Is This Ring Too Big For My Hand?

[vslover]

The diamond''s not too big but the cocktail-style setting is a bit on the large side for your hand IMO.

 

[iluvcarats]

what makes it a "cocktail style setting?"

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:02:01 PM
Author: iluvcarats
I just wanted to know if it looks too big.

I know it looks big.

I just wanted to know if it looked silly.

To me, saying that it looks like a cocktail ring is insulting, because it implies that it does not look like an engagement ring.

I'm sorry that you think it is insulting. I certainly didn't mean it to be an insult. But to me, it does look more like a cocktail ring because it is so big and ornate. So to me, I do think it is a bit big and blingy for an engagement ring. But that is MY preference, and many many others prefer bigger and ornate rings. Nothing wrong with that, but if you ask for opinions about your ring you will get many comments about it. Some will agree with you and some won't, and you just need to take it all with a grain of salt.

Again, I apologize if you felt bad about my comment, but something that is valuable about PS is that we are honest when asked for opinions. If you just want people to ogle your ring and offer reassurance don't ask for opinions. We'd all be more than happy just to ogle if asked!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:06:04 PM
Author: iluvcarats
what makes it a 'cocktail style setting?'

To *me* halos on bigger stones look cocktail-ish (if you look around many many cocktail rings have this look). I prefer to see halos enhancing smaller stones and let big stones stand on their own.

So while I don't think the stone is too big, the setting is a bit big for my taste because your focus is on the ring rather than the large gorgeous stone.

 

[KNOWLA]

Your question is: "does it look ridiculous, silly big on my hand?"

My answer is no. It''s big but not ridiculous, silly big. Enjoy it, it''s beautiful!!!

 

[IronMikey]

Without using the word "cocktail" I''ll say that yes, I think it looks too big. I''m not a huge fan of halos to begin with though. That''s just being 100% honest.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:09:06 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 5/6/2008 10:06:04 PM
Author: iluvcarats
what makes it a 'cocktail style setting?'

To *me* halos on bigger stones look cocktail-ish (if you look around many many cocktail rings have this look). I prefer to see halos enhancing smaller stones and let big stones stand on their own.

So while I don't think the stone is too big, the setting is a bit big for my taste because your focus is on the ring rather than the large gorgeous stone.

Just to add to what neatfreak said, *my* opinion is that the halo essentially overwhelms the diamond. I wouldn't say that it detracts from the diamond, but honestly when I looked at your pictures, I looked at the setting, and didn't even glance at the diamond. I think that it's a RB-I'll have to go back and look... I've seen many beautiful halo rings on PS, and *my* own personal preference is for halos that are smaller and on the diamond enhancing side, where the emphasis is on the center stone.

But I'm a solitaire girl, so I probably shouldn't be listened to.

 

[ManhattanLawyer]

Hi there!

i do not think it looks "too big" on your hands at all. I think your ring looks gorgeous on you. I have what most people think is a large diamond on a small finger, and I''ve definitely gotten some weird looks from acquaintances, but I don''t let that bother me, because I love how my ring looks. As long as you are happy with it, you should not let what anyone else says or thinks bother you.

 

[LGK]

I think it depends on your personal style quite a bit, if your ring is right for you. Myself, I love super ornate, very detailed and intricate antique (and antique style) settings. Your wedding set is right up my alley, I simply adore it. I would wear it in a heartbeat and giggle at people who, in person and unsolicited!, said anything rude. Silly folk.

I think this style of ring isn''t everyone''s fave, it can be a very love-or-hate style, which might explain why you''re not getting 100% cheer-leader style rah-rah support on how gorgeous it is. Some people much prefer a clean-n-simple setting with a larger stone. Some don''t.

Does it go with your style? I am always into overdressing, never wear pants, love corsets etc. etc. so a super ornate ring goes very well with my sense of style. If I was into a very sleek and modern clothing style, or very casual, an ornate halo ring might clash a bit IMHO.

Incidentally, if this ring is new to your paw, it might take a bit to get used to, too. If you really are thinking about resetting it, I''d probably sit on it for a few months. In fact, I''m going through the exact same thing, and decided just that. I just got a RHR that is on the larger size (3.55 ct OEC center stone) in a triple halo. The setting wasn''t my choice, it was just what the stone came in... I think I''ll adjust to it but it''s gonna take a few weeks. For now my ring looks a bit OTT to me, but hey, I''m all about that. Are you?

 

[Babyblue033]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:41:24 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I think it depends on your personal style quite a bit, if your ring is right for you. Myself, I love super ornate, very detailed and intricate antique (and antique style) settings. Your wedding set is right up my alley, I simply adore it. I would wear it in a heartbeat and giggle at people who, in person and unsolicited!, said anything rude. Silly folk.


I think this style of ring isn''t everyone''s fave, it can be a very love-or-hate style, which might explain why you''re not getting 100% cheer-leader style rah-rah support on how gorgeous it is. Some people much prefer a clean-n-simple setting with a larger stone. Some don''t.

I agree. The ring does look large on your finger and the halo style setting makes it look even larger. Like LittleGreyKitten said, this is definitely one of those looks that one either loves or hates. I personally LOVE it and would wear it proudly. But I also know my personal style isn''t for everyone so I probably won''t bother asking people for their opinions or get offended when they don''t love it as much as I do

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 5/6/2008 9:34:31 PM
Author: iluvcarats
While I do appreciate everyone''s opinion on the size of my ring, I didn''t ask if it looks like a cocktail ring.
I don''t think that it does, I picked it from an engagement ring collection, and I only wanted to know if it looked too big on my finger.
Just because it is not a solitaire does not mean it is not an engagement ring, nor does it make it a cocktail ring.

I luvcarats, to be completely staright forward with you, I really don''t see how its fair to ask everyone for their "honest opinions", and then get defensive when they give them? Just imho, honest opinon means people''s true feelings and impressions, no matter their choice of words- as long as of course its not rude or demeaning.

I think the "cocktail" comments are just another way of saying "big", as alot of cocktail rings Are, well - big, and this is what comes to peoples minds.
Like others, I agree that it is a very pretty ring and when you first posted about it you seemed very happy. I personally too have small hands (~3.5 ring finger), so I tend to steer toward more minimal plain settings, but hey thats just me.

As others have said, if you love it than nothing else matters. It may just take some time getting used to, like any new piece of jewelery or clothing. But, if you''re uncomfortable wearing it or unsure if you *really* love it, than perhaps its wise to look at your options?

juast my 0.02, I really hope you don''t tink me being harsh or anything..

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Date: 5/6/2008 8:03:39 PM
Author:iluvcarats
I need everyones honest opinion.

I know that this is a good problem to have, and I am certainly not complaining, but I have gotten some comments lately that are making me self concious about the size of my ring.
I know that it is big (2.44), but there are certainly PSers out there with bigger diamonds, but probably they have bigger hands.
My hands are little, so my question is, does it look ridiculous, silly big on my hand?

No, I don'' think so. It is a beautiful set, and as long as you are happy with it then that is all that should matter.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Obviously we all have strong opinions about aesthetics of rings on this site--I mean, that''s why we''re here. We like analyzing diamonds and rings and over the months or years have honed on things we love or don''t love. Halos are usually one aesthetic feature that polarizes people. When you talk about a stone being "too big" and have a halo in addition, it''s just going to be something people focus on.

That being said, I don''t think it''s necessarily the halo that makes it look a bit "cocktail" ish, it''s the shape of the halo. The scalloped edges. Visually when you take a larger stone, then add a halo, then add a scalloped edge to the halo, the ring takes on a different feeling. I''m sure others can explain it better, it just makes the ring more about a statment and not about the diamond. I think maybe that''s why it feels a little big to you? I don''t know, this could just be in my head.

I wholeheartedly agree with all of the other posters on this one--the bottom line is that YOU love it. Like Haven mentioned, in order to pull off a large stone/large ring, you have to own it and love it. No apologies, no regrets, no guilt--this was a token your husband gave you in love and if that isn''t a good enough reason to love it, what is? I know that many of us always think about what we would have/should have/could have done with our stones and settings, but that''s just part of owning a ring. Even when you wouldn''t change a thing about it! Enjoy the ring!!!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I don''t understand threads like this. If you posted your wedding set like people normally do on this forum everyone would gush, rave and *yes* it would be in poor taste for anyone to say it was too big, didn''t like the style, etc...but you asked for people''s *honest* opinions. They aren''t being insulting. They are being honest. Everyone likes different things. No right or wrong. So it is unfair to be defensive.

I think it is a pretty ring myself and can see where you would get a lot of attention about it (which I am sure is not always 100% positive because that''s life). If you love it which it seems like you do wear it proudly.

 

[Dee*Jay]

I think it''s lovely! And be glad if you think it might be "too big" right now -- maybe that will ward off DSS a little longer!

 

[Dani511]

I think your ring is beautiful- I love the halo, all of the pave diamonds, and the profile shot

. I am a fan of big, sparkling rings, and so I do not think that it looks too big on your fingers. I have small fingers as well, and I love the look of a large rings on my fingers. I say wear it in good health, don''t worry about what others have to say (it doesn''t look like a cocktail ring- it''s a diamond on the ring finger of your left hand, and you wear it with a wedding band- everyone knows what it is!). It''s big and it''s gorgeous- be proud to wear it!

 

[DiamondGirly]

My two cents: It''s too big.

The halo around the already large stone almost makes it look like the ring is trying too hard. It also seems to swallow the wedding band. Maybe that''s why people have compared it to a cocktail ring (you can''t see the wedding band).

Overall I don''t dislike the ring but it could stand to be reduced in size by about 33-50%

PS - I don''t need my head examined.

 

[Linda W]

I also love your ring. It is gorgeous. Ditto to everything SanDiegoLady said.

Linda

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 5/7/2008 12:36:53 AM
Author: Linda W
I also love your ring. It is gorgeous. Ditto to everything SanDiegoLady said.

Linda

Add me please. And I adore the swoopy scalloped edges of the halo. ENJOY your gorgeous ring. We do give honest opinions, here. I have given you mine.

 

[tradergirl]

It doesn''t look like what I think of as an engagement ring. It''s a little too big for my taste. But I''m not the one who wears it. I don''t care what other people think and you shouldn''t either.

 

[diamondfan]

I do not think so.

It has a pretty vintage feel to it.

If anyone is that gauche as to make comments, well, the heck with them. Smile and ignore them.

 

[UCLABelle]

I like the ring...admit that it does perhaps look a bit large for a halo design (small round diamonds around the center). I would have probably put that in a different setting ONLY because that diamond is so pretty and large, I would want it to stand alone.

I hope that my comments did not offend you!

To me their are many types of cocktail ring styles...this isn''t really one of them (to me at least)...but do not take it as an insult, many cocktail rings are simply, large, ornate and beautiful rings!!!!!!!!!

 

[diamondfan]

Belle has a point, and if you love the halo, what about using smaller melee and using the larger stones to make a half way around e band or other ring? It might be the scalloped shaped and the size of the stones around the center that are causing it. But that said I do think it is nice on your hand.

 

[Po10472]

To each their own, I think its huge on you, but in a really good way and a problem we''d all like to experience. You have a unique design and something you should be proud of.

I don''t think its ''cocktail'' looking, there are lots of rings on here that are, but the intricate details does make it look more vintage, as Diamondfan said.

What you have to do is trust your gut feeling, if you love the ring then wear it with pride, if you think others are grimmacing at the size and its having a negative impact on you, then go for something smaller.

Either way, I hope that you''re not feeling too disappointed and upset by the honesty on here, but as Neatfreak said "something that is valuable about PS is that we are honest when asked for opinions."

enjoy

po
x

 

[Circe]

I just wrote out a reply, and deleted it, because it sounded a little too "ugly baby," i.e., "s/he''s beautiful because s/he''s YOURS!" Well, your ring? Is by no means an "ugly baby," and is lovely by all objective standards. It is definitely a sizable, attention-grabbing piece ... and there''s nothing wrong with that.

Because I''m a geek, I googled "cocktail ring" for definitions, and came up with a short article.http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-cocktail-ring.htm Looking at the terminology, some of it is a good fit, some of it isn''t: for example, "dramatic," "opulent," and "large" are all quite fitting (

). If you want to tone down the effect a tad (I''ll differ from some posters above because I think scavenging a Landis setting would be ... well, "criminal" is too strong a word, but it''s the one that springs to mind), you might consider wearing it on your right hand as a stand alone to let your wedding ring shine ... but, please, don''t be down because of that lovely glamorous thing, or because it''s been described as cocktail-ish. Knowing the etymology, I have to say, I like the descriptor considerably more.

 

[simplysplendid]

It is gorgeous and it does look like a cocktail ring. But what''s wrong with it looking like one? Why do you find it insulting? You should have any design that your heart desires..

 

[Maisie]

I don''t think its too big. I think its just beautiful. Please don''t worry about what everyone else thinks. Wear it with pride knowing the love of your life bought it for you.

 

[gwendolyn]

I''m confused. Were you asking just to get reassurance that it looks good? Everyone has different tastes, so if you ask for honest opinions, you''re going to get a mix of thoughts no matter what group of people you ask. Some people are going to swoon like mad over it, some people are going to think it''s absolutely beautiful if not the style they would choose for themselves, and other people will not like it. That will be true no matter what, because, seriously, how boring would it be if we all only liked the exact same things?

It''s your ring. If you love it, forget about what anyone else thinks, good or bad, and hold your head high that you have a ring YOU love that was given to you by a man you love even more. THAT''S what it should be all about, at least in my opinion.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:02:01 PM
Author: iluvcarats
I just wanted to know if it looks too big.

I know it looks big.

I just wanted to know if it looked silly.

To me, saying that it looks like a cocktail ring is insulting, because it implies that it does not look like an engagement ring.

iluvcarats, these girls are just trying to be polite as well as give their honest opinion...if you didn''t want their polite, honest opinion, why ask.
As frekechild said, cocktail=big.
The finger coverage of the stone/setting is the defining aspect of a cocktail ring, is it not? I guess cocktail rings can often / usually have coloured stones.
But for that matter engagement rings can have coloured stones. We know it is an engagement ring, because you told us.
Yes, it has heaps of finger coverage, like a cocktail ring has heaps of finger coverage. Do you like the look of cocktail rings? Or do you think they look silly. Sheesh
Your personal style judgements/preferences on how large you want your rings to be are really up to you.

 

[bee*]

I think it looks huge and my personal preference is for something smaller, but the main thing is that you love it. Who cares what others think.