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slg47|1300746952|2876865 said:neatfreak|1300745857|2876849 said:slg47|1300745288|2876842 said:he means the relationship. i also hope he will agree to go to counseling. it irks me that I am the one who had to suggest it but that's something we can talk about when we get to counseling.
Aww Slg, I was hoping you were back with a good update. I do have to say though that if he's willing to throw in the towel about something like this, it speaks to other things other than the current issue at hand. As a married couple there are a LOT of bigger things to work out than a fight about a ride to the airport, and not being willing to sit down with you and discuss this isn't a good sign.
I hate to say this but it sounds like he's trying to find a way out without having to be the one to tell you it isn't working.
I hope I am wrong, but that's what seems to be occurring based on what you have written.
yeah, I hope you are wrong too! FI seems to think that in a good relationship there will be no fights. I think this is absurd and think we need to work on HOW we fight and work through things. He really hates conflict and thinks that because we disagree, we are not right for one another.
Um...I think I have a fairly good relationship, but we definitely have disagreements. We make a point of never saying anything to belittle the other person and always talk it out. You're right, disagreements are normal. I don't agree with everything I say and do, so how can I agree with everything he does? The key is how you deal with it.