How are these diamonds set? Would it be secure?

[indecisive]

Ack! All of the above!! Hehe and here I thought I was the only one. I am always worried someone will catch me staring at my ring finger in class and think I should be committed... but I guess I am in good company

. Poor GOG will have to put up with me four hours when we visit in March. I almost feel like they need to be warned

 

[brum]

You have more to chew on now, than 24 hours ago.

Take the info ,but don''t get offended. It''s easier to read the wrong vibes when not actually hearing the tone of the words.

I''m sure everone hear has passed on advice with good heart.

Now go to bed! (i''m in Asia, i have an excuse)

 

[Kaleigh]

Diamonds and horses, nothing better. I had one growing up, miss riding alot. Ok back on track my asscher cost me $3862 from GOG. Purchased it last summer. Haven''t looked lately to see what GOG has now, but should give you an idea and hopefully some wiggle room for the setting. All the best to you in your search.

 

[indecisive]

lol I have an excuse to be up (Microbiology Lab write-up) but not to be on PS. I did get a little defensive and I am sorry about that. I chose to blame my last semester in college but really it is probably just me being emotional. I am very excited to go to GOG and check out our options. Sorry if I am copying you though, Kaleigh! GOG asscher and probably Quest ring. But, if you ever want to get back into riding I could hook you up

. I think we are going to see the Quest in person and maybe upgrade on our 5 year anniversary or something. I really like the idea of putting another stone into the setting and giving it to our daughter(if we have one) on her 16th birthday or graduation or something. I wouldn''t have thought of doing that with out all of your guys'' help! OK, now back to Micro!

 

[valeria101]

Date: 2/5/2006 9:45:26 PM
Author:indecisive

How are these diamonds set? I have never really seen diamonds set this way.

I did... thing 70s or so. the setting style is sometimes called ''fishtail setting''.




Also, would they be secure enough to not fall out with a year or so of wear?

Guess so... Te main complaint would be that there is too much metal going on there, so scratches/wear would show easily against the diamonds set in the band - compared to traditional pave. With all that hard metal, the diamonds should be safe. One reason why it may not be - if the setting is simply to light built to keep shape - bending out of round would cause the stones to pop out. This, I can''t quite tell from pictures, but maybe someone with better experience could.



Do you think it could be sized one size smaller?

No.... just like any eternity style (is it?). I would not have it sized if someone would offer because this mostly means shaving metal off (which may weaken the ring and cause it to bend and loose stones) or stretching (no-no for the pave on the sides).



PS- Does anyone like it?

Hm.... ''guess it is you who should like it, not me. It only looks ''bad'' if thinking this is a pave wannabe. But this doesn''t have to be so. The ring is what it is.



I haven''t made my mind up yet but we are considering it as a temporary setting for a year or so and then switching to a Ritani Endless Love w/o halo knock off.

Can''t believe that alternative would be any cheaper unless the quality of the ring here was somehow saved on (lower quality diamonds, light metal).

My 2c. I hope this doesn''t sound too bad. I don''t think you should give any attention to others'' personal preferences including mine. If there is a matter of quality, that would matter though. Unfortunately, that sort of thing shows allot less in pictures (as far as I can tell) than pure-matter-of-taste features. Extreme cases, are pretty clear, but this isn''t to me - otherwise you would hear! That the ring pictured may be a ''sample'' not the actual thing makes things worse.

 

[JCJD]

Date: 2/5/2006 11:06:17 PM
Author: indecisive
I am just worried that people will think I am lying about my future asscher being a 1ct because it will only be about 5.5mm and will look more like a .75. I am just being silly though, so I guess I will have to get over it

People think my 0.38ct pear is a 1ct, so don''t worry about a thing! If anyone accuses you of lying (which would be absurdly rude), you can just explain that some diamond cuts are deeper than others, and your asscher has the gorgeous 100-feet-deep look because it is deeper than the "traditional" cuts. But people don''t know the difference most of the time, and no one is going to whip out a ruler.

I think the other ladies are giving you great advice on the diamond/setting issue, so I''ll let them continue. Good luck!

 

[BrownEyes]

Jelly:

I was going to suggest the same setting from Pearlman''s ... it appears to be a wonderful buy for some lucky couple ... thanks for beating me to it!

 

[pebbles]

Date: 2/5/2006 11:16:33 PM
Author: indecisive

The first ring diamonds are G SI1 but I am sure they are not the best cut. As I said before, a tiffany setting isn''t an option because of my BF''s preferences, and I want him to be excited about the ring.

brum- we are going to have the upgrade made in platinum so that wouldn''t work either. I also heard that melting down settings and making new ones wasn''t really done?

A CZ is definitely not an option for us. Nothing against anyone else''s choice but it is not for us. We probably will go with the Quest ring, I am just feeling like we are spending a lot on something that will be only worn for a year. I guess I am spending too much time on PS. Before I felt like a $5,000 budget was absolutely huge, but now I feel like it is embarrassing.

A $5000 budget is embarassing?!?!?!? Please tell me you''re not serious!

Many many ladies have gorgeous e-rings on this site that cost WELL under $5K!!! And many that have rings that cost more have been married for several years. Sure we see ladies getting 2ct dream rings for their e-ring, but that is NOT the majority of the real world! My original e-ring (from 199 was appraised at less than $2K so you can imagine what it cost to buy! I would never say I was embarassed by it though because it wasn''t a lot of money!

And as far as people "not believing you" when you say your asscher looks less than 1ct, people in the real world have no idea what size stones are "supposed" to look like. I have a 1.04ct that some people have asked if it is a 2ct, others a 1.5ct, etc. You don''t have to defend yourself b/c your stone may face up smaller than a round would.

People have given you a lot of great advice but you getting defensive leads me to believe you just wanted everyone to agree with you and all shout and say "YEAH! Get that first setting!" If like you said, it is going to be a temp setting, then just get it and don''t worry about it when it falls apart. That would not be my decision; if you are so worried about maximizing the size of the center, then that''s where the majority of your money should go.

I don''t mean to sound harsh but it really sounds like you already know what you want to do and just wanted everyone to back you up.

 

[indecisive]

Hey Pebbles. Thanks for the perspective about the size/budget. I really didn''t care about asschers facing up smaller until I saw the chart with all the mm sizes and the asscher seemed so tiny. But I don''t have that problem in person, just on the internet. I feel like I am so much pickier when I see things online than when I actually go see them in person. So I am trying to remember that and quit self-doubting!

As far as getting defensive, I apologized for that and I am sorry. I didn''t just want everyone to agree with the first setting and the whole time I was leaning towards the Quest ring. What I wanted was to really compare and think about the other options that I could have. I already knew I liked the Quest ring, but I didn''t really know how I felt about the other one. So, I really didn''t know what I wanted to do and I think people assumed I wanted the first one, even though my real preference was for the Quest, because I was really trying to think/talk about it more than the Quest one. And, btw, we are probably going to go with the quest one, depending on how much a setting at GOG would cost. I did get upset when Tacori implied that we couldn''t get a nice 1ct diamond for our budget, because I was already feeling a little insecure about it and I thought it was rude to question our budget. Also, that wasn''t what I had been asking questions about. If people really want to believe that I had already made up my mind though then that is fine. I was just trying to weigh my options.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 2/6/2006 10:37:08 AM
Author: indecisive

I did get upset when Tacori implied that we couldn''t get a nice 1ct diamond for our budget, because I was already feeling a little insecure about it and I thought it was rude to question our budget. Also, that wasn''t what I had been asking questions about. If people really want to believe that I had already made up my mind though then that is fine. I was just trying to weigh my options.

I think $5,000 is a great budget. I think you misunderstood me. However with ANY budget sometimes you have to make choices (ie nicer stone or nicer setting). Only a select few can have everything on their wish list. It seems to me like the size IS important to you. You made the comment about people thinking you were lying b/c it would look smaller or wanting a 1+ ct so obviously this is a concern of yours. Now, so I am perfectly clear because I guess I was unclear before, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting the biggest diamond for you budget but obviously something''s gotta give. Remember this is a public forum and posting a thread is asking for all honest views. You seemed to reject a lot of great advice but in the end I am sure you will do what is right for you. I also have every confidence that Quest can find you a beautiful stone. Good luck!

 

[indecisive]

I may have misunderstood you. To me 1+ means just over 1ct not necessarily 1.5 or above. I know this is a public forum and I never said people can only give advice I want to hear. I just didn''t want to talk about picking out the diamond in this thread. I know that something has got to give, that was the whole point of this thread! We are trying to see how flexible we can be with the setting so that we can get a nicer diamond. We realized that it probably wouldn''t be smart to compromise to that degree. I know you care most about the setting but it isn''t how we feel. Also, the only advice I "rejected" was getting a CZ or getting a plain band, because that in not what we personally want. We are not going to get something that we don''t want just because of a message board, but I am not mad at people for giving that advice. I also did take advice from this thread regarding putting in another stone in the setting as something to pass down to children, really looking at the quality of the two settings, and that it might be smarter to wait to upgrade the setting in a few more years with a higher quality one rather than in a year with a cheaper one. We have decided that unless GOG has another option we will go with the Quest ring. I don''t see why you think that I have not listened or taken advice. Anyway, sorry for the misunderstandings and I want to thank everyone for their help. Whether we took the advice or not we will consider all of it when we make our final decision.