It IS exhausting! You've gone through a trauma; just like physical healing takes a toll on the body, so does mental and emotional healing.Oy... I've been so tired! I fell asleep after 1 and slept till 1 PM. Crazy! I may lie down and sleep some more again. Who knew grief is exhausting?
Grief is exhausting. I didn't realize it until my dad died; I think I took a full body hit. Sleep as much as you want as long as you stay hydrated.
God Bless you Deb. Take care and know that you're a wonderful person. Prayers to you.By a horrible coincidence, my father's aid, Derrick, who cared for him for a year and was devoted to him lost a man he deeply loved a few days ago (maybe only two days ago). This is two weeks after he lost my father. He was there when his friend overdosed on alcohol and pills in the home of another (female) friend and tried to perform CPR on him until the paramedics came. He came "home" (here) the next day and ran out of gas on the highway. He called me from the highway with a State Trooper and I said I would go get his car and pay for for gasoline. He calls me his mother and he kept telling the policeman (who was saying, "who will pay for the gas?" while Derrick sobbed) that "his mother" was coming and she would. (I figured they would be expecting a tall black woman who resembles Derrick to get out of the car and be surprised by a tiny blonde.) The next thing I knew I got another call. Derrick was screaming that he couldn't live without his friend and the police said they were taking him to the hospital. I ended up going to the wrong town's emergency room before I found him. Then I had to get cans of gas into his car and drive it back here. Now Derrick has been sleeping around the clock for two days. Only recently has he accepted any food. I have been thinking of you constantly, PB. I have been remembering the wise advice I read in this thread. I have been trying to remember that Derrick has to be gentle on his body. I am driving him, not letting him drive and cooking for him, although he is a fantastic cook. I am also keeping him from returning to the town where all this occurred. He doesn't need to "help"; there is no one there to comfort him. He needs to be cared for. He just wants to sleep constantly. This thread ended up being useful to me. I had no idea I would need it.
Thanks to everyone who gave PB such great advice.
Ongoing hugs to you, my brave friend, PB!
Deb
Pinto, I tried golf lessons once. My boobs got in the way of my swing and the only thing I learned is that buxomness and golf are not simpatico.
It isn't fun when one's bosom precedes the rest of one's body into a room by a full minuteHoly Moly!
Ohhhh... I get it now... Ma...tatas...No, it wasn't that one. But that one reinforces my impression!!! Holy Moly!
Deb
Snort. Well a few people at the PS get together I attended did keep calling me Mrs Tatas....Ohhhh... I get it now... Ma...tatas...
Snort. Well a few people at the PS get together I attended did keep calling me Mrs Tatas....
Snort. Well a few people at the PS get together I attended did keep calling me Mrs Tatas....