Is This Ring Too Big For My Hand?

[D2B]

Hi

You have a beautiful ring. However the main thing is that you love it and wear it with confidence. Some things to consider you about the orignal comments:
- in what context did you get the negative comments for example if you work as a legal aid person or with helping people finding emergency accomodation it might not be professionally appropriate to wear such a big ring (extreme examples but you get my drift)
- what does your social circle wear in terms of rings - again this will give insight into the comment
-what is culterally acceptable eg in my little town in the UK, which though is an affluent town, this would be THE biggest ring in the whole area

But at the end, if you are confident and you love them, and do take other circumstance into account eg not wearing heaps of expensive jewellery while working in a field where it might be frowned upon, it is your choice and your ring.

If you do have any doubts, maybey a small simple ring for certain occasions. Again, I dont know your line of work etc - just a thought that may or may not be suitable for you.

But in the end it is a beautiful ring.

D2B

 

[CrookedRock]

Date: 5/6/2008 9:03:29 PM
Author: heraanderson

Date: 5/6/2008 9:01:02 PM
Author: CrookedRock
I think it's fantastic!!! I am also in the camp that says there is no such thing as too big so long as you can carry it!

(if it makes you feel any better, I put a halo on my 4ct...) I say wear it and love it, anyone making comments is jealous!

If you're talking about me, heck yay I'm jealous! I would love to have a big diamond like that!

LMAO!! I wasn't referring to people on PS... I was referring to unsolicited opinions in real life! She asked for our opinions so it's a lil different...

Iluvcarats~ Like others have said, there are some strong opinions on here regarding styles of rings. Many feel that halos aren't very engagement-y... I tend to disagree. It's all about personal preference bc I would never want a solitaire for myself bc it just isn't what I prefer... But it doesn't mean that I think they are ugly. You ring is beautiful! Don't let the cocktail comments get to ya!

 

[NeverEndingUpgrade]

People make comments when they see a huge diamond IRL that they usually won''t see on a regular bases. I think it is a combination of amazement and jealousy.

That is a Richard Landi set, right? His stuff in FABULOUS! I found one of his halo styles for a 2ct. round that I want to get as a RHR, coz I have a brand new Tacori wedding set, otherwise, I would wear it on my left hand.

Your set does not look too big or silly. Nor does it look like a cocktail ring. To me, it looks more like a vintage set. It is awesome. Please ignore people.

 

[tberube]

hmmm...that's a tough question. Because in reality I would be totally psyched to own a diamond of that size. And your ring and setting are absolutely, positively stunning. With that said, I personally view a halo as a brilliant (and in-fashion) mechanism for enhancing the size of a center stone. Your halo does enhance the overall size of the ring, and yeah - it's a little honkin'...IMVHO.

But that's not to say it's not gorgeous...because it is.

Either way, all that matters is what you think. I say wear it for at least 6 months before making any decisions...see if it "grows" on you. Perhaps you'll get DSS like all the rest of us and it'll look like a .5ct solitaire in two weeks!! Haha...

 

[Catmom]

Well, as you can tell by my avatar I obviously don''t think halos look like cocktail rings. I LOVE your setting. It''s absolutely gorgeous to me. It does provide a lot of finger coverage. If that makes you uncomfortable then you may want to consider changing the setting. If it''s just a few comments that are bothering you then I would simply put them out of your mind! Only you can determine if this is the setting for you. But if it were me, I would be wearing that baby with pride!

 

[tberube]

Date: 5/6/2008 9:34:31 PM
Author: iluvcarats
While I do appreciate everyone's opinion on the size of my ring, I didn't ask if it looks like a cocktail ring.

I don't think that it does, I picked it from an engagement ring collection, and I only wanted to know if it looked too big on my finger.

Just because it is not a solitaire does not mean it is not an engagement ring, nor does it make it a cocktail ring.

I really do think everyone is trying to help you out, and offer their honest opinions, just as you asked for. On PS - when you ask for honesty you'll GET IT!!

What is a "cocktail ring" anyway? ANY ring can be considered an engagement ring...it does not have to have a certain look to it. There are so many different kinds of engagement rings out there, because there are so many different people who love different things.

It's just like anything else: some people will adore your ring (me being one of them - I even saved a pic on my computer of it), some people will hate it, some people will be jealous of it and make rude comments. Are you going to wear an engagement ring in order to please everyone else around you? I think not. Wear that baby with pride!!

ETA: I've been told my halo ring was "unusual", "looks like a wedding cake", and is "way too ornate." Do I give a crap? Nope! My ring is the most beautiful piece of jewelry I've ever seen, and it means so much to me. What others think means absolutely nothing to me.

 

[Courtneylub]

I think your ring is beautiful in that "wow" factor kind of way, but I would also love to see that gorgeous stone by itself without the halo! That was my very first thought.

 

[star sparkle]

I think your ring is pretty, but IMO it does look quite large and cocktail-ish. I don''t mean that to be offensive, but for me the halo pushes it into that category. A gorgeous stone such as yours doesn''t need a halo.

I would like to address and clarify one thing--many people are posting that those who have stated that they think this ring seems like a cocktail ring have done so because they are people who only like solitaires and don''t think halos are engagement-y. I have to respectfully disagree; I actually LOVE halos on smaller stones and think they can do wonders for enhancing a smaller diamond. I have seen countless halo e-rings here on PS that I think are just absolutely amazing and TDF, and I even considered a halo for my own e-ring before deciding on what I actually got.

So no, it''s not because I don''t think halos have a place on engagement rings that I see this ring and think "cocktail."

To reiterate what others have said, if you love it, who cares what others think? You''re the one who is wearing it, not anyone else.

 

[gemgirl]

iluvcarats, I love your ring. If it was my engagement ring, I''d wear it with pride and a big ole smile on my face. It''s gorgeous!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:41:24 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I think it depends on your personal style quite a bit, if your ring is right for you. Myself, I love super ornate, very detailed and intricate antique (and antique style) settings. Your wedding set is right up my alley, I simply adore it. I would wear it in a heartbeat and giggle at people who, in person and unsolicited!, said anything rude. Silly folk.

I think this style of ring isn''t everyone''s fave, it can be a very love-or-hate style, which might explain why you''re not getting 100% cheer-leader style rah-rah support on how gorgeous it is. Some people much prefer a clean-n-simple setting with a larger stone. Some don''t.

Does it go with your style? I am always into overdressing, never wear pants, love corsets etc. etc. so a super ornate ring goes very well with my sense of style. If I was into a very sleek and modern clothing style, or very casual, an ornate halo ring might clash a bit IMHO.

Incidentally, if this ring is new to your paw, it might take a bit to get used to, too. If you really are thinking about resetting it, I''d probably sit on it for a few months. In fact, I''m going through the exact same thing, and decided just that. I just got a RHR that is on the larger size (3.55 ct OEC center stone) in a triple halo. The setting wasn''t my choice, it was just what the stone came in... I think I''ll adjust to it but it''s gonna take a few weeks. For now my ring looks a bit OTT to me, but hey, I''m all about that. Are you?

Little grey kitten, you don''t wear any pants with your corset? How risque!

What do they think when you show up for work?

 

[JohnClovin]

I have a sister who wears sequins and animal print on a daily basis. She has long red nails and her hair puts any Texas gal to shame. I have another sister who has a closet full of jeans, boots and sweaters and wears her hair long, loose and natural. One day my jean wearin sister decided to "make over" the "Texan" and put her in a cute pair of jeans and a red sweater........result? SHE LOOKED HORRIBLE! Why? Because she did not feel good about herself. So back to the sequins and animal print.

Why is this guy giving this crazy story on a diamond forum?

My point is. 99% of America would look ridiculous and over the top if they stepped out in sequins on a daily basis. My sister pulls it off because she loves it and feels confident in these showy outfits. I think the key to wether or not your ring is "too big" for you is how YOU feel in it. If you feel it is too big (and most likely you do or we wouldn''t be having this discussion) then it will NEVER seem right on your hand and people will perceive it this way.

Your ring is incredible.

If you decide to change it I think it would look amazing with a sapphire in the center on your right hand.

 

[apple d]

Date: 5/6/2008 8:03:39 PM
Author:iluvcarats
I need everyones honest opinion.

I know that this is a good problem to have, and I am certainly not complaining, but I have gotten some comments lately that are making me self concious about the size of my ring.
I know that it is big (2.44), but there are certainly PSers out there with bigger diamonds, but probably they have bigger hands.
My hands are little, so my question is, does it look ridiculous, silly big on my hand?

Usually I just admire from a far and comment in my mind, but this forum was too interesting for me not to get my 2 cents in!

How can someone ask for an opinion of a group that she does not intimately know and lash out when that opinion comes back contrary to her own? I agree with the posters that suggested you should have just shown us pics of the ring and left well enough alone.

Also, kudos to the posters who did not give those run of the mill, plain vanilla responses I always read on this site! When did it become a crime to be honest?

The posters are not hating on you (or that cocktail ring, for that matter). But I think that if you ask, you will recieve.

Please don''t forget, opinions come in two shades and just because one shade is not your own, does not mean it''s wrong.

In conclusion, I will end in the old adage, be careful what you wish for......

Long live free thought and expression, Ladies!

- Apple

 

[Love in Bloom]

Didn''t have time to ready all the posts...It looks good to me!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/7/2008 11:13:22 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 5/6/2008 10:41:24 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I think it depends on your personal style quite a bit, if your ring is right for you. Myself, I love super ornate, very detailed and intricate antique (and antique style) settings. Your wedding set is right up my alley, I simply adore it. I would wear it in a heartbeat and giggle at people who, in person and unsolicited!, said anything rude. Silly folk.

I think this style of ring isn''t everyone''s fave, it can be a very love-or-hate style, which might explain why you''re not getting 100% cheer-leader style rah-rah support on how gorgeous it is. Some people much prefer a clean-n-simple setting with a larger stone. Some don''t.

Does it go with your style? I am always into overdressing, never wear pants, love corsets etc. etc. so a super ornate ring goes very well with my sense of style. If I was into a very sleek and modern clothing style, or very casual, an ornate halo ring might clash a bit IMHO.

Incidentally, if this ring is new to your paw, it might take a bit to get used to, too. If you really are thinking about resetting it, I''d probably sit on it for a few months. In fact, I''m going through the exact same thing, and decided just that. I just got a RHR that is on the larger size (3.55 ct OEC center stone) in a triple halo. The setting wasn''t my choice, it was just what the stone came in... I think I''ll adjust to it but it''s gonna take a few weeks. For now my ring looks a bit OTT to me, but hey, I''m all about that. Are you?

Little grey kitten, you don''t wear any pants with your corset? How risque!

What do they think when you show up for work?

 

[Lorelei]

I am just doing a quick threadjack to welcome Apple and John to Pricescope

Also to iluvcarats, I think your ring is lovely, but you did ask for honest opinions in your first post, generally speaking, if honesty is requested, folk here take it literally and offer it, but knowing some of the posters as I do, I can reassure you that no one meant anything unkindly.

You have a beautiful ring there, and my opinion is that it looks great on you!

 

[omieluv]

Though I am late responding to this thread, just wanted to add a few comments.

#1 - Your ring is beautiful! I love the detailing of the halo, it is very different (in a good way).

#2 - The size of your stone is much larger than the "average" size for an engagement ring, so even without the halo, I am sure you would still hear similar comments assuming people in your peer group have smaller stones than you. I have a friend who has a .73ct solitaire stone who tells me I am crazy for wanting such a big stone for my future e-ring & I am not even looking at anything near 2cts.

#3 - People have different tastes when it comes to engagement rings. You have probably figured this one out reading responses to your thread. Some people like simple/modern styles, while others prefer more ornate settings. IRL, take a look at e-rings your friends/family and colleagues have, you might just realize why some of them are making tasteless comments about your ring.

#4 - Consider your own style & personality. Other people have already mentioned this in previous threads, which I agree with. This is not to say that you should not wear the ring if it does not fit with your style/personality, it only means that it will take time for you to feel comfortable with it. I have read threads here where women will love their upgrades, but make comments that they are not used to the jump in size -- they manage!!

#5 - You really should consider looking at why you are doubting your ring. Think back to when you 1st recieved it -- before you showed it to friends & family. How did you feel before hearing the negative comments?

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 5/7/2008 11:13:27 AM
Author: JohnClovin
I have a sister who wears sequins and animal print on a daily basis. She has long red nails and her hair puts any Texas gal to shame. I have another sister who has a closet full of jeans, boots and sweaters and wears her hair long, loose and natural. One day my jean wearin sister decided to ''make over'' the ''Texan'' and put her in a cute pair of jeans and a red sweater........result? SHE LOOKED HORRIBLE! Why? Because she did not feel good about herself. So back to the sequins and animal print.


Why is this guy giving this crazy story on a diamond forum?


My point is. 99% of America would look ridiculous and over the top if they stepped out in sequins on a daily basis. My sister pulls it off because she loves it and feels confident in these showy outfits. I think the key to wether or not your ring is ''too big'' for you is how YOU feel in it. If you feel it is too big (and most likely you do or we wouldn''t be having this discussion) then it will NEVER seem right on your hand and people will perceive it this way.


Your ring is incredible.


If you decide to change it I think it would look amazing with a sapphire in the center on your right hand.

Whoa, dude! That was totally deeeep...I love it...

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 5/7/2008 11:14:13 AM
Author: apple d

Date: 5/6/2008 8:03:39 PM

Author:iluvcarats

I need everyones honest opinion.


I know that this is a good problem to have, and I am certainly not complaining, but I have gotten some comments lately that are making me self concious about the size of my ring.

I know that it is big (2.44), but there are certainly PSers out there with bigger diamonds, but probably they have bigger hands.

My hands are little, so my question is, does it look ridiculous, silly big on my hand?

Usually I just admire from a far and comment in my mind, but this forum was too interesting for me not to get my 2 cents in!


How can someone ask for an opinion of a group that she does not intimately know and lash out when that opinion comes back contrary to her own? I agree with the posters that suggested you should have just shown us pics of the ring and left well enough alone.


Also, kudos to the posters who did not give those run of the mill, plain vanilla responses I always read on this site! When did it become a crime to be honest?


The posters are not hating on you (or that cocktail ring, for that matter). But I think that if you ask, you will recieve.



Please don't forget, opinions come in two shades and just because one shade is not your own, does not mean it's wrong.


In conclusion, I will end in the old adage, be careful what you wish for......


Long live free thought and expression, Ladies!


- Apple

"The posters are not hating on you (or that cocktail ring, for that matter)."

That's just rude. It's not a cocktail ring. It's an engagement ring. Being honest isn't an excuse for no tact.

 

[coatimundi_org]

There are no rules for engagement rings. Wear what you love that suits you.

What you think/feel about your ring is what matters.

 

[Dani511]

I just had to chime in again...

I hope you are getting the feeling that those who make negative comments or comments saying the ring is too big, too much, reduce the size, reset it, it looks like a cocktail ring, etc... seem to be just a little bit on the envious side, maybe??

Well, I get that feeling. I know my BF and I will not be able to afford a large diamond, although I do feel the bigger the better, and I am purposely trying to find a setting that is ornate and large so that it enhances the diamond to make it look as large as is possible ( I would personally LOVE to have a ring that looks huge on my finger and have my friends say whatever they want about it!! Ha!!.)

However, just because I know he cannot afford a large diamond does not mean that I can''t enjoy someone else''s large diamond, and give credit where it is due.

Again, it is fabulous, the work in the ring is stunning

, and it DOES look like an engagement ring! I am sure it is representative of a great love as well. I would never re-set it! It is beautiful and I think you should show it off!! Be proud, and again, wear it in good health!!

 

[sklingem]

I personally would not want to wear a ring of that size. Does it look big on your finger? Of course! It is a big ring! Only you can make the decision as to whether it is too big or the right size for YOU! You got a lot of mixed comments here as expected; some like it, some don''t. Any comments on the style/design of the ring are out of place, since this was not your main question. Listen to your gut feeling as to whether you are comfortable with the size or not and act accordingly. And for anybody suggesting that "negative" comments are made out of jealousy: Some may, some may not. In doubt I would err to the side of caution and assume that comments are "honest" instead. That would avoid insulting other posters as well. Would I suggest that all people who DID like the ring just wanted to "play nice"???

 

[violet3]

Date: 5/6/2008 10:02:01 PM
Author: iluvcarats
I just wanted to know if it looks too big.
I know it looks big.
I just wanted to know if it looked silly.
To me, saying that it looks like a cocktail ring is insulting, because it implies that it does not look like an engagement ring.

I love that ring, in fact it is one of my favorite halos i''ve seen on here because it''s UNIQUE and i love that -- the scalloped edges of the halo make it so pretty and feminine, almost like a flower -- very antiquey and i love it!

Of course it looks big - it is big! But i love that about it -- and i am jealous too -- to get a ring to look like that on my hand, it would have to be huge since i wear a size 7! It''s beautiful on you, and it''s clear that it is your engagement ring, particularly next to that lovely wedding band you are wearing with it. It absolutely does not look silly on you, so stop worrying. If you picked it out and you love it, wear the heck out of that thing!

I think there are plenty of people too who just don''t care for halos as ERs, not yours in particular. i don''t have an ER yet, but me personally, i love all the different styles, solitaires, halos, three stone....and yours is beautiful!

 

[MaggieB]

Date: 5/7/2008 1:58:17 PM
Author: Dani511
I just had to chime in again...

I hope you are getting the feeling that those who make negative comments or comments saying the ring is too big, too much, reduce the size, reset it, it looks like a cocktail ring, etc... seem to be just a little bit on the envious side, maybe??

Well, I get that feeling. I know my BF and I will not be able to afford a large diamond, although I do feel the bigger the better, and I am purposely trying to find a setting that is ornate and large so that it enhances the diamond to make it look as large as is possible ( I would personally LOVE to have a ring that looks huge on my finger and have my friends say whatever they want about it!! Ha!!.)

However, just because I know he cannot afford a large diamond does not mean that I can''t enjoy someone else''s large diamond, and give credit where it is due.

Again, it is fabulous, the work in the ring is stunning

, and it DOES look like an engagement ring! I am sure it is representative of a great love as well. I would never re-set it! It is beautiful and I think you should show it off!! Be proud, and again, wear it in good health!!

I''m typically a lurker as well. Just waiting on my boyfriend, glloyd77, to finish my darned ring already and propose. (Some of you may recognize his name from posts about the ring.) I think that just about everything has been said, and I agree at least a little bit with all of you. It is a gorgeous ring, it does look a little bit like a cocktail ring, and I don''t think that a person should base their opinion of their own ring on committee opinion. It''s too personal.

However, the one thing that I disagree with is that people who don''t like your ring (and this is to everyone, not the original poster) aren''t necessarily jealous. They may just not like big rings. When my boyfriend and I went shopping, he wanted to make sure that I didn''t turn around and ask for an upgrade in two years, so he wanted to know, how big do I want? After trying on a bunch, I realized that I just don''t want to go over two carats. When I looked at larger, it just didn''t look right on my hand. On the other side of the coin, I have a close friend with a 3.5 carat and it looks perfect on her.

One final thing - my boyfriend showed his mom and sister the ring he was designing for me (based on conversation between us and pics) and they both HATED it. That''s why he ended up on pricescope to get opinions from all of you. Personal style is very subjective - everyone isn''t going to love the same style that you do.

 

[Dani511]

OK. I thought better of it at first , but I''ll take the bait.

Rob09, I would assume that since you had posted directly under me ( although, you did not use my name or quote me directly) that you are referring to me when you mention in your post, "And for anybody suggesting that "negative" comments are made out of jealousy...".

Certainly I am suggesting that some may be jealous. And, as you had said, some may be and some may not be. And, jealous or not, I do think they are all honest opinions. Some do, however, seem to stem from jealousy. I think that is apparent rather than particularly insulting to other posters, unless, perhaps, the truth is painful.

This is only my opinion. There certainly is no shortage of opinions on PS, so I don''t feel I should be reprimanded for this.

I think it is also obvious that those who make "positive comments " are not simply "playing nice", and are being honest as well, so of course that would not be suggested.

I really do not like to buy into this silly back-and-forth finger pointing thing, so this is all I have to say.
Again, iluvcarats, your ring is stunning, best of luck to you!

 

[diamondfan]

No one can say WHY a person might make a negative comment. Jealousy, thinking they are being honest, insecurity...there are multiple reasons. And often the person making the snarky comment is not totally in touch with WHY they feel compelled to do so.

Also, if you say that want honest feedback you will get it here. And, if in making their decision about the ring and how it looks on you, if how it is set impacts the overall effect, that will likely be brought up. You cannot necessarily separate the setting from the stone, that ring, set as a solitaire, would not look as large. You are merely amassing differing views. In the end, do YOU like the setting and think it suits you and your lifestyle? Really all that matters in the end. If 99 out of 100 PS''ers said YES it is too big, I doubt you would change it.

Now, I have a large stone, not halo''ed, and I love it. So I say, let your inner Liz Taylor out and rock it if it works in your life.

 

[Linda W]

BRAVO DIAMONDFAN

Linda

 

[MaggieB]

Date: 5/7/2008 3:14:49 PM
Author: Dani511

OK. I thought better of it at first , but I''ll take the bait.

Rob09, I would assume that since you had posted directly under me ( although, you did not use my name or quote me directly) that you are referring to me when you mention in your post, ''And for anybody suggesting that ''negative'' comments are made out of jealousy...''.

Certainly I am suggesting that some may be jealous. And, as you had said, some may be and some may not be. And, jealous or not, I do think they are all honest opinions. Some do, however, seem to stem from jealousy. I think that is apparent rather than particularly insulting to other posters, unless, perhaps, the truth is painful.

This is only my opinion. There certainly is no shortage of opinions on PS, so I don''t feel I should be reprimanded for this.

I think it is also obvious that those who make ''positive comments '' are not simply ''playing nice'', and are being honest as well, so of course that would not be suggested.

I really do not like to buy into this silly back-and-forth finger pointing thing, so this is all I have to say.
Again, iluvcarats, your ring is stunning, best of luck to you!

I hope that my comments did not seem negative towards you. They were not intended to be. I do personally disagree, I feel like from my perspective that the negative comments are more likely to be because someone just doesn''t like rings that large.

Here''s the BIG HUGE BUT . . . I could be wrong and you could be right. I''m pretty new to pricescope. Other posters here may have a much more accurate opinion than I do.

But here''s the thing. No one should be made to feel that their opinion is mean, stupid, or demeaning. It''s so hard to disagree with someone in email because tone is everything, and tone can''t be read in an email. So if I did come across as criticizing you, I sincerely apologize.

 

[Hera]

Date: 5/7/2008 7:02:28 AM
Author: CrookedRock

Date: 5/6/2008 9:03:29 PM
Author: heraanderson

Date: 5/6/2008 9:01:02 PM
Author: CrookedRock
I think it''s fantastic!!! I am also in the camp that says there is no such thing as too big so long as you can carry it!

(if it makes you feel any better, I put a halo on my 4ct...) I say wear it and love it, anyone making comments is jealous!

If you''re talking about me, heck yay I''m jealous! I would love to have a big diamond like that!

LMAO!! I wasn''t referring to people on PS... I was referring to unsolicited opinions in real life! She asked for our opinions so it''s a lil different...

Iluvcarats~ Like others have said, there are some strong opinions on here regarding styles of rings. Many feel that halos aren''t very engagement-y... I tend to disagree. It''s all about personal preference bc I would never want a solitaire for myself bc it just isn''t what I prefer... But it doesn''t mean that I think they are ugly. You ring is beautiful! Don''t let the cocktail comments get to ya!

Hee hee hee...I was having a narcissistic moment...

 

[sklingem]

I did not get the impression from reading previous postings that comments were overtly stemming from jealousy, whether some did, or did not. Can an honest opinion be motivated by jealousy? Sure. But since there is no way IMHO to say FOR SURE that jealousy was in play, I personally would refrain from going down that route and suggest the latter. As many other posters have pointed out, there are various reasons to not like (as well as to love of course) the ring, its size, design etc. I would never claim to know what those reasons are and would not want anybody to make assumptions about my own underlying motivations to post a certain comment. That is where one should err on the side of caution, especially due to the sensitive nature of the topic in the first place. Can you argue that some of the posters here may be jealous? Sure, that is your full right. But you are opening a can of worms with such statements, which I don''t think help anybody here, and certainly not the initial poster of this thread. And we all semm to agree: D2B should listen to her own feelings about her ring and be happy about any decision she will make, no matter what other people may say.
So let''s stick to the facts and indeed not get personal.

 

[sparkleandshine]

I don''t understand why the term "cocktail ring" is so offensive. A cocktail ring is just a larger, statement ring. I''ve seen plenty of engagement rings on this site that could pass for cocktail rings if they were worn on another finger. Part of what makes this site so special is seeing everyone''s different styles. That being said, if you don''t want an honest opinion, don''t ask....no one should care that much about what other people think.