I'm devastated, I think I'm done with diamonds.

[Stephan]

I took my ring on Wednesday in Antwerp.
The jeweler made a 3-stone ring for me with my 1.308ct Bluenile and the two 0.415ct BGD.
I liked the ring.
In the jewelry store, I louped my ring and I did recognize the 3 stones, didn't notice anything wrong.
Today, I decide to loupe the 3 diamonds thoroughly...
Yes, they are all mine... But they all have abrasion marks at some facet junctions.
The idiot probably didn't stock the diamonds properly, yet I had given him the 3 envelops.
I feel sick.
Once this case closed, I won't probably post on Pricescope/buy diamonds again.
After the stolen diamond in 2009, now this.

 

[D&T]

oh no, I'm so sorry Stephan!

don't give up on diamonds, and don't Stop posting here Do you have insurance? and will they fix for you? surely I would hope so making the claim... maybe you already did that?

I understand though where you are coming from. I reset so many times, because of issues with workmanships, design flaws, etc I really thought I had bad luck with rings and diamonds, almost gave up, and really stopped posting here for a few months.

I'm sure it will all work out.

 

[missydebby]

Oh Queen Mum!!! *hug* I'm so sorry!!

 

[Stephan]

Alas, no insurance.
And with the jeweler, it will be my word against his word (I don't know if this is correct English).
I just want to get rid of all this stuff.

 

[Stephan]

Oh Queen Mum!!! *hug* I'm so sorry!!

Thank you!

 

[Stephan]

I've quit smoking, I lost 85 pounds, now this is a sign: I have to stop my diamond addiction.
I think I'm decided.

 

[Skippy123]

Oh Queen Mum I am sorry, huge hugs

 

[yennyfire]

Oh Stephan, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. Many hugs to you and hope that it works out in your favor.

 

[Stephan]

Thank you both!

 

[geckodani]

I am so, so sorry. I hope that it doesn't truly ruin your love of diamonds, and that they are able to fix it somehow!

 

[Todd Gray]

I'm really sorry to hear of this experience QM. Since you're in Antwerp, you might give Paul from Infinity a call... If I recall correctly, you've met with him before, and ask him whether the abrasions are minimal enough to be polished off with a minimal amount of loss.

 

[yssie]

Oh no! I'm so sorry Stephan I hope it is something that can be fixed easily and quickly

 

[Stephan]

Thank you Yssie & geckodani!

I'm really sorry to hear of this experience QM. Since you're in Antwerp, you might give Paul from Infinity a call... If I recall correctly, you've met with him before, and ask him whether the abrasions are minimal enough to be polished off with a minimal amount of loss.

The abrasions don't look that serious, but I feel like
1) I don't want to pay 1 cent more for something smaller, and have a new ring made.
2) I'm superstitious, and this story really smells bad. The by FedEx stolen diamond 2 years ago was another sign.

I also feel very bad with the jeweler: he sets the stones while looking in a microscope. He surely saw this.
I feel like a child when people are not honest with me. It really hurts.

Well I guess I deserved it.

 

[chamois]

Very sorry Stephan. I wish there was something more I could say that would make it all better, or that I had a magic wand I could wave ! Please don't let this experience taint your love of diamonds. XOXOXO

 

[Todd Gray]

Thank you Yssie & geckodani!

I'm really sorry to hear of this experience QM. Since you're in Antwerp, you might give Paul from Infinity a call... If I recall correctly, you've met with him before, and ask him whether the abrasions are minimal enough to be polished off with a minimal amount of loss.

The abrasions don't look that serious, but I feel like
1) I don't want to pay 1 cent more for something smaller, and have a new ring made.
2) I'm superstitious, and this story really smells bad. The by FedEx stolen diamond 2 years ago was another sign.

I also feel very bad with the jeweler: he sets the stones while looking in a microscope. He surely saw this.
I feel like a child when people are not honest with me. It really hurts.

Well I guess I deserved it.

You certainly do not deserve it! The reality is that some people just suck and while I like to believe that the majority of people are honest, the unfortunate reality is that people will often fail to step up and take responsibility for their actions when doing so is going to cost them money or negatively affect their business

 

[Stephan]

Thank you Todd & Chamois, you words warm my heart and I already feel more serene.
If I wear this ring, nobody will ever notice something till I'm dead and my family has to sell it.
But I feel I can't wear it.
Chamois, my love for diamonds is gone after this cold shower.
Diamonds are not forever.

 

[yennyfire]

I'm so sorry that this has tarnished your love of diamonds....I know I already posted, but I can imagine how I'd feel if this was my ring and I had your bad experiences....

 

[kenny]

Alas, no insurance.
And with the jeweler, it will be my word against his word (I don't know if this is correct English).
I just want to get rid of all this stuff.

So sorry for your bad experiences.
Instead of getting rid of everything perhaps just keep what you have, enjoy it and do no more transactions.

They are as beautiful today as they were yesterday.

 

[chamois]

Oh dear Stephan, this is making me sad too and my tears are dripping onto the keyboard.

 

[MarkBroumand]

Thank you Yssie & geckodani!

I'm really sorry to hear of this experience QM. Since you're in Antwerp, you might give Paul from Infinity a call... If I recall correctly, you've met with him before, and ask him whether the abrasions are minimal enough to be polished off with a minimal amount of loss.

The abrasions don't look that serious, but I feel like
1) I don't want to pay 1 cent more for something smaller, and have a new ring made.
2) I'm superstitious, and this story really smells bad. The by FedEx stolen diamond 2 years ago was another sign.

I also feel very bad with the jeweler: he sets the stones while looking in a microscope. He surely saw this.
I feel like a child when people are not honest with me. It really hurts.

Well I guess I deserved it.

Hello Stephan,

I'm very sorry to hear of your disheartening experiences. First thing is to not blame yourself.

I understand how you feel and that right now you want nothing more to do with this ring and diamonds in general.

I do feel, however, that is is a good idea to call Paul, as Todd suggested, and see what he has to say. If it doesn't look so serious it may be an easy fix in the end. Check it out, at least it might give you some perspective to deal with a different professional in the trade.

Good luck and best regards.

 

[Stephan]

Oh dear Stephan, this is making me sad too and my tears are dripping onto the keyboard.

Oh I'm so sorry, I really didn't realize I would make you feel sad!
Please don't be sad, this is only material.
I just think things are the way they have to be, even if sometimes it sounds bad.

 

[Stephan]

Instead of getting rid of everything perhaps just keep what you have, enjoy it and do no more transactions.

They are as beautiful today as they were yesterday.

I can't love this ring anymore.
It really hurts me to know the 3 diamonds are 'wounded' and in such a stupid way.
I'm sure you understand this mind clean solution.
The best thing would be to sell them and use the money for a better purpose.
I didn't know about abrasion before.
I always looked after chips or scratches.
Abrasion looks ugly, like the facet junction of a fake diamond.
Aren't you a little bit superstitious too?

 

[Stephan]

I'm so sorry that this has tarnished your love of diamonds....I know I already posted, but I can imagine how I'd feel if this was my ring and I had your bad experiences....

I'm guilty.
I should have ordered everything (not only the stones) from PS vendors, and I would not have this problem.

 

[kenny]

Instead of getting rid of everything perhaps just keep what you have, enjoy it and do no more transactions.

They are as beautiful today as they were yesterday.

I can't love this ring anymore.
It really hurts me to know the 3 diamonds are 'wounded' and in such a stupid way.
I'm sure you understand this mind clean solution.
The best thing would be to sell them and use the money for a better purpose.
I didn't know about abrasion before.
I always looked after chips or scratches.
Abrasion looks ugly, like the facet junction of a fake diamond.
Aren't you a little bit superstitious too?

Right now you're reacting, which is to be expected.
I'd give it some time.
Go to the gym, see a film, have a beer, whatever refreshes your mind.

Then I would more just focus on looking into the solution to the damage.
I'd find out how much getting them re polished would cost and what the weight loss would be.

What happens really sucks, but I would not just give up and sell everything.
No, I'm not superstitious at all, but I certainly respect you and your feelings.

 

[kenny]

After getting a quote for re-polishing I'd return to the person who damaged them and talk it over.
I'd start out very politely at first and see what they say.
Perhaps they'll quickly acknowledge responsibility and cover the repair cost.
It IS possible.

If not perhaps they will agree to splitting the cost.
It depends on the person but it also depends on how you handle yourself.
If they refuse your back were you are not, so you've got nothing to lose.

 

[Stephan]

I understand how you feel and that right now you want nothing more to do with this ring and diamonds in general.

I do feel, however, that is is a good idea to call Paul, as Todd suggested, and see what he has to say. If it doesn't look so serious it may be an easy fix in the end. Check it out, at least it might give you some perspective to deal with a different professional in the trade.

I can contact Paul.
1) I'm just afraid that he will advice me to keep the ring.
As I explained above, I can't: it feels even dirtier than wearing the ring your ex gave to you.
I know I'm not rational.
But can you imagine your family inheriting a diamond that is chipped/abrased or piqué?
2) I'm also afraid he offers to polish it again, even for free.
I'm even less rational on this one.
But I never keep something that brings me bad luck.

My only desire is to sell everything.
After that, I will never look at diamonds again, even if Karl invents a new cut with fire visible from the moon.

 

[Stephan]

After getting a quote for re-polishing I'd return to the person who damaged them and talk it over.
I'd start out very politely at first and see what they say.
Perhaps they'll quickly acknowledge responsibility and cover the repair cost.
It IS possible.

If not perhaps they will agree to splitting the cost.
It depends on the person but it also depends on how you handle yourself.
If they refuse your back were you are not, so you've got nothing to lose.

Yes it is possible.
But I'm not able to handle that, I probably make no sense here, but I can't discuss with someone who lied to me.
Even years after.

 

[Kaleigh]

Oh Stephan,

I am SO sorry. This really sucks. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make this right for you. I totally get how you feel. Reading this made me tear up for you... Biggest HUGS.

 

[Stephan]

Thank you Lisa, I really appreciate your kind words.
It is really great to receive some comprehension now.

 

[kenny]

After getting a quote for re-polishing I'd return to the person who damaged them and talk it over.
I'd start out very politely at first and see what they say.
Perhaps they'll quickly acknowledge responsibility and cover the repair cost.
It IS possible.

If not perhaps they will agree to splitting the cost.
It depends on the person but it also depends on how you handle yourself.
If they refuse your back were you are not, so you've got nothing to lose.

Yes it is possible.
But I'm not able to handle that, I probably make no sense here, but I can't discuss with someone who lied to me.
Even years after.

You don't have to make any sense.
You feel how you feel.
eHugs to you!