chloecro
Rough_Rock
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Some of you may remember me from my previous posts. My bf and I have been looking at rings/stones for awhile. I'm getting depressed/discouraged/exhausted with this whole ring process, which is supposed to be a joyful experience, right?
OK: Originally we had a 65K budget, and I have my heart set on a 2.5+ RB Tiffany-style ring.
I have urged my bf to do his homework on PS a million times, as well as realistically consider the budget for my ring before I got super excited (which I have over and over again-- stupid me.) He originally wanted to get from Tiffany, and then we checked out GOG, HW, Michael C. Fina, and some other places. I found several stones that I got excited about, only to have him come back and say, "Can't do it. They aren't giving me as much as I had hoped. They don't have a payment plan more than 6 mos" Now, here's where my frustration lies: Had he done any homework , he would have known that that's not how it works with diamonds. I asked and asked for him to plleeeez do some homework before we went shopping.
Lo and behold, despite my urging, he failed to consider how he was going to afford a 65K ring. That's the range he gave me, so I assumed he had been saving or whatever. He was going to go into his retirement (!) which I quickly put an end to. I realize a stone that size is a lot of $. I'm 38-- he's younger, so I don't guess I'm in more of a hurry to do this. I know he wants to marry me, and I haven't pressured him at all whatsoever. He's the one who asked without my having a clue it was coming.
But I keep feeling like he's "teasing" me with rings and stones, dangling them, only to say "Woops. My bad."
Each and every time I've said, "Now are you sure this stone, place, etc. is doable?
If not, we'll wait." I realize I might be the stupid one, continuing to get excited and thinking this time's different, but I'm getting so sad and frustrated. We've been talking about a ring and marriage for months and months.
Now the range is @ 25K. Fine, but I'm having a hard time finding a stone in the size I want, etc. I've looked at jewels by Erica Grace several times, and it looks like she has some beautiful stones, but I feel overwhelmed by this whole thing now. I would really appreciate if you would help me find a stone that might fit my wants and his requirements. He also suggested we go to Grand Cayman next year to get a stone without paying taxes. We were there last month, and there were some beautiful Hearts on Fire stones @35K. But that wouldn't be until next year-- and me-- 39!!
Again, I don't want to sound ungrateful, but this whole thing has made me feel sad.
There's a stone he wants to look at tonight that he thinks is doable, but I'd appreciate opinions, because I'm not sure how it looks.
Thanks everyone.
Below are the specs. It's GIA, but the report is so dark, I'm not able to upload it.
Round Brilliant
Measurements: 8.9x8.96x5.55mm
2.76c
Color H
Clarity SI2
Cut VG
Polish VG
Symmetry Excellent
Fluor. Faint
Girdle: Thin-Med. faceted
Table: 57.0%
Depth 62.1%
Culet: None
OK: Originally we had a 65K budget, and I have my heart set on a 2.5+ RB Tiffany-style ring.
I have urged my bf to do his homework on PS a million times, as well as realistically consider the budget for my ring before I got super excited (which I have over and over again-- stupid me.) He originally wanted to get from Tiffany, and then we checked out GOG, HW, Michael C. Fina, and some other places. I found several stones that I got excited about, only to have him come back and say, "Can't do it. They aren't giving me as much as I had hoped. They don't have a payment plan more than 6 mos" Now, here's where my frustration lies: Had he done any homework , he would have known that that's not how it works with diamonds. I asked and asked for him to plleeeez do some homework before we went shopping.
Lo and behold, despite my urging, he failed to consider how he was going to afford a 65K ring. That's the range he gave me, so I assumed he had been saving or whatever. He was going to go into his retirement (!) which I quickly put an end to. I realize a stone that size is a lot of $. I'm 38-- he's younger, so I don't guess I'm in more of a hurry to do this. I know he wants to marry me, and I haven't pressured him at all whatsoever. He's the one who asked without my having a clue it was coming.
But I keep feeling like he's "teasing" me with rings and stones, dangling them, only to say "Woops. My bad."
Each and every time I've said, "Now are you sure this stone, place, etc. is doable?
If not, we'll wait." I realize I might be the stupid one, continuing to get excited and thinking this time's different, but I'm getting so sad and frustrated. We've been talking about a ring and marriage for months and months.
Now the range is @ 25K. Fine, but I'm having a hard time finding a stone in the size I want, etc. I've looked at jewels by Erica Grace several times, and it looks like she has some beautiful stones, but I feel overwhelmed by this whole thing now. I would really appreciate if you would help me find a stone that might fit my wants and his requirements. He also suggested we go to Grand Cayman next year to get a stone without paying taxes. We were there last month, and there were some beautiful Hearts on Fire stones @35K. But that wouldn't be until next year-- and me-- 39!!
Again, I don't want to sound ungrateful, but this whole thing has made me feel sad.
There's a stone he wants to look at tonight that he thinks is doable, but I'd appreciate opinions, because I'm not sure how it looks.
Thanks everyone.
Below are the specs. It's GIA, but the report is so dark, I'm not able to upload it.
Round Brilliant
Measurements: 8.9x8.96x5.55mm
2.76c
Color H
Clarity SI2
Cut VG
Polish VG
Symmetry Excellent
Fluor. Faint
Girdle: Thin-Med. faceted
Table: 57.0%
Depth 62.1%
Culet: None