anybody on this board has a wedding to impress people with decor. The weddings we see on PS are often intimate and beautiful expressions of the couple.

And yes, the problem is with the colours. Italia explained it wonderfully. The warm and cool tones don''t work.

mini-threadjack: Italia, when I get married, I really hope you''re around! I love your plan for a Christmas themed wedding. I may steal some ideas and have a little Christmas party with my friends. Mmmmm....eggnog.

Princess, I will be more than happy to give out ideas when your planning...so long as you don''t flip a lid on a me when/if I say something you disagree with....

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Date: 11/3/2008 10:58:44 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

Date: 11/3/2008 9:15:28 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 11/3/2008 8:49:32 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
there really seems to be confusion about the colors. it is these 2 colors. the dress shown is just one of the styles the girls will be wearing but it will be in this dark green color. the website has the wrong color. does this seriously look that bad? everyone weve shown it to has liked this color scheme....the color on the cake is just photoshopped, it really doesn''t have to be that color (it was originally red when i saw it). as for the chairs i mentioned that i am going to try to get either white or green chair covers. i''m open for centerpiece suggestions still, we''re aren''t cemented on using the bamboo. the venues are more traditional but i really don''t think that makes a difference, it''s not like there''s a whole lot of venues to choose from in fargo in the first place and a lot of people here mix the two styles so i guess i don''t see what the big deal is with that. please keep in mind this isn''t some fancy upscale place that we are having are wedding at, it''s flippin fargo nd. rent the movie if you must but people here just ...don''t...care. i''m not trying to sound defensive but more trying to explain why that''s not a big deal (also why there will be a cash bar on the side). weddings here are more about the couple and having a good time than trying to impress everybody with decor and what have you. ok that is all i have to say.

Okay, I really don''t think anybody on this board has a wedding to impress people with decor. The weddings we see on PS are often intimate and beautiful expressions of the couple.

And yes, the problem is with the colours. Italia explained it wonderfully. The warm and cool tones don''t work.

mini-threadjack: Italia, when I get married, I really hope you''re around! I love your plan for a Christmas themed wedding. I may steal some ideas and have a little Christmas party with my friends. Mmmmm....eggnog.

Princess, I will be more than happy to give out ideas when your planning...so long as you don''t flip a lid on a me when/if I say something you disagree with....

Can I jump on the band wagon?? Ital!! Need advice on silver vs. chapagne vs. green for my bridemaids dresses! Please see my post!!!

 

[oobiecoo]

Smurfy... you asked for opinions. No one probably replied right away because of stuff like this. A true friend will tell you if your new haircut looks horrible or if your wedding stuff doesn't *go* together. Most people would just smile and say "thats nice". Would you get rid of your friend just because you didn't like their honesty? This board is for anonymous honesty and that is what you asked for and have been given.

If I remember correctly, this isn't the first time you have *threatened* to stop posting. If you want to do that, fine... but pricescope is an invaluable resource and a great group of men and women.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

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[FrekeChild]

For what it''s worth Italia, I thought that the green and gold idea was fabulous--with the description you were writing, I could see it in my head. I was trying to think of other colors that would go well with both of the greens, but apparently it would have been a wasted effort.

I think there could have been a bit of potential there with some tweaking, but I don''t think she wants to hear it.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

i will continue to lurk for ideas once in a blue moon but no, i will not be posting after this. it''s creating way more unwanted stress than i want or need especially after having moved to a new city. and i do have plenty of friends who are blunt like me and have told me about some parts of the wedding planning they do not think work well which is why i believe them when they tell me the colors are fine and also because they are my bffs and have been honest with me since we were in 4th grade. bye.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Smurfy, you're cutting your nose off to spite your face...and no one will beg you stay...it's ultimately your loss...sadly.

Freke, I love planning weddings--if I could redo my career, I would for sure do that! When I planned my own wedding I indulged myself big time...I overlooked no expense...and went totally out of my way to brainstorm with friends and family and professionals. Not everything I wanted worked, not everything was cohesive, somethings down right bombed. But in the end it was amazing...and fun...and worth all the advice I sought out. It makes me sad that she wasn't more open. We could have all colaborated and she would have been happy...but it would have been budget friendly and Fargo Winter chic for sure!!!

 

[LostSapphire]

Date: 11/3/2008 11:16:28 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
i will continue to lurk for ideas once in a blue moon but no, i will not be posting after this. it's creating way more unwanted stress than i want or need especially after having moved to a new city. and i do have plenty of friends who are blunt like me and have told me about some parts of the wedding planning they do not think work well which is why i believe them when they tell me the colors are fine and also because they are my bffs and have been honest with me since we were in 4th grade. bye.

How sad.

So in the space of 6 hours, you've gone from asking for an opinion, to this kind of negativity.

I've read all the posters suggestions and there are a LOT of really good ones. But then again, you don't have to take on any of those suggestions. You are welcome to ignore them all and go with your first instincts.

Your reaction in the last couple of hours has been disproportionate to this discussion: it's about a colour board, not a plan for World Peace.

So it seems like something else is going on. I am so sorry that your job didn't work out. Perhaps your disappointment there is showing up in your reactions here.

You seem to have a lot of things going on right now, with the move, the new job, the engagement, and wedding planning. Maybe take it slow and easy on some of the planning. Things will sort themselves out.

Give people a chance, Smurfy. They're trying to help.

LS

 

[sparklz]

Smurfy,
It looks like you have had a rough day….lots of stress from planning and tomato sauce under the fridge to boot! I hope tomorrow is better for you.

I have to admit, I don’t like the sage/mint and dark green together. Not because I think they look terrible together, but because I think they are kind of boring. I think you can definitely use the colors, but there needs to be some texture or pattern in the men’s vests. I did a quick search of Men’s Warehouse and came up with the samples below. I am sure if you look around you will find lots and lots of different textured styles to choose from in the color you want.

I personally like the fern pattern to go with dark green dresses. Plus the yellow/gold color in the diamonds kind of matches your venue colors. You could then use dark green, light yellow and cream as your color palate. I would go with cream table cloths and chair covers and dark green cloth napkins. Your venue is very green already, so I would try to keep a fair amount of neutral color to balance everything out. The center pieces could be large glass vases with glass marbles in various shades of green in the bottom, water and cream floating candles….or you could have cream color pillar candles with yellow and green ribbon bows tied around them (use wide green ribbon and thin yellow ribbon together to make the bow). I would personally choose a more traditional cake, but if you love the scrabble cake, go for it and think about making your wedding a scrabble theme wedding. You could do scrabble invitations, and scrabble centerpieces…the possibilities are really endless.

You have lots of time to figure things out, so don’t get too stressed, this is supposed to be fun!

 

[Sha]

I also didnt'' post initially because I didn''t get a good sense of the colours/feel you were going for in the collage, and I wasn''t really feeling the dark green colour, honestly. I think the girls here are just trying to be honest - which you asked for. Just because it''s not what you wanted to hear, doesn''t mean it''s unhelpful advice. And just because your best friends told you the colours are fine - doesn''t mean that other people won''t have different, equally valid, and honest opinions. I know it''s hard to take critical advice about something you worked really hard on, but I think it''s really meant in the best spirit - to make your wedding the BEST and most BEAUTIFUL it can be.

 

[cbs102]

Date: 11/3/2008 10:18:20 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
FI''s opinion:

Screw what everyone says. It''s just colors. It''s about us getting married; not whether people think those 2 greens go together. Everyone on that site gets way too caught up with their details. It''s not worth it if it''s going to make you feel like crap about something you and i both spent a lot of time contemplating.

Yes he''s seen the site and I think I agree with him. Who gives a rat''s butt if people don''t like our colors or have to pay for their drinks if they don''t like beer. They are going to be there because they love us and 10 years from now are not going to remember if our greens completely complimented each other. I wanted to show my collage because I was excited. I had thought about refraining from posting anymore on here and now I am definitely sure. I''m going to plan for what me and fi want and that is it. It was nice knowing you ladies.

Smurfy,
I think YOU more than anyone get caught up with the details. every single day there is post after post of the tiny details of your wedding and life and you asking for OUR ADVICE on those details. if you don''t want to hear anyones opinion than why bother asking. you have been on this site- so you should know that we are all smart women with our own thoughts and ideas.

as for who caring -- you obviously do. you have been totally defensive and you are acting very childish. i literally can hear the violins playing a sad sad song in the background. get over it. be appreciative that you have an open and honest sound board for you MANY ideas and details.

 

[BeachRunner]

I''ve tried not to post, but I must put in my .02. People utilize this site for many reasons; general information, ideas, showing off jewelry/collections, advice, gathering people''s opinions, and the list can go on and on. We all subject ourselves to positive and negative comments, especially when we want honest answers. Who DOESN''T love positive comments, it makes you feel good about your choice, but constructive criticism is also very beneficial, and can be used to anyone''s advantage. In conclusion, you have to take the bad with the good, not only on Pricescope, but in everyday life. Life is way too short to get upset over other''s opinions.

 

[AllieLuv83]

Smurfy...ultimately I think you are a lot like me I ask for peoples opinions more as reassurance rather than honest opinions, I learned my lesson that if I am crazy about something to preface it by THIS IS SET IN STONE, I LOVE IT, PLEASE BE NICE, this way the ladies will give you things like "ohhh its pretty" and "it will be really nice". There are a ton of opinionated ladies on here and if you ask for honesty you get honesty. It seems to me like you wanted someone to tell you that its great and reassure you that it will look nice.

It''s personally not my cup of tea but I am sure it will look really nice on your wedding day...good luck with all your planning!

 

[princesss]

Date: 11/3/2008 10:58:44 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

Date: 11/3/2008 9:15:28 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 11/3/2008 8:49:32 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles

mini-threadjack: Italia, when I get married, I really hope you''re around! I love your plan for a Christmas themed wedding. I may steal some ideas and have a little Christmas party with my friends. Mmmmm....eggnog.

Princess, I will be more than happy to give out ideas when your planning...so long as you don''t flip a lid on a me when/if I say something you disagree with....

Italia: Woohoo! It''ll be a few years, so hopefully you remember you promised to help when the time comes, lol. But you''ve already helped me figure out what/how to do my hair (by avoiding things like, say, trying to do at-home colour over bleached hair), and I love the colour ideas you come up with. So I promise to keep an open mind.

 

[doodle]

Wow. Perhaps the cheese stands alone and I''m the only one who took that this way, but I thought the temper tantrum was highly uncalled for and rude. Smurfy, did you stop to consider the amount of time Italia and all the others took out of their lives to HELP you when you ASKED FOR feedback? The whole point of this site is to exchange ideas, information, and opinions, and you flipping out because everyone didn''t GUSH over your vision is, in my opinion, disrespectful to the members of this site who come on with the intention of helping and sharing, and it goes against everything PS strives to achieve by offering an outlet for creativity and learning.

Thanks to all the posters who contributed ideas for this thread. I thought there were some really good ones in there!

 

[cbs102]

Date: 11/4/2008 9:33:11 AM
Author: doodle
Wow. Perhaps the cheese stands alone and I''m the only one who took that this way, but I thought the temper tantrum was highly uncalled for and rude. Smurfy, did you stop to consider the amount of time Italia and all the others took out of their lives to HELP you when you ASKED FOR feedback? The whole point of this site is to exchange ideas, information, and opinions, and you flipping out because everyone didn''t GUSH over your vision is, in my opinion, disrespectful to the members of this site who come on with the intention of helping and sharing, and it goes against everything PS strives to achieve by offering an outlet for creativity and learning.

Thanks to all the posters who contributed ideas for this thread. I thought there were some really good ones in there!

you certainly DO NOT stand alone on this one. i agree with you 150%. this was nothing but a "praise me" thread and when she did not get what she wanted to hear..total temper tantrum...

I love to see and read the creativity on this site. i wish that it was more appreciated.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 11/4/2008 9:33:11 AM
Author: doodle
Wow. Perhaps the cheese stands alone and I'm the only one who took that this way, but I thought the temper tantrum was highly uncalled for and rude. Smurfy, did you stop to consider the amount of time Italia and all the others took out of their lives to HELP you when you ASKED FOR feedback? The whole point of this site is to exchange ideas, information, and opinions, and you flipping out because everyone didn't GUSH over your vision is, in my opinion, disrespectful to the members of this site who come on with the intention of helping and sharing, and it goes against everything PS strives to achieve by offering an outlet for creativity and learning.

Thanks to all the posters who contributed ideas for this thread. I thought there were some really good ones in there!

I think Smurfy felt no different than a bunch of other people on this site...when you put time and energy into something and it goes over like a lead balloon, it hurts. So, I don't blame her for having salty feelings--but where she got off course was that, nothing was a "personal" attack...but she turned it into one.

When I planned my wedding, my Mom told me I was only limited by my own creativity and that's so true....budget be damned, you can throw a million dollar wedding on a beer bottle budget no problem if you're open to listening, and willing to at least try. But if you're not willing to do those things, don't come here and waste our time. If you want kudos, call your Mom...if you want honest feedback, drop by Pricescope. It might not always be nice...but at least it's real.

As far as the winter themed wedding...I could have gone on and on for days. Everyone loves Christmas...so making the holiday into this wedding gala would have so much fun!!! Like, using ornaments for place cards...and naming the tables after classic Christmas movies, and making the seating chart in the style of a great big Santa's list...writing naughty or nice by peoples names! You could have mistle toe dotted around the room, and certainly over the new Mr. and Mrs! And little springs of holly berries and ivy tied into the bows on the chair backs. You could host a big candy table with all sorts of Christmas candies and candy canes that each person could stuff into little felt stocking for themself. You could have a cookies and milk table as guests are leaving... And your welcome gift for out of towners could be large boxes full of local information and snacks that are wrapped up like Christmas presents....

OMG, I want to get married again in the winter time!

 

[AllieLuv83]

This little Jewish girl always dreamed of winter wonderland themed wedding with christmas accents (don''t tell my mom but I loooove christmas) I am with you Italian I would do a winter wedding in a snap if the New England weather wasn''t so unpredictable in that season. I personally see it in frosty colors, icy blues, ivories, silvers, and I would love to see snow on the ground, it would make for such wonderfulpictures, I especially love wedding pictures when brides wear fur stoles!

 

[CNOS128]

Allie, i loooove Christmas too, even though I don''t celebrate it.

As soon as Italia posted about winter weddings I started dreaming about the wonderful ice blue, silver and sparkly decor one could have... I wish I''d thought of that before I''d put down all my deposits.

 

[BeachRunner]

**thinks about changing her autumn wedding to a Christmas wedding due to all the fabulous ideas!!**

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Maybe I could moonlight as a wedding planner who only does winter weddings...since that is my slower season at work...LOL

 

[doodle]

i love Christmas decorations, too, and I debated between doing a Christmas wedding and an October one (obviously, October won since I just got married, haha). It''s also a great time of year for brides on a budget because prices tend to be lower, and a lot of places are already somewhat decorated for the holidays, so you save money there, too, and everything''s always on sale. We literally would''ve cut our budget in half had we gotten married in December, but my husband didn''t want to because my birthday is December 15th, so he felt that was too many things competing in the same month. Works for me anyway--I already get enough of those combined "Happy birthday, Merry Christmas, etc" gifts! hostesswiththemostess.com has some really cute holiday ideas, too. i

that site!

 

[honey22]

Date: 11/4/2008 11:16:25 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Maybe I could moonlight as a wedding planner who only does winter weddings...since that is my slower season at work...LOL

Italia! You SO should. You really seem to have the knack and a great vision for stuff like this. I will be calling on you in a few months when it comes to throw my tables together.

Keep up the good work chicky, it may not have been appreciated in this thread, but I have noticed that you are always on hand to give advice and suggestions, and this is what I love about PS, there is always someone to help you out and be honest.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 11/4/2008 3:28:48 PM
Author: honey22

Date: 11/4/2008 11:16:25 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Maybe I could moonlight as a wedding planner who only does winter weddings...since that is my slower season at work...LOL

Italia! You SO should. You really seem to have the knack and a great vision for stuff like this. I will be calling on you in a few months when it comes to throw my tables together.

Keep up the good work chicky, it may not have been appreciated in this thread, but I have noticed that you are always on hand to give advice and suggestions, and this is what I love about PS, there is always someone to help you out and be honest.

I hope Smurfy comes back around...soon. She will be the first to admit that she doesn''t really ever appreciate my view point...but I still think she''s an interesting chick. I just wish she would have maybe taken a breather and not totally quit PS...esspecially with her entire life in a big transition. Shucks.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

You are right, I tend to overact but I never have regrets. Yes I should have put a disclaimer that I was looking for support but whatever, it''s too late now. That first sample sparklz posted IS the vest style and color we picked but apparently that didnt show through. im sorry i offended people but in turn i too felt really attacked and on an especially crappy day to boot. here is my last attempt at getting the RIGHT color of the dress on here but i have a feeling it really doesnt matter.

 

[oobiecoo]

Smurfy, you asked for both good and bad and that is what you got. If you had posted asking for compliments then we would have given you that as well. We''re just trying to help a sister out!

The new green you posted does look like it would go better with the vests. I know you really like the bamboo... but what about a different container? I think you could get something slightly fancier and that would help the bamboo mesh with the rest of the wedding. Maybe those tall glass cylinders and submerge the bamboo in them? The tea lights would bounce light off of it really nicely. The green cake could also be turned to white or cream with only a green band around the bottom. You have some great ideas but a few minor tweaks would really bring your wedding scheme together. It takes many brides MONTHS to get their colors/dresses/decor together so its always a good idea to stay open to new ideas since its still early in the game for you.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Smurfy...it''s okay, I think I can speak for a lot of us when we say, it happens to the best of us.

But, I also think that most of our advice still stands.

I simply love the color of your BM dresses for a winter wedding, and I think it will make more of an impact if you went with a gold vest under the tux. I think by using conflicting greens it may come off like you''re trying to hard. The color of your BM dress is a power green, and I always think when you''re using a strong color the rest of your palet needs to be respectful of that. Otherwise you''re going to end up with "fighting".

I understand completely that you are trying to make your Fi feel important and included...but if something doesnt work, it doesn''t work. And in my honest opinion, it just doesn''t work.

If you''re going to move forward with the mint, then the BM color should change...as well as the cake color--not the cake design persay.

 

[crystalheart1]

A good rule of thumb for putting colors together, look on a color chart,, the wheel. What ever the color is directly across - that should be the complimenting color. Your green almost looks like a very dark teal green. If I am correct. That would be Jewel Tones.. So Gold would be perfect. Gold is very elegant and classic. Target has some beautiful decorations out now that have deep ambers and golds to give you some ideas.. and maybe you can get them half price at the end of the season for you wedding next year.

Just be careful that it doesn''t look like you are trying to do a ST Patty''s day theme.

Best of luck...