How did/do you justify getting more bling??

[CharmyPoo]

I buy what I want myself and don't need permission. My husband has bought me three pieces of jewelry in the 10 plus years we have been together. A promise ring, an ering and a dbty necklace. If I waited for him, I wouldn't have much bling and I love my bling.

I enjoy the freedom of making and having my own money. There us a family pool but we are both free to spend our own as we please.

 

[fiona00004]

@marcy, @gypsy:: I think my problem is that when I want something, I want it yesterday! I really need to learn to wait, sit on it for awhile and see if I really want it...especially something as precious and expensive as jewelry/diamonds! I sometimes try a cheaper alternative to things that I want and yes, the cheaper quality ends up losing my interest...


@madelise: " Just picture all the crap and stress you deal with. BAM. Justified." TOTALLY! I feel like I've been through ALOT lately... and to me, that's justification enough!

@Phoenix: Oh, I wish my DH would appreciate how "low maintenance" I am compared to other girls! But... he is too!

@charmypoo: Totally understand about DH not getting us much jewels. I've bought things myself too and sometimes I don't feel "bad" and sometimes I kind of do...

 

[LaraOnline]

@marcy, @gypsy:: I think my problem is that when I want something, I want it yesterday! I really need to learn to wait, sit on it for awhile and see if I really want it...especially something as precious and expensive as jewelry/diamonds! I sometimes try a cheaper alternative to things that I want and yes, the cheaper quality ends up losing my interest...

Yes...the longer you shop for each purchase...the more discerning and definite you become lol
Bet my man is kicking himself for cheaping out (*joke*) on my original engagement ring.... I'm in the category 'obsessed' now!!

In the end...sheer desire will get me over the line, jusification wise!

 

[JaneSmith]

I attach great meaning to most of my jewellry. The bigger pieces are usually symbolic of some life event. I have managed to get hubster to understand this over the years. I also pay for the great majority of things myself. I have a bling fund I put a little extra cash into after all else is taken care of. I also don't spend much money on myself in other areas.
If it is a big ticket item, I'll ease him into it with casual mentions here and there over a couple of months. He either A: sees how much it means to me, or B: tires of hearing of it, I'm not sure which. Probably A. He is a sweetie.
There is also a little quid pro quo inasmuch as he gets a nice new car, I get a nice new sparkly.

 

[bunnycat]

Fiona

I understand the impulse of wanting something yesterday.
One thing I do when I like something is ask myself if I think
I will get tired of it soon. I am a bargain shopper so I also have to
Ask myself whether I like something because I like it or
because its a (relative) deal. Depending on the price, answering these questions
usually gives me a logical way to say yes or no to something.

Jewelry is my only real expensive splurge. Mostly I am pretty frugal with other things like clothes, dining out and so forth.
My only other serious vice is a nice pair(s) of tango shoes.

Sorry for any weird grammar. Posting from my phone.

 

[Gypsy]

I get that impulsiveness. I've lost a bit of that as I am getting older. So age seems to help it.

But mostly, I really make sure I take time to appreciate what I do have. And make sure I take note of what it is about the pieces I have that I love, so that I understand my own tastes, etc.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is pull out your own collection. Piece by piece. Organize it, spend time with it. Buy storage for it. Make sure it's all clean and in good shape. Loupe it. That really helps my cravings.

I have to be REALLY careful to not become a serial shopper again. I went through a period of time where I bought things to fill a void. I was unhappy with some major things in my life, felt trapped and buying things what the only way I would feel happy. But it only lasted a second, and then I'd have to buy something else for my next 'fix'. Fortunately it was before I had money to do a lot of bad bling damage. And I still do that sometimes still if I am stressed or down. But on a much smaller scale, I am AWARE of it, and I make sure all my purchases are under $60 when I do this and limit myself to one thing a day, for maximum three days. . I am VERY firm with myself to not shop for real bling, even colored gemstones which are like crack to collect, when I am in a 'mood.'

I guess as I am typing this I realize it's a about discipline to some extent. It's not that I don't want 50 stackers, 15 pendants, 30 pairs of earrings. It's that I realize that I won't wear them, and I try to drill down to the 'right' stacker or pair of earrings, etc. I only have one stacker right now. I stack it with my wedding band and my engagement ring. That doesn't mean there aren't LITERALLY 500 that have caught my eye, and that there weren't 200 of those that I could afford and, of those 200 let's say 50 of them that were a good enough deal to get me to think about buying them. There were. But I have my one stacker. It's just right. It's white metal, has color that works for a lot of my outfits, is different enough in style from my set to give it a boost, yet it coordinates with it well. And it was a great deal. Every time I think about getting a different stacker I think "do I love it more than mine?" ... and the answer is always no. So... I just keep mine, and wear it happily. But not too often. So that when I pull it out, it's like seeing for the first time all over again, and feeling that lovely thrill of owning a pretty thing.

Another thing I do is make sure for almost all my purchases that I could turn around and resell for at least what I paid. If there is a piece that doesn't follow this rule that I am considering, it usually doesn't get purchased. Making sure I can recoup my money is important when I am buying myself items.

 

[Dancing Fire]

HI everyone,

First of all, I am so happy to have found a forum where people have the same passion as I do! I could not share my enthusiasm for precious bling with anyone that I actually knew because no one was interested in jewelry. I am having fun learning, sharing and admiring!!

That said, I recently changed/upgraded my ering (will post the story with some pics later) and I just thought of asking for other people's experience with getting new bling. My family, and even my hubby don't understand the purpose of purchasing nice jewelry and think it is a "waste" of money. I do feel guilty for my passion sometimes. True, the money could go towards my kids' education fund or the mortgage. Don't get me wrong, I haven't really purchased any big items and we are not in debt or anything. It is just that my family and hubby are really rational spenders and I guess I am less so? I also like to get my hubby's input on things because when he agrees to a purchase and participates, it is just so much more fun and romantic! Like the piece is a gift from him!

keep this in mind...once you become a PSer nothing is more important than diamonds...

 

[kisbel65]

OP my husband thinks like your husband. He thinks money can be better spent on other things. His sister is the same way and she is a millionaire. I blame it on his mid western upbringing (why else would his sister also be the same). Now he does like to spend money on travel (thank God) and that is a very big deal to me. I am in the middle of upgarding my e-ring (for our 3rd anniversary) and he was not supportive at first, but has come around. I dont expect to ask him for jewerly for another two years.