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Let it all hangout -- The Grumpies, whinies, complainies Get It Off Your Chest Thread....

lulu_ma

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@kipari @missy and @tyty333 . Thank you so much for your words of support. I really appreciate it especially because we haven't told many people here yet. The doctors still need to hash out the details of the treatment plan etc.
 

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Annnd another cancer case in the family. DH's cousin. 50. Aggressive myeloma. Seems to ne a cancer where genetic testing is available. So his 3 siblings are getting tested now.
When will this stop???

I am so sorry :(
I can relate if it helps you to have another empathize.

We have many cases of cancer in Greg's family including Greg.
His mom died of multiple myeloma.
His three aunts died of cancer. All within a couple of years of each other and his mom.
Both he and his brothers have had more than one different type of cancer.
And so on and so forth. There is a strong genetic component to the cancers that run in Greg's family.

My advice is be proactive and be healthy (which I know you are) and enjoy a healthy and active life.
Take it one day at a time.
There is only so much we can control and we do the best we can.
Big (((hugs))) to you @kipari.
 

missy

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@kipari @missy and @tyty333 . Thank you so much for your words of support. I really appreciate it especially because we haven't told many people here yet. The doctors still need to hash out the details of the treatment plan etc.

@lulu_ma I am here for you off-line always. Keeping everyone in my thoughts and hoping for a successful treatment this time around too. Big ((((hugs)))).
 

kipari

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I am so sorry :(
I can relate if it helps you to have another empathize.

We have many cases of cancer in Greg's family including Greg.
His mom died of multiple myeloma.
His three aunts died of cancer. All within a couple of years of each other and his mom.
Both he and his brothers have had more than one different type of cancer.
And so on and so forth. There is a strong genetic component to the cancers that run in Greg's family.

My advice is be proactive and be healthy (which I know you are) and enjoy a healthy and active life.
Take it one day at a time.
There is only so much we can control and we do the best we can.
Big (((hugs))) to you @kipari.

Thank you @missy !

I'm sorry about Greg's family and fabulous Greg ( whom I have of course never met but we all know what a wonderful human being he is).

Hugs right back. Your mantra of one day at a time really helps in these situations. ❤️
 

lulu_ma

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@kipari I'm sorry to hear about your DH's cousin. I hope his treatment goes smoothly.

@missy thank for your support and for sharing your story and advice. I really need work on living in the present moment. I'm going to start the Calm app today.
 

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Waiting (and waiting) to get an appointment with a orthopedic knee specialist after my primary physician referred me last week. I called today to follow up with the ortho practice and (after 10-minute hold), was told the surgeon would review my referral. They wouldn't make an appointment.

If I don't hear from them "next week," I'm supposed to call back. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

And I know the office is scheduling 6-8 weeks out, so I may be limping around for another 2 months??
 

kipari

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@kipari I'm sorry to hear about your DH's cousin. I hope his treatment goes smoothly.

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Thank you @lulu_ma
Continued well wishes to you and your family! We just went to the cousin's dad's funeral 6 weeks ago ... He died of cancer. And he by far wasn't the only one last year. So I can relate to your sentiment regarding this whole situation...
((Hugs))
 

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HI:

@kipari and @lulu_ma I am so sorry for you and yours. And I wish I couldn't relate. 3/4 of my Dad's family had and died of CA. My Dad on his 51st BD. My Father's Mother (my Grandma) died of uterine CA and my Mother and my sister (at 40) had breast CA.

It can be a devastating disease. I wish it weren't so.

Stay strong and healing vibes across the km's.

kind regards--Sharon
 

lulu_ma

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@canuk-gal thanks so much for sharing your story Sharon! I've very sorry for your losses.
 
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kipari

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HI:

@kipari and @lulu_ma I am so sorry for you and yours. And I wish I couldn't relate. 3/4 of my Dad's family had and died of CA. My Dad on his 51st BD. My Father's Mother (my Grandma) died of uterine CA and my Mother and my sister (at 40) had breast CA.

It can be a devastating disease. I wish it weren't so.

Stay strong and healing vibes across the km's.

kind regards--Sharon

I'm sorry for your family Sharon and thank you so much for your well wishes.

Sending good vibes from the country of extraordinary cheese and the real deal champagne. ... Those should be extra good ones. RIGHT????
 

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My baby brother (52) went in for an angiogram this morning. If needed, while they were in there, they would place a stent/s (angioplasty). Well, they looked around, decided they’d need to place way too many stents and pulled out and informed his GF that he needs a triple bypass. But… because all the ICU beds are full of covid patients, they are only doing one bypass per day. They’ll try to get him scheduled in a month. !
 

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@lulu_ma , Hopefully you will get some good news on their treatment plans soon and your family can feel a little less scared. Hang in there and take care of each other. Sending healing dust to your family members. Cancer sucks. Hugs
 

lulu_ma

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@lulu_ma , Hopefully you will get some good news on their treatment plans soon and your family can feel a little less scared. Hang in there and take care of each other. Sending healing dust to your family members. Cancer sucks. Hugs

Thank you @Calliecake . This is the 5th occurrence in the last 4 years for my bil and my nephew just turned 7 :( . We just have to pray that the immunotherapy works.

Still waiting for my dad’s treatment plan.
 

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Update on my brother’s triple bypass. It will be a quadruple bypass. He is on really good spirits and says he is less anxious about the whole rib separation thing than he was about the angiogram. :confused:
 

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Update on my brother’s triple bypass. It will be a quadruple bypass. He is on really good spirits and says he is less anxious about the whole rib separation thing than he was about the angiogram. :confused:

That sounds scary indeed @ringo865 Sending good wishes his way!!
 

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Old high school mate reached out to me to let me know one of their parents (who I was very close with through high school) is currently hospitalized due to Covid.

I am angry with myself for my intial "serves you right" reaction due to their loudly proclaimed "Covid is a hoax" and "Masks don't do anything", "We refuse to get vaccinated" etc. beliefs they have spewed since the beggining. Why does it take your spouse being brought to death's door for you to realize this is in fact a deadly disease? Neither would take precautions or get vaccinated, but I'd bet they aren't questioning the drugs and oxygen being pumped in to try and keep them alive.

This angry, vindictive person inside me who rears her head and roars that every single person who refuses to do their part to help stop the spread of this disease deserves any and all suffering that comes their way is somehow horrific to recognize, yet ultimately feels like the natural consequence of doing my part for nearly two years now, and watching so many people just... not care about other people. This spills out to so many other issues in our country where people just don't care until it effects them personally.
 

canuk-gal

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HI:

3 dairy products I bought this week, well within their due date, and spoiled out of the gate. Gross. And I was charged for four dozen eggs when I only bought two. I usually check my receipt--but this time I did not. Who has time to return groceries??? Frustrating.

cheers--Sharon
 

missy

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Old high school mate reached out to me to let me know one of their parents (who I was very close with through high school) is currently hospitalized due to Covid.

I am angry with myself for my intial "serves you right" reaction due to their loudly proclaimed "Covid is a hoax" and "Masks don't do anything", "We refuse to get vaccinated" etc. beliefs they have spewed since the beggining. Why does it take your spouse being brought to death's door for you to realize this is in fact a deadly disease? Neither would take precautions or get vaccinated, but I'd bet they aren't questioning the drugs and oxygen being pumped in to try and keep them alive.

This angry, vindictive person inside me who rears her head and roars that every single person who refuses to do their part to help stop the spread of this disease deserves any and all suffering that comes their way is somehow horrific to recognize, yet ultimately feels like the natural consequence of doing my part for nearly two years now, and watching so many people just... not care about other people. This spills out to so many other issues in our country where people just don't care until it effects them personally.

It is a very difficult situation. I get how you are feeling. Completely get it. I am mad at others who foolishly refuse to get vaccinated (for no valid medical reason) and I am also upset with myself for letting it affect me like this.

What really gets me though is how little regard those unvaccinated have for others. That is the kicker for me. I feel do what you want as long as you don't affect others negatively. But once your actions impinge on the safety of others the line has been crossed between doing what is right vs doing what is wrong.

Maybe some are too blind to see but others know exactly what they are doing and feel they are strong and healthy enough to withstand Covid so refuse the vaccine. Without regard for others. Inexcusable. Unacceptable. Unforgivable.

Having said that I don't want harm to come to anyone. And it is devastating when anyone dies. But people. this disease is preventable and at least manageable if one gets vaccinated. Fully vaccinated. And wears their masks correctly and avoids situations where there are many people.

Physically distance.
Wear masks.
Get vaccinated.
If the great majority does this the pandemic will be over sooner vs later.
But if we keep going down this trajectory we have years left. :(
 

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Update on my brother’s triple bypass. It will be a quadruple bypass. He is on really good spirits and says he is less anxious about the whole rib separation thing than he was about the angiogram. :confused:

Keeping good thoughts for your brother and your family @ringo865.
Gentle hugs to you.
 

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My mom and aunt ask that I bring the turkey to my grandparents today (we spend Sunday afternoons with them) because grandma wants to smell the turkey cooking on Thanksgiving so they want it done at their house instead of our house. Okay.... It is ALWAYS at their house. The 3-4 years I did the cooking, I prepared side dishes at our house with some cooking in their oven and others being brought hot a couple of hours prior to eating. The turkey was ALWAYS done in their oven in their roasting pan with the basic herb rub they prefer. Grandma determined temperature. Grandpa determined what time to start it. Always. Plus stuffing in the turkey. Separate pan of dressing to make sure enough. Their house smell of Thanksgiving all day. Plus the pies they baked a day or two before. What they didn't have was the pile of dishes and 36 hours of standing in the kitchen cutting and prepping food. (And they don't have a dishwasher!!!)

One time when we had a lot of people at their house, we did the biggest turkey grandma's pan would hold plus I did a small one at our house that was kept separate and had a balsamic lemon sauce available to drizzle if desired. Apparently that is all they remember as they have been all wistful and missing their traditional turkey. Not that there is anything wrong with the one I cook, but it just isn't the flavors they look forward to.

Thanksgiving this year will be cooked by them. Except it isn't them. It will be my mother and aunt. Okay, my mother as my aunt is just too busy and overwhelmed. Food will be a turkey cooked identically to what I always did but stuffed with Stovetop Stuffing and canned chicken broth. No pan to the side so it will run out. (Well, unless it turns into a melted glob of stuffing flavored jello like last time...) Boxed instant potatoes. Canned cranberry sauce. Sugar free pistachio pudding with cool whip and fruit cocktail.

All of it a problem for me as they will be mixing meat and dairy everywhere because they can't possibly use the buttery stick (which is as good as real butter in everything they are using it in) or soy (or almond or whatever) milk. Can't possibly make anything less than exactly traditional according to 1970s boxed food standards. Oh, except the keto stuff and pork filled additions they brought in a couple of years ago. But that is for my aunt. Can't have her eating things she shouldn't be without having the stuff she should be eating sitting untouched.... No, best to ensure there isn't more than two dishes at the whole meal I can eat (assuming they don't run out before I get through line... Again.).
 

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Sitting by and watching Thanksgiving collapse. Grandma was shocked to hear she was cooking. She had no clue and little interest. My aunt proceeded to ban her from her own kitchen during any and all Thanksgiving prep and will be deciding when and how to cook the turkey with no interest in what my grandparents have to say. She all but told me to butt out and leave it all to her (and my mother).

Well, jokes on her. Four can't come due to being sick but will have their meals dropped off on their porch. My mom is leaving town with her husband to be with his elderly (very sick and all alone) uncle.

I'm staying out of it as I was told to. Will bring what I am told to if I am told to and nothing more so as to not offend. I am cooking a turkey to enjoy here at home tomorrow and will make extra just in case she completely flakes...
(Added fun is this seems to all be because she is jealous of me and her trying to either get even or just hurt me. Other than taking my grandmother to visit her family, we bought my grandfather a camera for his birthday. The horrors :roll2:)
 

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They just opened up the nursing home where my mom lives now. I now have to go up to her room to get her. This last Saturday my husband and son came with me. We just got into the elevator when someone came into the elevator..maskless..wear a staff nursing uniform. She pressed floor five which is where there’s a recent covid case. My mom is on the fourth floor. When she pressed five I said that’s the floor that has the person with Covid..She said, “Oh don’t worry I’ve been doubly vaccinated and just got my booster.” laughing. I was so upset. Why couldn’t she wait until the next elevator. I’m so upset.
 

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They just opened up the nursing home where my mom lives now. I now have to go up to her room to get her. This last Saturday my husband and son came with me. We just got into the elevator when someone came into the elevator..maskless..wear a staff nursing uniform. She pressed floor five which is where there’s a recent covid case. My mom is on the fourth floor. When she pressed five I said that’s the floor that has the person with Covid..She said, “Oh don’t worry I’ve been doubly vaccinated and just got my booster.” laughing. I was so upset. Why couldn’t she wait until the next elevator. I’m so upset.

I don’t understand our states/cities. What is the downside to having a mask mandate. Ugh. It amazes me here how many people are maskless when inside shopping. WTH. Have a nice visit with your mom Joanne ♥️
 

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I don’t understand our states/cities. What is the downside to having a mask mandate. Ugh. It amazes me here how many people are maskless when inside shopping. WTH. Have a nice visit with your mom Joanne ♥️

What really upset me is that she works on the floor where someone just tested positive for Covid. She should have waited for the next elevator. Like you said she should have been masked at the very least. She was totally irresponsible. It’s so scary and frustrating.
 

kipari

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S*I*show continues.

DH's cousin with cancer lost bis brother last weekend. Fell down the (few) steps leading to his front door. Broken skull. Dead immediately. 50 y/o. Kids.

That cousin lost his dad when he was 13. Then within short months his mother and sister when he was in his mind thirties. Now his remaining brother. All he could really say to us was: I cannot believe I'm the last one left now. It broke my heart.

Hes a lovely man. Thank goodness he's got his wife and their children and his extended family.
 

missy

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I am so sorry @kipari :(
My condolences to the family.
 
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